Try to bring your woman to Canada to live with you, or relocate to be with her, in any case, just be together physically.

The idea that a man can get over dirty sexual addictions without a woman is tough. Just like food cures hunger, a woman that you both love each other will go a long way in helping you stop it.

The reason why you don't see many women doing this stuff is because they control sex. Every woman can get sex. Attractive men don't fall into this either because they have women everywhere.

No fap, semen retention, being born again, or undergoing deliverance won't help you. If it were, you wouldn't be here again after many years of struggles.

If you are having real sex from a woman who desires you, and you empty your balls often, the urge to go spend money on some internet prostitute will be appalling.

The secret also is to be attracted to your woman. She should be your type or the proverbial spec. It would help if you found her attractive, it would help you a lot.

Just as men save women, women make men better. For example, a man marrying a slut has taken away her shame, that's how men save women. And women make men better by giving him love, and in your case, tame their lust and save you from exploitation by other women.

Nnamdipapa:
Anytime you are in Nigeria, just send an email to a Nairalander. She does not charge a lot and will satisfy you even though she is very ugly.

Her email is
NnamdiPapa@gmail.com.

Save this email bro and you will thank me later.

pansophist:
Try to bring your woman to Canada to live with you, or relocate to be with her, in any case, just be together physically.

The idea that a man can get over dirty sexual addictions without a woman is tough. Just like food cures hunger, a woman that you both love each other will go a long way in helping you stop it.

The reason why you don't see many women doing this stuff is because they control sex. Every woman can get sex. Attractive men don't fall into this either because they have women everywhere.

No fap, semen retention, being born again, or undergoing deliverance won't help you. If it were, you wouldn't be here again after many years of struggles.

If you are having real sex from a woman who desires you, and you empty your balls often, the urge to go spend money on some internet prostitute will be appalling.

The secret also is to be attracted to your woman. She should be your type or the proverbial spec. It would help if you found her attractive, it would help you a lot.

Just as men save women, women make men better. For example, a man marrying a slut has taken away her shame, that's how men save women. And women make men better by giving him love, and in your case, tame their lust and save you from exploitation by other women.

How did you acquire all these sense?

No, tell me!!! how did you acquire all these knowledge?

pansophist:
Try to bring your woman to Canada to live with you, or relocate to be with her, in any case, just be together physically.

The idea that a man can get over dirty sexual addictions without a woman is tough. Just like food cures hunger, a woman that you both love each other will go a long way in helping you stop it.

The reason why you don't see many women doing this stuff is because they control sex. Every woman can get sex. Attractive men don't fall into this either because they have women everywhere.

No fap, semen retention, being born again, or undergoing deliverance won't help you. If it were, you wouldn't be here again after many years of struggles.

If you are having real sex from a woman who desires you, and you empty your balls often, the urge to go spend money on some internet prostitute will be appalling.

The secret also is to be attracted to your woman. She should be your type or the proverbial spec. It would help if you found her attractive, it would help you a lot.

Just as men save women, women make men better. For example, a man marrying a slut has taken away her shame, that's how men save women. And women make men better by giving him love, and in your case, tame their lust and save you from exploitation by other women.

I beg to disagree. I have seen lots of married men whose wives are physically present still addicted to fap and prostitution.
After marriage, op will lose interest in his wife and still continue with his addiction.

OP has to fight his inner demons before bringing a woman into his life.

I recommend a strong sex therapist.

Ogbeni enjoy yourself. We just lost a young friend to accident. He didn’t even know that he’s going to die. Enjoy your money anyhow you feel like and safe little.

Who’s going to spend Ifeanyi Uba’s billions now?

ActiveFarms:
Have you considered saving those money and use it in financing your girls trip to you so you can get married and contained ?

This makes a lot of sense.

Bimpe29:

This makes a lot of sense.

It makes zero sense. No amount of money will fast track IRCC timeline for application file processing.

Nnamdipapa:


It makes zero sense. No amount of money will fast track IRCC timeline for application file processing.

That's your own opinion to which you are entitled. Having his woman over there in Canada with him will certainly mitigate his waywardness.

Bimpe29:

That's your own opinion to which you are entitled. Having his woman over there in Canada with him will certainly mitigate his waywardness.

It takes an average of 12 months to process a spousal or family Sponsorship to Canada op is waiting having initiated the process.

There is nothing else op can do but to wait until application is finalized regardless of the amount of money. Am I clear enough?

So was able to talk with my girl last night though didn’t go deep in the conversation but told her I saw an escort and all

Interestingly I thought that would be ground for breakup and I would start working on finding a girl here and all, but she said it’s not a deal breaker to her .

But still I’m very determined to stop this nonsense I’m engaged in and find my pathway to salvation and redemption.

Just suprised she didn’t see me seeing another girl as a deal breaker or grounds for breakup

Nnamdipapa:


It takes an average of 12 months to process a spousal or family Sponsorship to Canada op is waiting having initiated the process.

There is nothing else op can do but to wait until application is finalized regardless of the amount of money. Am I clear enough?

True it’s a very long process in some cases it takes more than 12months upto 15 months or more, and you can’t hurry them, and you still can even get denied and have to re-apply again . So no guarantees

Nnamdipapa:


I beg to disagree. I have seen lots of married men whose wives are physically present still addicted to fap and prostitution.
After marriage, op will lose interest in his wife and still continue with his addiction.

OP has to fight his inner demons before bringing a woman into his life.

I recommend a strong sex therapist.

Very possible, hence why I want to get healed so I don’t be a serial cheater in marriage

Nnamdipapa:
Anytime you are in Nigeria, just send an email to a Nairalander. She does not charge a lot and will satisfy you even though she is very ugly.

Her email is
We4all@gmail.com.

Save this email bro and you will thank me later.

lol, you want to temp me further lol

ObalendeCMS:
Forget that your girl for Nigeria; some dude is busy screwing her like no tomorrow.

Nigerian girls are low-key prostitutes, especially if their lovers aren't near & they know they can easily get away with it!

I doubt she is though ,

Send me 20$ make I pray for u ...

Some have foood but cannot eat,some can eat but have no food

canada123:
So was able to talk with my girl last night though didn’t go deep in the conversation but told her I saw an escort and all

Interestingly I thought that would be ground for breakup and I would start working on finding a girl here and all, but she said it’s not a deal breaker to her .

But still I’m very determined to stop this nonsense I’m engaged in and find my pathway to salvation and redemption.

Just suprised she didn’t see me seeing another girl as a deal breaker or grounds for breakup

Deal breaker ke?! Hahaha… dey play😂🤣… when most people in Nigeria are looking for a way to japa out of the country. When you will know if it’s a deal breaker for her is when she is married to you and residing in Canada. For now, I doubt if anything will be a deal breaker until she japa.

Therefore, the onus lies with you to decide what you really want and need and stick with your decision.

canada123:


I know, I mean I literally saw myself personally through school and paid over 40k in fees . But lately I’m loosing focus cause of this act , it’s terrible and shameful . Just struggling badly

You really need to get closer to God for that is where your solutions is.
Google Dr Abel Damina's teachings online and i promise you that change you are looking for will be yours.
And pls if it's ok with you could you help a brother back home to survive?
Cheers.

You only have one potent solution— LOSE YOUR JOB and go broke. The condition of being broke in a cold clime like Canada will set you back to default.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You only have one potent solution— LOSE YOUR JOB and go broke. The condition of being broke in a cold clime like Canada will set you back to default.

I guess so , cause I’m messed up

I’m so messed up , so so messed up ,

So foolish and weak .

I did it again just this evening , I think a demon is in me

I’m so done and messed up

canada123:


I sadly haven’t , instead I was doing a long distance relationship and it’s been over a year now and clearly it’s not working at all and it’s been a mess. Cheating is an understatement, I’ve literally lied to her everyday for one year straight , what breaks me is how would I break up with her ,

Lol. And you think she is not cheating on you too? Broooo. If you believe a 22 year old girl doing NYSC in Lagos is keeping herself celibate for a Canada boyfriend, I have an oil well in my backyard to sell to you.

Fix your life, bro. But not for her sake, for your own sake. Get a real girlfriend, bro. Not some illusionary "long distance relationship".

Find a girl around you that you can be getting pûssy from on a regular. That's the essence of being in a relationship. And why not?

You're young, you have a good job, you live in an open, liberal country. The only thing stopping you is your mind. Game is something that can be worked on. Go watch rizz videos on the internet. Buy relationship books. It's a much worthier investment than sending it to that 419 girl duping you from Lagos.

PS: Sex with a lady whom you have a true emotional connection with beats paid sex by a thousand miles. Taste it and see.

canada123:
I’m so messed up , so so messed up ,

So foolish and weak .

I did it again just this evening , I think a demon is in me

I’m so done and messed up

Don't beat yourself up, bro. You didn't mûrder, steal from or ràpe anybody.

Please invest seriously in finding a local girlfriend who hopefully will have high lîbido like you. That's the only way out.

HopeVictor:
I'd have suggested masturbation but una go say na bad thing.

Someone is battling with one addiction, and you want to introduce him to another worse addiction. Meat pie, Na wa oooooo! Na so una dey do oooo.

carl90:
Is there no beautiful lady over there at Canada you can have as a girlfriend or build a relationship with ?
do not put so much hope in this long relationship with your girlfriend here at Nigeria .
Personally ,I do not even fancy long distance relationship.
Life is too short for that.
You can't have so much cash with you and still be paying to have sex with a woman.
It does not make sense.
Get a good woman over there at Canada and build a serious relationship with her.
Life na once o.

canada123 doesn't know dating a Nigerian lady while living abroad, they only see it as an escape route from Nigeria.

That's why once they get there, they will start following bad friends and start listening to bad advice of how to show the man shege and will start misbehaving.

Before you know it, they will leave the man and start following another man there.

Having relationship back home while living abroad will always be seen as an escape route for majority of women. They don't love. There is always an ulterior motive.

canada123:
Just curious, how best to go about this

She’s not done anything wrong to me and have been very nice and sweet since we crossed path, but I’m living a double life and she dosen’t know the other side of me which is this side of addiction


I really need help

You really need to know more about women brother. Why won't she be nice to you? Someone that already knows that you are based abroad, she will definitely worship you and portrays herself as a good partner. But trust me, they always have an ulterior motive at the end.

Our naija girls don't use ear to hear about abroad guys o. They are always so cheap to abroad guys cuz they want to escape Nigeria. Everyone wants to secure their spot. We do hear stories of how cheap our ladies are to abroad guys. Some will even be sending their núdes to abroad guys and always ready to do their biddings all in a bid to secure their spot o. Things dey happen brother.

She will see you as an easy escape route from Nigeria. That's why someone was advising you to look for a girl over there that is available within your reach to start a relationship with.

There has always been this reoccurring stories of our naija women misbehaving once our men take them abroad from Nigeria. Learn from the stories of others.

canada123:
So was able to talk with my girl last night though didn’t go deep in the conversation but told her I saw an escort and all

Interestingly I thought that would be ground for breakup and I would start working on finding a girl here and all, but she said it’s not a deal breaker to her .

But still I’m very determined to stop this nonsense I’m engaged in and find my pathway to salvation and redemption.

Just suprised she didn’t see me seeing another girl as a deal breaker or grounds for breakup

Lol. You don't know what's in the mind of that lady. I expected you to know better. She won't find anything wrong with it now..but trust me, you will see the true colour of that lady once you make the mistake of taking her to Canada. Trust me. She will just use you as an escape route. Find a lady over there and settle down with.

Dating back home is not a good idea. There are lots of Nigerian ladies in Canada. Find someone who is already there. This one back home will only use you as an escape route.

This no deal breaker she finds nothing wrong with will be the same thing she will use to leave you once you take her over and find her footing. Once she starts working, she will leave you.

Even if you tell her now that you are a higher assassin, she won't find anything wrong with it until she gets what she wants.

Her eyes is on the prize. In her mind, she will be like see this mumu man. Once he takes me over and started earning, I will leave him.

Brother everything is just an escape route for our naija girls. Don't say I didn't tell you. We see ahead of things. I can practically sense things and know what could happen even before they happen. And I am here telling you.

I am sexually clean and pure and I can sense and feel things ahead before they happen. Don't say I didn't tell you. Find a Nigerian girl over there and strike a serious relationship with.

canada123:
Just curious, how best to go about this

She’s not done anything wrong to me and have been very nice and sweet since we crossed path, but I’m living a double life and she dosen’t know the other side of me which is this side of addiction

Should I tell her the whole truth and breakup with her or I don’t need to tell her anything and just break up with her?

Though she knows my family members and have their contacts, and if I tell her the whole truth, my mum or siblings might know the shameful thing I’ve been into for years now secretly, and I’m a pastors son too ,

Just complicated now, this stuff is hard .

Just to make matters worse and add more context to how complicated it is, I made a terrible mistake

She’s 22 year old I’m 27 year old, she’s currently doing her NYSC and she’s in Lagos, since all my family members have relocated I told her she can stay in our family house , since no one is literally there except I think my cousin or so .

So breaking up with her in this situation, how best can I approach it please guys?

I really need help

The lady in question is more of a liability (problem) that needs to go rather than something that makes your life better (in the NOW).

In this situation, love has nothing to do with it, this is between reality, what's best for you both or a life lived on lies and false pretence and you'll be the one to suffer for it.

Even you yourself do not know her that well to bomb her with this kind of secret and not sure how she'd react, so it's better you keep it to yourself and focus on making your life better. The earlier you make decision to let her go the better for both of you, for her to heal and for you to focus on yourself and focus over there cos she's only but a distraction you have forced upon yourself.

If you've ever heard of DISCIPLINE then this is the moment to begin to grow into it cos ain't nobody would do it for you but yourself.

I'm not a saint myself cos I have done it all. I'm the ashawo vibe kind of Guy, I have spent fire on runs girls myself but at some point it became a problem, not cos I couldn't afford it anymore but the emptiness it made me feel. I began to miss the emotional sex connection kind of sex, where the other person feels happy and enjoys sex with you and ready to do it with any way you'd want and not cos they're being paid to do so.

My own problem was having a woman around I really liked cos for my kind of mindset I didn't need to be in love to marry anyone but I need to like you that much and if you vibe with me and I see you like me just as much too then we're good, love would come later when we begin to spend genuine and quality time together and over time you'd know what it is to be my kind of woman and the same for me too and that's where compatibility sets in.

The times I was busy inviting women to come over to cure konjiiii or import runs babes, it was never worth it cos as soon as I cum, I just want them gone, like just disappear. It made me feel extremely empty and dirty. It even fuckeddddd up my mental health.


I had to put a stop to that shit without any advice. Finally met someone I liked, like she's been on my contact but for some weird reasons never looked her way but she was someone we could smash and not talk for another 3 months if not more.

Another important factor people overlook is sexual attraction. Anyone you are settling for should at first possess that sexual appeal you want in your kind of woman, if na ynash you like make she get am, if big breast is what scatters your brain, make she get am, like she has to possess everything your normal spec would have, so even the slightest thing about her can turn you on without much.

Finally met someone I liked, married her last year and we recently just had a son, I'm even 10 years older. I'm 35 and she's 25, we dated for only 3 months before I proposed but it felt like we dated for 5 years cos it felt like we had this and wasted way too much time. It was a heaven of a 3 months.


Some times when she wants to visit, just cos I want to make it fun, a day before we would have talked about everything we wanted to do to each other, so that night we both would be looking forward to it, I'll tell her to order a ride to my place with no panties on and she'd oblige. This was just one of it, we tried everything there is to try. We're married with a son and everyday it still feels like we're dating. Sometimes we'll be in the same house and be talking shit to one another like we're in different places. If you were a visitor at that moment and you see us pressing our phones you could swear are both talking to someone else.

Life isn't supposed to be hard, whatever we want, we have to be intentional and build it and I mean every aspect of life.

canada123:


Honestly , the money part , then the sex part too . Cause it’s my saving I keep depleting and using . I feel worthless

watch porn and masturbate

I finally broke up and I feel so bad within myself,

Breaking up is so terrible and can be heartbreaking for the other person. But I just had to do it to possibly get a chance at healing and figuring out myself

Also I don’t think I would ever do long distance relationship again .

canada123:
I feel marriage would help me or make me stop.

You better chase your demons away before thinking of marriage. Marriage is not an antidote for olosho lifestyle.

canada123:
I finally broke up and I feel so bad within myself,

Breaking up is so terrible and can be heartbreaking for the other person. But I just had to do it to possibly get a chance at healing and figuring out myself

Also I don’t think I would ever do long distance relationship again .

I support your decision to break up with her. However, I don’t think it will have a significant positive impact on the issue you’re dealing with. A long-distance relationship like the one you were in is often not worth the investment, especially given the level of betrayal and dishonesty we see these days.

I also wouldn’t advise you to jump into another relationship or seek marriage right now. It’s not the solution to your problem. Mentally, emotionally, and psychologically, you’re not in the right state to date anyone at this moment. You need to first address your addictions. Any relationship now would only be a distraction from that process. In the early stages of a new relationship, you might get the sexual satisfaction you desire, but it’s only a matter of time before you start seeking something new, potentially leading you back to old habits. You need to tackle this issue head-on without any distractions.

Sex isn’t bad; it’s a beautiful gift designed by God. But pursuing it without self-control is where the problem lies. This is your challenge - you lack control. Even though you didn’t go through with it, the fact that you considered paying $1,500 for an hour with a total stranger with whom you have zero emotional attachment is proof enough.

The good news is that you recognize this as a problem and are willing to fix it. But from my analysis, it’s not something you can fix on your own. You need additional help and someone to hold you accountable - that’s probably what you’ve been missing all along. I’m willing to set aside some time for us to talk more about this and guide you toward the urgent help you need. If that’s okay with you, send me a message, and we can set up a call.

Lol so OP was basically cheating on his girlfriend for one year? And patronising prostitutes?

Oh well, Marriage won't solve your addiction problem. Only you alone can control the battlefield of your mind through Discipline.