I often get this question here,when people say 'I love her,but she's older than me,does it matter?'or 'I love him but she's younger than me,does it matter?'

To answer this question,I want to remind you that people marry for different motives which sometimes are unbeknown to them

E.g Some ladies are unwittingly looking for a father in the man they want to marry; someone who's more matured than them that could help them grow and fulfil their goals. So for that reason they're more attracted to older men.

Also, there are men who are seeking for a semblance of a mother in the woman they want to marry;that would fill the gap of the deceased or absent mother in their life, hence they are more attracted to older women who are more matured in thinking and are less dramatic.

Though some people marry due to financial reasons, beauty, emotional alignment, 'to please family and friends and online inlaws' and also for peace of mind. My point is that people marry for different reasons.

Who you marry determines what you prioritize, and what your prioritize determines your peace in that marriage .

What should matter most is the compatibility of values, belief systems, vision , true friendship, mutual respect and peace of mind. Other things like age gaps should not be as important as these other things.

Also maturity is not always a function of age. Some are in the 30's and 40's yet they still behave like teenagers, and some people though younger,yet they behave more responsibly and maturely.

The people who are bothered about age gaps are more concerned about respect, submission and maturity. But haven't you seen marriages with your ideal age gaps yet fight over this issues. This should tell you that the issue is beyond the age discrepancy.

Go for what matters most and not on what people would say. If you're happier with them then don't allow the age discrepancy to deter you,but ensure that he or she possess the right values and mindset that aligns with yours.

Except in cases where she's past menopause and you still wants to father a child,then considerations can be given. But if you're bothered whether or not it would be an issue in marriage, my answer is that it won't be IF there's mutual respect in such relationship, compatibility of values,belief system, vision, true friendship and mindset alignment.

If you fear that she would be domineering or he would be childish in reasoning because of the age difference, then remember that even without the age gap a person who has it in them to manifest such behaviours would always do so irrespective of their age. So seek for compatibility and not the age difference.

Yes it matters for someone like me, I can't marry someone within my age range, atleast 10years older. Only a matured man can handle me

EreluRoz:
Yes it matters for someone like me, I can't marry someone within my age range, atleast 10years older. Only a matured man can handle me

Why is it so?

Tallesty1:
Why is it so?

I look down on small boys a lot , like if you are just five years older I'll be looking you less less and won't be able to be submissive except you get wisdom to handle me 😆

To a certain extent, it does.

When the difference is in excess, you have people from quite or maybe very different generations coming together.

Normally, people within same generation have issues; not to talk of a generation or 2 apart…

Bonab:

If people from the same generation gap like you alleged could have issues,it tells you that the problem is not the age gap. Maybe incompatibility issues.

That’s why I said to an extent.

I’m actually a firm believer that there’s no hard and fast rule to these things.

Let everyone do what works for them…

ItisWell22:
To a certain extent, it does.

When the difference is in excess, you have people from quite or maybe very different generations coming together.

Normally, people within same generation have issues; not to talk of a generation or 2 apart…

If people from the same generation gap like you alleged could have issues,it tells you that the problem is not the age gap. Maybe incompatibility issues.

EreluRoz:
Yes it matters for someone like me, I can't marry someone within my age range, atleast 10years older. Only a matured man can handle me

Any major reason for choosing such age gap?

EreluRoz:
I look down on small boys a lot , like if you are just five years older I'll be looking you less less and won't be able to be submissive except you get wisdom to handle me 😆

The solution is to work on yourself not to look for ancestors to marry. It is a character flaw.

EreluRoz:
I look down on small boys a lot , like if you are just five years older I'll be looking you less less and won't be able to be submissive except you get wisdom to handle me 😆

In that case it is better you go for who you can respect and submit to, so as not to frustrate anybody in marriage.

Tallesty1:
The solution is to work on yourself not to look for ancestors to marry. It is a character flaw.

I don't have problems at all but young men especially those in their 20s are very toxic and unstable. What makes you think someone ten years older than me is an ancestor? Smh

EreluRoz:
I don't have problems at all but young men especially those in their 20s are very toxic and unstable. What makes you think someone ten years older than me is an ancestor? Smh

You're mistaken. Not all men have the same upbringing, or brought up in the same environment, or have the same life experiences.

Many men in their 20s have achieved high levels of emotional stability, sometimes more so than older individuals.

Have you noticed that sometimes a parent may feel more connected to one child than another? This doesn't mean the child is more loved; it’s simply about connection.

Toxicity isn't age-specific; it's a character flaw. Many men in their 50s can also be toxic. Age might bring experience, but it doesn't always mean maturity.

age doesnt matter one bit, it all depends of who you are asking... some are cool with it, others aint.
to each their own!

If it's for marriage then the younger the better. Once she's is above there 27 years, it's not advisable.
If she was so special and worth it she would have been married tops by 26 years old

What I am beginning to think is that age differences of 8 yrs and above is better for successful marriage on both sex. Older male, younger female, or older female, younger male. Whichever way the respect is sacrosanct with or without money

LagosSuperStar:
If it's for marriage then the younger the better. Once she's is above there 27 years, it's not advisable.
If she was so special and worth it she would have been married tops by 26 years old

God bless you

It is dangerful 🤣🤣🤣🤣. There is case at hand madam is 55 and tired of knacking. Oga na 50 his libido they at its peak. Home don scatter

EreluRoz:
I look down on small boys a lot , like if you are just five years older I'll be looking you less less and won't be able to be submissive except you get wisdom to handle me 😆

I should be like 10 or more years older than u. How e go be naaa. Na bah remain now😊

EreluRoz:
I look down on small boys a lot , like if you are just five years older I'll be looking you less less and won't be able to be submissive except you get wisdom to handle me 😆

tell me your age range and I will tell you who you are

Olachase:
tell me your age range and I will tell you who you are

20-24

Personally it does... He must be older

EreluRoz:
I don't have problems at all but young men especially those in their 20s are very toxic and unstable. What makes you think someone ten years older than me is an ancestor? Smh

Like you are 19 abi? Be here deceiving yourself. In 10 years from now, you'll deactivate this account and open a new one to be claiming teenager again. Mtchew

Nonexisting:
Like you are 19 abi? Be here deceiving yourself. In 10 years from now, you'll deactivate this account and open a new one to be claiming teenager again. Mtchew

Teenager gbuogi there. I can give birth to you

EreluRoz:
Teenager gbuogi there. I can give birth to you

E pain am. Old woman feeling youngie.

Nonexisting:
E pain am. Old woman feeling youngie.

I'm crying please give me bucket

Sex is the most important thing in marriage. If an older man is unable to satisfy his wife, cheating and divorce will follow. After sex, money is important. After money, mutual understanding is important.

Personally it does... He must be older

All those ones na scam. Shawty wen de respect and admire u b4 fit turn nightmare once finance deplete finish. Age gap na just myth. I senior my ex with 7 years but that nor stop her insult wen I no fit continue the monthly upkeep stuff. See in this life if people want to find fault they can accuse a snail of over speeding.

EreluRoz:
I look down on small boys a lot , like if you are just five years older I'll be looking you less less and won't be able to be submissive except you get wisdom to handle me 😆

ok give me ur phone number let me see if i xan handle u.

goran3310:
Sex is the most important thing in marriage. If an older man is unable to satisfy his wife, cheating and divorce will follow. After sex, money is important. After money, mutual understanding is important.

I disagree

Money comes before sex in order of importance here in Nigeria

Obierika:


I disagree

Money comes before sex in order of importance here in Nigeria

!?!!? And what about the money? What will she do with the money What will she do with the money? To buy a fake LV bag and slippers!

EreluRoz:
20-24

you could be hot like today bread i feel like toasting you

Olachase:
you could be hot like today bread i feel like toasting you

Just take a look at dis dolapo. No worry u will learn. People de complain say offline babes no too get head na online u wan do. Don’t worry u will run away.