I will rather hand over my salary to my mother to hold for me than than give it to my wife - Nigerian man says
A Nigerian man, Martin Chika, has said he would rather give his salary to his mother to hold for him than give it to his wife.
He stated this on Thursday while reacting to a post by a lawyer advising men to let their wives be in charge of their salaries.

“LET your WIFE be in CHARGE of your SALARY as a HUSBAND. If you want to live long. She will find it difficult to spend the money when she is in the know of the Bills to pay. If not she will keep on asking you for money, even if she is aware that you have spent all the money in taking care of the family needs,” the lawyer wrote.

I second the motion with 3 tubers of yam.

This advise is for low income earners. Let's say you're earning 100-250k, you can even transfer it to her sef let her use her hand and plan how it would be spent.

You can't be making over 5m monthly and pay it into your wife's account. That house wouldn't contain both of you the day she requests for 3m and you don't give her,cos she knows how much is coming into your account.

Nazgul:
This advise is for low income earners. Let's say you're earning 100-250k, you can even transfer it to her sef let her use her hand and plan how it would be spent.

You can't be making over 5m monthly and pay it into your wife's account. That house wouldn't contain both of you the day she requests for 3m and you don't give her,cos she knows how much is coming into your account.

If your income is like 250k and you wife, a woman you met like 2-3 years ago knows that you're making upto 170k monthly, you're making a mistake in my opinion

Tallesty1:
If your income is like 250k and you wife, a woman you met like 2-3 years ago knows that you're making upto 170k monthly, you're making a mistake in my opinion

I don't get.

Why not marry your mum once and for all

Talk from those with bad partners

Eish

Nazgul:

I don't get?

In simple terms, a wife shouldn't know how much a husband earns let alone have control of it.

Some men are mummy's boys who never grow up to leave ma's apron strings.

Some men find themselves a woman they can trust and love and grow together.

And some men are just pigs that women should avoid.

Tallesty1:
In simple terms, a wife shouldn't know how much a husband earns let alone have control of it.

It wouldn't matter if he isn't earning much. That's what the girl in the post was trying to say and I agree with it. A struggling teacher earning 50k should let his wife know his income so that she'll grow a conscience and stop asking him for money unnecessarily.

Where there would be a problem is if the husband is a high earner, then he should just keep his earnings to himself.

Nazgul:

It wouldn't matter if he isn't earning much. That's what the girl in the post was trying to say and I agree with it. A struggling teacher earning 50k should let his wife know his income so that she'll grow a conscience and stop asking him for money unnecessarily.

Where there would be a problem is if the husband is a high earner, then he should just keep his earnings to himself.

She should know that he earns 35-40 max.

Because if shit hits the ceiling and he has no backup to hold himself while looking for another job, he may lose the marriage.

Women are naturally not long term supporters.

Tallesty1:

Women are naturally not long term supporters.

This must be the reason women carry babies in their belly for only 9 months and breastfeed for like only 2 years and then abandon their babies.

If women were natural long term supporters, grown men will be here praising their long term supporting women mothers, and would be looking to marry in the same vein as their more intelligent (than them) fathers.

What of us way no get mothers again, how we go come do am

Tallesty1:
She should know that he ears 35-40 max.

Because if shit hits the ceiling and he has no backup to hold himself while looking for another job, he may lose the marriage.

Women are naturally not long term supporters.

Your mind dey there 💯🔥

Women are mostly selfish, greedy and self-centered. They day you fail to meet her expectations, you are a finished.

My ex told me I will put her mum on salary

I have a Ghanian doctor friend...

Who after deducting money for expenses - children school fees, car fueling etc practically hands his wife his bank card to be doing the withdrawals. His wife is a teacher.

I asked him why he does that one time and he says so she won't keep disturbing him for money as she is the one doing all the withdrawals and so when the account is empty she knows and doesn't border him for money and besides that she also knows where all the money is going or how it was spent.

As in she knows when they is no money in his account and therefore won't come to pressure him for money because the only time a woman is satisfied is when she knows there is nothing else left.

At least it works for him!

Tallesty1:
She should know that he earns 35-40 max.

Because if shit hits the ceiling and he has no backup to hold himself while looking for another job, he may lose the marriage.

Women are naturally not long term supporters.

That's exactly what I'm saying

In as much there's sense in what the lawyer said, my own be say, don't start what you cannot finish.
As some posters above said, giving her your salary when you're still a low income earner so she knows what you earn and how to manage it...okay good!!
But by the Grace of God, one will not remain a low income earner forever na, what about when things change and you start earning in millions, would you still allow her control your finances?? You know say once you stop her from controlling it, wahala don burst be that.
For me it goes both ways, whichever you choose, make sure you carry it to the end or else your name na sorry..
Double edged sword... 🤔

Online they are always giving to their mum and sisters. Offline many mothers sold votes to politicians for bread and 1kg of beans. Every man loves his mother on social media. This kind talk no dey move me.

pocohantas:
Online they are always giving to their mum.
Offline many mothers sold votes give poliyicians for bread and 1kg of beans. Every man loves his mother on social media. This kind talk no dey move me.

In real life, they alway give it to their latest ......

brain54:
I have a Ghanian doctor friend...

Who after deducting money for expenses - children school fees, car fueling etc practically hands his wife his bank card to be doing the withdrawals. His wife is a teacher.

I asked him why he does that one time and he says so she won't keep disturbing him for money as she is the one doing all the withdrawals and so when the account is empty she knows and doesn't border him for money and besides that she also knows where all the money is going or how it was spent.

As in she knows when they is no money in his account and therefore won't come to pressure him for money because the only time a woman is satisfied is when she knows there is nothing else left.

At least it works for him!

So he does not save. I pity him.

Wetin do your account wey You wan dey give women your money hold, ehn Woman wrapper?

Elxandre:

So he does not save. I pity him.

I don't think he does...

Honestly!

I am not even giving my mother or my sisters to hold for me. There's something about the female gender that I don't trust when it comes to money, family or not. Their manipulation is too much. I'll rather give the money to my father. Even if he spends it without my consent, it must be for something important, maybe not now but in the future, I will see the importance. Fathers are gold.

budaatum:


In real life, they alway give it to their latest ......

It is not by chochocho. If you genuinely love your mum/birth family, I will know. If you are using them to cause unnecessary tension in the relationship/marriage, I will still know. My brother do pass like this. As I didn't indulge him and warned my mum to stop going to their house unnecessarily - hasn't he rested and faced his home?

brain54:
I have a Ghanian doctor friend...

Who after deducting money for expenses - children school fees, car fueling etc practically hands his wife his bank card to be doing the withdrawals. His wife is a teacher.

I asked him why he does that one time and he says so she won't keep disturbing him for money as she is the one doing all the withdrawals and so when the account is empty she knows and doesn't border him for money and besides that she also knows where all the money is going or how it was spent.

As in she knows when they is no money in his account and therefore won't come to pressure him for money because the only time a woman is satisfied is when she knows there is nothing else left.

At least it works for him!

Reason why you all should marry a doctor🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Nonexisting1:
I am not even giving my mother or my sisters to hold for me. There's something about the female gender that I don't trust when it comes to money, family or not. Their manipulation is too much. I'll rather give the money to my father. Even if he spends it without my consent, it must be for something important, maybe not now but in the future, I will see the importance. Fathers are gold.

When we were younger, my brothers and I saved money and gave to my dad to help us buy family com(computer game), the game is still on the way

I know a girl...

Was doing prostitution abroad. Sent all her savings to her dad in Nigeria to help her save.

Papa wack all the money... Couldn't give account of one naira.

Left the girl depressed.

Why giving people money to keep is what I don't understand... I have trust issues like this 00.

I no trust anyone with my money 0... Not my mom, dad, bank or even myself I dey look with one eye!

drimzsmoke:


When we were younger, my brothers and I saved money and gave to my dad to help us buy family com(computer game), the game is still on the way

Not my father. He is very prudent when it comes to money. My mother will always give one excuse or the other for embezzling your money like Mr. T-Pain.

Nawa. Why not the grand mother?

The man should be in charge of his own salary.

Why do you people always have to choose?

Are you guys possessed?

Why can't you have a mother and a wife you can keep money with?

pocohantas:
Online they are always giving to their mum and sisters. Offline many mothers sold votes give politicians for bread and 1kg of beans. Every man loves his mother on social media. This kind talk no dey move me.

I'm telling you I know men who give their cards to their wives, one I know very well she hardly uses it except if it's an emergency, because she's self employed according to the man if he had the card with him his family would just be taxing him unnecessary before you know it nothing to fees his own self, sometimes after giving them 50k they will say what's the wife helping him with mind you their children attend government school to save cost so it depends if his wife is materialistic then I support him because she probably wouldn't mind using it for something that's not important. So it's according to how the man is, his family, and his wife.

I will hand my salary only over to myself