NoToPile:


Depending on your families 'standard' considering the cost of feeding and ' every other thing your family needs apart from school fees then 700k is not too much.

Basically what I see here is a standard.

Is your family the rice krispies, peak milk only, expensive cereals type? No akamu once a while? (even akamu sef is costly)

Feeding is crazily expensive, all groceries are crazily expensive. Does she make fresh juices for your children etc etc. It all depends on the standard. Is the car taken everywhere instead of entering Keke sometimes? Every other thing needed for the house too is crazily expensive these days.
Do you guys subconsciously feel you need to meet up with a particular standard in the area you live?
Do you guys have to run Gen always once there's no light etc etc.


All These above are factors. And all these big big amount has little value these days. Full tank of 60liters plus is a lot of money now.


What I will advise you do is talk to her on how you guys can reduce cost, since you are feeling strained already reduce the standard a [b]bit, so that some cash can be squeezed out, good thing you don't have toddlers your children are of the age they will understand small small, some extras can be Withdrawn. Most families are now joining heads together on how things can work finaincially these days.
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I am more than certain that it is food that takes a large chunk of that amount. What we put in our mouth costs so much more these days.


It is well bros.

shox:
Make una lie softly on this thread.

Rayd502:
700k and she can't keep it together for a month?Your wife is going over the top really. Maybe she knows how much you earn and feels she deserves more.700k can sustain the average Nigerian family and there will be nothing lacking in regards to feeding and groceries.

If you pay sch fees then your wife is not a good manager.

You need to sit her down and get involved in the family expenditures.

Dogalmighty17:
You don't have a wife. What you have is someone using you to cash out. 700k is more than what some men give their wives for a whole year and yet you do that in just a month. Something isn't right.

Your wife may be building somewhere or saving up money to move without you soon. I don't blame her. You are comfortable that's why you can be so wasteful.

Going forward, do not give her anything monthly, rather, let her write down everything she thinks the expense of the month will be. Let her list them down together with thier prices before you give her any money.
Make a visual confirmation of any purchase once it is done.

You need to put your wife on a leash else she may be your ruin. That you can afford things easily now doesn't mean that will always be the case and then you will see the true color of this woman.

Villa12:
delete this post and go and discuss it with your family biko. Or you want jobless people and people earning minimum wage to teach you how to scatter your family?

Cowbell521:
As you don speak like mumu, I don know you be that parasite gender. Is the woman not working? 700k? Make the parasite drop 300 to meet other needs na. Problematic gender from the pit of hell

Blitzking:

4 kids in pH.. 700k monthly is not too small..give her ast u fill reasonable and tell her you av done your bit

Once you have sorted
Accommodation
School fees
Feeding(try buying those core food items yourself...bag of rice half bag of garri..quarter bag of beans 20 tubers of yam, 3 to 5 carton of spag, 3 to 4 carton of noodles ,milk...milo...sugar...Nutella, 20 litres of palm oil...20 litres of groundnut oil 3 crates of egg...tell her how much she needs for meat,fish,pomo,seafood that will last for the month stock up the freezer..and give her 50k to 100k for veggies another thing let her tell you..for her clothes..shoes.. hair look for something reasonable to give her based on your pocket and remember children's school material..you will save cost most of the things u will buy can't finish everyone you can then begin to replace as necessary...

ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

eTroll:
stupid and jobless fellow.
With this your simping.
If truly you're a male pray make I no see you cos I swear I go pour you fuel burn you in broad day light.
Idiots like you are not fit to be alive

diamond68:
you obviously haven’t lived abroad because if you have you would realize that the super rich over there prefer to rent than to own and prefer to lease cars than to own it. I was married to a white girl whose dad was always leasing cars and with my stupid African poverty mentality mindset I said why not just buy the car ? You are wasting money leasing these cars. That’s when the man sat me down and explained the virtues of leasing as opposed to owning. And my mind has expanded because of that conversation

ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

Urgent1Million:
You pay a rent of 3m naira p.a., give your wife 8.4m p.a. for family upkeep, excluding school fees and you still use a legedes benz?
Let me look for my iphone 16 promax charger, I'll be back.

ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

Joshchi19:



Oga explain, how your mind expanded?

eTroll:
stupid and jobless fellow.
With this your simping.
If truly you're a male pray make I no see you cos I swear I go pour you fuel burn you in broad day light.
Idiots like you are not fit to be alive

eTroll:
stupid and jobless fellow.
With this your simping.
If truly you're a male pray make I no see you cos I swear I go pour you fuel burn you in broad day light.
Idiots like you are not fit to be alive

ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

eTroll:
stupid and jobless fellow.
With this your simping.
If truly you're a male pray make I no see you cos I swear I go pour you fuel burn you in broad day light.
Idiots like you are not fit to be alive

ruffhandu:


Thank you my brother. If I am in charge, I go very low, I no send anybody because nobody feeds me.

Yes, she makes fresh juice every morning for their lunch in school. The kids got tired of the fresh juice that they ignore it and return with it sometimes. Now she buys other drnks like yoghurt, chocolate and milkshake. Said she will be alternating them so they still drink the fresh juice when she gives them.

She complains i am too strict, and sometimes go for cheap things at the expense of quality. Always blackmailing me with the kids' health. That was why I withdrew a bit, before I'll be blamed if my kids fall sick. But, no be naija we dey? They still fall sick once in a while. It was in that regards she stopped them from drinking any other water but Eva.

I know some of these are not neccessary, but I just look away sometimes in order not to be 'too' strict'.

For comparison of standard, it's a NO. She knows nobody dares that in my house. Na she just set the standard, which if allowed, i will definitely lower it. Once in a while we dey clash, but you know how e dey be.

We4all:



It's you who doesn't understand what is playing out. Your wife knows you are comfortable and she is raising her kids accordingly. She claims she cannot give the children boiled water because she can afford to buy bottled water.

I have seen such scenarios play out on so many occasions. My kids cannot eat or drink this....bla...bla...bla...But when life happens and they cannot afford to buy bottled water for the kids, they will start giving them borehole water and nothing will happen.

What I'm trying to say is, people go over the top for their kids and show off because they can afford it and not because they see it as a life's necessity. Peradventure, you have a drop in income and cut down her allowance to 100K monthly, she will learn to adjust.

ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

diamond68:
she no scam me. Stay on topic bro. Fact remains it’s poverty mentality that Africans have which makes them very covetous into thinking everything must be owned. And it is this primitive thinking that is limiting the growth of many. Money that you would have used to break into the stratosphere you go sink am into the ground, no pun intended 🤣

Carry money buy dirt and sand. Madness niyen now 🤣 when gold bars Dey dia