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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by nick50(m): 1:34am On Aug 22
No woman is happy being single cos no woman can compete with a man on a fair ground forget the noise about gender equality women themselves know they are not a match to men both physically and intellectually

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by IdeasYapayaski: 2:44am On Aug 22
Shinjawestern:
"No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married"

Nigerian woman reveals.

How true is this?

Then becomes the happiest widow on earth after killing the man with stress.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by Gerrard59(m): 3:05am On Aug 22
rickleye:


When you are 60 and all alone . You’d quickly discover that you have nobody to share memories with . And when your kids are all grown up and have their own families to raise , you’ll understand loneliness.
I have uncles who separated from their wives and in their old age suffered a lot . To even operate the microwave is wahala. They go down 2 flight of stairs only to forget their keys and have to climb up and down again.
He died 2 days before anyone noticed and he wasn’t sick . Died normal causes.

Nah, because a few bad eggs give marriage a bad name doesn’t mean marriage as an institution is bad or outdated.
Companionship is another reason for marriage. But to some persons who have lived a generation while single, I doubt they will need companions later in life.

That said, I think men need to start developing mental hobbies and engage in exercise as they grow older. Do it for your physical and mental health.

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by Ojolojolop(m): 3:11am On Aug 22
SocialJustice:
I love that you handled the issue of 2 sides to a coin. Women were not created with testosterone naturally running through their veins, they got oestrogen, the feminine nature and care to tame the wild man.

Instead of taming their men and bringing balance to their lives, women also want to live the testosterone controlled life.

I wish them the best.

Women actually have some testosterone in them, bro
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by Akuruoulo(m): 5:49am On Aug 22
EreluRoz:
Exactly and redpill too
Red pillers are not women haters.
They live orderliness which feminists and simps hates alot due to selfishness/weakness.

Don't put those two in same lines again

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by DrFunmisticGlow: 5:49am On Aug 22
Uchesis:

Its easy to call poor man's children born outside as illegitimate bastards.


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Can you call Davido's children with his baby mamas a bastard?
Yes. They are bastards. It's all lipstick on a pig.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by luminouz(m): 6:10am On Aug 22
DrFunmisticGlow:
Yes. They are bastards. It's all lipstick on a pig.
I don't think so. They are his kids. If he ain't the dad, and they belong to the mum, then calling them bastards(at least in Yoruba parlance) is right.

If I have a kid and I don't marry the mum, come call him/her bastards na, make i wooze your 👄

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by DrFunmisticGlow: 7:02am On Aug 22
luminouz:

I don't think so. They are his kids. If he ain't the dad, and they belong to the mum, then calling them bastards(at least in Yoruba parlance) is right.

If I have a kid and I don't marry the mum, come call him/her bastards na, make i wooze your 👄
I called them bastards and I will say it up your face again (not to their's).

Those children have no benefit from you being their sperm donor. If you die like fowl one day. Those kids have no right to your property, they can't even claim your surname. Paying child support is not fatherhood, protecting your children, being in their lives continually without cherry picking the time that is convenient for you while you pursue other women is not fatherhood, giving them your time and attention, being there when they are sick or vulnerable, teaching them to be morally responsible adults, giving them your legacy and inheritance. THAT'S FATHERHOOD.

Not using child support as a weapon to get sexual access to a baby mama who made the mistake of opening her legs for you and has to pay for it for the rest of her life.

if you luminouz have sired illegitimate children, then this is the gravity of what you have done.

Mind you. That delusional belief that bastards will look for their father is a risky gamble, they may not and even if they do to satisfy their curiosity , they will most likely not cater to your old age.

I am tired of seeing middle aged and old men who made irresponsible choices in their youth die with regrets, lonely and miserable, unable to call family out of shame to see their last moments. Family members will not even claim the corpse sef. If he is lucky, his friends and people in his area will. If not it will be dropped in a mortuary or donated to medical students for anatomy dissection. I am yet to see that happen to women though. Even If a woman dies alone, family and loved ones always show up immeadiately after crying to claim their corpses or make a fuss in the hospital.

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by jorion(m): 7:08am On Aug 22
DrFunmisticGlow:
I called them bastards and I will say it up your face again (not to their's).

Those children have no benefit from you being their sperm donor. If you die like fowl one day. Those kids have no right to your property, they can't even claim your surname. Paying child support is not fatherhood, protecting your children, being in their lives continually without cherry picking the time that is convenient for you while you pursue other women is not fatherhood, giving them your time and attention, being there when they are sick or vulnerable, teaching them to be morally responsible adults, giving them your legacy and inheritance. THAT'S FATHERHOOD.

Not using child support as a weapon to get sexual access to a baby mama who made the mistake of opening her legs for you and has to pay for it for the rest of her life.

if you luminouz have sired illegitimate children, then this is the gravity of what you have done.

Mind you. That delusional belief that bastards will look for their father is a risky gamble, they may not and even if they do to satisfy their curiosity , they will most likely not cater to your old age.

I am tired of seeing middle aged and old men who made irresponsible choices in their youth die with regrets, lonely and miserable, unable to call family out of shame to see their last moments. Family members will not even claim the corpse sef. If he is lucky, his friends and people in his area will. If not it will be dropped in a mortuary or donated to medical students for anatomy dissection. I am yet to see that happen to women though. Even If a woman dies alone, family and loved ones always show up immeadiately after crying to claim their corpses or make a fuss in the hospital.

You're talking nonsense. As long as he is taking responsibility for them, there's nothing wrong

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by folake4u(f): 7:12am On Aug 22
EreluRoz:
As if the men we have are saints, modern men deserve modern women it's just that the other gender feels it's their birthright to bag a good woman no matter the kind of lifestyle they have lived. God blessed Adam with Eve and not Jezebel
God blessed Abraham with Sarah and not Delilah

So I'm saying that good men breeds good women, you can't eat your cake and have it.

Simple!!!

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by DrFunmisticGlow: 7:16am On Aug 22
jorion:


You're talking nonsense. As long as he is taking responsibility for them, there's nothing wrong
marriage is a step towards taking responsibility. Covering that child's mother's shame for sleeping with you is responsibility Properly allocating and investing time, emotions, money and resources to ensure the child grows up properly THAT'S RESPONSIBILITY. Any other thing is a cop out done by a coward that calls himself a man. Even davido doesn't pay child support, wizkid is called a deadbeat. Look at the difference between future and ciara's husband in the life of that child? Fatherhood is not by blood. Ciara's husband is the father of that child, not future. That's the difference.

For God's sake, even if it's polygamy. Marry the woman and protect that child. That's responsibility. Nobody is asking you to be perfect. Just make sure that the person you sleep with, you are ready to marry.

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by luminouz(m): 7:19am On Aug 22
DrFunmisticGlow:
I called them bastards and I will say it up your face again (not to their's).

Those children have no benefit from you being their sperm donor. If you die like fowl one day. Those kids have no right to your property, they can't even claim your surname. Paying child support is not fatherhood, protecting your children, being in their lives continually without cherry picking the time that is convenient for you while you pursue other women is not fatherhood, giving them your time and attention, being there when they are sick or vulnerable, teaching them to be morally responsible adults, giving them your legacy and inheritance. THAT'S FATHERHOOD.

Not using child support as a weapon to get sexual access to a baby mama who made the mistake of opening her legs for you and has to pay for it for the rest of her life.

if you luminouz have sired illegitimate children, then this is the gravity of what you have done.

Mind you. That delusional belief that bastards will look for their father is a risky gamble, they may not and even if they do to satisfy their curiosity , they will most likely not cater to your old age.

I am tired of seeing middle aged and old men who made irresponsible choices in their youth die with regrets, lonely and miserable, unable to call family out of shame to see their last moments. Family members will not even claim the corpse sef. If he is lucky, his friends and people in his area will. If not it will be dropped in a mortuary or donated to medical students for anatomy dissection. I am yet to see that happen to women though. Even If a woman dies alone, family and loved ones always show up immeadiately after crying to claim their corpses or make a fuss in the hospital.
This is all bullshiiit!!! An attempt to shame men into commitment they gain absolutely nothing from. Any man who wants marriage is free to go that route but painting a doomsday scenario is just one of society and women's ways of blackmailing men into committing to a construct that is scientifically dead in this century. A man can be in his kids lives without being married to their mum and be raised right. I have seen Dad's who travel for work and never come home or even be too busy working everyday to give a fuq what their kids do? If marriage is so holistic, then why is Gen Z so fûcked up, they don't have married parents or what? What are you talking about? How dafuq do you talk about fatherhood when you have no kids or any experience of what means to be a FATHER? You just assume fatherhood is bla bla blaaaaaaaaaa...and you know nothing about being a man. So how in hell will you know what fatherhood entails, bro?

I have seen the exact opposite of everything you said. So long you take care of your kids and they know you and themselves, burial arrangements would be according to your dictates in your will. Marriage is no guarantee your so-called legitimate kids won't kill themselves over you or themselves.

You saying marriage is a responsibility on a man's part is the root of many men demise today. You brandish that shiit to shame men into constructs they gain nothing from and yet when they don't measure up, you still blame them for daring to try. Men are tired of being the last to be cared about, cared for, tired of only being used as a provider, protector tool who no one gives a fuq about. Now, they are focusing on themselves and you are coming with the responsible tag bullshit? Spare me all that crap

If you ever call my kids bastards to my face, I will tear your guts out!!!

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by jorion(m): 7:22am On Aug 22
DrFunmisticGlow:
marriage is a step towards taking responsibility. Covering that child's mother's shame for sleeping with you is responsibility Properly allocating and investing time, emotions, money and resources to ensure the child grows up properly THAT'S RESPONSIBILITY. Any other thing is a cop out done by a coward that calls himself a man. Even davido doesn't pay child support, wizkid is called a deadbeat. Look at the difference between future and ciara's husband in the life of that child? Fatherhood is not by blood. Ciara's husband is the father of that child, not future. That's the difference.

For God's sake, even if it's polygamy. Marry the woman and protect that child. That's responsibility. Nobody is asking you to be perfect. Just make sure that the person you sleep with, you are ready to marry.

A WOMAN WHO WANTS TO GET MARRIED WOULD ONLY DATE MEN INTENTIONALLY.

YOU CHOSE THE MAN. OF ALL THE GREAT RESPONSIBLE GUYS OUT THERE, YOU CHOSE HIM SPECIFICALLY TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM..

NOW THAT YOU ARE PREGNANT, YOU WANT HIM TO BECOME A RESPONSIBLE FATHER? WHERE DOES THAT HAPPEN.

The only thing that the man can do is to take care of his child or children.

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by DrFunmisticGlow: 7:30am On Aug 22
luminouz:

This is all bullshiiit!!! An attempt to shame men into commitment they gain absolutely nothing from. Any man who wants marriage is free to go that route but painting a doomsday scenario is just one of society and women's ways of blackmailing men into committing to a construct that is scientifically dead in this century.

I have seen the exact opposite of everything you said. So long you take care of your kids and they know you and themselves, burial arrangements would be according to your dictates in your will. Marriage is no guarantee your so-called legitimate kids won't kill themselves over you or themselves.
Men gain nothing from marriage? Then why are single men crying up and down on the nairaland romance section opening redpill threads? embarassed

Marriage forces men to take responsibility and increases their life expectancy. Are you single? Don't you know the benefits that come with someone who taking care of you and being a companion? That's what a wife does. Having a wife is cheaper, better and more fulfilling than outsourcing her responsibilities.

Coming home to someone who is happy to see you, who has put in work to make sure your home is tidy, your dinner is ready, your kids are in top shape, healthy, happy and have done their assignments. Do you know how that feels when all that load is off your shoulders, that you have an adult with a vested interest in you with you, beside you?

The amount of mental load that goes into running a family is done by the woman. If you think marriage is that bad. Ask divorced men why they are so quick to remarry? and ask divorce women why they wait longer to remarry or not at all.

Many men don't do well alone, even God said it in the bible.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by luminouz(m): 7:33am On Aug 22
jorion:


You're talking nonsense. As long as he is taking responsibility for them, there's nothing wrong
Exactly my point but just noticed how all the women on this thread yell 'responsible' and illegitimate like their lives depend on it...because marriage benefits them. There is no substantial benefit it adds to a man's life. NOT FUCKING ONE. Marriage only benefits a woman and of all men decide to quit marriage today, who do you think will get affected most? WOMEN!!! Because a man can get everything and more as a bachelor compared to a married man. I know it you know it, these women on the thread know it and if all men quit, their lives would be empty and for most women, their retirement plans (children and men) will be fûcked up.

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by jorion(m): 7:33am On Aug 22
DrFunmisticGlow:
Men gain nothing from marriage? Then why are single men crying up and down on the nairaland romance section opening redpill threads? embarassed

Marriage forces men to take responsibility and increases their life expectancy. Are you single? Don't you know the benefits that come with someone who taking care of you and being a companion? That's what a wife does. Having a wife is cheaper, better and more fulfilling than outsourcing her responsibilities.

Coming home to someone who is happy to see you, who has put in work to make sure your home is tidy, your dinner is ready, your kids are in top shape, healthy, happy and have done their assignments. Do you know how that feels when all that load is off your shoulders, that you have an adult with a vested interest in you with you, beside you?

The amount of mental load that goes into running a family is done by the woman. If you think marriage is that bad. Ask divorced men why they are so quick to remarry? and ask divorce women why they wait longer to remarry or not at all.

Many men don't do well alone, even God said it in the bible.

THIS IS SUPER STORY

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by luminouz(m): 7:40am On Aug 22
DrFunmisticGlow:
Men gain nothing from marriage? Then why are single men crying up and down on the nairaland romance section opening redpill threads? embarassed

Marriage forces men to take responsibility and increases their life expectancy. Are you single? Don't you know the benefits that come with someone who taking care of you and being a companion? That's what a wife does. Having a wife is cheaper, better and more fulfilling than outsourcing her responsibilities.

Coming home to someone who is happy to see you, who has put in work to make sure your home is tidy, your dinner is ready, your kids are in top shape, healthy, happy and have done their assignments. Do you know how that feels when all that load is off your shoulders, that you have an adult with a vested interest in you with you, beside you?

The amount of mental load that goes into running a family is done by the woman. If you think marriage is that bad. Ask divorced men why they are so quick to remarry? and ask divorce women why they wait longer to remarry or not at all.

Many men don't do well alone, even God said it in the bible.

I have added to my post....read it well

Men may come online about being single but we both know who goes to churches, mosque and all the marriage seminars in the country. The reality is that women gains from being married. We gain nothing from it. Your scenario of coming home to eat good and a clean home is laughable. How many homes have that these days, when the foundation is based on money and favors and not love or sacrifice? If homes are that perfect, why are there divorcees everywhere or women with kids not longer with their husbands. I'm a realist and I have seen things so the utopia you pained is few and far between.

Any man who wants to marry us free to do so and should know the consequences of his actions but saying men become responsible when they marry is nothing but insulting because you are actually calling us slaves or donkeys who are responsible because we bear the loads of marriage and upkeep. If that's the only value of a man in marriage, then it can go to hell. We are tired of being commodities to satisfy retirement plans and all that shiit. I have watched many men slave all their lives with nothing to their names, catering for their families only to die alone and wrecked + wretched while the wife travels around the world meddling in the affairs of the kids, leaving their husbands to die alone.


Did you just fucking say marriage increases a man's life expectancy? 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Goodness gracious!!! Are you living on Mars or something? Marriage is the number one cause of a man's death. Infact, the life expectancy of any man reduces once he marries and starts donkeying everyone's financial troubles.



You are not a man, so don't assume to know shiit about what we feel

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by DrFunmisticGlow: 7:49am On Aug 22
jorion:


A WOMAN WHO WANTS TO GET MARRIED WOULD ONLY DATE MEN INTENTIONALLY.

YOU CHOSE THE MAN. OF ALL THE GREAT RESPONSIBLE GUYS OUT THERE, YOU CHOSE HIM SPECIFICALLY TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM..

NOW THAT YOU ARE PREGNANT, YOU WANT HIM TO BECOME A RESPONSIBLE FATHER? WHERE DOES THAT HAPPEN.

The only thing that the man can do is to take care of his child or children.


It is not a matter of choosing the man. It's not a bug, it's a feature. If a lot of women are choosing bad men, doesn't that mean the entire batch is rotten, a few bad ones ruin the bunch eventually. Also remember that it is the man's orgasm that results in a pregnancy, not a woman so yes he should take responsibility. If abortion were more legal in this country, we would have less bastards.

Do you know that abortion (espially unsafe ones)is one of the five main courses of maternal mortality. It means that men's ejaculations are killing women. https://www.oatext.com/maternal-mortality-in-nigeria-a-consideration-of-infection-control-factor.php#:~:text=Several%20articles%20identified%20major%20causes,obstructed%20labour%20(Figure%202).

Marriages also reduce a woman's life expectancy especially when she marries a man way older or way younger

https://www.demogr.mpg.de/en/news_events_6123/news_press_releases_4630/press/marriage_and_life_expectancy_1813

Men generally don't listen to women. You and luminouz dismissing my argument as nonsense proves that point. They only listen when it is other more powerful men. So I don't expect both of you to see reason or for us to come to an amicable conclusion in issues like this. This isn't my first rodeo.

But what I want tobleave here is that men should caution each other. Good men that don't call out the bad behavior of other men are not really good men. Being a baby daddy is BAD. sleeping irresponsibly with women and leaving them to fend for themselves when pregnant is BAD. Even if it means doing a DNA test, not failing take full responsibility and paying the chicken change you call child support is BAD. What davido, wizkid and flavor are doing is BAD. please tell your fellow brothers, because your sister, cousin, wife and mother may be next.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by DrFunmisticGlow: 7:50am On Aug 22
luminouz:


I have added to my post....read it well

Men may come online about being single but we both know who goes to churches, mosque and all the marriage seminars in the country. The reality is that women gains from being married. We gain nothing from it. Your scenario of coming home to eat good and a clean home is laughable. How many homes have that these days, when the foundation is based on money and favors and not love or sacrifice? If homes are that perfect, why are there divorcees everywhere or women with kids not longer with their husbands. I'm a realist and I have seen things so the utopia you pained is few and far between.

Any man who wants to marry us free to do so and should know the consequences of his actions but saying men become responsible when they marry is nothing but insulting because you are actually calling us slaves or donkeys who are responsible because we bear the loads of marriage and upkeep. If that's the only value of a man in marriage, then it can go to hell. We are tired of being commodities to satisfy retirement plans and all that shiit. I have watched many men slave all their lives with nothing to their names, catering for their families only to die alone and wrecked + wretched while the wife travels around the world meddling in the affairs of the kids, leaving their husbands to die alone.


Did you just fucking say marriage increases a man's life expectancy? 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Goodness gracious!!! Are you living on Mars or something? Marriage is the number one cause of a man's death. Infact, the life expectancy of any man reduces once he marries and starts donkeying everyone's financial troubles.



You are not a man, so don't assume to know shiit about what we feel

did you read the studies? No.

Please are you married? Ask any man who just married what the difference is.
If you personally are not satisfied with donkeying everyone's financial troubles, then you can come to an agreement with your wife. That's not hard at all. You and your wife can discuss amicably to share the financial responsibilities, nothing is wrong with that at all.

But the caveat comes when you as a man are not ready to offer something in exchange for the lady decreasing your workload. The best way to reciprocate the gesture is to take some of her load of her hands as a gesture of goodwill and continued trust in each other.

Marriage is responsibility for both parties. Not just the man alone , the two of you make marriage work. Both of you put in your hundred percent to keep what you have built. But the moment you discuss with your wife and she takes let's say 25% of your financial burden. She is now doing 125% of the work while you are doing 75%. That is a ticking time bomb. That 125% is more prone to stress and burnout which will manifest in resentment, nagging, arguments, illness of the body while the 75% feels lighter and healthier due to less burden not knowing that everything is slowing crumbling.

One day the woman will just emotionally quiet quit the marriage or worse file for divorce while the man will cry that he was blindsided while he expected his wife to live in a tolerable level of permanent unhappiness. It can also go vice versa.

So two of you should strive to keep things one hundred. Don't be the person that does nothing in the group project while expecting 100 marks.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by jorion(m): 7:53am On Aug 22
[quote author=DrFunmisticGlow post=131633165][/quote]

YOU CAN'T TURN A HOE TO A HOUSE WIFE NEITHER CAN YOU MAKE AN IRRESPONSIBLE MAN A HUSBAND..

IT'S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE..

ALLOW THE RICH MEN ENJOY THEIR LIVES. AFTER ALL, IF THEY WERE POOR, GIRLS WOULD NOT GIVE A F ABOUT THEM..

IF YOU WANT A HUSBAND, POPERLY SCREEN THE MEN THAT YOU HAVE SEX WITH....
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by luminouz(m): 7:53am On Aug 22
DrFunmisticGlow:


It is not a matter of choosing the man. It's not a bug, it's a feature. If a lot of women are choosing bad men, doesn't that mean the entire batch is rotten, a few bad ones ruin the bunch eventually. Also remember that it is the man's orgasm that results in a pregnancy, not a woman so yes he should take responsibility. If abortion were more legal in this country, we would have less bastards.

Do you know that abortion (espially unsafe ones)is one of the five main courses of maternal mortality. It means that men's ejaculations are killing women. https://www.oatext.com/maternal-mortality-in-nigeria-a-consideration-of-infection-control-factor.php#:~:text=Several%20articles%20identified%20major%20causes,obstructed%20labour%20(Figure%202).

Marriages also reduce a woman's life expectancy especially when she marries a man way older or way younger

https://www.demogr.mpg.de/en/news_events_6123/news_press_releases_4630/press/marriage_and_life_expectancy_1813

Men generally don't listen to women. You and luminouz dismissing my argument as nonsense proves that point. They only listen when it is other more powerful men. So I don't expect both of you to see reason or for us to come to an amicable conclusion in issues like this. This isn't my first rodeo.

But what I want tobleave here is that men should caution each other. Good men that don't call out the bad behavior of other men are not really good men. Being a baby daddy is BAD. sleeping irresponsibly with women and leaving them to fend for themselves when pregnant is BAD. Even if it means doing a DNA test, not failing take full responsibility and paying the chicken change you call child support is BAD. What davido, wizkid and flavor are doing is BAD. please tell your fellow brothers, because your sister, cousin, wife and mother may be next.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

If being baby daddy and being in your child's life and catering for him/her is bad, I don't know what you will call men who run away after giving girls belle and never care or cater for the child.

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by descarado: 7:57am On Aug 22
SocialJustice:
I love that you handled the issue of 2 sides to a coin. Women were not created with testosterone naturally running through their veins, they got oestrogen, the feminine nature and care to tame the wild man.

Instead of taming their men and bringing balance to their lives, women also want to live the testosterone controlled life.

I wish them the best.
Women don't have testosterone?
Oh nairaland
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by DrFunmisticGlow: 8:15am On Aug 22
luminouz:


If being baby daddy and being in your child's life and catering for him/her is bad, I don't know what you will call men who run away after giving girls belle and never care or cater for the child.
Its bare minimum effort. It's scraps. Simple!!

It's emotional neglect. Not putting your eggs in one basket is not applicable in marriage. Family/marriage is not like your investment portfolio where it is better to diversify your assets. Marriage and family is like a garden where you give your best in your plot/ acres of land to yield your fruit. You can't go and garden some of your seeds in one acre of bush in the east, a plot of forest in the south, a hectare of savanna in the north. Your resources will be spread thin and the yield won't be high. (Please note that I am talking of substinence and not commercial farming which is diiferent)

Men think that marriage benefits the women, they fail to consider that women invest emotional labor and take root and nuture her children in her bosom. She doesn't have children scattered with their different husband's and even If she does, they stay with her so that she can take root in their lives and nature's them how she can.

Baby mamas and wives are like trees and baby daddies are like tumbleweeds in this scenario. Children will look after and see a parental figure in whosoever establishes ROOTS and stay in their life for the good times and bad be it a mom a dad or a grandparent.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by Kaczynski: 8:16am On Aug 22
Gerrard59:

Wedlock is an abnormality everywhere. Children from wedlock homes perform poorly compared to those raised in two-parent households. As a man, raising children in a two-parent household is the only benefit I see in marriage.


Reverse is the case in Nigeria
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by DrFunmisticGlow: 8:20am On Aug 22
jorion:


YOU CAN'T TURN A HOE TO A HOUSE WIFE NEITHER CAN YOU MAKE AN IRRESPONSIBLE MAN A HUSBAND..

IT'S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE..

ALLOW THE RICH MEN ENJOY THEIR LIVES. AFTER ALL, IF THEY WERE POOR, GIRLS WOULD NOT GIVE A F ABOUT THEM..

IF YOU WANT A HUSBAND, POPERLY SCREEN THE MEN THAT YOU HAVE SEX WITH....
I already do that because I am armed with the knowledge required to do so. There is a reason why medical personnel hardly become baby mamas.

Most baby mamas are younger women who did not know better that's what makes it so sad.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by SocialJustice: 9:18am On Aug 22
Keep the conversation simple. I never said women had 0% testosterone. In reality, there's no male or female physiologically, only dominant natures and sometimes socially unacceptable humans are born. If you want to argue this further, create a new thread and invite me.

Ojolojolop:


Women actually have some testosterone in them, bro

descarado
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by Tallesty1(m): 9:32am On Aug 22
EreluRoz:
As if the men we have are saints, modern men deserve modern women it's just that the other gender feels it's their birthright to bag a good woman no matter the kind of lifestyle they have lived. God blessed Adam with Eve and not Jezebel
God blessed Abraham with Sarah and not Delilah

So I'm saying that good men breeds good women, you can't eat your cake and have it.
Eve is a curse to Adam and all of us.

She's not a blessing

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Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by tete7000(m): 10:26am On Aug 22
PerfectStranger:

No single man in his right senses that have seen disloyalty and shege in some women will be worried about marriage.

As a man, if you can't find a befitting and homely woman to marry, have your baby outside, do your child support,train them and live a peaceful and drama free life.

So you think you can have sane children outside wedlock with a woman you don't consider good enough to bring home to be your wife? Some of you have warped mentality, you sound so confused. You talk and contradict yourselves in the statements you make. May God have pity on this lost generation.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by jorion(m): 10:31am On Aug 22
tete7000:


So you think you can have sane children outside wedlock with a woman you don't consider good enough to bring home to be your wife? Some of you have warped mentality, you sound so confused. You talk and contradict yourselves in the statements you make. May God have pity on this lost generation.

Whether the parents of a child are together or not does not determine the sanity or insanity of the child.

I know very responsible guys/girls from broken homes and very irresponsible children who had pastors for parents.

As long as the child is cared for by both parents, there's nothing wrong with it.

The mother being loose and wayward does play very little in the life of a child in this day and age of social media.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by tete7000(m): 10:34am On Aug 22
jorion:


Whether the parents of a child are together or not does not determine the sanity or insanity of the child.

I know very responsible guys/girls from broken homes and very irresponsible children who had pastors for parents.

As long as the child is cared for by both parents, there's nothing wrong with it.

The mother being loose and wayward does play very little in the life of a child in this day and age of social media.

The fact that you accept that raising a child outside a home where a father and mother live together is ok already put a question mark on your sanity.
Re: "No Girl Is Genuinely Happy Until She Gets Married" - Nigerian Lady by jorion(m): 10:42am On Aug 22
tete7000:


The fact that you accept that raising a child outside a home where a father and mother live together is ok already put a question mark on your sanity.

When you don't have sufficient evidence to back up your arguments, you turn to insults.

Sometimes, shit happens and a child pops up. People bear children out of wedlock all the time.

IF A WOMAN DOES NOT WANT TO END UP A BABY MAMA, SHE SHOULD ONLY HAVE SEX WITH DECENT MEN WHO ARE WILLING AND AVAILABLE TO BE FATHERS AND NOT JUMPING FROM ONE IRRESPONSIBLE DICK TO ANOTHER WILLING TO HELP FOOT HER BILLS.

As long as the man is in the child's life and caters to the needs of the child. THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.

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