First and foremost, wise men do not invest their emotions deeply in relationships or marriages. Their primary roles are to provide, discipline, and protect, not to fall in love or invest emotions—that one is reserved for weak men.

For wise men, everything else is merely a façade they maintain until the inevitable crash. When that moment arrives, they simply laugh and say, "I saw this coming and was already prepared. I can't be caught off guard."

If you catch her cheating, end the relationship. However, if you are particularly attached to the sexual aspect, still break up but in a more amicable manner.

This way, she can remain a casual fling or "friends with benefits." When your desires get the better of you, you can call her to spend the night.

If she catches you cheating, break up with her as well. Why? Because her revenge could be much worse. Women are revengeful—they don't forgive. They'll pay back in one way or another even in 20 years time.

Just don't beg her for forgiveness. It'll make you look weak, yet she'll still deal with you, making you raise another man's child or bringing infection into the house as punishment. Also, you're entitled to multiple wives like Ned Nwoko (just make money), so don't dare apologize — end it instead and save yourself some tears and pains.

She may even lash out violently (you might end up stabbing her in self-defense, or she could attack you), and this could lead to jail or hospitalization. Believing that she has forgiven you, only to find out she hasn't, might have disastrous consequences.

So, regardless of who cheats, as soon as cheating is involved, break up. Failing to do so will only bring regret later.

Now, starting a new relationship: Even if you're single, particularly if you're wealthy, always tell a woman that you are already in a relationship.

Why? Women are often drawn to men who are "taken"—it increases your perceived value. Moreover, many enjoy the thrill of "stealing" another woman's man, whether he's rich or simply possesses those traits they find appealing.

There's another advantage to this approach. If you're financially well-off, women might be content with the idea of being your "side chick," without realizing they are actually the main one. "Stolen fruit" often tastes sweeter.

You can even tell her not to call you during certain hours, claiming that your girlfriend might find out, all while you're actually enjoying your free time at home without interruptions.

Additionally, after telling her you’re taken, if she initially refuses to get involved, continue to be kind and persistent for about a month. If she eventually gives in, this means she can be swayed by a determined man, so proceed with caution—she may be the type to cheat.

On the other hand, if she consistently declines your advances, citing your "relationship" as the reason, you’ll know she has integrity. At that point, it’s safe to reveal that you’re actually single and just wanted to test her character. Either way, you come out on top.

In summary, if you cheat and she finds out, leave. If you catch her cheating, break it off but keep her as a casual partner if you wish.

When meeting a new woman, always claim you’re taken—especially if you’re single. Women are attracted to what they perceive as valuable, and what is seemingly unavailable often becomes more desirable.

sholikay:
Nice one boss ILEGENDD..

But that last paragraph is confusing..

How does a man convince to date a lady with him telling her he is already taken...the mentioning of being single is what may cause a woman to accept your toasting..unless if it's the lady that's toasting you...

Ebubu:
iLeg.endd well done baba

Please reply this my post


This girl started listening to other men after I told her we might not marry, I warned her she will regret it she persisted and until in the end, one guy who got her number from group chat toasted her and she accepted and ended our relationship and went with him. Eventually he wasn't treating her well so she comes to me for consolation and I take advantage of it to sleep with her and give her money once in a while.

Eventually I travelled and she slept with another man because I wasn't around for consolation nacks because she was regretting and can't come back either because she feels I'll only use and dump her.

I eventually got tired of her not staying in one place and blocked her. I unblocked her some months later and she keeps sending me her memorial pictures such as sign out from university, induction pics. She came to my town for her sister's burial and told me she's in town without directly asking us to see, she probably hoped I would offer for us to hang out after months of no seeing, but I didn't give the offer, so in the end she spent her stay here and left without seeing me. She also send me picture of her appointment letter at one job like that some one month after. I congratulated her, ever since then she hasn't been chatting me up again..

What do you think? I think she has gotten the message and moved on. She wanted to use me as bestie without sex but I don't like that role which she introduced after she left that guy who was maltreating her and went for a richer guy while I blocked her.

iLegendd:
As Long as Cheating Is Involved, Do This as a Man

iLegendd:


I went through that too last month. She turned 26 and started taking Church seriously.

She wants something serious and she has been begging for it since 2019 wet met. Just one redflag I saw is the reason I friendzoned her, but the sex kept the closeness.

I told her to go date others to try her luck. She dated a few men trying to find love. I raised the bar high so that other men will struggle to keep up with her expectations.

Too much comparison made it not to last. Even while dating these men, she spent most of her time with me and listens to my command more than anyone else. Even if she's with her man, I'll tell her to come and she'll find an excuse to come see me.

Since age has caught up with her, she wants something serious or nothing. She's a graduate and chatted me up last month that there is a skill she wants to learn.

It'll last 6 months and it's been paid for, I guess her current boyfriend paid for it, so she wanted to stay with me for 6 months as she goes to the place from my house.

I agreed because I'm happy for her and I told her she'll not enter my room and she'd feed herself and stay in my second room—she accepted.

Two weeks to start, she visited one of her exes and I knew about it, based on IT skills. I got upset. Why? She told me since I don't find her worthy to make her mine, that she wants to keep herself for her man.

Realizing she visited the ex for a day, I felt betrayed. And said to myself, "E be like say this ex sabi knack pass me o. Why she go deny me sex, but give it to an ex? Even p*star no knack reach me, let alone her ex." She got me upset and I told her not to come to house again and distance herself from me forever.

Later, I remembered some posts I read where some women said they don't like giving sex regularly to the man they love, but don't mind giving it left and right to the man they don't really care about and they don't mind if that man sees them as a whóre. As long as the man they like don't see them as a whóre, they're fine.

Also, coming to stay in the same house with me, I'll lose my freedom of walking around the house nakéd. We usually shower together, so seeing us shower differently or cook differently (I told her she'll cook on her own) will seem strange. When rain falls, I might be tempted to go to her room or she comes to mine.

Even though she agreed to cook on her own, I'll spend more on feeding because I can't see her hungry and won't share mine. What if she faints and dies in my house?

After much deliberation, I realized I'll lose my peace, my sleep, my money and all I'll gain is sex, which I don't even want anymore.

A week to her packing her load to come stay, I sent her a message telling her I know she visited her ex (who won't marry her, just the same way I won't marry her) and they knacked, but me that has been there for her and curing her konji every single day since 2019, she denied me that same sex because she wants me to commit her, else no sex.

I ended the visitation via text and she didn't reply (a woman if ignoring my text is a no no) In the text, I told her one of those men should accommodate her or do they only want her when they needed sex?

Two days to start after ignoring chat, she messaged and said, "I'll be coming on Monday to start the training." And I warned her for the last time not to dare. This girl sees my house as her own because I treat her like a wife and we fight a lot and reconcile with loud and crazy sex, so she feels it'll always be the same.

Las las, after realizing I was serious, she went to stay in her female friend's house and after a 2 weeks, she couldn't cope with feeding herself and transportation to work. Maybe, two of them probably had a misunderstanding.

From my investigation, she told one of her exes that she has gone back home and life is so tough. After reading that via my spy lens, I said, "Thanks to T-Pain."

I spy one women because I really want to learn a lot about women from experience and teach men how cunny these women are.

They love sex too much, pretend to love God too much and act innocent even when they're cheat. Even if you're the best in the world, they'll still cheap.

You can't stop them, but for me, I want to keep studying them, hence, I spy on everything and this gives me so much clue on how they lie and manipulate things while appearing as saints.

So, with her complaint to one of the exes that she had gone back, I just laughed. She thought life is easy. Without a man, even working class women are suffering right now. Some working class men are even suffering too.

This is someone I have taken care of since 2019 and she never lacked. The only thing she lacked was me not taking her seriously or committing. Money, food, TV sub, data sub, housing, massage, steamy sex, adventure, material things, etc. I provided because I can, not because she asked.

My job as a man is to provide and protect, but making me to commit or love you is close to impossible. Just give me the p*ssy whenever I want and nothing more, but she chose to deny me this time around, so I chased her away and now she dey carry Church for head.

As she fine, get 18 year old young face, innocent and endowed reach, some naive Church members go think say one better godly woman don land. That initial red flag was why I refused to commit.

When we met in 2019, I went through her old FB chats and noticed she was in contact with most of her exes and doesn't see anything wrong with it, so I knew I won't discard this redflag just because of her tight and sweet p*ssy + shape and beautiful face and I'm lucky I didn't.

So, don't EVER allow a woman use you as bestie without sex. The only benefit you have from a woman is to cure your konji.

If that benefit is taken away, walk away except the benefit comes back and you must be the one in control when you want it, not her.

Have you ever seen a man that used to work in a company where he's being paid (benefit for working) but one day, the company said we'll no longer pay you and he continued working there for life? No, he'll quit.

So, to answer you, you did the right thing. This doesn't mean it's the end.

Women love men that lead and are willing to walk away. One day, when she begs to visit, she'll be the one to spread legs without you asking and you'll end up telling her you're not in the mood for such and she'll start begging to have a taste just for the last time.

One day, send her 20k without her asking and say, I know life in this APC's regime tough. Use this small money and buy yourself card take am hold body.

She'll thank you and a few days later, she might want to come visit you, but tell her you're busy and any week you're free, you'll let her know, but that's the end, ignore her for life.

She'll be the one always trying to reach out because she'll feel you're still a kind person.

Months later, if she bills you for financial help because sending her 20k for card made her think you have more to give, ignore the chat.

It's not every woman's chat that deserves a reply. Most chats and calls should be ignored. No matter what women do to you, don't keep grudges, but learn to distance yourself most times and learn to ignore them until the day you want to have a taste after months or year of not contacting each other.

The end.

floss:
You’re good with understanding women, first time seeing a long post that isn’t news that caught my attention…
If you channel this your skill in the positive way you might go far as a relationship/marriage counsellor

frugal:


All these plenty shalaye over a girl? Interesting!

floss:
You’re good with understanding women, first time seeing a long post that isn’t news that caught my attention…
If you channel this your skill in the positive way you might go far as a relationship/marriage counsellor

iLegendd:
I know you're boring, so you have no fun story to share about you and women. Even if you have, you won't know how to put it in writing because you're probably not that smart with words.

iLegendd:
There are some skills you lack. Don't tell me your own skill is on money making cuz I might ask you to do a giveaway to prove you're rich. I know you'll hide. Someone who can't build a refinery is trying to tell Dangoté how to set the price.

iLegendd:
I know you're boring, so you have no fun story to share about you and women. Even if you have, you won't know how to put it in writing because you're probably not that smart with words.

There are some skills you lack. Don't tell me your own skill is on money making cuz I might ask you to do a giveaway to prove you're rich. I know you'll hide. Someone who can't build a refinery is trying to tell Dangoté how to set the price.

iLegendd:
I know you're boring, so you have no fun story to share about you and women. Even if you have, you won't know how to put it in writing because you're probably not that smart with words.

There are some skills you lack. Don't tell me your own skill is on money making cuz I might ask you to do a giveaway to prove you're rich. I know you'll hide. Someone who can't build a refinery is trying to tell Dangoté how to set the price.

floss:
You’re good with understanding women, first time seeing a long post that isn’t news that caught my attention…
If you channel this your skill in the positive way you might go far as a relationship/marriage counsellor

iLegendd:
Lemme answer you in detail with extra info.

If you appear rich, saying you're taken makes a woman want you more. She sees you as sincere. It's hard to find sincere men.

Having pretty women all around you makes more women want you because they feel there must be something magical that makes these other women like you, so she wants to find out herself and explore it.

When you appear poor, being single makes a woman you're interested in distance herself from you because she feels other women don't find you worthy, so why should she? Women like what other women like.

Once in a while, for the well-brought up girls, if she sees a poor guy has a bright future and he's smart, then she might consider dating him, else, na rich man wey dey unavailable dem like because dem like to drag women with their fellow women and they're still the ones that'll write on their status: I can never fight for a man.

On fine and endowed bestie of mine told me that and always posts it on her status, but weeks later, she threatened two girls to stay away from me that she owns me.

One of those girls replied violently by telling her I'll just use and dump her and they started exchanging words. This is the same girl that said she can never fight her fellow woman because of a man.

Don't EVER listen to what women say, pay attention to their actions only. Also, most women have short-term memory when they make these kinds of speeches, but when it comes to revenge, they always have long-term memories.

The reason I like women is because I can handle them and I'm always ahead of whatever games they play. The more academically educated a woman is, the dumber she is in relationship while full of ego and pride.

All my fights and misunderstanding with women, I'm always the one that start them because to keep a woman, you MUST feed her with dramas, trouble, conflict, chaos, great sex, money and fear of losing you.

For the money part, you don't really need to give her money, but she must just know that money is never one of your problems in life, but commitment.

Merry100:

Secondary school love tale. May I ask, how old are you?

iLegendd:
Why is it that when you women want to ask a man for money, you send him a DM to speak with him privately? You don't want anyone to know you're begging. But when you want him to reveal something private about himself, you want the whole world to know? Why is it like that?

Why the shame and privacy when it concerns you and your pride, but so much joy when it doesn't concern you and your pride?

I'm asking respectfully, so reply in detail and do it respectfully. Thank you, Ma.

Merry100:

Honestly, I don't know. I am a private person, and I respect those who choose not to share their entire lives in public. Besides, not all women ask for money or try to persuade men to reveal private information about themselves.

iLegendd:
But you just asked for age, a private info.

Are you telling me, you've never in your life asked a man privately on WhatsApp or FB or any social media for financial assistance?

Merry100:

May God not let that be my portion.

iLegendd:
But you just asked for age, a private info.

Are you telling me, you've never in your life asked a man privately on WhatsApp or FB or any social media for financial assistance?

iLegendd:
Amen! But have you ever asked a man before in your life for financial help? Yes or no is all I want.

ObalendeCMS:


iLeg.endd,

Baba, I been text you on one of your thread.

I earnestly await your reply, Sir.

Merry100:

Never

iLegendd:
As long as replying you won't take money off my pocket, but put in my pocket to add to my business, count me in, else, Tinubu should be held responsible.