DrFunmisticGlow:
I also don't agree with you. You are allowing a hurt human being to raise a hurt human being to justify your conscience and evade full responsibility for your actions. It is not as if divorce laws in Nigeria favor women. If you were abroad, I can understand if a regular man shies away from marriage, but as a nigerian man, you have no fvcking excuse.

I have the excuse in the whole mudafucking world. Marriage doesn't favour men, whether Nigeria or in hell. Have a baby mama and take care of whatever kids she gives you. Peace of mind assured.

jorion:


Thank you for not falling for the EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL. You are a real man

They have been attacking me and yelling 'responsibilities' and all that shiit and I wonder why Nigerian women are so ticked off because we no want marry them. Isn't that enough proof that marriage doesn't favour men? See as every woman on this thread no remember they had good men as fathers and all that shiit and try hard to convince men to commit. The question is....is a man that commits and never takes care of his kids the good father or the one who refused to marry but still takes care of his kids?

That question shows you that anytime a Nigerian woman is not benefiting from a construct, she brandishes 'responsible' and commitment as weapons to shame men. Men are seeing this rubbish and are not ready to commit anymore. The most annoying one is bride price and bridal list.

How in hell will I pay millions for a woman whose body count is as tall as the empire state building? I could just sire a kid or two off her and take care of them myself.

Holluwhakemmy:
Who will marry a SIMP like you self

I'm glad you know it's simps you desire for marriage. You have validated my arguments

tete7000:


So you think you can have sane children outside wedlock with a woman you don't consider good enough to bring home to be your wife? Some of you have warped mentality, you sound so confused. You talk and contradict yourselves in the statements you make. May God have pity on this lost generation.

Shut up and read my comment properly, I said if you can't find a befitting and homely woman to marry,you can opt for the plan B instead of waiting for a perfect woman coz that might never happen.
You're the warped minded fellow here, and please stop sounding like there ain't good kids born outside wedlock you dumm.y

tete7000:


So you think you can have sane children outside wedlock with a woman you don't consider good enough to bring home to be your wife? Some of you have warped mentality, you sound so confused. You talk and contradict yourselves in the statements you make. May God have pity on this lost generation.

It's your generation that is lost old man. It is really simple. Men don't benefit from marriage, only women do. So if I choose to make her give me babies and I take care of them, na war or sin?

So all the women that are married by men these days are good? High BP go soon finish you if you no use your brain

SocialJustice:
Look at you arguing for women even with their daily actions in relationships and marriages.

I personally don't see why I should be saddled with any woman. I want my kids too and that's it, she has all the freedom to fly as she wants.

I want a lot of kids too with diversity, one woman can't do it.

Men don't do "daily actions in relationships and marriages"?

SocialJustice:
I love that you handled the issue of 2 sides to a coin. Women were not created with testosterone naturally running through their veins in quantities men experience, they got oestrogen, the feminine nature and care to tame the wild man.

Instead of taming their men and bringing balance to their lives, women also want to live the testosterone controlled life.

I wish them the best.

Stop all these blaming shit on women. If women are bad today then men played a role in making them behave that way. Only sensible people will understand this. Men have the power to shape women into whatever men want.

The reason men call them fish brains 🤣🤣🤣🤣

luminouz:

It's your generation that is lost old man. It is really simple. Men don't benefit from marriage, only women do. So if I choose to make her give me babies and I take care of them, na war or sin?

So all the women that are married by men these days are good? High BP go soon finish you if you no use your brain

You are hopelessly lost in your delusion...so sad! All these lies you tell yourself can't bring you happiness in your old age.

PerfectStranger:

Shut up and read my comment properly, I said if you can't find a befitting and homely woman to marry,you can opt for the plan B instead of waiting for a perfect woman coz that might never happen.
You're the warped minded fellow here, and please stop sounding like there ain't good kids born outside wedlock you dumm.y

Your nsulting comments already shows how properly you are brought up or how properlyyou can be able to define an appropriateupbringing. You know when you say something is good, it is always with respect to a framework or to a standard. The mad man on the street with his warped mind can tell you he is equally sane. Everyone looks at life from a perspective shaped by his mindset, warped or unwarped.

tete7000:


You are hopelessly lost in your delusion...so sad! All these lies you tell yourself can't bring you happiness in your old age.

Insults won't get you anywhere with me

luminouz:

Insults won't get you anywhere with me

Thank God for you.

EreluRoz:
Did your parents had you outside? What makes some of you think it's cool to have kids out of wedlock? The way some of you try to normalize abnormalities is appalling

Haha that's how they born basters Yahoo boys who will kill them for rituals, allow the fools please

Hassanmaye:

Haha that's how they born basters Yahoo boys who will kill them for rituals, allow the fools please

I know lots of guys from very good families who are into cyber-crime and I know lots of individuals from broken homes that are extremely responsible to a fault.

Society is not black and white.

Have your baby mamas but take care of your children and be actively present in their lives. What the children choose to do with their lives is entirely up to them. The best you can do is be consistently present to lead them right.

Nefort:

Men don't do "daily actions in relationships and marriages"?

Did you see my use of "wild animals?"

DrFunmisticGlow:
Yes. They are bastards. It's all lipstick on a pig.

But you will like to be Davido's "bastard" son even if its for just one day

Uchesis:

But you will like to be Davido's "bastard" son even if its for just one day

I will prefer to be my father's legitimate child instead

tete7000:


Your nsulting comments already shows how properly you are brought up or how properlyyou can be able to define an appropriateupbringing. You know when you say something is good, it is always with respect to a framework or to a standard. The mad man on the street with his warped mind can tell you he is equally sane. Everyone looks at life from a perspective shaped by his mindset, warped or unwarped.

Now you just regained your sanity back forgetting you insulted me first.

Now I know people can't actually take what they give out. I have my opinion, you should have made your pointed without the word "warped". I see that word as offensive. Every mad person on the street should keep their madness to themselves.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I will prefer to be my father's legitimate child instead

Marriage is not an easy task in Nigeria all the loving loving tend to stop after marriage in Nigeria except you both genuinely work at it ...My body is enough stress on it's own ...if not for yeye pressures I would love to remain single for life and have my peace.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I will prefer to be my father's legitimate child instead

Lmaooo.... Legitimacy dey pepper you sha.

Only God knows what men endure in such legitimacy and they die uncared, unloved and used up. Yet, you still want other men to be hooked into such slavery and when they say no, you bring up legitimacy and responsibilities as hoooks to bait them. Men are waking up, trust me

luminouz:

Lmaooo.... Legitimacy dey pepper you sha.

Only God knows what men endure in such legitimacy and they die uncared, unloved and used up. Yet, you still want other men to be hooked into such slavery and when they say no, you bring up legitimacy and responsibilities as hoooks to bait them. Men are waking up, trust me

It is mostly men who don't treat their wives and children well or take time to know and interact with them and invest emotionally in their lives that will die unloved. That is secret to why more men die alone.

My grandpa is almost 100 years, blind with dementia. Yet my aunt comes every year from America to celebrate his birthday which was last week tuesday. Yes all his children are middle aged adults with their lives and families. All he needs to do though is call and cry on the phone that no one has visited him and everyone will come, despite the fact that he was visited two wTuesday and has probably forgotten. He also has two caretakers. Yes there is loneliness in old age. But he has not been abandoned. Though he is a stubborn and strict disciplinarian. He never stopped being there for his children and grandchildren and didn't have illegitimate children.

Compare that with other men who have done all manner of atrocities,men who are wife-beaters, who cheat, who illegitimate children, who are deadbeats that don't contribute to the family. Those are the ones who will die alone and miserable.

Babangidapikin:

Marriage is not an easy task in Nigeria all the loving loving tend to stop after marriage in Nigeria except you both genuinely work at it ...My body is enough stress on it's own ...if not for yeye pressures I would love to remain single for life and have my peace.

If you have decided to be single. It is a good thing. The issue with why marriages fail is that people expect Disney level of happiness in marriage without putting in the required work.

People for seeing their spouses as individuals instead of ATM/ maid and bedwench or property.

While good marriages should be happy, it should not be the leading factor.

DrFunmisticGlow:
It is mostly men who don't treat their wives and children well or take time to know and interact with them and invest emotionally in their lives that will die unloved. That is secret to why more men die alone.

My grandpa is almost 100 years, blind with dementia. Yet my aunt comes every year from America to celebrate his birthday which was last week tuesday. Yes all his children are middle aged adults with their lives and families. All he needs to do though is call and cry on the phone that no one has visited him and everyone will come, despite the fact that he was visited two wTuesday and has probably forgotten. He also has two caretakers. Yes there is loneliness in old age. But he has not been abandoned. Though he is a stubborn and strict disciplinarian. He never stopped being there for his children and grandchildren and didn't have illegitimate children.

Compare that with other men who have done all manner of atrocities,men who are wife-beaters, who cheat, who illegitimate children, who are deadbeats that don't contribute to the family. Those are the ones who will die alone and miserable.

Now you are giving me a fûcking excuse for why some men are abandoned.
Most men are busy providing for their socalled legitimate kids and the wife and all the extended fuckin family issues that they don't have quality time with their kids. It's the women/wives who have all the time in the world for bonding. My own dad is an example but I never for once forgot his presence nor will I ever. If fathers don't provide, y'all will come with the irresponsible dad routine and drive him insane. Men must hustle and take care of shiit and get must still find enough time to bond with kids enough to leave an impression on them? Kuku kill them as per dem be donkeys na.No where in your narrative is anyone taking care of HIM or giving a fûck about what he wants . It's always about what others want, not him. Shey he came into the world to be a donkey abi? So don't
come at me with that talk. That's a bloody excuse after all the marriage talk. At least if he is not married, he will be alone and fend for himself.

So what's the use of legitimacy then if you still think if men don't do bla bla bla...they get abandoned in old age. Isn't it obvious from your grandpa story that y'all don't give two shiits about him? If y'all did, one of you will permanently be at his neck and call till he dies. Now that's a man's experience for you. I imagine if grandma is still alive, she would be living in y'all houses and getting all the love. I have seen men who never abandoned their fûcking families and was always providing and they were left for dead by mumu kids hamstrung by their mothers. Should I start telling you about many of them I listen to and counsel? Or the ones who died of broken heart as their kids went off with their mum or fight over mumu properties while their fathers were still alive? You don't know anything about being a father or even as a man, so don't lecture me on your grandpa's story alone. I have proofs of more than 50 men who were good and were left to rot. Only heavens know how many more are dying silently with no one to talk to. So fûck no!!! Marriage is no guarantee of a happily ever after, not in this universe.

You buttressed all my points. Marriage favours no man. I have both my grandpas dead long before their wives died. Why? Pressures of always attending to everyone but themselves because that's the old way of proving you are a man. My grandma lives with my mum and I help take care of her. I wish my grandads were alive so I could spoil them rotten with love and listen to their wisdom but they all died 30 fûcking years before their wives. I have sworn to make sure my dad gets all the love in the world not because he married my mum or had me inside wedlock nonsense. If I were born outside wedlock, i would do the same because I know just how hard it is to be a man in this mudafûcked up world

There are no guarantees your so-called legitimate kids will give a fûck about you when you grown old or they will take care of you. Thinking marriage will help you navigate old age better as a man is an illusion for men. It doesn't ever work. Now men are planning their own retirement and making sure they die with dignity, not shiiting on themselves and all that shiit with no one taking care of them.

PerfectStranger:

No single man in his right senses that have seen disloyalty and shege in some women will be worried about marriage.

As a man, if you can't find a befitting and homely woman to marry, have your baby outside, do your child support,train them and live a peaceful and drama free life.

I wonder ooo, like to meet societal expectations one have to overlook your happiness and settle with any lady available?

It does not work. If you meet a suitable partner why not, but I will not reduce my standards to please the society

DrFunmisticGlow:
I will prefer to be my father's legitimate child instead

Talk is cheap

luminouz:


Now you are giving me a fûcking excuse for why some men are abandoned.
Most men are busy providing for their socalled legitimate kids and the wife and all the extended fuckin family issues that they don't have quality time with their kids. It's the women/wives who have all the time in the world for bonding. My own dad is an example but I never for once forgot his presence nor will I ever. If fathers don't provide, y'all will come with the irresponsible dad routine and drive him insane. Men must hustle and take care of shiit and get must still find enough time to bond with kids enough to leave an impression on them? Kuku kill them as per dem be donkeys na.No where in your narrative is anyone taking care of HIM or giving a fûck about what he wants . It's always about what others want, not him. Shey he came into the world to be a donkey abi? So don't
come at me with that talk. That's a bloody excuse after all the marriage talk. At least if he is not married, he will be alone and fend for himself.

So what's the use of legitimacy then if you still think if men don't do bla bla bla...they get abandoned in old age. Isn't it obvious from your grandpa story that y'all don't give two shiits about him? If y'all did, one of you will permanently be at his neck and call till he dies. Now that's a man's experience for you. I imagine if grandma is still alive, she would be living in y'all houses and getting all the love. I have seen men who never abandoned their fûcking families and was always providing and they were left for dead by mumu kids hamstrung by their mothers. Should I start telling you about many of them I listen to and counsel? Or the ones who died of broken heart as their kids went off with their mum or fight over mumu properties while their fathers were still alive? You don't know anything about being a father or even as a man, so don't lecture me on your grandpa's story alone. I have proofs of more than 50 men who were good and were left to rot. Only heavens know how many more are dying silently with no one to talk to. So fûck no!!! Marriage is no guarantee of a happily ever after, not in this universe.

You buttressed all my points. Marriage favours no man. I have both my grandpas dead long before their wives died. Why? Pressures of always attending to everyone but themselves because that's the old way of proving you are a man. My grandma lives with my mum and I help take care of her. I wish my grandads were alive so I could spoil them rotten with love and listen to their wisdom but they all died 30 fûcking years before their wives. I have sworn to make sure my dad gets all the love in the world not because he married my mum or had me inside wedlock nonsense. If I were born outside wedlock, i would do the same because I know just how hard it is to be a man in this mudafûcked up world

There are no guarantees your so-called legitimate kids will give a fûck about you when you grown old or they will take care of you. Thinking marriage will help you navigate old age better as a man is an illusion for men. It doesn't ever work. Now men are planning their own retirement and making sure they die with dignity, not shiiting on themselves and all that shiit with no one taking care of them.

The stuff you whine about. Single mothers do both. They go out to work and still come home to see their children.

But if you want to continue to manufacture excuses, just keep staying Single with your bastards.

Babangidapikin:

Marriage is not an easy task in Nigeria all the loving loving tend to stop after marriage in Nigeria except you both genuinely work at it ...My body is enough stress on it's own ...if not for yeye pressures I would love to remain single for life and have my peace.

marriage was never made for love.

Many people would be better off single

DrFunmisticGlow:


The stuff you whine about. Single mothers do both. They go out to work and still come home to see their children.

But if you want to continue to manufacture excuses, just keep staying Single with your bastards.

K

JohnOkolo:


I wonder ooo, like to meet societal expectations one have to overlook your happiness and settle with any lady available?

It does not work. If you meet a suitable partner why not, but I will not reduce my standards to please the society

Fvck society bro, never reduce your standard to please no one.