Westchester:
Who do you think is at fault here

Tightpussy2024:

How is paying for a first date paying for everything?

No matter how inappropriate you think a woman behaves, pay for the first date then afterwards,delete her number.

Fahvvy:
Those of y'all supporting that guy are wrong! ...

Whoever invites any out should pay for the treat or at the very least, inform your date that you want to go dutch on things, that way, they'll be prepared before coming ...

Ifthat girl didn't have cash, she would just be embarrassed to death because of a boys immaturity - honestly eh, some of y'all need to grow up! ...

And girls, when you go out eh, try dey order food with conscience ...

Don't go on a date and proof to the world that you're a retched orphan who hasn't eaten for 2 years ...

Juliearth:







This is possibly staged. Courtesy demands that when you ask a lady out on a date, you foot the bills. If you are also not very buoyant, you take her to a restaurant that you can well afford.

jaephoenix:

So what if the guy didn't have enough money for food? Is a date a buffet dinner?

GABRIEL6036:
First time impression went wrong, this mentallity of pay-i-pay mine has to stop cos nothing good comes out of it. As a MAN not ( man ) you are to be up to task to take care of your spouse on a first date. You dont invite someone you cant take care of, remember she left something important to her to attend to you, now you in your dumb state thinking she will take care of herself after wasting her time is just not it.😎

Jaycee07:


Nigerian girl courtesy?? Courtesy requires that you patiently wait for your host to give you a nod before you proceed in ordering anything. It simply shows that you respect your host’s privacy and preferences.
The lady in question felt entitled. Most Nigerian girls have such mindset.
It wasn’t within her right to disrespect her host by ordering food without his consent.
I can’t possibly love a greedy and disrespectful lady.
Nigerian men have actually emboldened their ladies to act in such weird and disrespectful fashion.Maybe that explains why most of their girls see such as normal.

Tightpussy2024:

Oga,when you meet a woman you like,invite her for a date in a RESTAURANT then don't order anything for her.

Tightpussy2024:

The only fault I have with her is that she should have waited for him to tell her to place an order. If he refuse,she should delete his number.

Tightpussy2024:

You people belittle yourself thinking you are punishing women not knowing you are punishing yourself.

Tightpussy2024:

This women dressed and prepared to impress you. Probably a new hairstyle just for you. If her presence lightens you and makes you happy,how is food your problem? Doesn't she have food in her father's house? It's just a way of showing you value her.

Tightpussy2024:

Left alone as the lady,I will give excuse and leave if I notice a man will not tell me to place an order

NairaMaster1:


You forgot that we have a lot of jambites and WAEC holders here that can't make that small cut off points of 180? They're the reason why the university entrance cut off point is now 140.

Nothing in their brain.

How can you ask a woman out and you can't pay for her meal? And you expect the girl to flow with you? I am shocked people are celebrating him.

siofra:
This is how you know he doesn't like you. Any guy that's comfortable seeing you pay for anything doesn't love you.

PDJT:


- It appears "ladies" in your family were raised to comfortably live in a man's pocket. If so, you and your sisters have been raised very badly and would attract little or no respect from men. Re-educate yourself, this is 21st century.

- Meanwhile, an actual lady should be able to comfortably pay her bills without whinging.

7demons:

Thank you. Unfortunately, most people here are "boys" who are just hustling to chop 3 square meal.

Juliearth:







This is possibly staged. Courtesy demands that when you ask a lady out on a date, you foot the bills. If you are also not very buoyant, you take her to a restaurant that you can well afford.

frankputer:


Your gender is very funny.
Na so one want me to take her to a Resturant that I have never been before and on a first date.
So I fear for my life, because I don’t know how the bill will look like. She chooose the venue, then i foot the bill.
I told her capital No, I go to places I fully know to avoid high billing.
She got upset because she thought she have gotten a maga to feed her dinner.
She started ranting that she can afford it, and if she can afford it,I can too.
I was like huuu.
First date you pick venue for me and I pay unknown bill
With unknown menu/pricing.

komzy589:

Someone invites you to a place for a meeting and you start placing orders without his consent 🤷🏻‍♀️
I don’t know what you’re arguing here o.

Nazgul:

You're the one who's not being realistic here cos you seem not to get the point.

There's nothing wrong in taking a girl to a restaurant in a date. In case you don't know more than 60% of dates world wide take place in restaurants.

My point here is rushing to order for food ahead of the guy you came with. It's so wrong. If you go out with someone, you don't begin to order food like a hungry orphan, you should always restrain yourself from going ahead of the person who invited you. It shows you have good manners. She was expected to sit back and allow the guy ask her what she wants and not ordering what she cannot afford and expecting the guy to pay for it.

The guy wasn't in the wrong here.

krushdripper:
Glad I struck a nerve. I hope your razz impish entitlement mentality to a man's pocket leads you to your doom. Nonsense & old for nothing.

siofra:
This is how you know he doesn't like you. Any guy that's comfortable seeing you pay for anything doesn't love you.

siofra:
This is how you know he doesn't like you. Any guy that's comfortable seeing you pay for anything doesn't love you.

Tightpussy2024:

Two things.
Wait till you have money. Think of other places you could go or keep the conversation on phone. There are coffee shops ,parks, etc..You as a man,is the captain in a relationship.if you can't navigate through a common date,then how can you handle relationship talk more of marriage?

If you can't afford the above,then remain single and focus on yourself. It's easy

may be she never eat for 5days , dem full street, ebi tipa awon werey

Nazgul:

You're not getting it.

Courtesy demands that you politely wait for the guy to ask if you care for food and order when he gives you the nod to do so.

Even though the guy rightfully pointed out that their primary objective of meeting was to discuss not to eat. Common sense should have make her know that since they're in an eatery, they'll definitely eat. So why place orders ahead of the guy who brought you in? Why not patiently wait for him to ask you what you'd like to take?

If I tell you to meet me at a bar, would you just walk in and start telling the bartender to bring drinks without my consent? You might make me think you have money on you, Thus leaving you to pay for your drinks. The right thing is to come in exchange greetings and wait for me to tell you to tell the bartender what you'd like to take. Because for me to tell you to meet me at a bar shows I definitely want to give you some bottles.

A lot of Nigerian girls lack courtesy. Entitled mentality and chronic hunger has eaten deep into their system.

7demons:


Read my reply very well: This is a one sided story cos we might not know how it happened when the Waiter came over with the booklet. And If he thought she over did it, you instantly settled the issue there and then! cos it's a love date. That's why I said most of you people here are kids, You don't reason with your 6th!
Besides how would you invite someone one a Date to a resto and you expect them to sit idle? So you brought me out of my house to be looking at your face??

siofra:
This is how you know he doesn't like you. Any guy that's comfortable seeing you pay for anything doesn't love you.

jaephoenix:

So in your world, relationships are for rich folks only?

jaephoenix:

People go to restaurants to chat. Haven't u seen them?

7demons:

Lol! Matured mind.
I'm glad you're seeing this from a different perspective. This is one of the least things to worry about on a first date(if he's very serious with the lady) would have corrected her cos more of these nasty behaviors are yet to come. Dating is a trial stage: Getting to know someone, there are some things you might not be OK with your partner but find a subtle way to talk them out. Not this childish red-pill bunkum these kids read online.
Don't expect any REASONABLE COMMENTS for the First 2pages of this forum cos most of them are bladderdash from all these young teenagers that's haven't experienced life. I have been saying this: We need to overhaul our educational sector and I'm glad the Government has realized this and putting up measures to revolutionize tertiary teachers.