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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Zahra29: 7:19pm On Jan 23
Ayofemidara:

13, 11 and 5. We are based in Nottingham

https://www.nottinghamcity.gov.uk/information-for-residents/education-and-schools/school-admissions/apply-for-a-school-place/

There is a link for in year school admissions, which is the application you're making. The council will try to place your kids in your preferred choice if there's space, or the next closest

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Ayofemidara: 7:03pm On Jan 26
Zahra29:


https://www.nottinghamcity.gov.uk/information-for-residents/education-and-schools/school-admissions/apply-for-a-school-place/

There is a link for in year school admissions, which is the application you're making. The council will try to place your kids in your preferred choice if there's space, or the next closest
Thank you
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Ayofemidara: 10:04pm On Apr 14
Hello everyone, please help me out. How do I bring someone from Nigeria because child care is killing my salary. Thank you
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Chreze(m): 2:35am On Apr 15
Ayofemidara:
Hello everyone, please help me out. How do I bring someone from Nigeria because child care is killing my salary. Thank you

I believe you can use the general “grandparent want to come see grandchild” story that everyone else uses to get visit visa for parents. That should give you a minimum of 5months stay period on a visit. The grand parent one has been used by a lot of people and it almost always works.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Ayofemidara: 10:41am On Apr 18
Chreze:


I believe you can use the general “grandparent want to come see grandchild” story that everyone else uses to get visit visa for parents. That should give you a minimum of 5months stay period on a visit. The grand parent one has been used by a lot of people and it almost always works.

I will follow this, thank you
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by emeraldoe(f): 5:29pm On Apr 30
babajeje123:

I noticed the change myself, has nothing to do with any third party. We'll try Aveeno and see the effect.
Hi,did you eventually try Aveeno, was it good?
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Chreze(m): 6:38pm On May 01
emeraldoe:
Hi,did you eventually try Aveeno, was it good?

Don’t know what your question is tho, but we all use Aveeno in my house. Wife and son are light skin (close to Oyibo), me dark skin (light dark, not thick dark), works perfectly for everyone. Very good cream for everyone. Wife and son has dry skin. Works perfectly for them.

I will rate the cream 9/10. The remaining one is because nothing is perfect 😂.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Caroline030303: 8:31pm On May 10
Hello All,

I am in need of a live out nanny (African - Nigerian, Ghana, etc are all welcome) for immediate start. I'm Nigerian, live in London-- South West London around dulwich area and has 3 kids. 1st child is in high school and 13year old. I need a nanny for my 2nd child 11year old and 3rd child - 6year old who are both in primary school and need to be picked up from school at 15:15, you stay with them till 19:30 when l arrive from work. During school holidays l will need the nanny to stay home with them till l get back from work.

Email : bookie4reel@yahoo.com

If anyone is interested pls kindly reach me on the email address above. Thanks alot
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Ticha: 10:11pm On May 10
Caroline030303:
Hello All,

I am in need of a live out nanny (African - Nigerian, Ghana, etc are all welcome) for immediate start. I'm Nigerian, live in London-- South West London around dulwich area and has 3 kids. 1st child is in high school and 13year old. I need a nanny for my 2nd child 11year old and 3rd child - 6year old who are both in primary school and need to be picked up from school at 15:15, you stay with them till 19:30 when l arrive from work. During school holidays l will need the nanny to stay home with them till l get back from work.

Email : bookie4reel@yahoo.com

If anyone is interested pls kindly reach me on the email address above. Thanks alot

I know someone looking for a nanny position. How much are you paying?

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by gratefulme40: 10:24pm On May 12
Ticha:


I know someone looking for a nanny position. How much are you paying?


Hi Ticha
Long time. I followed the link you posted on QTS application process and applied for my sister in law, to the glory of God, it was successful

My question now is whether there are sites for teaching jobs. Just like Trac for nhs jobs
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by semitunde: 10:44pm On May 12
obitryce:


Areas with good environment and affordable rents are Widnes, Speke L24, Garston L19, Halewood though they are more I can't remember but if you like the feel of being in naija. Then head to kessington area (quite rugged and dirty). I reside in Speke L24 and it's quite nice with a few black families and less wahala..

Are you still in Speke?
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Ticha: 9:41pm On May 13
gratefulme40:



Hi Ticha
Long time. I followed the link you posted on QTS application process and applied for my sister in law, to the glory of God, it was successful

My question now is whether there are sites for teaching jobs. Just like Trac for nhs jobs

Congratulations to her 👏
Best place is TES - https://www.tes.com/jobs/
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Osoderi(m): 8:58am On May 29
Morning house. pls who has recently travelled from Nigeria and carried extra 23kg to travel back to UK. pls how much??Turkish airline is charging my friend ₦310,000 to carry her 23kg, the amount is too much. pls anybody know how much other airlines are charging for extra 23kg? Thank u
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Stevepop: 6:09pm On Jul 20
Hi everyone, can we apply for funded childcare hours for our 2 year old even if it’s just one parent that has ILR. My partner is yet to qualify for ILR as she’s yet to clock 5 years in the UK or both parent need to have access to public fund before we can qualify? TIA
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Hoelujohn: 6:12pm On Jul 20
Caroline030303:
Hello All,

I am in need of a live out nanny (African - Nigerian, Ghana, etc are all welcome) for immediate start. I'm Nigerian, live in London-- South West London around dulwich area and has 3 kids. 1st child is in high school and 13year old. I need a nanny for my 2nd child 11year old and 3rd child - 6year old who are both in primary school and need to be picked up from school at 15:15, you stay with them till 19:30 when l arrive from work. During school holidays l will need the nanny to stay home with them till l get back from work.

Email : bookie4reel@yahoo.com

If anyone is interested pls kindly reach me on the email address above. Thanks alot
If you need an online Mathematics teacher for them, kindly contact me ma'am.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Estroller: 8:41pm On Jul 27
Stevepop:
Hi everyone, can we apply for funded childcare hours for our 2 year old even if it’s just one parent that has ILR. My partner is yet to qualify for ILR as she’s yet to clock 5 years in the UK or both parent need to have access to public fund before we can qualify? TIA

Yes you can, but do it in the name of the parent with ILR.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 10:16pm On Sep 21
Biko, for couples with babies and no extra support, how una dey balance childcare, work and life in general?

It's really stressful here mehn!
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by MJ01: 11:09am On Sep 22
Hello I’m trying to get Nigerian passport for my toddler as soon as possible.

He was born here and has no means of identification whatsoever.

Can anyone please help with tips and steps to make this possible? Hoping to get it before the end of the year.

Thank you in advance.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by jesmond3945: 6:18pm On Sep 23
MJ01:
Hello I’m trying to get Nigerian passport for my toddler as soon as possible.

He was born here and has no means of identification whatsoever.

Can anyone please help with tips and steps to make this possible? Hoping to get it before the end of the year.

Thank you in advance.
register his nin first and then go to immigration site to book an appointment.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babythug(f): 9:19am On Sep 24
lightnlife:
Biko, for couples with babies and no extra support, how una dey balance childcare, work and life in general?

It's really stressful here mehn!
It is truly not for the faint hearted and only God know if it’ll get easier when the kids get older!

Try and use routines , lists and give the kids age appropriate chores! Bulk cook when you can
Exercise or go for walks when you can and
Pray to help your physical and mental health. It also helps to keep you grounded and as an outlet from all the hassles
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 8:07am On Sep 25
Awesome! Thanks for sharing.

babythug:

It is truly not for the faint hearted and only God know if it’ll get easier when the kids get older!

Try and use routines , lists and give the kids age appropriate chores! Bulk cook when you can
Exercise or go for walks when you can
Pray
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by AgentXxx(m): 8:44am On Sep 25
The screenshot attached has the list of what needs to be done.
MJ01:
Hello I’m trying to get Nigerian passport for my toddler as soon as possible.

He was born here and has no means of identification whatsoever.

Can anyone please help with tips and steps to make this possible? Hoping to get it before the end of the year.

Thank you in advance.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by MJ01: 6:29pm On Oct 09
AgentXxx:
The screenshot attached has the list of what needs to be done.

Thank you
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Midex88(m): 5:25pm On Oct 12
Hi All. Trust we are having a good weekend. a family friend whose visa/brp (husband and wife) is to expire by Oct 2024 just noticed that the brp of their baby girl expired in may 2024.

The recent discovery happened as there were about to apply for PSW for the family.

The family(church members) are presently worried about the child as they do not know the fate of their baby girl.

Will applying for PSW alongside the child correct the issue?

Pls has anyone been in that position and what advise/step can they take to correct the issue.

Thanks My Ogas
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babajeje123(m): 6:31pm On Oct 22
Hi everyone. Not sure if my observation is right but it seems some kids brought in from Nigeria with 3-5 yo are having speech delay to the extent of been referred to speech therapist from school. I've quite a number in my circle and it's worrisome.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babythug(f): 1:24pm On Oct 27
babajeje123:
Hi everyone. Not sure if my observation is right but it seems some kids brought in from Nigeria with 3-5 yo are having speech delay to the extent of been referred to speech therapist from school. I've quite a number in my circle and it's worrisome.

What could be the cause? The new environment? Could it be that the process of transition led to some form of internalised trauma?
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babajeje123(m): 2:20pm On Oct 27
babythug:


What could be the cause? The new environment? Could it be that the process of transition led to some form of internalised trauma?
I can't really say, honestly. I wish this could be researched, saw something like that on twitter recently about prevalence of autism amongst children of black Africans in the UK.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 8:26pm On Oct 27
Just a quick note: Not all instances of speech delay are linked to autism. There are other factors that can contribute to speech delay.

To your original question; the language acquisition process in both countries is different, hence the obvious disparity. This is my initial thinking.

In the UK, most parents are generally expressive and communicate with their kids even before birth and it gets better after birth. They're literally talking to their kids as though they're adults and could respond. You'll see nurses, parents telling a two months old baby "Hey Tim, I want to change your nappy, it's time to eat, it's nap time....". All of those conversations and process shape the child's language formation at that tender age. I'm not sure most Naija parent have thr patience or consciousness to do this.

Also, most children are exposed to books and reading as soon as they're born. Can't say same for most kids in Nigeria. For context, my baby spent about nearly her first month in NICU (ICU for babies). During that time, we met other parents/babies. One of the things we emulated was from a British couple that dodgedly read stories to their "unwell" baby every time. As expected, it wasn't all the British parents that did this. But the few that did, were consistent. Even grandparents came around to read to their grandkids. I'm not sure any Nigerian grand/parent would be even think of reading to unwell child in the hospital.

In the UK, bed time stories are read to kids, educational resources are promoted, giving them a headstart on communicating with a variety of vocab before they turn one. Defects are identified and addressed promptly.

Another thing I've observed is that a lot of British parents have a personal reading culture, something that's rare in Nigeria. This culture somewhat influences the kids and improves their language world.

Additionally, access to quality education plays a key role here. In Nigeria, the quality of education your child receives is based on your financial capability. Whereas, in the UK there's a standardised free-education support from age two. I know there's a global outcry for better education but Nigeria no dey try at all. We're at the lowest rank in terms of 12 years of free, safe and quality education up. Education is a big factor in rating countries as develed or under-developed.

As I've always posited, there are no perfect countries or economies but there are better ones when compared to others.

It'll be nice to see a detailed research into this speech thing.


babajeje123:

I can't really say, honestly. I wish this could be researched, saw something like that on twitter recently about prevalence of autism amongst children of black Africans in the UK.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by SAYOSOLA: 8:47pm On Oct 27
This is so apt! Another factor could be the difference in accent, which could be confusing to a child just learning to speak. They have been hearing a particular accent for the first few years of their life, and suddenly this changes, and then it,s like the language acquisition process has to start again.
lightnlife:
Just a quick note: Not all instances of speech delay are linked to autism. There are other factors that can contribute to speech delay.

To your original question; the language acquisition process in both countries is different, hence the obvious disparity. This is my initial thinking.

In the UK, most parents are generally expressive and communicate with their kids even before birth and it gets better after birth. They're literally talking to their kids as though they're adults and could respond. You'll see nurses, parents telling a two months old baby "Hey Tim, I want to change your nappy, it's time to eat, it's nap time....". All of those conversations and process shape the child's language formation at that tender age. I'm not sure most Naija parent have thr patience or consciousness to do this.

Also, most children are exposed to books and reading as soon as they're born. Can't say same for most kids in Nigeria. For context, my baby spent about nearly her first month in NICU (ICU for babies). During that time, we met other parents/babies. One of the things we emulated was from a British couple that dodgedly read stories to their "unwell" baby every time. As expected, it was all the British parents that did this. But the few that did, were consistent. Even grandparents came around to read to their grandkids. I'm not sure any Nigerian grand/parent would be even think of reading to unwell child in the hospital.

In the UK, bed time stories are read to kids, educational resources are promoted, giving them a headstart on communicating with a variety of vocab before they turn one. Defects are identified and addressed promptly.

Another thing I've observed is that a lot of British parents have a personal reading culture, something that's rare in Nigeria. This culture somewhat influences the kids and improves their language world.

Additionally, access to quality education plays a key role here. In Nigeria, the quality of education your child receives is based on your financial capability. Whereas, in the UK there's a standardised free-education support from age two. I know there's a global outcry for better education but Nigeria no dey try at all. We're at the lowest rank in terms of 12 years of free, safe and quality education up. Education is a big factor in rating countries as develed or under-developed.

As I've always posited, there are no perfect countries or economies but there are better ones when compared to others.

It'll be nice to see a detailed research into this speech thing.


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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 9:20pm On Oct 27
This is a valid point and I'd want to narrow it down to regional accent.

I believe the Nigerian English at any level is closer to what you'll hear in the Southeast and west of England compared to other regions of the UK with heavy accent - Scouse, Scottish, Mancunian, Irish.

I'm particularly invested in language and communication and I get worried speaking with anyone with heavy UK accent.

@Babajeje123 what regions of the UK are the cases you referenced?

After thought 1: Every child possesses the ability to learn new language effectively till around 12 - 18 years. This is linguistically known as the Language Acquisition Device (LAD), as originally expounded by Noam Chomsky. If that holds true in this context, then children under 15 should be able catch with new language and accent.

Now I'm missing linguistic days cheesy Who will bankroll this research?




SAYOSOLA:
This is so apt! Another factor could be the difference in accent, which could be confusing to a child just learning to speak. They have been hearing a particular accent for the first few years of their life, and suddenly this changes, and then it,s like the language acquisition process has to start again.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 9:35pm On Oct 27
Hey, just checking up on you to see how you're getting on.

Were you able to bring someone over to support?

Ayofemidara:


I will follow this, thank you
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babajeje123(m): 8:51am On Oct 28
lightnlife:
This such a valid point and I'd want to narrow it down to regional accent.

I believe the Nigerian English at any level is closer to what you'll hear in the Southeast and west of England compared to other regions of the UK with heavy accent - Scouse, Scottish, Mancunian, Irish.

I'm particularly invested in language and communication and I get worried speaking with anyone with heavy UK accent.

@Babajeje123 what regions of the UK are the cases you referenced?

After thought 1: Every child possesses the ability to learn new language effectively till around 12 - 18 years. This is linguistically known as the Language Acquisition Device (LAD), as originally expounded by Noam Chomsky. If that holds true in this context, then children under 15 should be able catch with new language and accent.

Now I'm missing linguistic days cheesy Who will bankroll this research?




North East

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