COMRADES, in order to avert being in this ugly situation, how can one fact check their lover before falling in love?

People change. A good person before marriage can turn into a monster after marriage and a bad person can turn into a angel after marriage.
All you need to do is to be prepared for any outcome. When it's not longer favorable, you quit and save yourself. Forget about the myth, broken marriage doesn't always affect the kids.

One thing I've come to realize in life is that both relationship and marriage isn't for the faint-hearted..... Always be prepared to be loved and equally be broken up into pieces by the same person whom once claimed to love you dearly.

squash47:
People change. A good person before marriage can turn into a monster after marriage and a bad person can turn into a angel after marriage.
All you need to do is to be prepared for any outcome. When it's not longer favorable, you quit and save yourself. Forget about the myth, broken marriage doesn't always affect the kids.

I agree with you

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Imagine trying to fact-check a Nigerian girl.

An average Nigerian girl can pretend for 5 years just to get the ring. Two months after wedding, check your BP.

squash47:
People change. A good person before marriage can turn into a monster after marriage and a bad person can turn into a angel after marriage.
All you need to do is to be prepared for any outcome. When it's not longer favorable, you quit and save yourself. Forget about the myth, broken marriage doesn't always affect the kids.

Wrong!

People don't change, People get tired of pretending!

No one is completely free in a broken relationship or marriage. It is either one is not patient enough to know who he or she is really dealing with or one is deluded enough to think he or she can manage or change the other person.

There are always subtle signs but most times blinded by lust and sex. How many people know themselves enough to know what they want before committing to another?

Meet- date-sex then boom you are in a relationship already lol . Then when you discovered what you should have earlier, you say people change. Lol

BTW Broken marriage does affect kids. If you are not a child psychologist, a teacher or a child from a broken home. You have no opinion on this.

Key ideas are presented clearly

Proserpina:


People don't change, People get tired of pretending!

No one is completely free in a broken relationship or marriage. It is either one is not patient enough to know who he or she is really dealing with or one is deluded enough to think he or she can manage or change the other person.

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How can one go about the second bolded if the person choose to pretend for long(assuming the first bolded is a measure of time)

We arent robot. These things arent automated. You can never know them enough if they're still in the act.

Imagine trying to know a 24yo lady for 5years, even your people go dey ask u if even dey serious after 5years

The whole marriage thing is beginning to sound like Space Physics.