Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

Is the business not a profitable one? If it is and you know about it the business, You can get it running and do your remote job from the shop. Carve out a small office and hire a sales person to attend to customers.

Then when she eventually decides to come to the shop... You return home and everything continues like normal. Bro, change is the only constant thing. When things change around you, you improvise, that's why you were educated. Use your brain.

Alternatively rent out this business to me and fund the shop rent for the next 2yrs while I pay you monthly returns of 40K so both of you can concentrate on your petty selves. Una no normal for this present Nigeria.

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

Bro, disappear for just six months. And resurface. Ones you act irresponsible, woman will appreciate you, but being a nice guy. You will continue to surfer plain truth

Let her stay home. You should do the going out. That will however not stop her from further complaints. The marriage needs counseling. It's a phase; how you manage it will determine if you two would grow in it.

I understand your ordeal. Just manage the situation as it comes. Marriage always favour women. At the end of the day , the children you have spent all your earnings on will still value their mother over you. So bro , take good care of yourself. Don't allow marriage end you

mecuries:
you got married to a woman 4 months after meeting her? haven't you heard about courtship? she had barely come out of her shell after 4 months

Courtship or not. Your mind go touch ground with wrong partner 💯

The first 2years of marriage is always the toughest part but "for your peace of mind" when next she threaten to leave I will suggest you help her pack her bags. Peace of mind is bae

Pennywise2:
be patient. Be happy, don't renew the rent. But don't ever regret married. I repeat be happy for you. Marriage will make you overlook things. That's why only the humble can be married and stay in it cos it needs teaching ur wife manners. I didn't say forcing her to learn it. Just by ur actions. Leave the rent. Save the money until her senses is back. It will take a while though.

So the items inside the shop where would they keep them if he does not renew the rent?

BobbieZion:
You ain't saying something.....
Speak up.

I can't buy this story.
It's one-sided.

Forget o, some women can be funny.
They still blame you for their own shortcomings. You never know women.

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

Why not get a shop closer to home?

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless.

This is the part that got me laughing out loud

immortalcrown:
Since when did childbirth in marriage become a favour by one gender to the other gender? Whoever thinks that she or he deserves to be worshipped by his or her spouse because of childbirth absolutely lacks the understanding of marriage


As for early marriage, it is the best. Wrong marriage is destructive, whether you are early or late to it. So, don't act as if late marriage guarantees any benefit. Marrying rightly and early is better than marrying rightly and late. Marrying wrongly and late is more destructive than marrying wrongly and early.

As for the business, na you go open business because you get the money. You no check her business skills.

You ended up disgracing yourself. "Early" is different from "prematurely".

Whether you marry early or late, the outcome of the marriage is what matters most. I have seen couple that married late and their children are all responsible and doing well while couple that married early and all their children are irresponsible and vice versa. There is no justification for marrying early or late

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

My young friend, I can feel your pain. Be courageous and be aware marriage does not have formula. No matter anyway you check the marriage definitely it will at some point choke, unless you are obi Cubana.
Meanwhile I will advise you to renew your shop and look for someone to stay there, try and make out time to be going there if she still refused to resume. If you don't renew that shop, it will cause a bigger problem in future and those things in the shop will be a waste.
Manage your your marriage as much as you can but if it's not possible, it is better to separate than to allow issues to erupt. Never, never, I repeat never in your Life beg a woman not to go, any day you do that YOU HAVE DIG YOUR Grave.

You did not regret marriage. Your only mistake was marrying to early. At 25, you should be flexing and building assets but you choose to carry a liability very early in life.

I mean, how does one equate liability and stress with "settling down"?

Were you floating in the air all this while?

Candidlady:
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Nairaland and lies...

So you guys couldn't get someone to stay at the so-called store


Y'all must look for a way to paint em ladies •dark•

I missed you sha. What happened to that profile picture of you and your homo partner?

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

You married a lazy lady who was looking for someone who will be paying her bills

nnamdi640:
Whether you marry early or late, the outcome of the marriage is what matters most. I have seen couple that married late and their children are all responsible and doing well while couple that married early and all their children are irresponsible and vice versa. There is no justification for marrying early or late

Your response supports my comment.

Deepocean:


So the items inside the shop where would they keep them if he does not renew the rent?

check his write-up. He is worried of what he has spent. If not we would not be here. So better to cut the cost.

A situation where he is complaining of wifey behavior and not shop, we would have ask him to deal with her another way. Better to save 500k than waste all being unappreciated. The heart of the matter is her attitude. A man should chest any finance he can. Asking him to waste more to a unappreciative partner is pointless. He knows what to do about the goods inside.

It's 2024 and a guy is getting married at 25?? That was where the first error began from. The second was the short time you knew each other before the wedding. The third is your work from home job.

She has severe PTSD


Book her up win a psychiatrist

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

You where happy when you married the Baadass wife material just 4months of dating. You shower her with gift, confused her fish brain with money and made her breakup with boyfriend of 2 years just to marry you. Now, after convincing her dat you have money to spend, you go nowhere! Relationship is more that giving birth or fucking you wife everyday. You don buy market, this is how you will continue to spend on her or her kids till you die. Same guys like you laugh at other partners that are in relationships and huzzling their life jeje! And you give excuse that you don't need a woman, now see ur life. Good for you! God bless everyone and find a way to balance things. You have a good paying job now, your home is about going to Sambisa forest. For this mess you are in now, will you agree that you are a SIMP... ??

Smallhead:



You where happy when you married the Baadass wife material just 4months of dating. You shower her with gift, confused her fish brain with money and made her breakup with boyfriend of 2 years just to marry you. Now, after convincing her dat you have money to spend, you go nowhere! Relationship is more that giving birth or fucking you wife everyday. You don buy market, this is how you will continue to spend on her or her kids till you die. Same guys like you laugh at other partners that are in relationships and huzzling their life jeje! And you give excuse that you don't need a woman, now see ur life. Good for you! God bless everyone and find a way to balance things. You have a good paying job now, your home is about going to Sambisa forest. For this mess you are in now, will you agree that you are a SIMP... ??

Please Note* An average Nigeria girl that went to a higher institution and pass out of NYSC, have kept an average of 2 years relationship with man. So marry with sense *the reason she's threatening to go, she dey miss the other guy dick. It happens when an average Nigeria marriage is from 2 to 10 years. After this challenge, they will end up doing one of the following;
1- They start doing runs on code while still married.
2- Trace back their steps and change to a good spouse.
3- They remain in the marriage, one of either party start preparing their finance to ripe for better divorce settlement.

#Peace

Smallhead:



You where happy when you married the Baadass wife material just 4months of dating. You shower her with gift, confused her fish brain with money and made her breakup with boyfriend of 2 years just to marry you. Now, after convincing her dat you have money to spend, you go nowhere! Relationship is more that giving birth or fucking you wife everyday. You don buy market, this is how you will continue to spend on her or her kids till you die. Same guys like you laugh at other partners that are in relationships and huzzling their life jeje! And you give excuse that you don't need a woman, now see ur life. Good for you! God bless everyone and find a way to balance things. You have a good paying job now, your home is about going to Sambisa forest. For this mess you are in now, will you agree that you are a SIMP... ??

This!!!

She proberbly had a boyfriend and he proberbly knew. But as per i be rich guy, i took her away with money. Now he has to keep paying.

RenaissanceGuy:
It's 2024 and a guy is getting married at 25?? That was where the first error began from. The second was the short time you knew each other before the wedding. The third is your work from home job.

Imagine marrying a girl within 4 months. Some people don't even consider 4-month relationship a relationship.

Some women don't want to marry at that age. Why would a guy ever consider that?

I feel for him tho. The guy has money and is going through this!

condensedmilk:


Oga calm down o !

You fit carry belle for nine months?

Abeg give that woman time to recover joor

if the laziest woman fit carry belle then why you fit say the guy no go carry am if him dey her shoes ,
Some woman dey carry belle hustle dey feed Der lazy husband and children.
Come to south south and see things yourself

A women crosses a line when she says that she did her husband a favour by having their child.
Such woman has no business being married and should not be touched with a ten feet pole.

OP sorry o.
E be like say you don enter one chance.

Marriage to self entitled woman is always miserable.

Don't renew the rent. Then sell off everything in that shop to at least recover little part of your N2 million investment.

You have to complain to someone she listens so that her self entitlement should be corrected.

Be prudent in your family expenditure, N100k for a week is too costly to run a family of 3 persons. There are cheaper alternatives that you can use. Save more money for emergency

Stop sounding like a SIMP and man up op...

Women don't appreciate men who are too gentle.

If I were in your shoes (pls note I'm also married), I would have since closed the shop....Reduced the influx of cash and if she whines tell her to dust her CV and go and work that you would get a house keeper to take care of the baby.

Imagine someone saying she marring you favours you. 🤔🤔

i thought you guys always brag about how much bills you pay while mocking your single friends.. How you are a real man that deserves a trophy for keeping a woman at home bla bla bla...why you come dey cry here..

AfeezShomorin:


You married a lazy lady who was looking for someone who will be paying her bills

exactly..the relationship was built on provision and economic reliance rather than love & respect.. She just needs a more mature guy whom she can respect enough..

RenaissanceGuy:
It's 2024 and a guy is getting married at 25?? That was where the first error began from. The second was the short time you knew each other before the wedding. The third is your work from home job.

the guy is just a naive s!mp who thought marrying a woman will make him a happy man..from the story i can deduce he begged her for the relationship with a little muller to accomplish.. Unfortunately now the lady cant respect him enough..if you must marry at 25 then it has to be to a 15year old.. A 20yr old girl for instance is way wiser and exposed than a 25yr old guy..

Divorce her na, why wasting time with ungrateful person,if you want to live long divorce her. That is why my grandfather marry 3 wives. No stress, except you want to die young. Stupid SIMP

That's one wahala with marrying all these handiwork women..once pregnancy enters..shop go lock till after two years. Some may not continue in d biz because of a child..na to become stay at madams. I don't blame women o.

Now if u Wan marry...just look for one with a stable job(woman working in a good govt job). At least dem go give her maternity,sisternity,brothernity...Leave join..her pay will still be coming in.

See as young man wey never reach 30 don dey hear am. I am very sure that ya wife na GenZ..wahalur for who dey marry GenZ for this economy