Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

...but you have been sexing her abi? Oga leave that girl...you must not chase her again

What you thought would benefits you is now hunting you. Sorry.

It depends on the city because getting a house can be difficult atimes.

Give her six weeks to get her own house and you have to be singing it to her daily. By the end of the time frame, change the key to your house and tell her to let you know when she would be available to pick her things.

If you love your life and destiny, don't sleep with her again till she leaves. If not, you will fall into her trap and that would be the beginning of a bigger problem.

Moral lesson: Don't start what you can't finish

If you can't tell her to her face to leave your house then you are not man enough. Period

WeddingParol:
If you love your life and destiny, don't sleep with her again till she leaves.

I can bet he will sleep with her when she starts "crying and manipulating me emotionally".

And his next thread would be, what should he do about his lazy girlfriend whom he does not want to marry don get belle.

The economy is really biting everyone.

Sorry.

free nyansh wahala, lol. Divorce her too na

Now wey food don cost...?

Lol.....this nigga is funny...expecting support from a Nigerian babe staying in his house??

See baba, In her head, she's already supporting you by dating you....see...dont get it twisted oooo...she staying in your house is also her doing u a favour in her head...not the other way round

Hahahahahahahaha... It's like u just came from abroad not too long ago... ...

Don't forget...the apartment she wants to rent..u will pay all or part of it...

You have a mind of your own, so figure it out yourself.

SuperStory

How do u not get irritated by cohabiting with a lady you've not married

I would lose interest in her for sure. You cant be acting all Wifey with me when you're still a girlfriend.

Invite one of your female siblings over, her presence is enough to frustrate your bae out of the house.

She brought up the idea of me supporting her to get her apartment, this is someone that work and even earn more than me. Truely naija babe are so entitled,stingy and selfish. Her presence is not benefiting to me atal. Despite her being around, she lazy around, she sleeps a lot, she wakes up by 9/10am and that's when I disturb her to wake and get things done in the house. Despite me taking all the bills, I still do my chores, wash my cloths, clean and sweep, attimes I cook and wash dishes. I told her that if she wants to continue living with me, she need to start contributing but she always oppose it and tell me am her boyfriend and should be able to take care of her and feed her. Can you just imagine such a words from someone so irresponsible and doesn't want to do anything. Reason why am made up that she must leave cos her presence is not contributing anything beneficial to me

advanceDNA:
Lol.....this nigga is funny...expecting support from a Nigerian babe staying in his house??

See baba, In her head, she's already supporting you by dating you....see...dont get it twisted oooo...she staying in your house is also her doing u a favour in her head...not the other way round

Hahahahahahahaha... It's like u just came from abroad not too long ago... ...

Don't forget...the apartment she wants to rent..u will pay all or part of it...

Assin...feeding oneself is a task not to talk of feeding another mouth. Someone you are not even married to. It's annoying

Nice2023:
The economy is really biting everyone.

Sorry.

Tueh!
You begged that woman to stay with you! You disvirgined her! And now you’re fed up! You were the problem in your previous marriage!
You didn’t know “ To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married” when you were begging her to stay with you o. Shameless and wicked man

I know she got a mission and that is to trap me but she has failed cos me self no go allow it

WeddingParol:
What you thought would benefits you is now hunting you. Sorry.

It depends on the city because getting a house can be difficult atimes.

Give her six weeks to get her own house and you have to be singing it to her daily. By the end of the time frame, change the key to your house and tell her to let you know when she would be available to pick her things.

If you love your life and destiny, don't sleep with her again till she leaves. If not, you will fall into her trap and that would be the beginning of a bigger problem.

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Tell her to go..pack her things n put in the sitting room..
Then she will know u are serious

Afodot0022:
She brought up the idea of me supporting her to get her apartment, this is someone that work and even earn more than me.

na from afar dem dey enjoy banny pass once banny enter ur crib on a cohabitation level. ..guy forget,u don run urself street.... Nor complain too much....u don fvck up already...

Only one thing will get her out of your house quickly.....You pay her rent..and cut her off because she go expect say you go keep paying rent ..

because if wan use break up make her leave...u need to be as wicked as bokoharam ooo .because, where u want make she sleep if she leave ur house...??

Look on the bright side man...this period she came to stay has given u a taste of what marriage will look like ...she's not helpful, not kind, see u housing her as her right as girlfriend and not helping her...her yansh na her leverage....

Afodot0022:
She brought up the idea of me supporting her to get her apartment, this is someone that work and even earn more than me. Truely naija babe are so entitled,stingy and selfish. Her presence is not benefiting to me atal. Despite her being around, she lazy around, she sleeps a lot, she wakes up by 9/10am and that's when I disturb her to wake and get things done in the house. Despite me taking all the bills, I still do my chores, wash my cloths, clean and sweep, attimes I cook and wash dishes. I told her that if she wants to continue living with me, she need to start contributing but she always oppose it and tell me am her boyfriend and should be able to take care of her and feed her. Can you just imagine such a words from someone so irresponsible and doesn't want to do anything. Reason why am made up that she must leave cos her presence is not contributing anything beneficial to me

Loool Zero value add while she is depleting you.

But here you asking for advice, like you don’t know what must be done immediately. She earning more than you and you still want to pay part of the rent for her lol. Are you sure she never tie you for one shrine.

Just dey play

Op, what about all the "dobo" you have doboed her

Which akant she go put that one.

Better wake up and propose.

If you're not married to someone, you've no business moving them in and asking them to play housewife, househelp, and atm. Take care of yourself and pay your own bills. You're just one man, therefore there's no reason why your laundry should be piling up. As a man, you should likewise know how to cook your own food. You were previously married and have kids, which makes me think your wife was doing all the chores in the home while you didn't lift a finger or didn't want to. From your other threads, you were obviously looking for a maid and someone's money to mooch off on. However, your plan has backfired because the girl is no dummy. It's time to look in the mirror at the common denominator (you) because every woman seems to be the problem but you.

Starboytwo:
Op, what about all the "dobo" you have doboed her

Which akant she go put that one.

Better wake up and propose.

She did not dokoed him abi??.... Na men like u dey make banny use sex as leverage for everything, even in marriage

I am not expecting any wifey duty from her. I can do all my chores and don't find it an issue. Ever since I divorced, have been doing things in my own way and have peace of mind. Even though she is not my wife, she shouldn't make herself useless and a liability, she doesn't do chores neither does she support or contribute. She just want to live free while eating free food. Even wife's contribute despite doing all the chores at home so I don't know what you are clamoring about

TheWinterBird:
If you're not married to someone, you've no business moving them in and asking them to play housewife, househelp, atm. Take care of yourself and pay your own bills. You're just one man, therefore there's no reason why your laundry should be piling up. As a man, you should likewise know how to cook your own food. You were previously married and have kids, which makes me think your wife was doing all the chores in the home while you didn't lift a finger or didn't want to.

advanceDNA:


She did not dokoed him abi??.... Na men like u dey make banny use sex as leverage for everything, even in marriage

Bros, person wey open eyes admit woman for house no get any help pass the free "dobo".

The woman way enter man house too don ready mind say na dobo she brings to the table. Or are you insinuating the woman jazz the man.

Man don dobo dobo dobo tire, he Don tire, he no freak am again, he con come here make we help am pursue him partner.. I no dey help such help. Na mumu help I dey call that one.

Make he Continue dey fire the dobo.. That's his work.

Yes, you were looking for a maid and mooch. These are your own words below in one of your previous threads. She did not even want to stay with you, it was you who talked her into it.

Afodot0022:
.... , I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are there..
1...
2... She works and earn a decent salary which I think will be an added advantage for me by her supporting by we both sharing bills together, it will lessen by burden. Though I haven't discussed this with her yet but hope to soon cos I can't let her depend solely one me while she works.

3.... Ever since I separated from my wife, it's not been easy living alone as a man, the cooking ,washing ,cleaning and loneliness has not been easy, so we living together will atleast help me in these area.

To be candid, the girl is a good girl and I was the one that disvirgin her, she is submissive and respect me, but you know you can really say of a person character until you live with them.

Do you think it make sense I share bills with her or I should should all financial responsibility even though am not capable of that now..

https://www.nairaland.com/8171243/should-allow-girlfriend-live-me#down

Afodot0022:
I am not expecting any wifey duty from her. I can do all my chores and don't find it an issue. Ever since I divorced, have been doing things in my own way and have peace of mind. Even though she is not my wife, she shouldn't make herself useless and a liability, she doesn't do chores neither does she support or contribute. She just want to live free while eating free food. Even wife's contribute despite doing all the chores at home so I don't know what you are clamoring about

Yes, you are. Stop lying.

Starboytwo:
Bros, person wey open eyes admit woman for house no get any help pass the free "dobo".

The woman way enter man house too don ready mind say na dobo she brings to the table. Or are you insinuating the woman jazz the man.

Man don dobo dobo dobo tire, he Don tire, he no freak am again, he con come here make we help am pursue him partner.. I no dey help such help. Na mumu help I dey call that one.

Make he Continue dey fire the dobo.. That's his work.

...weda u Bobo woman or u no dobo....they are both human beings living together that should not be a source of tension to each other....

U eat free food, live bills free,still dirty join, She dey even expect make the pay the rent of the house wey she dey find.... Her tension too much

TheWinterBird:
If you're not married to someone, you've no business moving them in and asking them to play housewife, househelp, and atm. Take care of yourself and pay your own bills. You're just one man, therefore there's no reason why your laundry should be piling up. As a man, you should likewise know how to cook your own food. You were previously married and have kids, which makes me think your wife was doing all the chores in the home while you didn't lift a finger or didn't want to. From your other threads, you were obviously looking for a maid and someone's money to mooch off on. However, your plan has backfired because the girl is no dummy. It's time to look in the mirror at the common denominator (you) because every woman seems to be the problem but you.

if the girl is not a dummy, she should be able to take care of herself not a liability.

TheWinterBird:
If you're not married to someone, you've no business moving them in and asking them to play housewife,

U are right...he shouldn't expect wifey duties

but it's okay for her to expect wifey privileges. eating free in this economy, keeping her money, not being kind enough to help her host, bills free, still expect him to pay her rent....

There's nothing wrong in both parties expecting some advantage in staying togeda ....why u think e should expect nothing from her staying there is absurd ......but hey! I'm sure we will soon get to the "she ddnt force him" part....

advanceDNA:


...weda u Bobo woman or u no dobo....they are both human beings living together that should be a source of tension to each other....

U eat free food, live bills free,still dirty join, She dey even expect make the pay the rent of the house wey she dey find.... Her tension too much

Bros, don't you think that's his own style? Or didnt he see the dirtiness from day one. Too much dobo clouded baba eyes from day one. So na now he just clear.

Im not such men bros, I've had girls over, stayed months sef, during Covid. No such thing. There was dobo all through, at the same time there are terms and conditions... No compromise or little compromise.

This is just a case of a man who got tired of the dobo and started seeing redflags. I don't blame anybody but him....

Starboytwo:
Bros, don't you think that's his own style? Or didnt he see the dirtiness from day one. Too much dobo clouded baba eyes from day one. So na now he just clear.

Im not such men bros, I've had girls over, stayed months sef, during Covid. No such thing. There was dobo all through, at the same time there are terms and conditions... No compromise or little compromise.

This is just a case of a man who got tired of the dobo and started seeing redflags. I don't blame anybody but him....

Weda na after dobo or before dobo....doesn't change the fact that redflag na redflag...

. Even if they are married.....u cant be a source of tension to someone just because of dobo....e go reach one point ring and marriage certificate won't matter..

OP na user . the girl na mumu . after taking ha virginity , u dey find yeye excuses come dump ha . U don chop finish ehn . na mumu she be

Sirqt5:
OP na user . the girl na mumu . after taking ha virginity , u dey find yeye excuses come dump ha . U don chop finish ehn . na mumu she be

Both man and woman enjoy sex