This is my response to all the threats and curses on this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/8206379/marry-someone-lives-rooms-like


Have you ever noticed how some men seem to recoil at the sight of a woman who knows exactly what she wants? It's like they’re stuck in the 12th century, expecting us to be quiet, obedient, and ready to fit into their mold of what a woman should be. times have changed!

I’ve seen it firsthand, especially when I posted about not wanting to settle with a man in a one bedroom apartment. The backlash was real. But why? Why is it so threatening for a woman to have standards? Is it really about the apartment, or is it about men’s fragile egos?

The truth is, many men still aren’t used to women who assert themselves and have clear goals. It messes with their sense of control. They want us to stay in our place, but guess what? Our place is wherever we decide it is.

What’s even more telling is how defensive they get. The second a woman says she wants more out of life, suddenly we’re too demanding or difficult. But it’s not us who need to change it’s their outdated mindset.

Maybe it’s low self-esteem, or maybe they just can’t handle the fact that women aren’t here to play second fiddle anymore. Either way, it’s not our job to shrink ourselves to make them comfortable. If a man can’t handle a strong woman, that’s his problem not ours.

The world has moved on, and so should they. Women are building empires, making their own money, and setting the terms for their lives. We’re not going back to the days of being seen as sex slaves or kitchen workers. So, to all the men out there feeling threatened step up or step aside.

To my fellow women, keep standing strong in your truth. Don’t let anyone guilt you into settling for less just because it makes them feel better about themselves. Keep pushing, keep thriving, and let them catch up if they can.

Lol where are the strong women? The ones that are shaking yansh on tiktok ? Married women sef don join the useless women.

BigJoe19:
Lol where are the strong women? The ones that are shaking yansh on tiktok ? Married women sef don join the useless women.

It's funny how some of you guys equate strong with only being serious or stern. Strength comes in many forms, including the freedom to express yourself however you choose. If a woman feels confident shaking yansh on TikTok, that doesn’t make her any less strong. True strength is living life on your terms, unapologetically.

a woman who knows exactly what she wants?

what you mean exactly by this line?

"The second a woman says she wants more out of life, suddenly we’re too demanding or difficult.

There is NOTHING wrong with wanting more out of life. NOBODY will criticise, shame or condemn anybody for wanting more out of life.

Problem ONLY arises when women who want more out of life DEMAND that men give it to them.

You CANNOT claim to be a strong independent woman and RELY on your BF/husband to buy you that bone-straight you long for.

You CANNOT be a strong independent woman and still expect your fiance to fork out 90% of the cost of financing YOUR dream wedding.

You are NOT a strong independent woman just because you can make increasingly FORCEFUL and AGGRESSIVE demands from men.

NOBODY will bat an eye if a lady with her OWN house, or even a well-furnished 2-bedroom, says she'd NEVER date/marry a man that lives in a self-contain apartment.

Nobody!

But trying to shame men who live in a well-furnished self-contain apartment when you still live with your parents at their ANCIENT family house is MADNESS!

Lessonteacher:

a woman who knows exactly what she wants?

what you mean exactly by this line?

Even a woman knows women don't know what they want😂

BaddieFreak:


It's funny how some of you guys equate strong with only being serious or stern. Strength comes in many forms, including the freedom to express yourself however you choose. If a woman feels confident shaking yansh on TikTok, that doesn’t make her any less strong. True strength is living life on your terms, unapologetically.

Oya dey shake your expressiveness. Gettout jare.

Lessonteacher:

a woman who knows exactly what she wants?

what you mean exactly by this line?

When I say a woman who knows exactly what she wants, I mean a woman with clear goals, standards, and values. She’s not afraid to express her desires or set boundaries, and she won’t settle for anything less than what aligns with her vision for her life. It’s about being intentional and unapologetic in pursuing what fulfills her.

Negroid001:


Even a woman knows women don't know what they want😂

A woman knowing what she wants isn’t up for debate we’re not confused. The real question is, why is it so hard to accept that women can be decisive?

BaddieFreak:



A woman knowing what she wants isn’t up for debate we’re not confused. The real question is, why is it so hard to accept that women can be decisive?

Lemme say you're not wired that way.

Negroid001:


Lemme say you're not wired that way.

Lol, funny I forgot you are the creator of all living being, you wired every living being on earth. I’m wired to know my worth and set my standards, just like anyone should be. It’s not about wiring it is about you guys fragile ego and low self esteem

BaddieFreak:


It's funny how some of you guys equate strong with only being serious or stern. Strength comes in many forms, including the freedom to express yourself however you choose. If a woman feels confident shaking yansh on TikTok, that doesn’t make her any less strong. True strength is living life on your terms, unapologetically.

Lol bullshit. People that matter are not shaking yansh on TikTok, even the queen of the whoredom women Kim k doesn't.

Namaster:
"The second a woman says she wants more out of life, suddenly we’re too demanding or difficult.

There is NOTHING wrong with wanting more out of life. NOBODY will criticise, sham or condemn anybody for wanting more out of life.

Problem ONLY arises when women who want more out of life DEMAND that men give it to them.

You CANNOT claim to be a strong independent woman and RELY on your BF/husband to buy you that bone-straight you long for.

You CANNOT be a strong independent woman and still expect your fiancee to fork out 90% of the cost of financing YOUR dream wedding.

You are NOT a strong independent woman just because you can make increasingly FORCEFUL and AGGRESSIVE demands from men.

NOBODY will bat an eye if a lady with her OWN house, or even a well-furnished 2-bedroom, says she'd NEVER date/marry a man that lives in a self-contain apartment.

Nobody!

But trying to shame men who live in a well-furnished self-contain apartment when you still live with your parents at their ANCIENT family house is MADNESS!

I hear you. It’s not about shaming men, everyone starts somewhere. But if I’m building my life towards a certain vision, I need a partner with that same energy. You don’t expect me to settle for less especially considering the fact that I worked so hard to get to where I am today. Strong, independent women set their standards, and yes, that includes choosing who they build with.

BigJoe19:
Lol bullshit. People that matters are not shaking yansh on TikTok, even the queen of the whoredom women Kim k doesn't.

She doesn’t twerk on TikTok but she got stardom with her sextape
Everyone has their lane. Just because you don't see value in how someone expresses themselves doesn’t mean it’s worthless. Women like Kim K made billions while people laughed at her. So instead of judging, focus on what works for you and let others shine in their own way.

BaddieFreak:


It's funny how some of you guys equate strong with only being serious or stern. Strength comes in many forms, including the freedom to express yourself however you choose. If a woman feels confident shaking yansh on TikTok, that doesn’t make her any less strong. True strength is living life on your terms, unapologetically.

You ended up saying nothing.....

There's no such thing as a strong woman or independent woman.

What we have are women with choices.

A women who choses to be submissive to a man and a woman who wants to stand upright and face the challenges of life that comes with extreme depression.

A lady at 30 was with me some months ago and she wasn't enjoying the age movement as she's tired of being single and having all the money and luxury but no man.

You can deceive yourself but you know how challenging it is to do everything without support from a man.

BaddieFreak:
This is my response to all the threats and curses on this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/8206379/marry-someone-lives-rooms-like


Have you ever noticed how some men seem to recoil at the sight of a woman who knows exactly what she wants? It's like they’re stuck in the 12th century, expecting us to be quiet, obedient, and ready to fit into their mold of what a woman should be. times have changed!

I’ve seen it firsthand, especially when I posted about not wanting to settle with a man in a one bedroom apartment. The backlash was real. But why? Why is it so threatening for a woman to have standards? Is it really about the apartment, or is it about men’s fragile egos?

The truth is, many men still aren’t used to women who assert themselves and have clear goals. It messes with their sense of control. They want us to stay in our place, but guess what? Our place is wherever we decide it is.

What’s even more telling is how defensive they get. The second a woman says she wants more out of life, suddenly we’re too demanding or difficult. But it’s not us who need to change it’s their outdated mindset.

Maybe it’s low self-esteem, or maybe they just can’t handle the fact that women aren’t here to play second fiddle anymore. Either way, it’s not our job to shrink ourselves to make them comfortable. If a man can’t handle a strong woman, that’s his problem not ours.

The world has moved on, and so should they. Women are building empires, making their own money, and setting the terms for their lives. We’re not going back to the days of being seen as sex slaves or kitchen workers. So, to all the men out there feeling threatened step up or step aside.

To my fellow women, keep standing strong in your truth. Don’t let anyone guilt you into settling for less just because it makes them feel better about themselves. Keep pushing, keep thriving, and let them catch up if they can.

If this strength you imply is based on external resources, it most likely means little to the men around unless they are potential golddiggers. If the strength is internal, then the category of men intimidated are majorly the ones who are hardly compatible with you on an individual level - they don't share your values or goals.

Plus if being opinionated implies being a habitual critic, then of course such women would find it difficult getting along with most men.

JASONjnr:


You ended up saying nothing.....

There's no such thing as a strong woman or independent woman.

What we have are women with choices.

A women who choses to be submissive to a man and a woman who wants to stand upright and face the challenges of life that comes with extreme depression.

A lady at 30 was with me some months ago and she wasn't enjoying the age movement as she's tired of being single and having all the money and luxury but no man.

You can deceive yourself but you know how challenging it is to do everything without support from a man.

It’s funny that you think women who stand tall and face life’s challenges are deceiving themselves. Having choices is a sign of strength, and yes, some women choose independence because they know their worth. We’re not saying life isn’t tough, it is. but relying on a man isn’t the only way to navigate it. And as for your friend at 30, maybe what she’s seeking is deeper than just having a man.

Mistral:


If this strength you imply is based on external resources, it most likely means little to the men around unless they are potential golddiggers. If the strength is internal, then the category of men intimidated are majorly the ones who are hardly compatible with you on an individual level - they don't share your values or goals.

Plus if being opinionated implies being a habitual critic, then of course such women would find it difficult getting along with most men.

Real men who are understanding will understand that a woman with standards isn't a threat but an equal. Being opinionated doesn’t mean being a habitual critic it means having a voice and using it. And if that makes some men uncomfortable, it’s simply a matter of the man’s fragile ego, low self esteem or mismatched expectations, not a fault in the woman herself.

BaddieFreak:



Real men who are understanding will understand that a woman with standards isn't a threat but an equal. Being opinionated doesn’t mean being a habitual critic it means having a voice and using it. And if that makes some men uncomfortable, it’s simply a matter of the man’s fragile ego, low self esteem or mismatched expectations, not a fault in the woman herself.

Yeah, but understanding men aren't common so there you have it. When you come across a man who is truly compatible with you, you will definitely feel it and appreciate it.

I don't really blame women for shortcomings in relationships due to the fact that a large population of men aren't even authentic in their relationships with them and women aren't directly in control of the relationship but compelled to be under the umbrella of a man they don't respect, hence the criticism, complaining and feelings of resentment. Best to avoid low quality men unless you fear being single.

In all, a relationship should be founded on authenticity and similar worldview otherwise it's just a playground for grown kids.

BaddieFreak:


Lol, funny I forgot you are the creator of all living being, you wired every living being on earth. I’m wired to know my worth and set my standards, just like anyone should be. It’s not about wiring it is about you guys fragile ego and low self esteem

At the end of the day.
You'll still settle down in a Man's house and have to be submissive, at least for most of y'all.
The few that don't, they hoe their way to the top. You can take that lonely and frustrating route too.

Because a good number of them want to have the first and final say, at all times. 🫣

A woman with a say makes it difficult for them, and as such is a “man”.

Mistral:

Best to avoid low quality men unless you fear being single.
In all, a relationship should be founded on authenticity and similar worldview otherwise it's just a playground for grown kids.

💯

BaddieFreak:


She doesn’t twerk on TikTok but she got stardom with her sextape
Everyone has their lane. Just because you don't see value in how someone expresses themselves doesn’t mean it’s worthless. Women like Kim K made billions while people laughed at her. So instead of judging, focus on what works for you and let others shine in their own way.

The way you people call billions on Nairaland enh!

I'm beginning to think the word "Billions" has another meaning I'm not aware of

.

You don't want to settle with a man that lives in a 1 bedroom apartment,... What do you own to ur name apart from your surname?

If you don’t give a woman what she “wants”, she’ll be “unhappy “.

If you give a woman what she “want”, she’ll be miserable!

…women act based on their feelings and not what’s actually good for them. This is why the women who have successfully threaded the OP’s “suggested” path end up very bitter,unhappy and miserable, seeing the world as their enemy.

BaddieFreak:


She doesn’t twerk on TikTok but she got stardom with her sextape
Everyone has their lane. Just because you don't see value in how someone expresses themselves doesn’t mean it’s worthless. Women like Kim K made billions while people laughed at her. So instead of judging, focus on what works for you and let others shine in their own way.

Lol what works for you. There are several women that are far richer than she is but didn't have to soil their reputation, you are low class, I don't expect you to understand the use of a good name. Oprah didn't have to be a social reject to be a billionaire.

We’re not intimidated, those women you’re referring to are often a headache to be with and I don’t know about you but no sane person wants to wake up next to a headache for the rest of his life.

I love women who are independent minded

Negroid001:


At the end of the day.
You'll still settle down in a Man's house and have to be submissive, at least for most of y'all.
The few that don't, they hoe their way to the top. You can take that lonely and frustrating route too.

It’s funny how some of you still think a woman’s only options are either submission or "hoeing" her way to the top. There’s actually a third option: choosing to live life on our own terms, without being boxed into outdated stereotypes. We’re not in competition with men we’re creating our own lanes. And trust me, it’s far from lonely or frustrating when you know your worth.

Facidio:
You don't want to settle with a man that lives in a 1 bedroom apartment,... What do you own to ur name apart from your surname?

I know my worth and have standards and the things that I have achieved in my life, I bet you can only dream of.

BaddieFreak:


It’s funny how some of you still think a woman’s only options are either submission or "hoeing" her way to the top. There’s actually a third option: choosing to live life on our own terms, without being boxed into outdated stereotypes. We’re not in competition with men we’re creating our own lanes. And trust me, it’s far from lonely or frustrating when you know your worth.

It's a pity with all your baseless writeup you'll still submit to a man. Ranting on nairaland is one thing thing, facing reality is another.

BigJoe19:
Lol what works for you. There are several women that are far richer than she is but didn't have to soil their reputation, you are low class I don't expect you to understand the use of a good name. Oprah didn't even have to be a social reject to be a billionaire.

Lol, it's funny how quickly you assume you know someone's story based on a few words online. Not everyone needs to follow Oprah’s path to success there's room for all of us to walk our own unique journeys.