| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by maasoap(m): 7:28am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Magnoliaa:
Yeah, right. Even luminouz would swear he's not a two-faced, and contentious person.
So, Op is a liar or he's a twofaced and contentious person as well. You are gender biased going by your comments here |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Blazebond(m): 7:28am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Hahahahahahahahahaha,you have every right to be worried bro. |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Babaibeji2020(m): 7:28am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Magnoliaa:
I would like to hear the girl's side of the story.
We only have your words for it.
- You might be stingy.
- Perhaps you don't like to share...
And she was starving.
Or maybe you guys have had a previous disagreement like that and she feared your reaction? Another tiff spotted......... |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by advanceDNA: 7:34am On Aug 28, 2024 |
ivolt:
Stop using words wrongly.
Gaslight has specific meaning.
It is not synonymous with lying. Lol.....gaslighting is a form of manipulation...it usually involves lying...how do u make someone doubt what they see or perceive .without lying or twisting the event... She even try to make it look like it's the guy that's wrong.... .anyway...I cannot argue with you.... Go and sort urself out 1 Like |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by saintTim(m): 7:58am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Magnoliaa:
I would like to hear the girl's side of the story.
We only have your words for it.
- You might be stingy.
- Perhaps you don't like to share...
And she was starving.
Or maybe you guys have had a previous disagreement like that and she feared your reaction? Are you always like this? |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Saintinoo(m): 8:02am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Ayomide11111:
Should I consider what happened yesterday? Nairaland pls advice.
I came back from the studio yesterday's afternoon and I met my girlfriend in my house, yes she has one of my spare keys, I entered the house and I went straight to the kitchen.
I met her washing plates in the kitchen and I greeted her that she has done well but when I was about to leave the kitchen I observed that the kitchen walls were wet because anytime you cook in my kitchen the tiles on the walls gets wet due to the heat. Then, I asked her "babe what did you cook?" She said nothing that she only boiled water. I believed her and I did not suspect her because of the response but I was kind of thinking the water must have boiled over 100°c for those tiles to get wet.
I left the kitchen and I went to the bedroom when I got to the bedroom I saw some trashes she left undisposed and I was irritated and I decided to go and disposed them but when I got to our refuse bin I saw a fresh egg shells and some fresh noodles' pieces, I was kind of confused that which of my neighbors would have left his/her waste bin and come to used mine. Yet, I never thought too much because I knew it was my girlfriend, maybe she just wants to pull my legs that was why she lied at first, I concluded.
When I got inside I found her inside the bedroom, she's done washing plates, then I put it to her jokingly "babe next time you cook noodles and eggs make sure you dispose the nylons properly because you didn't do it well today." As if I ignited a flame she took it up with me angrily that why should I be saying that, that she never cooked anything since morning and I was accusing her wrongly....bla..bla..bla..bla... And she acted so real and dry like as if truly she didn't cook.
Mind you, that she cooked wasn't my problem, why would I get disturbed that my girlfriend cooked and ate in my house? But every evidences I was seeing were making me to ask her if truly she cooked but she kept denying and not that I got angry at this point.
I told her to forget about everything that not that I'm suspecting her but I just felt all what I have been seeing showed me that you cooked and not that I will kill you if you did. You're my woman why would you lied to me if you do things in my home. We shut the chapter and everyone was fine.
After like 5 minutes I went to the kitchen to cook beans, personally I don't like it when my gas cooker is dirty but my girl is a messy lady she doesn't care and I have been fighting over this on how to sort her out. I decided to clean the gas cooker and immediately as I raised the stand I saw enough fresh noodles at the angle corners of the gas Cylinder. I stood up and gave it a thought. After, I decided to show her so that she would not deny it. I called her to come to the kitchen and when she got to the kitchen I showed her and she could not say anything.
Then I asked her "as little as cooking noodles and you lied. Why did you lie on this very little matter? Why babe? " Not that that I will quarrel with you why you cooked and eat. Why? When I was coming from the studio I have already bought things that we are going to eat. Why such a big denial and lie on a little matter? Why?
Pls Nairaland I suggested this is one of the RED FLAGS. Isn't it? Pls advice. Got tired of reading... While, that is not my problem but the red flag here is that you are too stupid give your keys to a supposed girlfriend. Sorry for the insult though. In summary, your relationship with that girl will end in tears, I am not wishing you bad luck, just saying from experience. |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Pietrak1(m): 8:26am On Aug 28, 2024 |
As red as hot coals. She will never stop creating insecurities for you. And you will spend the rest of your life doubting everything she says.
Run for your life if you wish to live long. 1 Like |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by INVINCIBLECSP2(m): 8:42am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Magnoliaa:
I would like to hear the girl's side of the story.
We only have your words for it.
- You might be stingy.
- Perhaps you don't like to share...
And she was starving.
Or maybe you guys have had a previous disagreement like that and she feared your reaction? Always here to defend her kinds in line with the kind of business they do 😏😏😏🙆🙆 |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by TableLeg(m): 8:46am On Aug 28, 2024 |
ericmor:
You have just contradicted yourself. So why she denied if it was just a packet of fuc//king noodles as you mentioned Sengbo weyrey?! 1 Like |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by ivolt: 9:04am On Aug 28, 2024 |
advanceDNA:
Lol.....gaslighting is a form of manipulation...it usually involves lying...how do u make someone doubt what they see or perceive .without lying or twisting the event...
She even try to make it look like it's the guy that's wrong....
.anyway...I cannot argue with you.... Go and sort urself out If money is missing in an organisation(fact), and the boss decided to ask the accountant. If the accountant denies any involvement, he is lying not gaslighting or manipulating. The accountant only cares about escaping the consequences and nothing else, so he is not gaslighting the boss. The same thing applies to armed robbers arrested during robbery operation who lie to police about their involvement, they don't care about anything but escaping consequences. So in this case, the girlfriend want to avoid the consequences of cooking in his house which the OP conveniently skipped. If he had asked whether she cleaned the house, she would have answered yes too in order to look good in his eyes if she is an habitual liar as she claimed. I know some of you guys like throwing smart sounding words around without knowing the meaning or the right context but it is cringing each time some of us read them. Gaslight is actions taken towards the specific goals of psychologically breaking down a target so they no longer trust their own judgment or sanity. By your logic, buying gift for a friend, telling a colleague you don't have money when they intend borrowing from you are evil gaslighting acts of manipulation.  So next time you want to use the word, re-examine the context. |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by lendahand(m): 9:06am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Ayomide11111:
Never! I am not someone like that.
I am not a stingy guy. Infact there was a day she took all the cash (#5000) inside my cross bag and left me with nothing, hunger almost killed me at the studio that day, because I didn't know she has taken everything. Yet I didn't complain or scold her. She said she's hungry and she has somethings to do at the church that's why she took all the money and I forget about it. And there's no way a lady can starve in my home even if there's no food stuff I must provide definitely. Because when a lady begins to starve she can compromise. What else she wants me to do. so she is a liar, thief and fornicator come still dey active for church?? |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by lendahand(m): 9:07am On Aug 28, 2024 |
advanceDNA:
He doesn't like to share?? .yet she has his key...someone that doesn't like to share won't give another person unrestricted access to his space and things...The way women dey think ehnn.... fish brains. Their thoughts move like a scarecrow. |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by LordReed(m): 9:10am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Ayomide11111:
Should I consider what happened yesterday? Nairaland pls advice.
I came back from the studio yesterday's afternoon and I met my girlfriend in my house, yes she has one of my spare keys, I entered the house and I went straight to the kitchen.
I met her washing plates in the kitchen and I greeted her that she has done well but when I was about to leave the kitchen I observed that the kitchen walls were wet because anytime you cook in my kitchen the tiles on the walls gets wet due to the heat. Then, I asked her "babe what did you cook?" She said nothing that she only boiled water. I believed her and I did not suspect her because of the response but I was kind of thinking the water must have boiled over 100°c for those tiles to get wet.
I left the kitchen and I went to the bedroom when I got to the bedroom I saw some trashes she left undisposed and I was irritated and I decided to go and disposed them but when I got to our refuse bin I saw a fresh egg shells and some fresh noodles' pieces, I was kind of confused that which of my neighbors would have left his/her waste bin and come to used mine. Yet, I never thought too much because I knew it was my girlfriend, maybe she just wants to pull my legs that was why she lied at first, I concluded.
When I got inside I found her inside the bedroom, she's done washing plates, then I put it to her jokingly "babe next time you cook noodles and eggs make sure you dispose the nylons properly because you didn't do it well today." As if I ignited a flame she took it up with me angrily that why should I be saying that, that she never cooked anything since morning and I was accusing her wrongly....bla..bla..bla..bla... And she acted so real and dry like as if truly she didn't cook.
Mind you, that she cooked wasn't my problem, why would I get disturbed that my girlfriend cooked and ate in my house? But every evidences I was seeing were making me to ask her if truly she cooked but she kept denying and not that I got angry at this point.
I told her to forget about everything that not that I'm suspecting her but I just felt all what I have been seeing showed me that you cooked and not that I will kill you if you did. You're my woman why would you lied to me if you do things in my home. We shut the chapter and everyone was fine.
After like 5 minutes I went to the kitchen to cook beans, personally I don't like it when my gas cooker is dirty but my girl is a messy lady she doesn't care and I have been fighting over this on how to sort her out. I decided to clean the gas cooker and immediately as I raised the stand I saw enough fresh noodles at the angle corners of the gas Cylinder. I stood up and gave it a thought. After, I decided to show her so that she would not deny it. I called her to come to the kitchen and when she got to the kitchen I showed her and she could not say anything.
Then I asked her "as little as cooking noodles and you lied. Why did you lie on this very little matter? Why babe? " Not that that I will quarrel with you why you cooked and eat. Why? When I was coming from the studio I have already bought things that we are going to eat. Why such a big denial and lie on a little matter? Why?
Pls Nairaland I suggested this is one of the RED FLAGS. Isn't it? Pls advice. Babanla red flag. Not the lies but the quarreling to cover up the lie. This is someone who will not admit to being wrong and won't apologize after being caught. Open ya eyes! 1 Like |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by maingwaest(f): 9:28am On Aug 28, 2024 |
[quote author=Daptboy post=131707870]Seems this gender never ceases to amaze me... They just keep doing things that make us go 'ugh' or 'yuck'
In addition to what the OP said above lemme share how a simple lie can be so damaging..
One of my exes (we still dae smash though) she came around to the area.. Me been an indoor guy I heard her voice so I was like expecting her to knock and greet as customary.. She didn't..
Her friend lives in the same compound as I do... After a while I didn't see her nor hear from her... I then chatted madam, 'Afa you reach area you no come greet me sef'
Madam said 'I no reach area today o' I was shocked, shay my eyes dae deceive me ne?? So I stepped out to ask her friend who confirmed that madam was indeed around cos they were together..
I then told madam that 'your friend confirmed your presence yesterday,' madam said she wasn't around that she didn't 'reach that side' according to her..
I then called her a 'stupid liar' madam then left the main topic and focused on the 'stupid liar' that I called her..
You know women nau when you start dropping points they'll leave the main topic and focus on one insult you made or something that's not even in the topic on ground...
Madam later said '' I don't have anything to say' all the while claiming she wasn't wrong... Can you see how dumb she was??
Did you do this?? A simple yes/no would suffice... Why the blow up?? Why the sudden anger outburst??
Whats indomie and egg that you'd lie about?? What?? Hisses..
A creature that was created when we were unconscious, there's no way we can understand them bro.... But we can still show them who's boss..
That's women bro... Nothing upstairs..
Just salt water and toothpaste dazoll....[/quote
Haba, to think you have a Mum, Grandma, Aunt, sisters who are also women and you choose to throw demeaning insultive words at them like this? You think if mum has nothing but salt,water and toothpaste in her head she LL produce a fine young man like you, naaah, this is wrong. |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by olaJako(m): 9:44am On Aug 28, 2024 |
If this is your post to nairaland audience then Nigeria issues are not your worries. Learn to be a man. You said you were not angry yet it became an issue to you, really? 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by REALretep(m): 9:59am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Ayomide11111:
Should I consider what happened yesterday? Nairaland pls advice.
I came back from the studio yesterday's afternoon and I met my girlfriend in my house, yes she has one of my spare keys, I entered the house and I went straight to the kitchen.
I met her washing plates in the kitchen and I greeted her that she has done well but when I was about to leave the kitchen I observed that the kitchen walls were wet because anytime you cook in my kitchen the tiles on the walls gets wet due to the heat. Then, I asked her "babe what did you cook?" She said nothing that she only boiled water. I believed her and I did not suspect her because of the response but I was kind of thinking the water must have boiled over 100°c for those tiles to get wet.
I left the kitchen and I went to the bedroom when I got to the bedroom I saw some trashes she left undisposed and I was irritated and I decided to go and disposed them but when I got to our refuse bin I saw a fresh egg shells and some fresh noodles' pieces, I was kind of confused that which of my neighbors would have left his/her waste bin and come to used mine. Yet, I never thought too much because I knew it was my girlfriend, maybe she just wants to pull my legs that was why she lied at first, I concluded.
When I got inside I found her inside the bedroom, she's done washing plates, then I put it to her jokingly "babe next time you cook noodles and eggs make sure you dispose the nylons properly because you didn't do it well today." As if I ignited a flame she took it up with me angrily that why should I be saying that, that she never cooked anything since morning and I was accusing her wrongly....bla..bla..bla..bla... And she acted so real and dry like as if truly she didn't cook.
Mind you, that she cooked wasn't my problem, why would I get disturbed that my girlfriend cooked and ate in my house? But every evidences I was seeing were making me to ask her if truly she cooked but she kept denying and not that I got angry at this point.
I told her to forget about everything that not that I'm suspecting her but I just felt all what I have been seeing showed me that you cooked and not that I will kill you if you did. You're my woman why would you lied to me if you do things in my home. We shut the chapter and everyone was fine.
After like 5 minutes I went to the kitchen to cook beans, personally I don't like it when my gas cooker is dirty but my girl is a messy lady she doesn't care and I have been fighting over this on how to sort her out. I decided to clean the gas cooker and immediately as I raised the stand I saw enough fresh noodles at the angle corners of the gas Cylinder. I stood up and gave it a thought. After, I decided to show her so that she would not deny it. I called her to come to the kitchen and when she got to the kitchen I showed her and she could not say anything.
Then I asked her "as little as cooking noodles and you lied. Why did you lie on this very little matter? Why babe? " Not that that I will quarrel with you why you cooked and eat. Why? When I was coming from the studio I have already bought things that we are going to eat. Why such a big denial and lie on a little matter? Why?
Pls Nairaland I suggested this is one of the RED FLAGS. Isn't it? Pls advice. You are asking if this is a red flag. Like seriously!!! 
Unless you are indirectly telling us you also lie blatantly like that. It is only an unrepentant liar that won't see this as a red flag.
Shalom
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| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by advanceDNA: 10:24am On Aug 28, 2024 |
ivolt:
If money is missing in an organisation(fact), and the boss decided to ask the accountant.
If the accountant denies any involvement, he is lying not gaslighting or manipulating.
Lol...U are creating different scenario fom the op to suite ur narrative so that u can play ur right/wrong, condescending game...... To gaslight someone u must be twisting what someone clearly saw or have some evidence for or heard or perceive, making the person doubt themselves or the situation......but the scenario u created is just ask and respond scenario with no premise of what led to the asking . This isn't even remotely same with the op's story If my babe clearly saw me walking on the road with another girl that I'm trying to toast and she accuses me....me saying that's not what she saw, but i was going on my own and the girl just happen to be walking beside me on her own way and that shes just being jealous and paranoid, and I am form upset ...that is gaslighting... .. See dude... if u wanna play right and wrong game..continue .....U seem to be enjoy being condescending .. So enjoy yourself 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by MostIncredibleDFirst: 10:35am On Aug 28, 2024 |
I can't trust a woman that tells lies.
That's a major red flag.
She'll do worse and deny someday. Dump her now! |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by advanceDNA: 10:36am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Tightpussy2024:
The story is incomplete. He must have been counting his indomie or penny pinching and she is scared. Lol..... Hahahahahahahhah Paternity fraud : he must have offended her Prostitution.. he must have refused her all she wanted.... Sleeping with ex night before wedding...he must have bought the wrong wedding gown Adultery.....he must have cheated first or abused her.. She denied her husband sex for 6months... His mouth must be smelling, he must have been annoying her, he must have been stealing her money Stabbing and killing her husband ... He must have been a bandit and boko haram...  2 Likes |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by blahc007: 10:38am On Aug 28, 2024 |
advanceDNA:
She cooked for herself alone and quickly washed the evidence because she ddnt want you to know of her self centered move ...instead of just saying I'm sorry when u found out...she gaslight you....
It's a redflag to me ooo ...I don't know about you... I hate when someone offends me,, deny it and still look for way to make it look like im the one that did wrong.... You forgot to add the part that she is a dirty person...another addition to the redness of the flag. |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by advanceDNA: 10:40am On Aug 28, 2024 |
blahc007:
You forgot to add the part that she is a dirty person...another addition to the redness of the flag.
Lol |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by smasher1(m): 11:33am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Ayomide11111:
Infact my brother I can't hold the feelings anymore. And this is a girl I have decided to marry. What if? What if? What if she has a promiscuous spirit?   Any person you give your key to can cook in your house and eat, without permission or lying. That she's lying, shows she is who she is not. 1 Like |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Tightpussy2024(f): 11:38am On Aug 28, 2024 |
advanceDNA:
Lol..... Hahahahahahahhah
Paternity fraud : he must have offended her
Prostitution.. he must have refused her all she wanted....
Sleeping with ex night before wedding...he must have bought the wrong wedding gown
Adultery.....he must have cheated first or abused her..
She denied her husband sex for 6months... His mouth must be smelling, he must have been annoying her, he must have been stealing her money
Stabbing and killing her husband ... He must have been a bandit and boko haram... Mumu |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by advanceDNA: 11:38am On Aug 28, 2024 |
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| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:41am On Aug 28, 2024 |
Why did you ask her repeatedly if she cooked? According to you, you bought food items so as to cook, so when she said she didn't cook, why did you keep asking. Did you expect her to stay without eating? You even went to the waste bin to check, checked the kitchen, checked the gas, you are a very stingy man. When you leave her and start dating a new lady, remember to come back here and give us update/complaint of what your new woman does, because you sound very stingy and follow up tiny things which shouldn't matter. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Tightpussy2024(f): 11:54am On Aug 28, 2024 |
advanceDNA:
E reach insult??
Lol Not you but your post. A man included, "evidence" in a post relating to indomie and went as far as checking the dustbin to find empty egg shells and it doesn't occur to you that he has a problem? And that he has already made up his mind to do away with the girl before this. He only needs confirmation |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by HOSTCOM(m): 11:56am On Aug 28, 2024 |
It's not Red flag o...it's very GREEN u hear? |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Tightpussy2024(f): 12:03pm On Aug 28, 2024 |
Adebowalay:
Honestly, I kinda feel embarrassed for her myself, don't wait until tomorrow what you can avoid today, because if a person can lie over a matter as small as noodles, Omo u're not safe, sorry I had to be realistic in judgement...act fast If you are not a difficult person ,people will not lie to you. There are liars that are manipulators,narcissists and they are liars that just want peace and hate confrontation. Over defensiveness could be a sign you are dealing with a komodo dragon I bet it to you that he has some underlying issue with this woman,not these. He used the word, "evidence". Meaning he has been looking for opportunity to fault her.. then bringing it here. Even Joseph in the bible,when he thought Mary committed adultery tried to do away with her quietly. A man presence in a woman life is to cover her shame,security,and save her. But we have men boys exposing women to ridicule day by day. 2 Likes |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Tightpussy2024(f): 12:07pm On Aug 28, 2024 |
LilMissFavvy:
Why did you ask her repeatedly if she cooked? According to you, you bought food items so as to cook, so when she said she didn't cook, why did you keep asking. Did you expect her to stay without eating? You even went to the waste bin to check, checked the kitchen, checked the gas, you are a very stingy man. When you leave her and start dating a new lady, remember to come back here and give us update/complaint of what your new woman does, because you sound very stingy and follow up tiny things which shouldn't matter. It is the girl I blame for even dating someone like him. Then coming to report her here. Girls should know they deserve better..on top indomie and egg wey no go pass 2k,I go chop insult and reporting. Girls should vet men better 1 Like |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by khalids: 12:25pm On Aug 28, 2024 |
Tightpussy2024:
It is the girl I blame for even dating someone like him. Then coming to report her here. Girls should know they deserve better..on top indomie and egg wey no go pass 2k,I go chop insult and reporting. Girls should vet men better You have no morals... All this talk is just nonsense... 1 Like |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by Metronomy(m): 12:37pm On Aug 28, 2024 |
Both you and your woman has fault to the core...you are gaslighting her for what??
She's denying it for what??
I think she knew you have problem of taking everything into consideration.
Both of you are not ready for relationship because there's a lot of red flags already from both of you. Marriage requires little ignorance and much attention to details.
You spoke from your perspective of the situation, it shows how faulty you are as a man...I am sure if she was questioned, it will be so obvious how a sissy you are.. 1 Like |
| Re: She Cooked Noodles And She Lied. Red Flag by advanceDNA: 1:41pm On Aug 28, 2024 |
Tightpussy2024:
Not you but your post.
A man included, "evidence" in a post relating to indomie and went as far as checking the dustbin to find empty egg shells and it doesn't occur to you that he has a problem? And that he has already made up his mind to do away with the girl before this. He only needs confirmation Oh..I ddnt know it was about ordinary indomie . I thought it was about lying through the teeth But hey...wateva version that the girl did nothing but the guy is the one with the problem is totally fine .... 1 Like |
