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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by MadPolitician: 12:09pm On Sep 14
Fiscus105:



What about ur own sisters? Have you blamed your mother too for her failure to training her well?

Fortunately, i have no sisters. Just agile and well trained brothers.
Lucky me!
What are you going to say again?

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Ojagun(m): 12:12pm On Sep 14
ForUrgentSale:
I've removed every thought of marriage or having kids from my mind. I just want to live whatever time I have left and leave this wicked world. I don't care about legacies anymore

Very Good

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by 0neal(m): 12:17pm On Sep 14
Haydens:


If you know about women nature you won't like them neither will you hate them, rather you'll remain indifferent


Finally, You can't be wise and be in love at the same time.

You finish work with this writeup

The present times, necessitates smart measures to prevent being scammed in the name of fickle romantic love.

Genuine desire can't be negotiated

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by sweetkev(m): 12:25pm On Sep 14
Roger3D:
So the government is responsible for you being single abi? grin
Government policies also have effect on individuals and homes.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by 0neal(m): 12:26pm On Sep 14
Fela Durotoye parents were middle class well to do and gave him a solid foundation.

He was working and earning a decent pay prior to meeting his wife.

His wife Tara was already in business, before he got married to her.

He doesn't belong to that list

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by livinbygrace: 12:27pm On Sep 14
To the single mean out there,dont ever marry a broke girl,i mean a lady that is not contributing anything .It wont end well!

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by TossTos: 12:29pm On Sep 14
Hmmm , this is very serious..
Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Roger3D(m): 12:30pm On Sep 14
sweetkev:
Government policies have effect on individuals and homes.
They sure do grin
Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Drone95(m): 12:35pm On Sep 14
Op na ur own u talk o me I no dey hear anything o

Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by sweetkev(m): 12:38pm On Sep 14
Roger3D:
They sure do grin
Funny but true. Its so sad there have been a lot of divorce cases under President Tinubu regime due to the current hardship in the country.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by samuelson06(m): 12:48pm On Sep 14
seunoladele:


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You are a very bad relationship coach.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by felixzo1(m): 12:54pm On Sep 14
Chimarto:
The issue is money no matter how you may paint it. If I can feed well I don't mind marryin, I'm running away from marriage because of the evil government we currently have and I cannot bring somebody's daughter to come and suffer with me just because I married her the worst thing that would happen to a man is to be married to a woman who doesn't have any source of income to support. So when you look at those various parameters you rather prefer to be single and stay on your own at a point in time I've advised myself that I may not even married if the economy continue getting worst.
the some body daughter is already suffering in her house

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Solcampbell: 12:57pm On Sep 14
jeff1993:
To any young man out there please dont listen to this stupid advice!!!

If any girl tells u that let's marry first and we will manage together, my GUY FLEE!!!! FLEE with all your might cos na marriage be her ultimate. After marriage then u will see her true color.

If as a man u dont have money, just look for a lady and impregnate her and make her a baby mama and try to take care of your child.

Bro, how do I go about this?

I'll be 30 next year and I just got admission to study medicine and surgery in a Fed. University after completing my studies some five years ago.

That means I'll be a doctor in the next seven years, all things been equal, (in the absence of strikes and all). I'll be around 37 years at the time.



Since the course is very demanding and don't require distractions and also couple with the fact that I'm not that financially bouyant. Also considering the kind of young ladies we have today, it's difficult to find a lady whose understanding and supportive. And I need all the focus and attention I could get while pursuing my dream. Initially I've been thinking of getting married in my level two or three, but I'm now begining to have serious second thoughts and postpone marriage till I finish my program.

Buuuutttt! I really love children!

And I think seven years is too long a wait to have my own.

Even though na just one pikin i get for now from now till when i graduate, I swear e go sweet me die!

Infact my child will give me more motivation to continue to push harder no matter the obstacles towards the realisation of my dreams, since I'm doing the family I'll raise in the future.

But the problem is I don't even have a girlfriend. Infact, I'm still a virgin.


I live in a very conservative society ( core north). You can't just be moving around or dating a girl or sleeping with her. You must marry her first.

As the matter be like this, I no get money for marriage talk more of getting stuck with a lady whose not working or running a business, a lady who will sit at home waiting for the man to fulfil all her financial needs, even
though na Maggi she wan buy. ( Most northern women are like this)


But I can definitely take care of one or two kids while I continue schooling. I have a side hustle ( freelance writing). It is from this hustle that I've been saving for my studies and I believe from it I can still provide for my kid from now till the next seven years.

Abeg Boss, you know where I fit find such ladies or how I can be connected to such ladies that her and her parents can agree to such an arrangement even though she lives in another state in the south?
I"m a man that keeps to my word and I'll definitely not abandon my responsibilities to her.

Infact, if i get a really good lady that really did a good job in raising my kid , I wouldn't hesitate to marry her after graduation from med. school

PS. I'm not an Hausa man, I'm an Edo Muslim who's very liberal.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Nanalucky: 12:57pm On Sep 14
This days love is all about money.....no woman will love or respect you when you don't have money...... forget about all the talks...my brother get money....look for woman way go born for you..... love die the day you are out of money

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Lazy9jaYouth: 12:59pm On Sep 14
Offpoint1:
No matter how modern woman loves you, she can never feed you, pay bills and take care of family for over 5 years, without you getting her full wrath and that of her family.

Only men can take responsibilities of women for eternity without bending.



Flesh and blood have not revealed this to you

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by professore(m): 1:00pm On Sep 14
seunoladele:


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You have spoken well.
Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Cute9gerian: 1:02pm On Sep 14
diamond68:
all you men who like having many wives are full of oesteogen. Like you are females in men body. It’s hard work being around just one woman but these transsexuals want to have many wives and be around several women gisting and gossiping about rubbish. Like wtf ? Why ? These men are low key transsexuals. Something wrong with their spirit . That’s why it was easy for the white man to come in and capture them all. Sissified men

The fact that you can’t handle more than one Woman doesn’t mean you should project your inadequacy unto others unless you’re a female ofcourse and just straight up bitter. Polygamy has been the norm since the Dawn of time. Virtually all wealthy men that aren’t following this brain washed western ideology of life is polygamous, are you going to say they are sisified as well. It is the nature of man to handle multiple women hence the practice of polygamy and no matter how you resist, you cannot go against Nature.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by diamond68: 1:09pm On Sep 14
Cute9gerian:


The fact that you can’t handle more than one Woman doesn’t mean you should project your inadequacy unto others unless you’re a female ofcourse and just straight up bitter. Polygamy has been the norm since the Dawn of time. Virtually all wealthy men that aren’t following this brain washed western ideology of life is polygamous, are you going to say they are sisified as well. It is the nature of man to handle multiple women hence the practice of polygamy and no matter how you resist, you cannot go against Nature.
and yet you mr many wife with your superior ideology have all chosen to japa to the white mans land.CASE CLOSED. YOU ARE DEFEATED
Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by advanceDNA: 1:22pm On Sep 14
Fiscus105:




Why guys are quickly, to say trash?
In every action thr is always reaction.

Check the guy comment, you will know he is comming from ugly upbringing.

If you know how to talk, remember someone also know how to give u the same amount of reply.

This is public forum, if everyone leaving them to have free useless opinions,.....they would mislead thousands of people now and in future.

many teenagers getting wrong brainwashing from social media and you should also remember, the comments are thre for several years to come for people to read and get either encouragement or discouragement.

If you blame society, you should endeavour to remember that you and others contribute to such decay in society

So....u are insulting his parents because he thinks most modern women no longer love men but date and marry for financial what they would gain..??
So there is no other reason that could have made him have that view asides from having horrible parents??

So let me get this straight.....u think u are doing the society a favour by insulting his parents ??

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Treasure17(m): 1:23pm On Sep 14
ForUrgentSale:
I've removed every thought of marriage or having kids from my mind. I just want to live whatever time I have left and leave this wicked world. I don't care about legacies anymore
Deep. It's well.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by achimendy(m): 1:23pm On Sep 14
Chimarto:
The issue is money no matter how you may paint it. If I can feed well I don't mind marryin, I'm running away from marriage because of the evil government we currently have and I cannot bring somebody's daughter to come and suffer with me just because I married her the worst thing that would happen to a man is to be married to a woman who doesn't have any source of income to support. So when you look at those various parameters you rather prefer to be single and stay on your own at a point in time I've advised myself that I may not even married if the economy continue getting worst.


Don't let Nigerian economy determine whether you'll get married or not , we have other countries with better economies so look else where.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by djon78(m): 1:27pm On Sep 14
seunoladele:


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You can't compare women of then with women of now

A man talking of marriage must have something tangible that makes sense he's doing

If you don't have any tangible thing doing

I am very sorry for you
The kind nagging and disrespect you will get no be small thing

Have something tangible you are doing first

Not just because of woman

But for you to have peace of mind

Be very ok for yourself

Before you begin talk of woman

Because woman/family

Na just expenses

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Neduzoma123456: 1:28pm On Sep 14
I didn't read the rubbish up there ...

But I'm sure the real reason many men are afraid to marry is because of MONEY...period.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Haydens: 2:01pm On Sep 14
0neal:


You finish work with this writeup

The present times, necessitates smart measures to prevent being scammed in the name of fickle romantic love.

Genuine desire can't be negotiated


💯💯
Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Princeton92(m): 2:07pm On Sep 14
Many times i wonder why i need to marry anymore..... I'M TIRED SHA cry undecided

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by pinokio6634(m): 2:10pm On Sep 14
If no be for street we for no Dey see puccy at all,cos all this old men wan collect all the girls finish
Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Moniya4Real(m): 2:15pm On Sep 14
[May wisdom not depart from you bro. God bless you and your brainy brain.quote author=Haydens post=131996268]Marriage in this generation is a scam. Every woman is always using a man in one way or the other if the man is not wise, check it out, if she's not using you as an attention giver she's using u as an emotional tampon or she's using you as a financial mugu or shes keeping you incase if her now boyfriend doesn't later marry her, or she's keeping you as her second option or she's using you to pass through life e.g exam success, promotion, finances or she's keeping you as a free food man especially when she's hungry then she'll remember you or she's keeping you as her status viewer e.t.c the list goes on and on.

If you know about women nature you won't like them neither will you hate them rather you'll remain indifference. They don't love rather they are pure opportunists. Every women that have existed on this planet earth are opportunists, they can't love and dont know how to do it. What's happening in the west gives a perfect definition of how women are opportunists i.e marry a rich man or a celebrity then divorce him in a few months or years then claim half of his properties and monthly allowance that she didn't suffer with him for when he was struggling.

The only love that women have is SELFISH-LOVE.


Finally, You can't be wise and be in love at the same time.[/quote]

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by freakyavia: 2:16pm On Sep 14
funny

when this country ergo this world makes it hard for young men to succeed the old are frustrating men with their leadership or display of wealth
the frustration dey no be lie and motivation isn't there
there is no sure hope of success and

when it comes to women firstly they have population they have all the jobs by virtue of Being women also 99% keep the hookup culture alive by being available to YES MEN and the sugar daddies

what is the use?

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Druss(m): 2:53pm On Sep 14
2 things I am telling my kids about income.

1. Get a job and start working towards financial independence

2. Do not marry someone who isn't gainfully employed or seeking gainful employment either by their hands or someone else's business.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by SeriouslySense(m): 2:57pm On Sep 14
Life is not random nor meaningless, its just bad government policies that make life meaningless and poor leadership with poor capacity to think

traware:


I completely agree with you.
Afterall,life is random and meaningless.
Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by Offpoint1: 3:25pm On Sep 14
gabbytabby:
Why will a real man sit idly and be comfortable being feed by a woman for 5 years you will even loose the respect of your children there should always be a plan b job you can do while planning for your next big break that is why your youth is the phase for foundation building to learn different skills. Your employability and work ethics, your honesty, diligence and humility also come into play.

A job is what you use to look after your family first if you are lucky to get a job that you enjoy doing that is a bonus.

You should always have a plan to move from employment to accumulation to self sufficiency where money then works for you. That is why I no understand this vision less young men running round town chasing skirt upside down. You are what you invest your time on.

The woman is really the price just make sure you get a good committed woman or man the one you would be proud to model your children after and your journey of life will be pleasurable.

You are your children ancestor so be intentional about your choice most marriages are two young people building together just know that you will reap what you sow. How exciting it will be to look back at 60 and know how you have done it your way and come out the other side really proud of yourself.



Read my comment again slowly... Summary is ONLY MEN LOVE, women are in for benefits.

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Re: The Reason Many Young Men Are Afraid Of Getting Married... by AkpaMgbor(m): 4:13pm On Sep 14
jayce232:

People talking about legacies in such a wicked world are just being delusional! Of what use are legacies when u are no more? The moment a man drop dead, everything goes with him, forget all these legacy talk my brother
Only famously rich or inventive men or men who did things that 99% of most men lacked balls to do get legacies that live after them. No matter how good you are, you will not be remembered after your grand children leaves this world. But Hitler will still be remembered. Infact once you pass away from the memories of any living person you are eternally forgotten. 99% of married couples in the 1700s are no longer remembered.

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