Sister next time chop come from house or wherever you are coming from... Or make your order, pay and feel fine.

DND069:
Men, when you gather enough cash, try other African women. Our mentality here in nigeria is bleeped beyond repairs!

The circle of entitlement continues.

Notice most of our celebrities since last year to this year are dating ladies outside the country. Few like Davido said in an interview the reason he chose the wife!

Men are very critical in issues of marriages even dating as in the case of celebrities

Our young ladies should start learning... The world doesn't ends with me, myself and I. Even so called Pastors are now running from Nigerian ladies. Something must be wrong fundamentally!

Juliearth:




I won't argue with a kid younger than my youngest sister on a faceless forum. I don't expect a razz imp, born and bred with little to no morality, possibly an educated illiterate, to understand where I am coming from. Run along now,boy.

you're the educated illiterate here. They're trying to correct you guys on your excesses and you're here displaying your stupidity. I tire for Nigerian girls.

My take here is simple... It's not even a big deal if she orders food at an eatery or wherever they're meeting up for the date but if she came in and started ordering randomly like a hungry and homeless person then that's wrong but then to pay or not is an individual thing. The issue I see most people saying she should have waited for him to order.

This is what I don't get in that statement? Two different people out on a date are U going to order for urself and order for another person? Shebi na wetin U sabi or like U go enjoy?
Then again maybe y'all probably meant she should have waited for him to give the go ahead. Which is courtesy and I agree.

It's why I will always choose real down to earth ladies anyday anytime. She could have just chipped in like... " Wow it's a nice spot, I like what they did here" and after like 2 minutes of light chit chat just chip it in like "boy I'm so famished I didn't get enough time to prep something before coming... I wonder what this and this tastes like" I know some might say it's too forward but we didn't come there to discuss politics (even if we did, we must chow na) we came to know ourselves and have a good time which can't be done on an empty stomach. A smart guy will get the code and act on it but if he's slow, babe order something U can afford and if ur feeling great ask him to try one of what U ordered too. If he missed the first cue and still misses this please this just pay for ur food or both in the end and excuse urself.

There are some places U will take her to that after 60 seconds of sitting down a waiter/ waitress will approach ur table to ask what ur ordering from the menu. So it's either we hold him off for another minute to decide or we make our individual orders. She will still make her own choice from the menu and not urs?

So telling her to wait for him to order is not even proper. The thing is if U don't have enough kaluba take her somewhere less expensive but also exciting like where ur sure she will get to experience something uncommon for free. They're plenty...

Also it's not wrong if he wants to split bills that's his style but then it's safe to let her know before hand. So she knows what she's getting into lol 😂 but I believe in handling the bills if I'm taking u out. But what I don't believe in is U taking advantage of me because of that... She probably ordered way more than she should that's why guyman change am for her. Otherwise we love to flex the women we take out on dates and make sure they have a good time knowing us which is usually the goal... Until she proves useless which will lead to eternal ghosting.
Ladies should never be greedy or go out without money or cards. Always have backup money or u postpone any meetup

Sapasenator:


"Baba" will die a bachelor, alone and grumpy.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Abeg no loud am. He's still a small boy, by the time he gets to 40 years, sense go locate am!!!

Westchester:
Who do you think is at fault here

how can this make front page

BeigJawnson:


Blame the girl... The girl has no courtesy...

We don't really know the whole story of what transpired. There's more to it. I know it can be annoying when someone acts too forward, and worse when the person orders for what is beyond your budget. But this is a first time meeting, certain inconveniences could have been overlooked but I know what I said - the guy wasn't that interested in the girl or he wasn't financially up to the task of paying for her meal. Apart from these two reasons paying for a girl's meal on the first date is not a problem for many guys, even if he's turned off by her forward attitude.
His approach to the matter was crass, even by societal standards. This will send a warning signal to even the most prudent of girls that he is petty and not one to trusted in the long run as a mate when it comes to the matter of providence.

advanceDNA:
As you pay..."shey you die".


U rush to order food that you had the mind that someone else will pay..? How naaa??

As in..... why some pple be like this? U nor even let the guy ask you first....


Baba.......street is proud of you...

Werey, this ain't street sense, this is SAPA.
A big red flag!
Why on Earth will a guy take a lady out on a date and be doing rubbish?

Me, I go pay..
and I go chop kpekus too.

The Eediots failed to nail the target

Tightpussy2024:
I didn't know hungry guys full here. Like ,see the way they are crying. If you check it,it's not those top notch restaurant where you must book reservation ahead.its maybe 10k food that these guys are crying about

And these are the men whose insults,women should take to heart.lol 😂

na still the same 10k food your likes sef no fit afford...

a guy can afford it but cries about it cause he would rather he invest that money to make more money ..

But your kinds go sit down order food and still cannot afford the bill of the same food, why you con dey order am in the 1st place ...

werey still get Mind they bash niggas ...

if the 10k was not that much of a big deal, why your genders still dey expect man to sort the bill for Una ...

Lol. In the country I live, you pay for you own order.

ClitRaider:


Werey, this ain't street sense, this is SAPA.
A big red flag!
Why on Earth will a guy take a lady out on a date and be doing rubbish?

Me, I go pay..
and I go chop kpekus too.

The Eediots failed to nail the target

Yawn!!.....Pvssy na ur target naaa....so paying it for it makes sense to you because qerey like u son assume say because u buy food ahe go allow u smash.......but when u no come see kpekus chop....u go dey vex....

.. ordinary pvssy is everyone's target ..pvssy full every where naa if u wan pay for am.........

ClitRaider:


Werey, this ain't street sense, this is SAPA.
A big red flag!
Why on Earth will a guy take a lady out on a date and be doing rubbish?

Me, I go pay..
and I go chop kpekus too.

The Eediots failed to nail the target

mugu, if you think say babe like that go let you chop kpekus on top 1plate of rice and chicken wey you feed am ..

dey play .. na until you buy mansion naim you go see kpekus chop ..

kuku play the game fair so e no be like say you lose out ..

The rule is whoever's idea it is to go on a date should pay ..🤔

Why not know yourselves via texts? You ask someone out on a date, to a place with all kinds of aroma, and you just want to get to know her. Werey.

Juliearth:






Narrow down the meeting to intent or purpose, then you would understand.

I’m not sure what it was but I know it wasn’t for you to come and eat.

Why don't she eat at home before going on a date?
Africa ladies with their sense of entitlement.

Sonnobax15:

Strong asssss nigha......

I wonder who told these bannies that it's a "MUST", that they must order for food when they go on dates with guys? . Date which is meant for both parties to know each other, Nigerian bannies just turn the whole thing into hunger alleviation scheme

Any ways,I really love how the guy dealt with her .

,
Well then take her to the Museum or zoo so she ll know it's a sight seeing date o but if you invite her to a restaurant it's assume you guys are out to eat . It's only logical.

krushdripper:
Courtesy demands that you get rid of your saggy, puffy face & put it in the waste bin. So because you imagine a man should buy food for you cos he invited you on a date, you would just come in & order without his consent? She should have brought courtesy with her to force the guy to pay.

guy you're wicked....u say nah puffy, saggy

Rukevwe999:

We don't really know the whole story of what transpired. There's more to it. I know it can be annoying when someone acts too forward, and worse when the person orders for what is beyond your budget. But this is a first time meeting, certain inconveniences could have been overlooked but I know what I said - the guy wasn't that interested in the girl or he wasn't financially up to the task of paying for her meal. Apart from these two reasons paying for a girl's meal on the first date is not a problem for many guys, even if he's turned off by her forward attitude.
His approach to the matter was crass, even by societal standards. This will send a warning signal to even the most prudent of girls that he is petty and not one to trusted in the long run as a mate when it comes to the matter of providence.

Well that is your opinion and as for me, the way of my life is not of the societal standards. I set standards for my own very life. I think the guy did the same, having a long term relationship with the girl will be somehow... That character alone, is a red flag for any guy who set standards for himself and not living by societal standards...

Bottom line is many Nigerian girls are hungry. I met my wife online. The first time we saw face to face was in an eatery. We had fixed a date to meet in a particular eatery. She got there some minutes before me, my bad! But more weird was the fact that I got there and saw she already ordered her drink and snacks and had paid. I was amazed that this could be a Nigerian girl. All my plea to refund the bill fell on deaf ears. She passed 7 of my 10 stages of relationship that day 😂. We had our intro 4 months later and wedding 3 months after intro, now blessed with two kids 4 years after. No use afternoon food pursue your future partner o 😂

Westchester:
Who do you think is at fault here

She wouldn't hv rushed and assumed he will pay without asking.no be everybody in the Gen Z get sense..u sef for calm down and he too would hv as courtesy said you could hv asked and then gone ahead to pay so both of u are wrong..and if she was my sister, that's a walking red flag of a man.so dont bother on the next date! Both of u are not ok to be honest!

Fahvvy:
Those of y'all supporting that guy are wrong! ...

Whoever invites any out should pay for the treat or at the very least, inform your date that you want to go dutch on things, that way, they'll be prepared before coming ...

Ifthat girl didn't have cash, she would just be embarrassed to death because of a boys immaturity - honestly eh, some of y'all need to grow up! ...

And girls, when you go out eh, try dey order food with conscience ...

Don't go on a date and proof to the world that you're a retched orphan who hasn't eaten for 2 years ...

Ode open ya eyes and read well,the girl just order without the guy’s consent.

Westchester:
Who do you think is at fault here

Our culture is different from cultures in the West, if you invite a girl out you are supposed to take her out to where you can comfortably afford and pay for that or you can tell her before hand that you just want to take on a walk maybe to public park where you don't have to spend a dime. You can only decide to deal with some Girls without home training that will come and start ordering like a fool without your permission.

If you go to people's house and you smelling good food aroma from their kitchen, Will you enter the kitchen and serve yourself? No. When someone invite you out, courtesy deman you wait for your host ask you what you care for.

Paying wasn't that guy problem [Qquote author=Fahvvy post=131402508]Those of y'all supporting that guy are wrong! ...

Whoever invites any out should pay for the treat or at the very least, inform your date that you want to go dutch on things, that way, they'll be prepared before coming ...

Ifthat girl didn't have cash, she would just be embarrassed to death because of a boys immaturity - honestly eh, some of y'all need to grow up! ...

And girls, when you go out eh, try dey order food with conscience ...

Don't go on a date and proof to the world that you're a retched orphan who hasn't eaten for 2 years ...[/quote]

siofra:
This is how you know he doesn't like you. Any guy that's comfortable seeing you pay for anything doesn't love you.

Oya na

MMempire:
The guy is fucking wrong.

u re dammmmm fucking wrong. Encourage them to be independent.

Nazgul:

You're not getting it.

Courtesy demands that you politely wait for the guy to ask if you care for food and order when he gives you the nod to do so.

Even though the guy rightfully pointed out that their primary objective of meeting was to discuss not to eat. Common sense should have make her know that since they're in an eatery, they'll definitely eat. So why place orders ahead of the guy who brought you in? Why not patiently wait for him to ask you what you'd like to take?

If I tell you to meet me at a bar, would you just walk in and start telling the bartender to bring drinks without my consent? You might make me think you have money on you, Thus leaving you to pay for your drinks. The right thing is to come in exchange greetings and wait for me to tell you to tell the bartender what you'd like to take. Because for me to tell you to meet me at a bar shows I definitely want to give you some bottles.

A lot of Nigerian girls lack courtesy. Entitled mentality and chronic hunger has eaten deep into their system.

Cc. Siofra

Westchester:
Who do you think is at fault here

She's at fault, why you go eat n not pay

I honestly don't know what's going on in our society of today. I do not think our fathers would have expected our mothers to pay for their meals while out on a date.

Common this is Nigeria not Europe or North America and when you take a lady out common courtesy and custom demands that the man pays. Whether you like it or not. Our society is still largely patriarchal where men are expected to be the provider in a relationship.

I am seriously concerned about the sissy whinny men we are raising in this generation. Wtf about her paying for her meal? Maybe a pot-luck date is the next plan.
If you are not willing to pay then never arrange for a date in a restaurant, meet in the library or park or somewhere else, or better still do not date.

If I take you to a restaurant, I am paying for you whether you are a man, woman, lady, date, or whatever.

Juliearth:






Narrow down the meeting to intent or purpose, then you would understand.

So the purpose was for you to come and eat?🤷🏻‍♀️

Let's be sincere here, it's obvious the OP doesn't like what he saw. You won't do that to a lady you really want to be with. The highest thing you will do is to correct her and still pay

Juliearth:






I understand your standpoint, but understand that a restaurant is not the only place you could take your date to. If you have no plan to spend, a park should be the most suitable place. If the lady overindulged, that would have been a different case entirely, but to seek for permission before ordering is a tad bit misogynistic.

Agreed. But here is the deal. The problem here wasn’t about spending the money. That has never been contested. You have a guest, and without premonitions from you, your guest forges ahead to order food in a restaurant before your presence without getting a nod of approval from you. It’s very telling about the kind of person you’re dealing with. She’s disrespectful and inconsiderate.And if you allow her to get away with that, it means you’ve tacitly approved that type of behavior.
I’ve had dealings with ladies from different races, it appears Nigerian girls and African American girls are the lowest in the rung when it comes to greed, immorality and entitlement mentality.
To be clear, I am not bashing anyone here, just being honest.