I meet this guy online sometime last year, we started talking, eventually we became fond of each other. We talk for hours on the phone and we are always texting.

One day we were talking dirty then I jokingly told him I am a virgin. I never knew he took it seriously, all I knew was his attention and care for me tripled. He became even sweeter. In June, he lost his uncle, he came back this month for the burial and he wants to take me along for the burial and also introduce me to his family and then come to see my parents so we can start making wedding plans.

I asked why he wants to marry me and he said “it’s hard to see women like me that still keeps themselves” oh!, I am in trouble.

I am not a virgin, infact I have two kids already. Whenever I tell my male acquaintances about having two kids, they disappear, now I told him I am a virgin, he wants to marry me.

I don’t know how to tell him, I tried getting him to have s*x with me so he will realise but he said he would want us to wait till after our wedding.

Please help me guys, what do I do ? I don’t want to loose him, he has done so much for me and I know he loves me, I don’t want to break his heart, he is a good man.

How best do you think I should approach this?

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AngelicBeing:
Yawns

the man don't have eye to see your falling breast?

The man don't have eye to see your falling breast?

Honestly, the best thing you can do at this point is to tell him, do not marry him without telling him the truth or better still show him this post and get his reaction. Again, do not marry him under this pretense. Good Luck.

Jst open up to him that u were only joking,,bt i thnk u should v done this since,,,dnt marry him witout him knowing d truth,if not ur marriage wil be ur worst night mare

Tell him you are a virgin just that the processes of the two births disvirgined you as you became pregnant in the two instances magically without any form of conjugal actions.

OR (steez oo)

Sell the two children and become child-free and then you are actually a virgin.

As long as you remember he can divorce you legally based on undisclosed issues or lies said before marriage.

Stevenbright:
Tell him you are a virgin just that the processes of the two births disvirgined you as you became pregnant in the two instances magically without any form of conjugal actions.

OR (steez oo)

Sell the two children and become child-free and then you are actually a virgin.

Werey

This is a huge scam. The man will hate you for life if you marry him under false pretense of being a virgin.
I don't want to imagine the look on his face on the wedding night when he enters.....
My candid advice.....tell him you lost your virginity a long time ago, you were only pulling his legs.
If he loves you, he will stay

Better go and bring your lost virginity where you lost it oo


Nonsense

Ouchbabe:

Werey

He is in Aso rock...

Ouchbabe:
This is a huge scam. The man will hate you for life if you marry him under false pretense of being a virgin.
I don't want to imagine the look on his face on the wedding night when he enters.....
My candid advice.....tell him you lost your virginity a long time ago, you were only pulling his legs.
If he loves you, he will stay

I know this is not a direct post by someone asking for advice or opinion but then, telling him won't solve the issue because the deceit is a two-edged sord that can tear anything apart (virginity lie and not having children lie).