jorion:


When you don't have sufficient evidence to back up your arguments, you turn to insults.

Sometimes, shit happens and a child pops up. People bear children out of wedlock all the time.

IF A WOMAN DOES NOT WANT TO END UP A BABY MAMA, SHE SHOULD ONLY HAVE SEX WITH DECENT MEN WHO ARE WILLING AND AVAILABLE TO BE FATHERS AND NOT JUMPING FROM ONE IRRESPONSIBLE DICK TO ANOTHER WILLING TO HELP FOOT HER BILLS.

As long as the man is in the child's life and caters to the needs of the child. THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.

tete7000:

Your opinion, you are entitled to it. Mine too, I am entitled to it and I am not withdrawing what I earlier wrote.
Mistakes can happen and they remain mistakes. That they happen doesn't mean they should be used to redefine what is normal.
Once people begin to use mistakes to justify abnormalities, their sanity is already being altered with. Every child needs to grow up under the same roof with father and mother, and everyone who genuinely loves a child should strife to ensure that no child is deprived of this benefit.

Tallesty1:
Eve is a curse to Adam and all of us.

She's not a blessing

jorion:


You no get talk. If you wan preach, go the RELIGION section.

EreluRoz:
Delete this comment

tete7000:


Moral to you is religion. You know anything about conditioning in psychology? Have you ever read ethics in philosophy? Most of you are illiterates thinking you know something about things you know absolutely nothing about.

jorion:


Ok, Mr ethics. What of women who are in abusive marriages? Should they die in such marriages because of the children?

THIS IS SIMPLY AN ETHICAL QUESTION.

tete7000:


You have suddenly jumped from making categorical statement about people being free to having children outside wedlock to a advocate of women caught in abusive marriage. If you want me to talk about abusive marriage, you need to first make categorical statement about where what you consider an ideal place for a child to grow, a divided or a united home? When we have agreed on this, then we can talk about anomalies that can arise in the course of human existence. Mistakes should never be used to define what is ideal... Never!!! Only confused minds use mistakes to redefine norms.

luminouz:

No you are not. Stop lying. Nah you wan marry oh

jorion:


You dull o, I swear. Your argument is that a man must be with a woman because of the child(ren). I am simply telling you that there are a range of circumstances where that is a NO NO.

If you can't get a simple argument, STOP TALKING ABOUT ETHICS BECAUSE YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT IT.

I have told you that there are a whole spectrum of REALITIES but your strong head wants to take ONLY ONE.

NA PEOPLE LIKE UNA DEY ABORT CHILDREN. YEYE

tete7000:


I definitely know who is dull between the two of us. It can't be me, never. It is surely you who doesn't know the difference between an ideal and a circumstantial situation.

jorion:


Hahahahaha. I grew up in the streets as well as amongst oil workers. Nothing you fit tell me or know about life.

As long as you are not a robot and have money, women will come for you. In those circumstances, shit happens.

YOU LIVE IN YOUR FANTASY WORLD OF TELEMUNDO WHERE A SINGLE GUY SEES A SINGLE GIRL, FALLS IN LOVE AND BEAR CHILDREN.
DON'T WORRY, NA THIS SAME NAIRALAND YOU GO COME CRY.

tete7000:


Now I can read through your story and I understand why your mind is conditioned to think the way it does.

EreluRoz:
Delete this comment

PerfectStranger:

My parents time wasn't as bad as this generation. No one is normalizing abnormalities, these days women's orientation about the whole relationship and marriage stuff has changed and we men have also adjusted the rules too,no one wanna be a simp.

janeedema:
Is marriage the goal, or is it about finding the right person to marry? Because the truth is, there are countless married women who are deeply unhappy.

While I hold marriage in high regard, I firmly believe that if a woman isn't content while she's single, she'll never find happiness in marriage. This is often the root cause of many marital problems.

Too many singles rush into marriage, expecting their spouse to fill a void within them. They put off their own happiness, only to feel even more frustrated when their partner falls short of their expectations.

Marriage isn't about completing you—it's about complementing who you already are. If you can't feel whole as a single person, that emptiness will follow you into marriage.

DrFunmisticGlow:
So you destroyed a woman's destiny for your freedom.

luminouz:


If being baby daddy and being in your child's life and catering for him/her is bad, I don't know what you will call men who run away after giving girls belle and never care or cater for the child.

PerfectStranger:

No single man in his right senses that have seen disloyalty and shege in some women will be worried about marriage.

As a man, if you can't find a befitting and homely woman to marry, have your baby outside, do your child support,train them and live a peaceful and drama free life.

PerfectStranger:

My parents time wasn't as bad as this generation. No one is normalizing abnormalities, these days women's orientation about the whole relationship and marriage stuff has changed and we men have also adjusted the rules too,no one wanna be a simp.

jorion:


CONTINUE ON THIS PATH O. I LOVE IT. AT SOME POINT, YOU WILL END UP ON THIS SAME FRONT PAGE AND I WILL BE HAPPY TO COMMENT ON YOUR MATTER.

Na guys like you na women dey like for as back up or to pin belle for him head.

NO SAY I NO WARN YOU

DrFunmisticGlow:
Its bare minimum effort. It's scraps. Simple!!

It's emotional neglect. Not putting your eggs in one basket is not applicable in marriage. Family/marriage is not like your investment portfolio where it is better to diversify your assets. Marriage and family is like a garden where you give your best in your plot/ acres of land to yield your fruit. You can't go and garden some of your seeds in one acre of bush in the east, a plot of forest in the south, a hectare of savanna in the north. Your resources will be spread thin and the yield won't be high. (Please note that I am talking of substinence and not commercial farming which is diiferent)

Men think that marriage benefits the women, they fail to consider that women invest emotional labor and take root and nuture her children in her bosom. She doesn't have children scattered with their different husband's and even If she does, they stay with her so that she can take root in their lives and nature's them how she can.

Baby mamas and wives are like trees and baby daddies are like tumbleweeds in this scenario. Children will look after and see a parental figure in whosoever establishes ROOTS and stay in their life for the good times and bad be it a mom a dad or a grandparent.

Holluwhakemmy:
You will wail tired continue

EreluRoz:

Luminouz rest in Jesus name. You can never justify and normalize irresponsiblity. Everything is wrong with having a child outside wedlock, babydaddy and babymama is the highest form of irresponsiblity of this present generation. keep coining suitable names for it. Babydaddy ko babydaddy ni

luminouz:

Ma'am...e don do. Na new day be this... Find someone to marry you but it ain't gonna be me. Simple

luminouz:


You can rest in Amadioha's name. Irresponsibility is coined by you lots when you wanna get married and are looking for who to use as your retirement plans. Men benefit nothing from marriage. Men are waking up from that shiit. You will remember my post when shiit hits the fan

Danmisra:
Men and women are designed naturally to marry before they can attained complete happiness in their lives.
Since marriage is a union of two genders, each spouse is giving roles that suits them, since marriage is lifestime journey.
But the moment one of the spouse either man or woman decides to go beyond his/her responsibilities and rights , the tends to be negativel consequences, no matter how you how little.
Our parents, forefathers and mothes understood ,that's why the lived a nice life.
But am sorry to say today some men are lazy and not men enough to carry responsibility, then the stylishly say that men to must contribute, you must bear in mind if the a woman contribute she will disrespect you because it's your job you pushed to her so you must received the backlash.
There is nothing bad when a women helps financially but not regularly or a must.
Lastly, the way you conduct yourself that the kind of spouse you will get, God is not wicked.

EreluRoz:
There are good women everywhere, but most of you are looking for good women in the clubs. Men are actually responsible for whatever you think women have become today, I'm sure we are not ready for this argument

luminouz:

I don't agree with you. It's that simple. Most men are realizing that too.

MetalJigsaw:
Your statement answers the question from the topic.

janeedema:
Is marriage the goal, or is it about finding the right person to marry? Because the truth is, there are countless married women who are deeply unhappy.

While I hold marriage in high regard, I firmly believe that if a woman isn't content while she's single, she'll never find happiness in marriage. This is often the root cause of many marital problems.

Too many singles rush into marriage, expecting their spouse to fill a void within them. They put off their own happiness, only to feel even more frustrated when their partner falls short of their expectations.

Marriage isn't about completing you—it's about complementing who you already are. If you can't feel whole as a single person, that emptiness will follow you into marriage.

Zooposki:


Lol. Not every woman wants to get married o. She is just projecting, meaning she herself won’t be happy until she gets married. What do men bring to marriages apart from money, that is, if they even have the money?

Imagine someone looking for another person or institution to make her happy. Aunty, you came alone to this world and you will die alone. Learn to love yourself and let you make you happy. That is the ultimate nirvana of life.