Good morning nairalanders, how's the country's current situation on us all it's been long I wrote was having issues with my phone I believe I had to try to sort it out offline took me weeks but I thank God for everything.
Some of my family members are trying to pressure my cousin sister to go back to her hubby siting that the kids are too small and that he will change but she has made her points known because now she's working to care for her kids and he wasn't supporting her with Money especially in the school aspect.

Fending for two kids( he always wanted a male child) she have birth to females and he asked her to get pregnant again and her last child was barely 6 months she refused and then the abuse increased plus the fact that he stopped the little feeding money he was giving someone who's earning 100k plus then now it has been increased already.
If she get rice he would not buy rice again and would rather go to the market to buy the items himself,she couldn't eat properly as all she ever earn went to the kids what if just what if she had taken in and given birth to a female her whole existence would have been over this is someone who contemplated killing herself because he said she has a cursed womb for birthing female kids.
Now I'm seeing a lot of men complaining about their wives not contributing anything but they're still happily married to most of them no matter anything they're still providing for them. Before school resumed he told her to take the child to a government school and the child is barely 6 because she told him the 20k he's sending for the two kids isn't enough.

Since she's adding her own money to it as well feeding is minus from the 20k because it all goes to school, just to buy snacks for the kids is how much??per each day not to talk of feeding. She is currently trying to get a hand work adding it to her job since he bluntly refused her from learning hmm. Some people would just be trying to by force things they don't want to think of the other side,the death threats and the rest it's so scary to think about. They're just believing that once she goes back everything would be fyn... someone who was hoping that she would come back because of the shame of being a single mother. We can't change the past but the future should be better at least, fast forward to today resumption has begun with list of things to get thank God we saved enough but that doesn't mean we would not still be needing money, during the holidays it was 15k for that month because they were not in school. Now she messaged him and told him to take responsibility for the fees so they can cut for each person since first term is almost four months at least so that it will reduce for her I don't know how they do it on Whatsapp that you would read messages yet it won't show that you did that's what this man did next thing he put the message on disappearing message for 24 hours and he has been doing that before immediately she drop message with no reply. This is the same person they are asking her to accept some family members Sha and they're not the ones taking care of her or even the kids oh. Are female kids not kids like is it a crime really?? I have warned them to stop telling her that what matters is that she is sane because she almost lost her sanity in that marriage. What's your take on this am I being too harsh?? Is she not able to forgive like someone told her that she no dey forgive oh, his attitude says it all that there's not going to be anything new that she hasn't seen before I just don't wonder how some women feel or think I'd it better she endure?? Your comments are very important.

Honestly,and personally,I prefer FEMALE kids to male kids......But I won't castigate anybody else for having his own preference tho,cuz we are all humans...

Secondly, marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured...........If your peace of mind isn't secured,at least,in marriage,then of what purpose or reasons are you still there? Abi you think say life get part two?

As a matter of fact,I always use my parents as a case study whenever stories like these come up......I remember when growing up,my dad used to be a chronic womanizer.......My mom of blessed memory would do all her best, fighting my dad's countless side chicks and even fighting my dad......But all were to no avail...........Las las,after my mom's demise,it didn't even take up to two months before my dad, who's a typical urhobo man started frolicking with other women

Bro,na who die nai lose..........If your sister say she isn't going back,make una no force her.....Cuz na she know wetin she pass through for the man hand and house for the first time........A man who goes to the market to buy food stuffs by himself while his wife is at home? . What a red flag indeed!!! .

Ididnt bother reading everything...


Tell your cousin sister no to listen to those wicked souls advising her to go back to her irresponsible hubby ...

Her kid is young so what .. dont we have ladies who have raised children without the help of those devil's spawn

She is even lucky that both kids are females... Abeg make she no bother born again to avoid having a male child that one will be the father's incarnate...

Dead gender...

Candidlady:
Ididnt bother reading everything...


Tell your cousin sister no to listen to those wicked souls advising her to go back to her irresponsible hubby ...

Her kid is young so what.. do w have ladies who have raised children without the help of those devil's spawn

. Calm down sis . Everyday must not be spent on bashing and hating on the same gender that gives your fellow gender her greatest source of orgasms

You don demonize your cousin hubby for this write-up already, if all you said is true, then I wouldnt advise she goes back to her

Fending for two kids( he always wanted a male child) she have birth to females and he asked her to get pregnant again

I once thought about this.

I dont want a female child in this life but if my first two children turns out to be girls, we no dey give birth again be that. Nothing to try out again, cause having three girl child go just make me dey vex for myself

Sonnobax15:

Honestly,and personally,I prefer FEMALE kids to male kids

Who wouldn't prefer heaven to hell

Sonnobax15:
. Calm down sis . Everyday must not be spent on bashing and hating on the same gender that gives your fellow gender her greatest source of orgasms

Not me... Icant say for other ladies.. but idont see what your gender has that could/can make me go Gaga.. imean nada

Candidlady:


Who wouldn't prefer heaven to hell



Not me... Icant say for other ladies.. but idont see what your gender has that could/can make me go Gaga.. imean nada

. My dear candid,it's very obvious it's been long you Moannnnnnnnnnnnnned .

Don't lie

Jokes apart, just like I already said...That everyone has his own preference..........As for me, I've always been a lover of female kids right from time.....So when I see men fighting their wives over inability to give birth to male kids,I always but wonder why......Well, their choices tho..

Is there no agency in your state that she can involve to get the man to fulfill his obligations towards their children?

The father of the children have an obligation to make provisions for the children and should not be subject to the mother of the children living with him or getting pregnant again.

He is a toxic human being and misses diffusing his toxicity unto his wife. Let your cousin start out with a legal separation as she rebuilds her life and let each party's obligations towards the children be clearly spelt out

Let her seek the intervention of the social welfare office in their state of residence, they will bring him to the table for discussion as he has a duty of care towards those children.

In all her doings, she should NEVER go back to him.... her focus should be on their 2 daughters, nurturing them to have a chance of better outcomes in life.

eniolorunfe:
Is there no agency in your state that she can involve to get the man to fulfill his obligations towards their children?

I wish there was honestly speaking because it's just a matter of time before he stops that's why she is trying to get more work that she would be doing on her own anything just so she doesn't depend on anyone,they both agreed to help each other before marriage she getting a catering hand work or nursing but the man was just lying all through and immediately he married her he denied everything even asked her to save up the money for her nursing school from her meager salary for half a dozen year after that give it to him to do business since she doesn't know what to do with money even after all these being said her fellow woman is asking her to come back because street is tight,no be say she dey find man or anything, someone who is used to working like a Jackie she said she's going to continue the hustle since her past can't be changed it's painful but what else is she supposed to do.

Mindlog:
The father of the children have an obligation to make provisions for the children and should not be subject to the mother of the children living with him or getting pregnant again.

He is a toxic human being and misses diffusing his toxicity unto his wife. Let your cousin start out with a legal separation as she rebuilds her life and let each party's obligations towards the children be clearly spelt out

Let her seek the intervention of the social welfare office in their state of residence, they will bring him to the table for discussion as he has a duty of care towards those children.

In all her doings, she should NEVER go back to him.... her focus should be on their 2 daughters, nurturing them to have a chance of better outcomes in life.

you are very correct we would definitely do something about it the sooner the better I really appreciate the comments everyone of you is giving out God bless you all

Jozilinn:
Good morning nairalanders, how's the country's current situation on us all it's been long I wrote was having issues with my phone I believe I had to try to sort it out offline took me weeks but I thank God for everything.
Some of my family members are trying to pressure my cousin sister to go back to her hubby siting that the kids are too small and that he will change but she has made her points known because now she's working to care for her kids and he wasn't supporting her with Money especially in the school aspect.

Fending for two kids( he always wanted a male child) she have birth to females and he asked her to get pregnant again and her last child was barely 6 months she refused and then the abuse increased plus the fact that he stopped the little feeding money he was giving someone who's earning 100k plus then now it has been increased already.
If she get rice he would not buy rice again and would rather go to the market to buy the items himself,she couldn't eat properly as all she ever earn went to the kids what if just what if she had taken in and given birth to a female her whole existence would have been over this is someone who contemplated killing herself because he said she has a cursed womb for birthing female kids.
Now I'm seeing a lot of men complaining about their wives not contributing anything but they're still happily married to most of them no matter anything they're still providing for them. Before school resumed he told her to take the child to a government school and the child is barely 6 because she told him the 20k he's sending for the two kids isn't enough.

Since she's adding her own money to it as well feeding is minus from the 20k because it all goes to school, just to buy snacks for the kids is how much??per each day not to talk of feeding. She is currently trying to get a hand work adding it to her job since he bluntly refused her from learning hmm. Some people would just be trying to by force things they don't want to think of the other side,the death threats and the rest it's so scary to think about. They're just believing that once she goes back everything would be fyn... someone who was hoping that she would come back because of the shame of being a single mother. We can't change the past but the future should be better at least, fast forward to today resumption has begun with list of things to get thank God we saved enough but that doesn't mean we would not still be needing money, during the holidays it was 15k for that month because they were not in school. Now she messaged him and told him to take responsibility for the fees so they can cut for each person since first term is almost four months at least so that it will reduce for her I don't know how they do it on Whatsapp that you would read messages yet it won't show that you did that's what this man did next thing he put the message on disappearing message for 24 hours and he has been doing that before immediately she drop message with no reply. This is the same person they are asking her to accept some family members Sha and they're not the ones taking care of her or even the kids oh. Are female kids not kids like is it a crime really?? I have warned them to stop telling her that what matters is that she is sane because she almost lost her sanity in that marriage. What's your take on this am I being too harsh?? Is she not able to forgive like someone told her that she no dey forgive oh, his attitude says it all that there's not going to be anything new that she hasn't seen before I just don't wonder how some women feel or think I'd it better she endure?? Your comments are very important.

Why do some men do these things to their wives? Can’t he remember that he married her before they had kids? She had those kids because of him. The issue of giving birth to girls is not her fault; she didn't create the babies. How can she know she will give birth to girls? Honestly, some men are like this too."

I got cross eyed reading this, could I get a summary? 😵‍💫

Dilaminu:


Why do some men do these things to their wives? Can’t he remember that he married her before they had kids? She had those kids because of him. The issue of giving birth to girls is not her fault; she didn't create the babies. How can she know she will give birth to girls? Honestly, some men are like this too."

he tire me oh like say na God she be, it's just God that is keeping some women alive in marriage.