I raped her because she didn’t push, she didn’t even move so she definitely enjoyed it. A sick mentality, right?. NO means NO.

Rape is a violation that extends beyond physical boundaries, attacking the dignity, autonomy, and well-being of a person. Unfortunately, misconceptions about consent continue to pervade society, leading some to believe that “no resistance” means “yes.”

Consent is a clear, voluntary, and ongoing agreement between participants to engage in a particular activity. It is not passive or implied by silence or lack of physical resistance. True consent is enthusiastic and mutual, requiring both parties to express a clear desire to participate. Silence, stillness, or lack of physical struggle does not constitute consent; rather, it may indicate shock, fear, or a state of “freezing” a common trauma response.

Understanding consent requires debunking myths and educating individuals about what healthy, respectful interactions should look like.

The mantra “No means no” is essential but should be expanded to “Only yes means yes,” emphasizing that anything short of explicit agreement is insufficient.
Several myths such as “I was drunk, so I couldn’t control myself”, Men don’t get raped, she didn’t push me, There is nothing called rape in marriage, these are myths that are far from true.

Rape culture encompasses myths and societal attitudes that either excuse perpetrators or place undue responsibility on victims for the harm done to them. These misconceptions ignore the reality that many victims may feel paralyzed by fear or trauma, unable to physically resist.

Society will say “It’s because she was dressed indecently”, is that really enough reason. We need to realize people dress in a way that is mostly comfortable for them, not like we are promoting indecency. Still, rape perpetrators should learn to respect boundaries and also know that “No means No” and “Yes only means Yes”.

This is a very sensitive and important topic, especially regarding rape within marriage. I’ve been married for several years, and there have been many times when I come home exhausted, and my wife wants to be intimate. In those moments, to be honest, I’m often not interested. Sometimes, after repeated pleas, she insists and even threatens to seek attention from other men, and I end up giving in. Afterward, I just fall asleep.

At what point could a man consider this as coercion or even rape within marriage? Can men experience rape in marriage as well?

So a consent form is needed...

Personally, I wouldn't even have sex with a passive person because it turns me off.

But if a person doesn't want sex at least put up a resistance no matter how feable.

Which one is shock and fear when you aren't threatened either by words or a weapon. If you are threatened then that's a different topic. You can't be passive and claim fear or shock.

The general believe is that silence means consent.

This generation just like complications.

It's either a yes or no... No matter how weak that no!

Nonsense....so we should both sign agreement before sex abi?silence means consent fulstop.Infact,u should shout or fight if u aint interested.How can ur mouth be free n somone is abt raping u then u are silent.

If she forced you, then it is rape... But the problem is that no one takes you men seriously when trying to report a case of rape.

harqinhola:
This is a very sensitive and important topic, especially regarding rape within marriage. I’ve been married for several years, and there have been many times when I come home exhausted, and my wife wants to be intimate. In those moments, to be honest, I’m often not interested. Sometimes, after repeated pleas, she insists and even threatens to seek attention from other men, and I end up giving in. Afterward, I just fall asleep.

At what point could a man consider this as coercion or even rape within marriage? Can men experience rape in marriage as well?

Samantha125:
If she forced you, then it is rape... But the problem is that no one takes you men seriously when trying to report a case of rape.

You are back...?

Or it's a different Samantha?

It's a different Samantha...😊😊😊

brain54:

You are back...?

Or it's a different Samantha?

Samantha125:
It's a different Samantha...😊😊😊

Why don't I believe...?

I don't know, you tell me.

brain54:

Why don't I believe...?

Samantha125:
I don't know, you tell me.

Seems like wahala is back...

Abeg abeg, I no know you abeg.

Why you dey call me wahala na?

brain54:

Seems like wahala is back...

Samantha125:
Abeg abeg, I no know you abeg.

Why you dey call me wahala na?

OK o...

I thought you were the other Samantha that deactivated!

This is a sensitive and touchy subject.

You need to read up on rape fantasy and Non-consensual consexual sex.

Things about women are not fixed, but rather on a spectrum. You know many women have admitted to fantasizing about rape? I know 3 women who have personally admitted this.

Women have different rules for different men. If you are short, weak, skinny unattractive there is a different class you belong. But if you're attractive, rich, have good body. Nice facial structure, charismatic you are in the okay class. The old movie of Fifty shades of Gray is all you need to know about women.
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What I would recommend be always careful with women and if you are ugly low class guy be extremely careful because an attractive person will do the same thing an ugly man does and It will be disaster.

Consent, assault, rape, sexual abuse are words that are used to filter out or punish unattractive, ugly, low status men.

Regardless, if you're Mr handsome, it doesn't mean you have to brute force your desire on women without agreement.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/a2j95r/why_do_so_many_women_fantasize_about_being_raped/

Nicely penned bro

I like the part you said people dressed the way they feel comfy

It's not the dresses we should complain about
It's our sick and perverted mentality which we acquired from colonizers and imperialists we should lament

Samantha125:
If she forced you, then it is rape... But the problem is that no one takes you men seriously when trying to report a case of rape.

To prove rape or coercion in marriage is very difficult. Going by the subject matter ,” No means No “ or “Y s means Yes” e go hard .

Thank you for shedding light on this critical issue. Consent is truly about clear, enthusiastic agreement, and it's so important for everyone to understand that "no" doesn't have to be verbal to mean no. People respond to trauma in different ways, and freezing or being still doesn’t imply consent; it often signals fear or shock.

The myths around consent and rape are deeply ingrained in society, and discussions like this are vital in debunking them. When we expand the understanding of “No means No” to “Only Yes means Yes,” we emphasize respect for boundaries and personal autonomy. Let’s continue to promote this awareness and advocate for healthy, consensual interactions. Thanks again for bringing attention to this.

There are plenty Samanthas in here...

brain54:

OK o...

I thought you were the other Samantha that deactivated!

Now that you've mentioned it, how can a man prove that he was actually raped?

Is it because he didn't give consent or what? Because as a lady, I'd like to know so that one day I don't end up raping someone else's son.

harqinhola:


To prove rape or coercion in marriage is very difficult. Going by the subject matter ,” No means No “ or “Y s means Yes” e go hard .

Oga nobody dey rape person for this economic situation.......men dey find money

Samantha125:
There are plenty Samanthas in here...

I know nah...

Is that not why I asked if you were the specific one I thought?

Or you just like talk?

I'd make a great actress...🤭🤭🤭

brain54:

I know nah...

Is that not why I asked if you were the specific one I thought?

Or you just like talk?

Condemning one foolish act only to support another foolish act.

Is that not foolishness?

brain54:
So a consent form is needed...

Personally, I wouldn't even have sex with a passive person because it turns me off.

But if a person doesn't want sex at least put up a resistance no matter how feable.

Which one is shock and fear when you aren't threatened either by words or a weapon. If you are threatened then that's a different topic. You can't be passive and claim fear or shock.

The general believe is that silence means consent.

This generation just like complications.

It's either a yes or no... No matter how weak that no!

They are very complex beings...My Father once said, "a man cannot sleep with a woman and go scot free....there must be consequences...spiritual or physical...temporal or eternal..." and I believed him!

This one concern sweet talkers

As for me, I'll explicitly tell you to come over let's have sex.
Coming over = consent

QED

Samantha125:
If she forced you, then it is rape... But the problem is that no one takes you men seriously when trying to report a case of rape.

I guessed I have been raped a million times.... just kidding...
Well it's surprises people n seem unbelievable if a man should say he was raped.

But how can we actually prove that a man was indeed raped? You men should educate us women.

ghettochild:

I guessed I have been raped a million times.... just kidding...
Well it's surprises people n seem unbelievable if a man should say he was raped.

Samantha125:
But how can we actually prove that a man was indeed raped? You men should educate us women.

I really don't know...
And I can't honestly answer this question.

I'm suspecting that I might've raped someone else's son...🤔🤔🤔

And how must we ladies learn if you men don't know?🤦🤦🤦

ghettochild:

I really don't know...
And I can't honestly answer this question.

Samantha125:
It's a different Samantha...😊😊😊

Yeap...


Wahala is back alright.

You added some flesh too... Who would have thought?

Have I? I didn't even notice...😊😊😊

brain54:

Yeap...


Wahala is back alright.

You added some flesh too... Who would have thought?

Samantha125:
I'm suspecting that I might've raped someone else's son...🤔🤔🤔

And how must we ladies learn if you men don't know?🤦🤦🤦

Lol Samantha.
In others news, What do you think about the closure of all spaza shops??
Is that the solution these issues arising from the sales of expired product and contaminated food items.

Samantha125:
I'm suspecting that I might've raped someone else's son...🤔🤔🤔

And how must we ladies learn if you men don't know?🤦🤦🤦

I guess forcing us to have sex with u when we are not in the mood is suppose to be considered rape..
We do it because u threatened to go get it outside. 😂