folake4u:
Lol so OP was basically cheating on his girlfriend for one year? And patronising prostitutes?

Oh well, Marriage won't solve your addiction problem. Only you alone can control the battlefield of your mind through Discipline.

He is not ready.

canada123:
Hi guys,

I thought I would have overcome this act by now, posted awhile back about my lust with women and escort, and how I’ve been spending so much on escorts more than $300 per session and from 2022 till date have spent over $20,000 on both escorts, onlyfans models and all. I have a girlfriend I’m in a long distance relationship with in Nigeria , but haven’t told her about this part of me and this my addiction issues. I tried seeking a therapist but it was a pastor and lots of judgemental things were attached to the therapy session, I couldn’t continue with it.

Honestly I feel so lost especially after seeing the escorts or paying, it’s affecting my work and can’t focus at work or anything, the little savings I have , all have been depleted, I try to save back and in a week I can go all out and deplete it again. I need help / guidance. I’m 27 years old living in Canada. I’m just lost and like I posted I think last year and was advised against it, I feel marriage would help me or make me stop.

Bros, you have come again?

You need a therapist, but first, undergo strong deliverance at MFM headquarters. For you to have squandered your SAVINGS on escorts isn't a good thing to read. Or maybe because you have a high libido. For men, this results in high expenses, unlike women who can get any man to have sex with.

As for a long-distance relationship between Canada and Nigeria, sorry but that is a scam especially if you both did not date for at least a year before you relocated. Alternatively, aim to be rich so you build a harem, but how can you fund your entrepreneurial ventures when you squandered your savings?

canada123:
So was able to talk with my girl last night though didn’t go deep in the conversation but told her I saw an escort and all

Interestingly I thought that would be ground for breakup and I would start working on finding a girl here and all, but she said it’s not a deal breaker to her. But still I’m very determined to stop this nonsense I’m engaged in and find my pathway to salvation and redemption.
Just suprised she didn’t see me seeing another girl as a deal breaker or grounds for breakup

Why should it be when she receives free accommodation in Nigeria's most expensive state and hopes to relocate to Canada via marriage?

Gerrard59:

Why should it be when she receives free accommodation in Nigeria's most expensive state and hopes to relocate to Canada via marriage?

I would have loved to tell him the girl is having another or series of men down here in Nigeria... So she's just leading him on.
Long distant relationship is a joke most especially when you aren't married...

The best is for Op to get a girl over there

AlbertoIancu:


Lol. And you think she is not cheating on you too? Broooo. If you believe a 22 year old girl doing NYSC in Lagos is keeping herself celibate for a Canada boyfriend, I have an oil well in my backyard to sell to you.

Fix your life, bro. But not for her sake, for your own sake. Get a real girlfriend, bro. Not some illusionary "long distance relationship".

Find a girl around you that you can be getting pûssy from on a regular. That's the essence of being in a relationship. And why not?

You're young, you have a good job, you live in an open, liberal country. The only thing stopping you is your mind. Game is something that can be worked on. Go watch rizz videos on the internet. Buy relationship books. It's a much worthier investment than sending it to that 419 girl duping you from Lagos.

PS: Sex with a lady whom you have a true emotional connection with beats paid sex by a thousand miles. Taste it and see.

Honestly op has a very big problem.

Op you need to start approaching women both offline and online. This is what I will do if I was you to find a girlfriend in 3 months there in Canada.

Look for women focused activities and join them. It can be yoga, dance class, pilates class and stuff like that. Join things where you are the only man. Make friends with every woman there. Even if you don't get a gf there and you get close to the girls there. They would invite you for programs and when they do they will bring their single friends.

The next thing is for you to go and pay a professional photographer. Get some nice clothes and accessories and take very nice pictures. You can then post the pictures on Reddit and select the best looking ones to post on dating apps. Join a dating app like tinder and pay for premium and put your pictures there. Once a week pay for boost preferably on Saturdays in the evenings. You will get likes and since you are on premium you can see who likes you and match with them.

Try to go out once a week to places with a lot of people and try to talk to women. Get comfortable talking to them.

You won't even have to do everything here to find someone. Forget the girl in Nigeria except you want to be unfortunate. Some of you guys that do live in English speaking countries do fall hands to be honest. What will you now do in a country where nobody speaks English. The language barrier alone is a major problem before any other thing.

FYI if you are fat, just forget everything on this list and go and lose the weight first or you will get more depressed

tensazangetsu20:

FYI if you are fat, just forget everything on this list and go and lose the weight first or you will get more depressed

Oga tensa, you don move from giving tech advice to dating advice?
No be small things ooo. Your recent posts just dey make me burst into laughter.

islamics:



Oga tensa, you don move from giving tech advice to dating advice?
No be small things ooo. Your recent posts just dey make me burst into laughter.

This was what worked for me and I am sure it will work for him there.

tensazangetsu20:
Op you need to start approaching women both offline and online. This is what I will do if I was you to find a girlfriend in 3 months there in Canada.

Look for women focused activities and join them. It can be yoga, dance class, pilates class and stuff like that. Join things where you are the only man. Make friends with every woman there. Even if you don't get a gf there and you get close to the girls there. They would invite you for programs and when they do they will bring their single friends. The next thing is for you to go and pay a professional photographer. Get some nice clothes and accessories and take very nice pictures. You can then post the pictures on Reddit and select the best looking ones to post on dating apps. Join a dating app like tinder and pay for premium and put your pictures there. Once a week pay for boost preferably on Saturdays in the evenings. You will get likes and since you are on premium you can see who likes you and match with them. Try to go out once a week to places with a lot of people and try to talk to women. Get comfortable talking to them. You won't even have to do everything here to find someone. Forget the girl in Nigeria except you want to be unfortunate. Some of you guys that do live in English speaking countries do fall hands to be honest. What will you now do in a country where nobody speaks English. The language barrier alone is a major problem before any other thing. FYI if you are fat, just forget everything on this list and go and lose the weight first or you will get more depressed

For you to take the time to write this post using standard English means you are well-experienced. Looking forward to trying your tips.

Always loyal to your gofment🙌🏿

tensazangetsu20:


This was what worked for me and I am sure it will work for him there.

Agba, odogwu for the girls!

canada123:
I just spent $350 last night on an escort and $15 on onlyfans
For a 1hr session with the escort , after going about 2 weeks without doing anything then I fell back again .

I’m thinking of breaking up with my girlfriend and telling her the truth . She’s always seen me as an angel but clearly I’m a terrible person .

You fit drop $200 for my account this night

I go remember you for my prayers

God dey answer my prayers very fast

Imagine if he hears your name

Gerrard59:

For you to take the time to write this post using standard English means you are well-experienced. Looking forward to trying your tips.

Always loyal to your gofment🙌🏿

He really hammered the nail on the head.

The best and easiest way to get women is to put yourself where women are in abundance. One woman must definitely choose you by the end of the day. Provided you speak well, dress well, and are smart - they will improve your cuteness and looks even if you score low.

However, many men want to just remain as they are without making any effort but expect a woman to fall in love with them - big tummy, rough clothes, baggy trousers, unkept hair and nails, malnourished looks et al.

Women are moved by what they see and hear. A man must capitalize on this to game women. It is not fake till you make it. It's presenting yourself with a unique style and tone. Women will complete the rest of the equation.

Thanks.

tensazangetsu20:
Op you need to start approaching women both offline and online. This is what I will do if I was you to find a girlfriend in 3 months there in Canada.

Look for women focused activities and join them. It can be yoga, dance class, pilates class and stuff like that. Join things where you are the only man. Make friends with every woman there. Even if you don't get a gf there and you get close to the girls there. They would invite you for programs and when they do they will bring their single friends.

The next thing is for you to go and pay a professional photographer. Get some nice clothes and accessories and take very nice pictures. You can then post the pictures on Reddit and select the best looking ones to post on dating apps. Join a dating app like tinder and pay for premium and put your pictures there. Once a week pay for boost preferably on Saturdays in the evenings. You will get likes and since you are on premium you can see who likes you and match with them.

Try to go out once a week to places with a lot of people and try to talk to women. Get comfortable talking to them.

You won't even have to do everything here to find someone. Forget the girl in Nigeria except you want to be unfortunate. Some of you guys that do live in English speaking countries do fall hands to be honest. What will you now do in a country where nobody speaks English. The language barrier alone is a major problem before any other thing.

FYI if you are fat, just forget everything on this list and go and lose the weight first or you will get more depressed

Thanks for your evidence based approach to this issue.

tensazangetsu20:


This was what worked for me and I am sure it will work for him there.

Unfortunately, we have an economically backward society in our country, that makes women chattels to be bought. It’s difficult to adapt from our primitive, unevolved socioeconomic system to that of liberal, progressive and economically strong and equitable societies that whites run.

Nevertheless, your analysis and advice works in our country, to the extent that a good looking, intelligent, well groomed man will score with women, if he has time and “lyrics’ to use on them.

canada123:
Hi guys,

I thought I would have overcome this act by now, posted awhile back about my lust with women and escort, and how I’ve been spending so much on escorts more than $300 per session and from 2022 till date have spent over $20,000 on both escorts, onlyfans models and all. I have a girlfriend I’m in a long distance relationship with in Nigeria , but haven’t told her about this part of me and this my addiction issues. I tried seeking a therapist but it was a pastor and lots of judgemental things were attached to the therapy session, I couldn’t continue with it.

Honestly I feel so lost especially after seeing the escorts or paying, it’s affecting my work and can’t focus at work or anything, the little savings I have , all have been depleted, I try to save back and in a week I can go all out and deplete it again

I need help / guidance. I’m 27 years old living in Canada

I’m just lost and like I posted I think last year and was advised against it, I feel marriage would help me or make me stop.

Marriage is not a cure for addictions. You have to work on yourself first and be determined to be a better person.

anonimi:


Thanks for your evidence based approach to this issue.



Unfortunately, we have an economically backward society in our country, that makes women chattels to be bought. It’s difficult to adapt from our primitive, unevolved socioeconomic system to that of liberal, progressive and economically strong and equitable societies that whites run.

Nevertheless, your analysis and advice works in our country, to the extent that a good looking, intelligent, well groomed man will score with women, if he has time and “lyrics’ to use on them.

Honestly I never knew I was handsome till I left Nigeria. I even started fucking in Chile before I even got a job

CaveAdullam:


He really hammered the nail on the head.

The best and easiest way to get women is to put yourself where women are in abundance. One woman must definitely choose you by the end of the day. Provided you speak well, dress well, and are smart - they will improve your cuteness and looks even if you score low.

However, many men want to just remain as they are without making any effort but expect a woman to fall in love with them - big tummy, rough clothes, baggy trousers, unkept hair and nails, malnourished looks et al.

Women are moved by what they see and hear. A man must capitalize on this to game women. It is not fake till you make it. It's presenting yourself with a unique style and tone. Women will complete the rest of the equation.

Thanks.

What many men don't realize is that dating just as other things take effort. Even how to talk and chat with women has strategies. You can get a lot of women interested in you but if you don't know how to talk to them and get them to bed you will lose them. Everything is strategically.

People put their best effort to get a job and all but don't wanna do the same thing to find a quality woman to enjoy life with.

tensazangetsu20:

Honestly I never knew I was handsome till I left Nigeria. I even started fucking in Chile before I even got a job

Being handsome and having six packs matters very little in our country, if you don’t have six pockets full of money.

Except one adjusts his sexual preferences to suit his extreme poverty pocket.

tensazangetsu20:


What many men don't realize is that dating, just like other things, takes effort. Even how to talk and chat with women has strategies. You can get a lot of women interested in you, but if you don't know how to talk to them and get them to bed, you will lose them. Everything is strategically.

People put their best effort to get a job and all but don't wanna do the same thing to find a quality woman to enjoy life with.

True words, bro.

There's this program on YouTube, Hunt Show by Nons Miraj, that I stumbled on last week. A dating show.

You need to see how many of the men carry themselves so low when coming for a date. Imagine wearing palm slippers to a date. Something that will be televised across nations and continents. I nearly slapped many of them through the TV. Like what the fvck do these men think they are doing?

And trust my Nigerian girls, their mouths were active like analog clocks, ridiculing the men to their satisfaction.

Money is essential for dating and marriage. However, a man who knows how to carry himself with pride and elegance will have a handful of women who will choose and love him.

It's only money that is external and takes a hard time to get. Other ones, like good wear, good haircuts, good conversation skills, good emotional skills, and good storytelling skills, take less effort.

You don't need the most expensive perfume.
You don't need the most expensive shoes and clothes.
You don't need the most expensive gadgets.

Use your 1k or 2k to experiment with the best perfumes in that range, the best haircut in that range, the best clothes in that range, and the best shoes in that range. Simple.

Nobody will ask you how much you purchase them. If you wear them with elegance and a good fit, they will admire and complement you.

Women know this game and are leveraging it. Even an ugly woman knows that she needs to apply makeup + wig. Everything is to get the men hooked. They know what to do next.

There's a woman for every man everywhere he finds himself. He needs to understand how women's psyche works and get them hooked.

What I've come to understand is that as a man, if nobody respects you, you won't bother to build yourself. Because the higher the respect and accolades, the higher the ego, and the faster you want to refine yourself to maintain that level of acknowledgment.

Young men need a foundation of fatherhood + brotherhood to become reputable, strong, and admirable men. However, what we have are confraternities whose sole aim is to steal, k!ll, and destroy. Add to it: smoke and drink their lungs and kidneys till it gets black.

Thanks.

tensazangetsu20:


Honestly I never knew I was handsome till I left Nigeria. I even started fucking in Chile before I even got a job

Day play


Na olosho you day fork

Carcholce:


How did you acquire all these sense?

No, tell me!!! how did you acquire all these knowledge?

By reading Dostoevsky

CaveAdullam:


True words, bro.

There's this program on YouTube, Hunt Show by Nons Miraj, that I stumbled on last week. A dating show.

You need to see how many of the men carry themselves so low when coming for a date. Imagine wearing palm slippers to a date. Something that will be televised across nations and continents. I nearly slapped many of them through the TV. Like what the fvck do these men think they are doing?

And trust my Nigerian girls, their mouths were active like analog clocks, ridiculing the men to their satisfaction.

Money is essential for dating and marriage. However, a man who knows how to carry himself with pride and elegance will have a handful of women who will choose and love him.

It's only money that is external and takes a hard time to get. Other ones, like good wear, good haircuts, good conversation skills, good emotional skills, and good storytelling skills, take less effort.

You don't need the most expensive perfume.
You don't need the most expensive shoes and clothes.
You don't need the most expensive gadgets.

Use your 1k or 2k to experiment with the best perfumes in that range, the best haircut in that range, the best clothes in that range, and the best shoes in that range. Simple.

Nobody will ask you how much you purchase them. If you wear them with elegance and a good fit, they will admire and complement you.

Women know this game and are leveraging it. Even an ugly woman knows that she needs to apply makeup + wig. Everything is to get the men hooked. They know what to do next.

There's a woman for every man everywhere he finds himself. He needs to understand how women's psyche works and get them hooked.

What I've come to understand is that as a man, if nobody respects you, you won't bother to build yourself. Because the higher the respect and accolades, the higher the ego, and the faster you want to refine yourself to maintain that level of acknowledgment.

Young men need a foundation of fatherhood + brotherhood to become reputable, strong, and admirable men. However, what we have are confraternities whose sole aim is to steal, k!ll, and destroy. Add to it: smoke and drink their lungs and kidneys till it gets black.

Thanks.

Some Nigerian men in the abroad haven't haven't had a haircut in two years and they want to Bleep Oyinbo . Look like shit, smell like shit. Behave like shit and still come online to write nonsense.

Kaczynski:



Day play


Na olosho you day fork

E pain am

tensazangetsu20:


Some Nigerian men in the abroad haven't haven't had a haircut in two years and they want to Bleep Oyinbo . Look like shit, smell like shit. Behave like shit and still come online to write nonsense.

It's the arrogance of the Nigerian human species - male and female.

You'll think that a population that makes so much noise and blab all day have something of good worth that ranks above other nations. Nothing bro. Nothing.

Stupid, arrogant, and poor - a combination that is on par with the black color for justifying everything that is wrong. Rather than enhancing the black beauty. A clear definition of the average Nigerian.

Black advancement will start with men. Men leaving their jobs and pock-nosing in women's affairs when they haven't done their homework reeks of foolishness. Women will continue to plummet until men stand up. It definitely must start from a point.

Black men need to step up. Because that's the only way the black race can be restored to glory. And this is beyond the sexual stratosphere.

Thanks.

I’m speechless, this community is amazing , I’ve started getting myself back, one week plus and I’m all clean, getting into a much bigger career with more pay, truly amazing but still im working on getting a girlfriend here and I’ve left my ex that I was dating in Nigeria .

It's very simple to stop when the money runs dry in your case

Other than that
I don't think you can stop as long as you money is still coming

For a start
Delete all those app
Including your bank app
You can break your ATM

canada123:
I’m speechless, this community is amazing , I’ve started getting myself back, one week plus and I’m all clean, getting into a much bigger career with more pay, truly amazing but still im working on getting a girlfriend here and I’ve left my ex that I was dating in Nigeria .

Follow everything I wrote up there and if you don't get a gf in 3 months you can sue me. I did the same in Chile with Spanish that I still don't speak very fluently. If I was in Canada, I could probably do it in a month.

tensazangetsu20:


Follow everything I wrote up there and if you don't get a gf in 3 months you can sue me. I did the same in Chile with Spanish that I still don't speak very fluently. If I was in Canada, I could probably do it in a month.

Bro, you get similar advice for women?

Karleb:


Bro, you get similar advice for women?

Lol I no get advice give Nigerian women Sha. First thing first make them make their pot belly vanish and drop their entitlement mentality. A Nigerian woman in Chile with her Nigerian mindset will die single. Even boyfriend she no go see . If you think you can bill Chilean men then you are on your own o. People that have kids and completely abandon them . You go too hear am. Chile has the highest rate of single motherhood in all of the OECD nations. Chilean men don't get married and hate responsibility. For a Chilean man to marry you, omho he loves you o.

tensazangetsu20:


Follow everything I wrote up there and if you don't get a gf in 3 months you can sue me. I did the same in Chile with Spanish that I still don't speak very fluently. If I was in Canada, I could probably do it in a month.

Definitely, I created a tinder and bumble account recently ,

Also have a date with a mixed Dominican and Brazilian lady , 2nd week of September, hopefully it goes well.

But I’m now open to other ethnicities and races, not limiting myself to just Nigerians

BBM:
It's very simple to stop when the money runs dry in your case

Other than that
I don't think you can stop as long as you money is still coming

For a start
Delete all those app
Including your bank app
You can break your ATM

I’m trying too, deleting my app or breaking my atm card might be difficult

Sapasenator:


He is not ready.

It’s not that easy the way you put it, I’m working hard on myself , addiction can be a really terrible thing

canada123:


Definitely, I created a tinder and bumble account recently ,

Also have a date with a mixed Dominican and Brazilian lady , 2nd week of September, hopefully it goes well.

But I’m now open to other ethnicities and races, not limiting myself to just Nigerians

I don't even know the appeal of being abroad and dating a Nigerian. I don't even want to touch a black woman again in this life. I don see shege for their hand. When I see them on the road I carry my head up as if they don't exist