Handling randy sex jokes from the opposite sex can be uncomfortable and tricky. Here are some tips to help you navigate the situation:

1. Stay calm and composed: Maintain your poise and don't let the joke rattle you.

2. Don't engage: Avoid responding or laughing along, as it may encourage more inappropriate comments.

3. Redirect the conversation: Steer the discussion towards a different topic, showing you're not interested in pursuing sexual banter.

4. Set boundaries: Politely but firmly tell the person you're not comfortable with such jokes.

5. Use humor (carefully): If you're comfortable, use a lighthearted response to diffuse the situation, but avoid perpetuating inappropriate humor.

6. Practice assertive responses: Prepare phrases like "I'd rather not discuss that" or "Let's focus on something else."

7. Know your audience: Consider the person's intentions and audience; some may not realize the inappropriateness of their comments.

8. Don't feel obligated to laugh: You don't have to pretend to find something funny to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

9. Seek support: If the behavior persists or makes you uncomfortable, consider talking to a trusted friend, family member, or authority figure.

Remember, your comfort and boundaries are important. Don't hesitate to assert yourself and steer the conversation towards more respectful and appropriate topics.

Here are some additional tips to handle randy sex jokes from the opposite sex:

1. Avoid taking it personally: Remember that the other person's behavior is not a reflection of your worth or values.

2. Use "I" statements: Instead of accusing the other person, express your feelings using "I" statements (e.g., "I feel uncomfortable when...".

3. Set clear expectations: Let the person know that you prefer respectful conversations and won't engage in inappropriate discussions.

4. Be prepared for pushback: The other person might not understand or respect your boundaries initially, so be firm and consistent.

5. Practice active listening: Make sure you understand the other person's perspective, but don't feel obligated to agree or engage.

6. Seek a change in environment: If the situation feels too uncomfortable or familiar, suggest moving the conversation to a different setting or ending it altogether.

7. Prioritize your own emotional well-being: If the situation feels too stressful or toxic, prioritize your own emotional safety and step away.

8. Consider the power dynamics: Be aware of any power imbalances in the situation, and prioritize your own safety and well-being.

9. Seek support from others: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist about your experiences and get support and guidance.

Remember, you have the right to set boundaries and prioritize your own comfort and well-being. Don't hesitate to assert yourself and seek help when needed.

Theopneustos:
Good day nairalanders

I have this thing disturbing me and I just want your honest opinion. I work in a place currently that my female colleagues are something else.
What I mean is that they discuss and make sexual jokes and say saucy and obscene things when they come around me,both married and unmarried.

One of them was bold enough to ask me if I had ever had sex or have a girlfriend, she was so keen on that. The married ones also come around me and try to get me like give them money,asking me if I have a girlfriend and has 'knacked' before, they say all manner of sexual stuff around me waiting for my reply which I don't reply in that same vein,I either scold them or leave their midst,but to me that isn't the first time I am having women talk so boldly about sex around me.

I remember one showing me even sex positions on her phone and asking which one do I like and have I done, and this lady can hardly let me be,though engaged to another man who is outside the country, this was in my former workplace.

In my service year as I corper,I have to intentionally lock my door from allowing my female neighbours and Corpers come into my room because I have two in my compound then discuss about sex brazenly and asking me if I had ever had it.

I don't know women could be so bold this way,I am still surprised that there are women who can make such randy jokes and have no qualms, I used to think that it is men that does it more,but from my experience I can say that most women are. I don't feel comfortable when I hear women make such jokes or say such things around me and to me I see such women as loose.

Please how can I handle these persons in my workplace without sounding abrasive or holier than thou.

Here are some additional tips to handle randy sex jokes from the opposite sex:

1. Avoid taking it personally: Remember that the other person's behavior is not a reflection of your worth or values.

2. Use "I" statements: Instead of accusing the other person, express your feelings using "I" statements (e.g., "I feel uncomfortable when...".

3. Set clear expectations: Let the person know that you prefer respectful conversations and won't engage in inappropriate discussions.

4. Be prepared for pushback: The other person might not understand or respect your boundaries initially, so be firm and consistent.

5. Practice active listening: Make sure you understand the other person's perspective, but don't feel obligated to agree or engage.

6. Seek a change in environment: If the situation feels too uncomfortable or familiar, suggest moving the conversation to a different setting or ending it altogether.

7. Prioritize your own emotional well-being: If the situation feels too stressful or toxic, prioritize your own emotional safety and step away.

8. Consider the power dynamics: Be aware of any power imbalances in the situation, and prioritize your own safety and well-being.

9. Seek support from others: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist about your experiences and get support and guidance.

Remember, you have the right to set boundaries and prioritize your own comfort and well-being. Don't hesitate to assert yourself and seek help when needed..

Theopneustos:
Good day nairalanders

I have this thing disturbing me and I just want your honest opinion. I work in a place currently that my female colleagues are something else.
What I mean is that they discuss and make sexual jokes and say saucy and obscene things when they come around me,both married and unmarried.

One of them was bold enough to ask me if I had ever had sex or have a girlfriend, she was so keen on that. The married ones also come around me and try to get me like give them money,asking me if I have a girlfriend and has 'knacked' before, they say all manner of sexual stuff around me waiting for my reply which I don't reply in that same vein,I either scold them or leave their midst,but to me that isn't the first time I am having women talk so boldly about sex around me.

I remember one showing me even sex positions on her phone and asking which one do I like and have I done, and this lady can hardly let me be,though engaged to another man who is outside the country, this was in my former workplace.

In my service year as I corper,I have to intentionally lock my door from allowing my female neighbours and Corpers come into my room because I have two in my compound then discuss about sex brazenly and asking me if I had ever had it.

I don't know women could be so bold this way,I am still surprised that there are women who can make such randy jokes and have no qualms, I used to think that it is men that does it more,but from my experience I can say that most women are. I don't feel comfortable when I hear women make such jokes or say such things around me and to me I see such women as loose.

Please how can I handle these persons in my workplace without sounding abrasive or holier than thou.

Why are you gay

Meedon:

You want make he go fornicate bah?

Yes

danielclerkson:
If it is your workplace, make a report about sexual harrasment. It is really serious. If you were the one asking them about these things they would report you without hesitation. Double standard are real

no waste ur advice cuz the idi0t dey happily enjoy d conversations. Real definition of woman wrapper.

Ani gay ni Bobo yi sé.

SMH.

One even hit me in the bum once at work. I have been seriously harrassed my people.

Nothing wey eyes never see.

PJtech:


Yes

Get thee behind him satan

It's more or less sexual harassment in the workplace.. but trust society to turn blind eye as usual since female gender is involved.

If na man go talk that kind thing now, your HR go don issue am sack letter claiming he is a risk and whatnot to the females in the office.

@OP As a man, sha dey use your head before they'll rope you into something you won't like. Work colleagues, neighbors are off limits.

Depends on what side of the opposite sex you are, As a man I will encourage it from women around me as long as I am not married to or related to any of them,

You don't need to bother yourself; they are just teasing you and if you want to scatter them so move closer to one of them as if you are dating her, you will see jealousy and hatred big time

Gay vibes

Meedon:


Get thee behind him satan

Make e just mark register

You're a fággot notin you fit tell me

I dont like it if u are married or got serius relationship is wrong

Take agbo with burantashi, manpower and viagra, then visit one of the ladies at home. Na salute you go dey collect for office.

Ahhh I remember jumoke that year, no kind sex talk when we no talk but I dey avoid the sex before e lead to disrespect, as I comot like this e no reach better one week when I knack knack craze. We are still knacking as we speak but she’s bottom tier to the type of women I knack normally.

I smell lies

Lol to your story

You obviously seem like Mr nice decent guy..

Women can't take what they don't want. Imagine if it were the other way round ..

That was how one (few of them actually) was trying to whine me to send her money. I got angry and was like, "imagine me coming to your DM, out of the blue and start asking you for sex ". On sexual favours, I insult them harshly, without mercy (because that's what they would have done if they didn't find me attractive) ..

Next time bro, try to make anyone involve in such shenanigans with you begin to question their sanity (I do it a lot), especially the married folks. Something like " I thought you were married (she will reply), why acting like a child🤷‍♂️? We're or I'm above this level so let's be mature in our discussions as COLLEAGUES please"..

PS, there was one that I even had to expose her nonsense on my status because that's what most of them do if they're not into you...

I had one previously at my present workplace buh i have no option than to pissed them off ,what i mean by to pissed them off is that you need to get angry uneccessaryly
That's it .

Na how jennyclay dem Dey behave when they finally see someone they like

CalabarPikin:
Which part of the world you from? this mad

🤔🤔 Abi Na online school you go..?

Before you know you will claim Christianity.. is this act part of the teaching of Jesus Christ in your Bible?

To the sponsor of this topic; you can preach to them if you are a religious type and if you aren't then just smile and move on.
It happening in some departments in my working place too but not everybody , those engaging in such foul words know themselves including the married and singles both males and females

ravensckar:
Sounds more like my previous workplace. The ladies there were so badt that they always talk about se.x, gbo.la and the likes whenever we're meeting amongst ourselves. Funny enough, most of them are decent ladies. They only like to run their mouths and tempt we the guys.

Personally, I hate discussing stuffs like that in public. But since it's workplace, one can't be seen as being too righteous. I'll just play along and act like I'm also a BADOO.

However, whenever I've had enough and want to chase them away. I'll tell them that we've been discussing THEORY since morning, how about we PRACTICALIZE it? The moment I grab one person closer, the rest will run away.

OP, the solution to your problem is quite simple. You gotta act like you're also a BADOO lest they will continue to trouble you. You're giving them the "MUGU VIBE" hence the reason they are trying to whyne you. All those talk and talk might be a way to empty your wallet, butter you up for manipulations or probably make you their bitc* at work.

If you try to act defensive by chasing them away or reporting them, they will make the workplace a living hell for you. As you already know, the workplace is the worst place to make enemies. Just play along for some minutes, then you should excuse yourself from their midst.

There's a particular LAW OF POWER (in Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power) that says; "think as you like, but behave like others". Read and digest that law, the solution to your problem is contained therein.

So sensible. The Op should go with this

Good one.

ravensckar:
Sounds more like my previous workplace. The ladies there were so badt that they always talk about se.x, gbo.la and the likes whenever we're meeting amongst ourselves. Funny enough, most of them are decent ladies. They only like to run their mouths and tempt we the guys.

Personally, I hate discussing stuffs like that in public. But since it's workplace, one can't be seen as being too righteous. I'll just play along and act like I'm also a BADOO.

However, whenever I've had enough and want to chase them away. I'll tell them that we've been discussing THEORY since morning, how about we PRACTICALIZE it? The moment I grab one person closer, the rest will run away.

OP, the solution to your problem is quite simple. You gotta act like you're also a BADOO lest they will continue to trouble you. You're giving them the "MUGU VIBE" hence the reason they are trying to whyne you. All those talk and talk might be a way to empty your wallet, butter you up for manipulations or probably make you their bitc* at work.

If you try to act defensive by chasing them away or reporting them, they will make the workplace a living hell for you. As you already know, the workplace is the worst place to make enemies. Just play along for some minutes, then you should excuse yourself from their midst.

There's a particular LAW OF POWER (in Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power) that says; "think as you like, but behave like others". Read and digest that law, the solution to your problem is contained therein.

Stop laughing like an eediot.

Once you don’t laugh at useless jokes they won’t test u with any silly one.

There are some who actually needs sex, they won't come openly. Like my landlady who anytime she sees me always talk about nack nack and nack.

Since I decided to act foolishly and ignored, I automatically became a bad person. I've been seeing hell thereafter. Moving out soon, can't let a cougar intimidate or harass me sexually.

Puss360:
Lol... Since you know full well it's jokes, then reply them back in thesame vein....
It's sexual harassment, we all know, but the fact is, a cockroach can't be innocent in gathering of fowls...
No one will believe you when you claim victim...
Just joke about it back...
But why are females around you always teasing you? From Ur corper days, Ur former working place and now Ur new place...
Check on urself

bàbà is a Jesus boy. This is normal. Just be ahead of them in the game and dey will naturally stop.

Sapasenator:
One even hit me in the bum once at work. I have been seriously harrassed my people.

Nothing wey eyes never see.

do some, she won't try it again.

Theopneustos:
Good day nairalanders

I have this thing disturbing me and I just want your honest opinion. I work in a place currently that my female colleagues are something else.
What I mean is that they discuss and make sexual jokes and say saucy and obscene things when they come around me,both married and unmarried.

One of them was bold enough to ask me if I had ever had sex or have a girlfriend, she was so keen on that. The married ones also come around me and try to get me like give them money,asking me if I have a girlfriend and has 'knacked' before, they say all manner of sexual stuff around me waiting for my reply which I don't reply in that same vein,I either scold them or leave their midst,but to me that isn't the first time I am having women talk so boldly about sex around me.

I remember one showing me even sex positions on her phone and asking which one do I like and have I done, and this lady can hardly let me be,though engaged to another man who is outside the country, this was in my former workplace.

In my service year as I corper,I have to intentionally lock my door from allowing my female neighbours and Corpers come into my room because I have two in my compound then discuss about sex brazenly and asking me if I had ever had it.

I don't know women could be so bold this way,I am still surprised that there are women who can make such randy jokes and have no qualms, I used to think that it is men that does it more,but from my experience I can say that most women are. I don't feel comfortable when I hear women make such jokes or say such things around me and to me I see such women as loose.

Please how can I handle these persons in my workplace without sounding abrasive or holier than thou.

Thats no serious business enterprise...

You mean all u guys talk about is S.X and u earn good salary for just gisting around..

Puss360:
Lol... Since you know full well it's jokes, then reply them back in thesame vein....
It's sexual harassment, we all know, but the fact is, a cockroach can't be innocent in gathering of fowls...
No one will believe you when you claim victim...
Just joke about it back...
But why are females around you always teasing you? From Ur corper days, Ur former working place and now Ur new place...
Check on urself

That's because Ladies/women could smell him miles away that he's pussy, probably a virgin man. Lol