Hello Nairaland,
I meet these girl about 2 to 3 months ago , we started talking and along the line we exchange contacts.

Our chatting and calls was going smoothly. Sometimes I share data and airtime for her but not regularly.

One beautiful day she ask me for a favor that I should support her financially which I acknowledge and do little for her. She thank me for that and we keep relating .

I invited her to my house which she came and I entertained her normally but no sex though I try to advance and she declined and I accept it like that. As she wanted to go back I gave her some money for her transport fare.

After some weeks about two weeks later I invited her and but on that particular day she gives excuse that she is ill and I later visit her a to see her well she is and I bought little things for her.

So, later after some days of visiting her she was asking me for some money that she was wanted to plate her hair .

Please guys, in a situation like these what's is your suggestion to me because given her the money to plate her hair is not my main problem but I want to know if she really like me because I really want to settle down .

Thanks

ok

What does she do for a living?

luvgurl:
What does she do for a living?

She is into POS business and she is working for someone

I don first talk say I nor go dey comment on relationship issues. So na the money way you Wan give her make you post this? So you can not give woman money to fix her hair?

Abeg if you want to give her the money,go ahead and give her and stop disturbing our peace abeg

Talking as if our advice will stop you from giving her the money las las after she has successfully pressed your mumu button

I know a little less than nothing when it comes to relationships and women, but one thing that is as sure as death is that. The lady does not really rate you like that. You are not someone she sees as a boyfriend material.

In short, she doesn't have any emotional attachment towards you.
You are the one who wants her, but she doesn't want you. She only wants your money.

I've seen where women went cuckoo for guys that they want.

jackmrandy:
I don first talk say I nor go dey comment on relationship issues. So na the money way you Wan give her make you post this? So you can not give woman money to fix her hair?

you are funny

Sonnobax15:

Abeg if you want to give her the money,go ahead and give her and stop disturbing our peace abeg

Talking as if our advice will stop you from giving her the money las las after she has successfully pressed your mumu button

Take it easy i believe no one is perfect

Personally I don't think she's into you. I think her visit to you was to size you up, maybe check out your apartment. The fact that she coincidentally fell ill when she was to visit you is a big red flag, especially since instead of fixing another day to come when she became well, she's asking for money for hair

thesicilian:
Personally I don't think she's into you. I think her visit to you was to size you up, maybe check out your apartment. The fact that she coincidentally fell ill when she was to visit you is a big red flag, especially since instead of fixing another day to come when she became well, she's asking for money for hair

I appreciate your input. Thanks

She is a playgirl...not ready for marriage.
Before you will see her toto, you go spend tire.
When you eventually enter now you go see say na borehole dey between her legs.
Men done take preek scatter her toto.

cybernaut:
Hello Nairaland,
I meet these girl about 2 to 3 months ago , we started talking and along the line we exchange contacts.

Our chatting and calls was going smoothly. Sometimes I share data and airtime for her but not regularly.

One beautiful day she ask me for a favor that I should support her financially which I acknowledge and do little for her. She thank me for that and we keep relating .

I invited her to my house which she came and I entertained her normally but no sex though I try to advance and she declined and I accept it like that. As she wanted to go back I gave her some money for her transport fare.

After some weeks about two weeks later I invited her and but on that particular day she gives excuse that she is ill and I later visit her a to see her well she is and I bought little things for her.

So, later after some days of visiting her she was asking me for some money that she was wanted to plate her hair .

Please guys, in a situation like these what's is your suggestion to me because given her the money to plate her hair is not my main problem but I want to know if she really like me because I really want to settle down .

Thanks

Op,

See as small girl dey use your brain for months

Think of it this way

If you had your dream girl (Rihanna) and she was in love with you, would you treat her the way this girl is playing you.

The answer to that question is the clarity you need in this situation

Geovanni412:


Op,

See as small girl dey use your brain for months

Think of it this way

If you had your dream girl (Rihanna) and she was in love with you, would you treat her the way this girl is playing you.

The answer to that question is the clarity you need in this situation

am observing her and every of my observations is working out. Finding a soulmate is part of the game

cybernaut:
I appreciate your input. Thanks

No give her shishi......
She's just exploiting you.... When a woman doesn't like a guy.... She's exploits him at every opportunity.....
U pay for subscription
Pay for hair
Pay for visit transport ...

Guy don't be a dummy.....

Invite her again, let her come,fuvk her and send her away.. This is how you treat hoes

cybernaut:
Hello Nairaland,
I meet these girl about 2 to 3 months ago , we started talking and along the line we exchange contacts.
Our chatting and calls was going smoothly. Sometimes I share data and airtime for her but not regularly.
One beautiful day she ask me for a favor that I should support her financially which I acknowledge and do little for her. She thank me for that and we keep relating .
I invited her to my house which she came and I entertained her normally but no sex though I try to advance and she declined and I accept it like that. As she wanted to go back I gave her some money for her transport fare.
After some weeks about two weeks later I invited her and but on that particular day she gives excuse that she is ill and I later visit her a to see her well she is and I bought little things for her.
So, later after some days of visiting her she was asking me for some money that she was wanted to plate her hair .
Please guys, in a situation like these what's is your suggestion to me because given her the money to plate her hair is not my main problem but I want to know if she really like me because I really want to settle down .
Thanks

here is what you should tell this babe:" hey, pls let us be honest with one another.... you want me to do all the things that a "bf" would supposedly do to his GF, but you dont do the things that a gf should to her BF. whats the deal? if you are looking for a FRIEND to help you with money then thats not me...if you are looking for a BF that helps you whenever he can/want then that MAY be me, depending on how this thing is going between us but pls, stop asking me for money as i am not that type of "friend". show me that you care about me that you want to build something with me, before asking me to care for you "like that".
BTW i am not saying that if we are in a r/ship i am gonna take care of all your financial needs, i am just saying that lovers help each other if they can... they help financially, physically, emotionally AND sexually too"

MrBrownJay1:


here is what you should tell this babe:" hey, pls let us be honest with one another.... you want me to do all the things that a "bf" would supposedly do to his GF, but you dont do the things that a gf should to her BF. whats the deal? if you are looking for a FRIEND to help you with money then thats not me...if you are looking for a BF that helps you whenever he can/want then that MAY be me, depending on how this thing are going between us but pls, stop asking me for money as i am not that type of "friend". show me that you care about me that you want to build something with me, before asking me to care for you "like that".
BTW i am not saying that if we are in a r/ship i am gonna take care of all your financial needs, i am just saying that lovers help each other of they can...they help financially, physically, emotionally AND sexually too"

Best comments so far highly 👍

cybernaut:
Best comments so far highly 👍

No be to say best comment kini kon. Would you still give her money for hair or say exactly what MrBrownJ stated above?

Gerrard59:


No be to say best comment kini kon. Would you still give her money for hair or say exactly what MrBrownJ stated above?

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You have not said anything op
Settling down and this is all you can say?

So u are asking us how to settle her down and off her panties
so u dont have the kidney and the guts to off her panties,and u call yourself a man.SHAME ON U MR CYBERNAUT. SHAME

cybernaut:
Hello Nairaland,
I meet these girl about 2 to 3 months ago , we started talking and along the line we exchange contacts.

Our chatting and calls was going smoothly. Sometimes I share data and airtime for her but not regularly.

One beautiful day she ask me for a favor that I should support her financially which I acknowledge and do little for her. She thank me for that and we keep relating .

I invited her to my house which she came and I entertained her normally but no sex though I try to advance and she declined and I accept it like that. As she wanted to go back I gave her some money for her transport fare.

After some weeks about two weeks later I invited her and but on that particular day she gives excuse that she is ill and I later visit her a to see her well she is and I bought little things for her.

So, later after some days of visiting her she was asking me for some money that she was wanted to plate her hair .

Please guys, in a situation like these what's is your suggestion to me because given her the money to plate her hair is not my main problem but I want to know if she really like me because I really want to settle down .

Thanks

Let me tell you pure truth of what's going on in her mind.

HAVING COME TO YOUR HOUSE AND SAW YOUR ROOM, SHE FELT DISAPPOINTED GOING FORWARD TO DATE YOU.
(she accepted to come wen you first invited her, cos of assistance you had be rendering, thinking you are loaded inside & outside.
"Perhaps", she even "thinking" you aren't the one who got the room, "or" it's urs, but not furnished to her taste.

Meanwhile, she had shown you body's language that she's not interested in you any longer, because she believes you arent up to the kind of man she can date materially. (that's why she isn't coming to ur house again and faking sickness)

Now, since you keep disturbing her, she had resulted in draining you financially, using the tactics to pursue you.

Oga, any money you are sending now, you are On Your Own.

For the umpteenth time, men should always go for women who have a genuine interest in them.

It is women who decide if a relationship will start, work, and tarry to the end. Not men.

Go with women who already see you as their crush. It makes the romantic relationship smooth and easy.

A woman who likes you will be ashamed or sluggish to ask you for financial assistance. She will even feel guilty bothering you with her psychological or emotional fluctuations.

Because she knows that if her burdens should be balanced in the equation, the end product is losing you. So she is always careful.

Women want to be pampered and taken care of. But they do this with discretion with the man they love or have a genuine interest in.

Since you are among the "Odogwus" in town, move around your vicinity, and travel to other places. Explore. You will see hundreds and countless numbers of women who have more than your specs in a woman. You need to move around to find them.

The problem for men is that they are restricted by their environment and job, so they are coerced to choose from among the women within their perimeter.

That's when you see men go extra hard to get a woman. Meanwhile, he won't have much stress when he hops like a free-spirited grasshopper in the wild, amid plentiful pretty damsels.

Men have literally nothing to gain in marriage except the joy of being a father to beautiful and excellent sons and daughters.

Marriage is a heavy and hellish conundrum for men. Women have everything to benefit. But nothing for men.

Therefore, it is women who ought to be persuading you for marriage. Not you as a man persuading a woman for relationship and marriage.

And this can only happen when the woman has a genuine interest in you and loves you more than you love her. This is the second thing you probably may enjoy in marriage: a woman who adores you cherishes you, respects you, is malleable to your leadership, sings for you, always wants to please you, pampers you, and doesn't want to offend you. Above all she's your hype woman - fills you with praises.

When you spend your money on such a woman, you won't classify it as a loss because she does your bidding while maintaining her feminity.

The lady in question doesn't have a genuine interest in you.

Introspect on the conversations you have had with her - both online and offline to check if she has any atom of feelings for you.

It is broke and poor girls that make relationships difficult for themselves and men. They are coming from a place of extreme poverty, a man is always seen as an ATM gallery. So they tend to quickly try to accrue as much money and gifts before thinking of a relationship. There can't be any meaningful relationship with this category of girls.

Now you know she wants your money. She has positioned herself as a leech. A hookup babe in disguise.

Because a woman who sees a possible future with you won't be adamant about pillaging your pockets.

By the way, have you asked her to be your girlfriend?

Did she refuse or give you some silly condition?

From your post, that pretty damsel doesn't seem to like you.

Since she wants your money and says it boldly through her demands, you must also be straight up in telling her you want to bang her.

You have made sexual moves before, hint at it again and again. If she doesn't, leave her.

By the way, with a woman who has a genuine interest in you, she won't tax you for intimacy because any payment connotes that you see her as a prostitute. Her body is inclusive of the love she has for you.

But you know, men do mess up with many of such women. What a pity to now find themselves stampeding at the gates of crumbs.

That girl is interested in your pocket. No love.

Be interested in her pvssy. No love.

Whether you will spend money or nothing to get the pvssy or completely abandon her is left to you.

Thanks.

cybernaut:
Hello Nairaland,
I meet these girl about 2 to 3 months ago , we started talking and along the line we exchange contacts.

Our chatting and calls was going smoothly. Sometimes I share data and airtime for her but not regularly.

One beautiful day she ask me for a favor that I should support her financially which I acknowledge and do little for her. She thank me for that and we keep relating .

I invited her to my house which she came and I entertained her normally but no sex though I try to advance and she declined and I accept it like that. As she wanted to go back I gave her some money for her transport fare.

After some weeks about two weeks later I invited her and but on that particular day she gives excuse that she is ill and I later visit her a to see her well she is and I bought little things for her.

So, later after some days of visiting her she was asking me for some money that she was wanted to plate her hair .

Please guys, in a situation like these what's is your suggestion to me because given her the money to plate her hair is not my main problem but I want to know if she really like me because I really want to settle down .

Thanks

you are been used by her to offset her financial needs

Fiscus105:



Let me tell you pure truth of what's going on in her mind.

HAVING COME TO YOUR HOUSE AND SAW YOUR ROOM, SHE FELT DISAPPOINTED GOING FORWARD TO DATE YOU.
(she accepted to come wen you first invited her, cos of assistance you had be rendering, thinking you are loaded inside & outside.
"Perhaps", she even noticed you aren't the one who got the room, "or" the room not decorated to her level)

Meanwhile, she had shown you body's language that she's not interested in you again, because she believes you are not up to the kind of man she can date materially.(thats why she isn't coming to ur house again and faking sickness)

Now, since you still keep on disturbing her, she had resulted in draining you financially, using that tactics to pursue you.

Oga, any money you are sending now, you are on your own oooo

noted but not as u think. Taking a woman out on date how much do u think is off your pocket. I know my limits in everything I do

xexofe1741:
you are been used by her to offset her financial needs

every man spend on woman whether good or bad but over spending is not allowed. Am not a dummy

Knightred:
So u are asking us how to settle her down and off her panties
so u dont have the kidney and the guts to off her panties,and u call yourself a man.SHAME ON U MR CYBERNAUT. SHAME

kid talking as if am virgin

cybernaut:
noted but not as u think. Taking a woman out on date how much do u think is off your pocket. I know my limits in everything I do

Ok, keep on spending on her and latter come back to tell us ur ugly experiences.

You might eventually sex, but she would open her body for you base on money and gifts you are able to offer and not for single love.

YOU WOULD BE DATING YOURSELF BUT THINKING YOU ARE DATING A BEAUTIFUL LADY.

cybernaut:
every man spend on woman whether good or bad but over spending is not allowed. Am not a dummy

yeah please give her the money for hair

cybernaut:
Hello Nairaland,
I meet these girl about 2 to 3 months ago , we started talking and along the line we exchange contacts.

Our chatting and calls was going smoothly. Sometimes I share data and airtime for her but not regularly.

One beautiful day she ask me for a favor that I should support her financially which I acknowledge and do little for her. She thank me for that and we keep relating .

I invited her to my house which she came and I entertained her normally but no sex though I try to advance and she declined and I accept it like that. As she wanted to go back I gave her some money for her transport fare.

After some weeks about two weeks later I invited her and but on that particular day she gives excuse that she is ill and I later visit her a to see her well she is and I bought little things for her.

So, later after some days of visiting her she was asking me for some money that she was wanted to plate her hair .

Please guys, in a situation like these what's is your suggestion to me because given her the money to plate her hair is not my main problem but I want to know if she really like me because I really want to settle down .

Thanks

Everything about your approach is wrong. That’s why you are being declined.


1. No sign of self-confidence.

2. You are trying to use money to cover your lack of self-confidence.

3. Women are driven by what they see, not what they hear. I tell you this based on person experience. All those long epistles or sending sms don’t work.

4. Work on yourself and women will chase you.

How can you work on yourself?

4.a that money you are giving to her and other women, use it to buy clothes, nice shoes, buy one good iPhone hold.

Get a nice tailor to sew you body fit attire. When my tailor did magic on me, I know the effect it had on girls that were initially ignoring me. The guy is so good that he took my measurements only once. So now I just tell him I need xyz done without visiting and gets it done for me.

If you don’t have a tailor that can do magic for you, call mine: 0703 090 5019

4.b now you are looking good. Take yourself out and do nice pictures and smell good too. Upload them on WhatsApp statuses. Don’t say much.

4.c have abundance mentality and don’t focus on one girl avoid looking desperate like you are already doing leading you to come to nairaland to ask such “simpisous” thread or question.

One way to achieve that is go to big church, visit mall, visit nice places where you can meet other girls, just be more outgoing. This gives you super power to choose from a large pool of women.

By the time you do all these, you will be tired of women and you will stop placing them on pedestals cos they are not as big or important as you are imagining it in your head. They as empty and as ordinary as the word can go, plus THEY need you more than you need them. The power lies in your hand.

cybernaut:
Hello Nairaland,
I meet these girl about 2 to 3 months ago , we started talking and along the line we exchange contacts.

Our chatting and calls was going smoothly. Sometimes I share data and airtime for her but not regularly.

One beautiful day she ask me for a favor that I should support her financially which I acknowledge and do little for her. She thank me for that and we keep relating .

I invited her to my house which she came and I entertained her normally but no sex though I try to advance and she declined and I accept it like that. As she wanted to go back I gave her some money for her transport fare.

After some weeks about two weeks later I invited her and but on that particular day she gives excuse that she is ill and I later visit her a to see her well she is and I bought little things for her.

So, later after some days of visiting her she was asking me for some money that she was wanted to plate her hair .

Please guys, in a situation like these what's is your suggestion to me because given her the money to plate her hair is not my main problem but I want to know if she really like me because I really want to settle down .

Thanks

You sound like you’re in your twenties.
You also come across immature.
You want to settle down with someone who said
A. She wants you to support her financially.
B. Doesn’t have money to plait her own hair.

Maybe it’s a Naija thing but are you her father that you have to support her financially?
How old is she ? What does she do for a living ?
Does she make you happy, smile ?
What does she bring or add to your life ?
Are you stimulated mentally ?
Do you share the same faith /beliefs ?
Has she cooked for you ? Does she tidy the house when she comes around ?
Have you had arguments ? What were they about ?
How did you resolve them ?

Good luck o