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A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Solitechworld(m): 9:19am On Jul 19
Letter to my daughter in the future...


1. May Allāh bless and honour you, you have grown into a beautiful young lady and I am so proud of you. I love you so deeply even love itself will be jealous.

2. Know that it is a normal biological response to be attracted to a man. It only indicates you are healthy. Allāh will not question you about thoughts that form in your heart. You are only responsible for what you let them make you do. So, there is nothing special about being attracted to any boy or man. Where you could really lose your feminine esteem and dignity is what you let that feeling make you do.

3. My love, I didn't raise you to feel inferior to men. We don't believe in gender equality, but this inequality is more a matter of segregated responsibilities than a matter of superiority and inferiority. For instance, I haven't raised you to think you are by default less intelligent than any man. You can be the very best in any field you have chosen for yourself. Accepting your femininity makes you great. You will struggle to find your footing if you strive to be recognised the way men are recognised. Just be a woman, a great woman.

4. Let's talk a little about dependence and independence. For now you are dependent on me, and you may also be dependent on your brothers, and someday you will be dependent on your husband. Those men that are your mahrams, they are the ones you should feel confident depending on. Outside of them, strive to have as little need for other men as possible because that is a loophole men love to exploit. Strive to read and understand the course, you don't need any man to put you through. The less you need of men that are not your mahrams the more the respect and regard they will have for you. I want you to be a tough and fierce woman that still embodies all the meekness and gentility of femininity.

5. You are a Muslimah, you don't keep men as friends, and have no need for it. It is beneath you. Be the kind of woman that commands so much respect that men have to weigh what they say to you before they approach you.

6. I didn't raise you to go and propose to men. It is a vulnerability I want you to strive to overcome at all cost. Any man that is loved by many women you have to put special effort to be indifferent to him because he will likely be full of himself. He must have received many proposals from many women and you will only go and grow the list. You don't want to be that. By Allāh's will you will be a highly sought after woman and be the one to make your choice.

7. If you ever feel so strongly about any man at any time, do let me know. Sweetheart, I promise to NEVER judge your feelings and choices, as long as you trust me enough to understand I may accept or reject it. You have my word that I wouldn't mind going on your behalf to do things the right way. You will see young ladies your age that men pluck from the street at will. You are different dear. You are dignity personified. You are not that cheap.

8. It is a good thing your Dad knows a lot about the antics men use to trick their way into the heart of women. We will have a detailed discussion on that some other time. Treat all men as suspects until proven otherwise, and stay within the limits your Lord has set for you, may Allāh guide and protect you.

9. Learn to respect people and even admire them without getting emotionally attracted to them. Make your emotions very expensive. You may admire a person's knowledge, intelligence, commitment to the deen, speech and writing prowess and all but be emotionally indifferent to them. You don't need to love everything you like.

10. I have saved the best for the last, fear Allāh in all you do. Whatever you abandon Allāh to achieve will end in regret. Be willing to let go of anything that jeopardises your connection with Allāh. The grave is dark and lonely. I will travel the world to protect you but not even I can help you there. I am only a guide, you are responsible for yourself, but I have so much trust and confidence in you. May Allāh guide your every step and make you beneficial to yourself and to the world.

I love you pumpkin, more than you will ever know.

Abu Imrān

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Hajokexyz: 12:01pm On Jul 19
Jazakallahu khayran.

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Tightpussy2024(f): 12:04pm On Jul 19
The question is why do men believe women want to be like them? (Saw it in the second point)
Why be a gender every one is scared of, and cant be left alone with kids ?

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by personal59: 12:07pm On Jul 19
May Allah reward you for this.

A very brilliant message for the wise.

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by ask4bk(m): 12:13pm On Jul 19
Omo, with all the things we see Nigerian ladies doing today, e reach to beg Allah not to give me daughters abeg.
Give me 10 boys, I don't care.
Having a daughter in this era is sending oneself to early grave with heart attack.
Mek I no come see my daughter leak de trend, or someone bending her over because of 10k.

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Watinani(m): 12:18pm On Jul 19
Masha ALLAHU

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Rabiu4190: 12:26pm On Jul 19
Hajokexyz:
Jazakallahu khayran.
hmmmmm
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by LordFriar: 12:29pm On Jul 19
Omo Nawa o grin To knack this your Muslimah daughter go hard small grin But it's not impossible wink

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by nurudeen181(m): 12:49pm On Jul 19
ask4bk:
Omo, with all the things we see Nigerian ladies doing today, e reach to beg Allah not to give me daughters abeg.
Give me 10 boys, I don't care.
Having a daughter in this era is sending oneself to early grave with heart attack.
Mek I no come see my daughter leak de trend, or someone bending her over because of 10k.
this must be some of the reasons female children were killed in those days right

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Jayhansdboss(m): 12:49pm On Jul 19
Masha Allah, I love this letter. Please write a letter to me, advising me about women, money and life.
Solitechworld:
Letter to my daughter in the future...


1. May Allāh bless and honour you, you have grown into a beautiful young lady and I am so proud of you. I love you so deeply even love itself will be jealous.

2. Know that it is a normal biological response to be attracted to a man. It only indicates you are healthy. Allāh will not question you about thoughts that form in your heart. You are only responsible for what you let them make you do. So, there is nothing special about being attracted to any boy or man. Where you could really lose your feminine esteem and dignity is what you let that feeling make you do.

3. My love, I didn't raise you to feel inferior to men. We don't believe in gender equality, but this inequality is more a matter of segregated responsibilities than a matter of superiority and inferiority. For instance, I haven't raised you to think you are by default less intelligent than any man. You can be the very best in any field you have chosen for yourself. Accepting your femininity makes you great. You will struggle to find your footing if you strive to be recognised the way men are recognised. Just be a woman, a great woman.

4. Let's talk a little about dependence and independence. For now you are dependent on me, and you may also be dependent on your brothers, and someday you will be dependent on your husband. Those men that are your mahrams, they are the ones you should feel confident depending on. Outside of them, strive to have as little need for other men as possible because that is a loophole men love to exploit. Strive to read and understand the course, you don't need any man to put you through. The less you need of men that are not your mahrams the more the respect and regard they will have for you. I want you to be a tough and fierce woman that still embodies all the meekness and gentility of femininity.

5. You are a Muslimah, you don't keep men as friends, and have no need for it. It is beneath you. Be the kind of woman that commands so much respect that men have to weigh what they say to you before they approach you.

6. I didn't raise you to go and propose to men. It is a vulnerability I want you to strive to overcome at all cost. Any man that is loved by many women you have to put special effort to be indifferent to him because he will likely be full of himself. He must have received many proposals from many women and you will only go and grow the list. You don't want to be that. By Allāh's will you will be a highly sought after woman and be the one to make your choice.

7. If you ever feel so strongly about any man at any time, do let me know. Sweetheart, I promise to NEVER judge your feelings and choices, as long as you trust me enough to understand I may accept or reject it. You have my word that I wouldn't mind going on your behalf to do things the right way. You will see young ladies your age that men pluck from the street at will. You are different dear. You are dignity personified. You are not that cheap.

8. It is a good thing your Dad knows a lot about the antics men use to trick their way into the heart of women. We will have a detailed discussion on that some other time. Treat all men as suspects until proven otherwise, and stay within the limits your Lord has set for you, may Allāh guide and protect you.

9. Learn to respect people and even admire them without getting emotionally attracted to them. Make your emotions very expensive. You may admire a person's knowledge, intelligence, commitment to the deen, speech and writing prowess and all but be emotionally indifferent to them. You don't need to love everything you like.

10. I have saved the best for the last, fear Allāh in all you do. Whatever you abandon Allāh to achieve will end in regret. Be willing to let go of anything that jeopardises your connection with Allāh. The grave is dark and lonely. I will travel the world to protect you but not even I can help you there. I am only a guide, you are responsible for yourself, but I have so much trust and confidence in you. May Allāh guide your every step and make you beneficial to yourself and to the world.

I love you pumpkin, more than you will ever know.

Abu Imrān
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by kkins25(m): 12:51pm On Jul 19
"you are not inferior to any man"

Then goes ahead to explain how she will be dependent...on men. 😂😂😂

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by musamadallah(m): 12:55pm On Jul 19
Jazakallahu khairr, Ma sha Allah,
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Luckysbab: 1:02pm On Jul 19
kkins25:
"you are not inferior to any man"

Then goes ahead to explain how she will be dependent...on men. 😂😂😂

As the men will depend on the women for some needs.

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by kkins25(m): 1:10pm On Jul 19
Luckysbab:


As the men will depend on the women for some needs.

OP must have been a rascal... See as e dey fear make guys no do him daughter the same things hin do.. 😁

All I see here, is all centered on men... Men... Men.. Men....

Careful of man...
Choose man..
Don't chase man...
Serve God(man)...

Cognitive dissonance..... 😁


Is that all life is about.....

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by ThinkSmarter: 1:21pm On Jul 19
I read all, and it is such a beautiful piece that i had to accept the fvcking rule to comment.

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Saladdin: 3:36pm On Jul 19
Solitechworld:
Letter to my daughter in the future...


1. May Allāh bless and honour you, you have grown into a beautiful young lady and I am so proud of you. I love you so deeply even love itself will be jealous.

2. Know that it is a normal biological response to be attracted to a man. It only indicates you are healthy. Allāh will not question you about thoughts that form in your heart. You are only responsible for what you let them make you do. So, there is nothing special about being attracted to any boy or man. Where you could really lose your feminine esteem and dignity is what you let that feeling make you do.

3. My love, I didn't raise you to feel inferior to men. We don't believe in gender equality, but this inequality is more a matter of segregated responsibilities than a matter of superiority and inferiority. For instance, I haven't raised you to think you are by default less intelligent than any man. You can be the very best in any field you have chosen for yourself. Accepting your femininity makes you great. You will struggle to find your footing if you strive to be recognised the way men are recognised. Just be a woman, a great woman.

4. Let's talk a little about dependence and independence. For now you are dependent on me, and you may also be dependent on your brothers, and someday you will be dependent on your husband. Those men that are your mahrams, they are the ones you should feel confident depending on. Outside of them, strive to have as little need for other men as possible because that is a loophole men love to exploit. Strive to read and understand the course, you don't need any man to put you through. The less you need of men that are not your mahrams the more the respect and regard they will have for you. I want you to be a tough and fierce woman that still embodies all the meekness and gentility of femininity.

5. You are a Muslimah, you don't keep men as friends, and have no need for it. It is beneath you. Be the kind of woman that commands so much respect that men have to weigh what they say to you before they approach you.

6. I didn't raise you to go and propose to men. It is a vulnerability I want you to strive to overcome at all cost. Any man that is loved by many women you have to put special effort to be indifferent to him because he will likely be full of himself. He must have received many proposals from many women and you will only go and grow the list. You don't want to be that. By Allāh's will you will be a highly sought after woman and be the one to make your choice.

7. If you ever feel so strongly about any man at any time, do let me know. Sweetheart, I promise to NEVER judge your feelings and choices, as long as you trust me enough to understand I may accept or reject it. You have my word that I wouldn't mind going on your behalf to do things the right way. You will see young ladies your age that men pluck from the street at will. You are different dear. You are dignity personified. You are not that cheap.

8. It is a good thing your Dad knows a lot about the antics men use to trick their way into the heart of women. We will have a detailed discussion on that some other time. Treat all men as suspects until proven otherwise, and stay within the limits your Lord has set for you, may Allāh guide and protect you.

9. Learn to respect people and even admire them without getting emotionally attracted to them. Make your emotions very expensive. You may admire a person's knowledge, intelligence, commitment to the deen, speech and writing prowess and all but be emotionally indifferent to them. You don't need to love everything you like.

10. I have saved the best for the last, fear Allāh in all you do. Whatever you abandon Allāh to achieve will end in regret. Be willing to let go of anything that jeopardises your connection with Allāh. The grave is dark and lonely. I will travel the world to protect you but not even I can help you there. I am only a guide, you are responsible for yourself, but I have so much trust and confidence in you. May Allāh guide your every step and make you beneficial to yourself and to the world.

I love you pumpkin, more than you will ever know.

Abu Imrān

Masha Allah. Nice one OP. The point I love most is about not keeping male friends. That's a standard.

But the No 6 & 8. It goes both ways. Due to a lady's dignity, she might not want to propose to men which is understandable. But a man who has struggled (with God's help) to refine himself into a masterpiece, becoming one of the finest specimen of men will definitely be receiving women's proposal directly or through her guardians. We cannot expect such men to chase after just any girl. He receiving proposal will be expected.

For Point 8, it has to be well-clarified. She should treat men she comes across to as professional as possible. But not be "suspicious" in that sense. Some brothers might interpret it differently.

Anyways, nice points generally. May Allah keep aiding you. Ameen.

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Saladdin: 3:56pm On Jul 19
hiyagroundz:
It seems the obsession of this father is strictly on protecting the girl child from the men, as if that is all to life & typical of a person who I believe has an history of destroying younger girls in his youthful days. Well never mind, we know she s already bethroded to her cousin for incest as practiced by her culture, so no seriously trained young man should waste his time dating her

Mods, there's a Looney on the loose. NLFPMOD, Sissie, please do the needful.
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by BayoBola(m): 4:14pm On Jul 19
MashaALLAH. Nice one. More beneficial knowledge. Ameen
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Amumaigwe: 4:58pm On Jul 19
Solitechworld:
Letter to my daughter in the future...


1. May Allāh bless and honour you, you have grown into a beautiful young lady and I am so proud of you. I love you so deeply even love itself will be jealous.

2. Know that it is a normal biological response to be attracted to a man. It only indicates you are healthy. Allāh will not question you about thoughts that form in your heart. You are only responsible for what you let them make you do. So, there is nothing special about being attracted to any boy or man. Where you could really lose your feminine esteem and dignity is what you let that feeling make you do.

3. My love, I didn't raise you to feel inferior to men. We don't believe in gender equality, but this inequality is more a matter of segregated responsibilities than a matter of superiority and inferiority. For instance, I haven't raised you to think you are by default less intelligent than any man. You can be the very best in any field you have chosen for yourself. Accepting your femininity makes you great. You will struggle to find your footing if you strive to be recognised the way men are recognised. Just be a woman, a great woman.

4. Let's talk a little about dependence and independence. For now you are dependent on me, and you may also be dependent on your brothers, and someday you will be dependent on your husband. Those men that are your mahrams, they are the ones you should feel confident depending on. Outside of them, strive to have as little need for other men as possible because that is a loophole men love to exploit. Strive to read and understand the course, you don't need any man to put you through. The less you need of men that are not your mahrams the more the respect and regard they will have for you. I want you to be a tough and fierce woman that still embodies all the meekness and gentility of femininity.

5. You are a Muslimah, you don't keep men as friends, and have no need for it. It is beneath you. Be the kind of woman that commands so much respect that men have to weigh what they say to you before they approach you.

6. I didn't raise you to go and propose to men. It is a vulnerability I want you to strive to overcome at all cost. Any man that is loved by many women you have to put special effort to be indifferent to him because he will likely be full of himself. He must have received many proposals from many women and you will only go and grow the list. You don't want to be that. By Allāh's will you will be a highly sought after woman and be the one to make your choice.

7. If you ever feel so strongly about any man at any time, do let me know. Sweetheart, I promise to NEVER judge your feelings and choices, as long as you trust me enough to understand I may accept or reject it. You have my word that I wouldn't mind going on your behalf to do things the right way. You will see young ladies your age that men pluck from the street at will. You are different dear. You are dignity personified. You are not that cheap.

8. It is a good thing your Dad knows a lot about the antics men use to trick their way into the heart of women. We will have a detailed discussion on that some other time. Treat all men as suspects until proven otherwise, and stay within the limits your Lord has set for you, may Allāh guide and protect you.

9. Learn to respect people and even admire them without getting emotionally attracted to them. Make your emotions very expensive. You may admire a person's knowledge, intelligence, commitment to the deen, speech and writing prowess and all but be emotionally indifferent to them. You don't need to love everything you like.

10. I have saved the best for the last, fear Allāh in all you do. Whatever you abandon Allāh to achieve will end in regret. Be willing to let go of anything that jeopardises your connection with Allāh. The grave is dark and lonely. I will travel the world to protect you but not even I can help you there. I am only a guide, you are responsible for yourself, but I have so much trust and confidence in you. May Allāh guide your every step and make you beneficial to yourself and to the world.

I love you pumpkin, more than you will ever know.

Abu Imrān

Thanks. This is the first meaningful post I have seen on this religious site. A sharp departure from different rulings on how to eat, poo and nack published every Friday.
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by hiyagroundz: 5:25pm On Jul 19
I guess it would be correct to assume you were an offspring of such intimacy, Donkey!
Saladdin:


Mods, there's a Looney on the loose. NLFPMOD, Sissie, please do the needful.
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Saladdin: 6:13pm On Jul 19
hiyagroundz:
I guess it would be correct to assume you were an offspring of such intimacy, Donkey!

Like I suspected, you'll definitely show your lack of home training and zero respect for your parents to the world. I'm not surprised.

Making conclusions without any proof or evidence are symptoms of low intellect. I'm definitely not surprised. I will be bringing myself low if I keep exchanging words with dumbos like you.

This is my last reply to you. Kindly do us a favour and do what you do best, bark!

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Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Sequence23(m): 8:02pm On Jul 19
Jazakumlahu khaeran. I so much love this. I hope I'm permitted to also keep it for my daughter
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by hiyagroundz: 8:07pm On Jul 19
Saladdin:


Like I suspected, you'll definitely show your lack of home training to the world. I'm not surprised.

Making conclusions without any proof or evidence are symptoms of low intellect. I'm definitely not surprised. I will be bringing myself low if I keep exchanging words with dumbos like you.

This is my last reply to you. Kindly do us a favour and do what you do best, bark!
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by hiyagroundz: 8:09pm On Jul 19
Get off my mention, you product of a drug addict woman and an almajiri
Saladdin:


Like I suspected, you'll definitely show your lack of home training to the world. I'm not surprised.

Making conclusions without any proof or evidence are symptoms of low intellect. I'm definitely not surprised. I will be bringing myself low if I keep exchanging words with dumbos like you.

This is my last reply to you. Kindly do us a favour and do what you do best, bark!
Re: A Father's Guidance: A Letter To My Daughter in The Future by Rodinat: 9:23pm On Jul 19
Barakallahu fih
May you benefit from the special reward of having a female child.
May Allah make her a pious muslimah.You will love long to eat the fruits of your labour.

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