Oh! Since I didn't threaten anyone, then it wasn't rape... What a relief...😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨

ghettochild:

I guess forcing us to have sex with u when we are not in the mood is suppose to be considered rape..
We do it because u threatened to go get it outside. 😂

How do you expect me to answer your question without being labelled xenophobic?

Because in your people's eyes, it doesn't matter what we black South Africans say, as long as it pertains foreign nationals, then we're xenophobic.

So for peace's sake, I'll say "no comment", because I'm not in the mood of any drama.

ghettochild:

Lol Samantha.
In others news, What do you think about the closure of all spaza shops??
Is that the solution these issues arising from the sales of expired product and contaminated food items.

Samantha125:
There are plenty Samanthas in here...

Huh !!!







I can literally smell you ..



Welcome back though

Samantha125:
Have I? I didn't even notice...😊😊😊

It’s in flesh...


In the "right"places.

Not bad flesh.

Some of us are trained with eagle eyes to spot those things.

When will you be deactivating again?

Don't worry, it's Photoshop...

I didn't know you're like this, you've always been this sweet guy, what has 2024 done to you?

In fact, when was the last time you've been to church?

brain54:


It’s in flesh...


In the "right"places.

Not bad flesh.

Some of us are trained with eagle eyes to spot those things.

When will you be deactivating again?

Thank you...😊😊😊

Silentgroper:


Huh !!!







I can literally smell you ..



Welcome back though

Samantha125:
Thank you...😊😊😊

why did you leave us?
Guess you were using another moniker

Seems like I've got a lot of explaining to do...

Nairaland was slowly turning me into this toxic person I didn't like, that's why I'm not on other social medias, because I find them to be very toxic and people are forced to live fake lives just for likes and followers and I don't have the energy for that... And I already had other plans.

I've never had another moniker here and I don't even plan on having one.

Ebenezer2021:
why did you leave us?
Guess you were using another moniker

Samantha125:
Don't worry, it's Photoshop...

I didn't know you're like this, you've always been this sweet guy, what has 2024 done to you?

In fact, when was the last time you've been to church?

My dog died...

Well, RIP to your dog... Now go and get yourself a new puppy...🐶🐶🐶

brain54:

My dog died...

Samantha125:
Well, RIP to your dog... Now go and get yourself a new puppy...🐶🐶🐶

OK ma...

Samantha125:
Seems like I've got a lot of explaining to do...

Nairaland was slowly turning me into this toxic person I didn't like, that's why I'm not on other social medias, because I find them to be very toxic and people are forced to live fake lives just for likes and followers and I don't have the energy for that... And I already had other plans.

I've never had another moniker here and I don't even plan on having one.

I hear you are married now...

Was that part of the reason you deactivated? Did it have anything to do with it?

Your "other plans" had to do with tying the nuptials?

I hope now you are back your energy is reactivated?

Don't mind me... Just messing with you!

My husband was planning on taking me to Lesotho and Botswana to introduce me to his extended family members during the festive period since not all of them would be able to come to SA for the wedding and it was actually his first time since we got back together that he was able obtain his yearly leave during the festive period, I just wanted to spent some time with him without any distractions.

I was also overwhelmed by wedding preparations and I just wanted my first year of marriage to be perfect without any distractions... But unfortunately, he was shot a week before our wedding and I had to cancel the white wedding, but the traditional wedding went ahead in his absence... I ended up getting married in the absence of my husband and his uncles stood in on his behalf.

brain54:

I hear you are married now...

Was that part of the reason you deactivated? Did it have anything to do with it?

Your "other plans" had to do with tying the nuptials?

I hope now you are back your energy is reactivated?

Don't mind me... Just messing with you!

Samantha125:
My husband was planning on taking me to Lesotho and Botswana to introduce me to his extended family members during the festive period since not all of them would be able to come to SA for the wedding and it was actually his first time since we got back together that he was able obtain his yearly leave during the festive period, I just wanted to spent some time with him without any distractions.

I was also overwhelmed by wedding preparations and I just wanted my first year of marriage to be perfect without any distractions... But unfortunately, he was shot a week before our wedding and I had to cancel the white wedding, but the traditional wedding went ahead in his absence... I ended up getting married in the absence of my husband and his uncles stood in on his behalf.

He was shot...?

Oh dear... I am sorry about that. I hope he is okay and recovered fully now?

Is he from Botswana or Lesotho? I thought he was/is s/African.

How is married life? You seem/sound different though.

Are you happy?

He has recovered now, but unfortunately his niece didn't make it.

He's a South African of Botswana and Lesotho descent, both countries didn't permit dual citizenship until recently... So he's been a South African all his life and SA already has the highest Tswana and Sotho population compared to both Botswana and Lesotho.

Married life is not for the faint hearted hey...😅😅😅... Am I happy? Yes, I am happy and I don't regret anything, it's just that my husband and I have been through a lot this year alone and we were both victims of the circumstances.

My wedding day was the saddest day of my life, I cried throughout the day.

brain54:

He was shot...?

Oh dear... I am sorry about that. I hope he is okay and recovered fully now?

Is he from Botswana or Lesotho? I thought he was/is s/African.

How is married life? You seem/sound different though.

Are you happy?

Samantha125:
He has recovered now, but unfortunately his niece didn't make it.

He's a South African of Botswana and Lesotho descent, both countries didn't permit dual citizenship until recently... So he's been a South African all his life and SA already has the highest Tswana and Sotho population compared to both Botswana and Lesotho.

Married life is not for the faint hearted hey...😅😅😅... Am I happy? Yes, I am happy and I don't regret anything, it's just that my husband and I have been through a lot this year alone and we were both victims of the circumstances.

My wedding day was the saddest day of my life, I cried throughout the day.

Sorry about his neice...

May her soul rest in peace. I am guessing it was a robbery.

So many things I would like to ask but I know there are limitations to what you can say on a public forum about your privacy.

You did sound like you had many things on your chest you wanted to talk about. I noticed.

If you feel comfortable talking about some of them you can share. I am really interested in hearing about them if talking about it will make you feel better.

You may have started on a sad note but I do wish you and yours have a happy married life. Live happily ever after.

Happy endings are what matters in the end!

Awww ..

. Everyone seems to have a soft spot for her


Now I wanna cry 🥲🥲

He was actually shot my brother-in-law, I was with my husband and his niece when the whole thing happened... We were attending my other sister's engagement party which was held a week before my wedding and fortunate enough, my husband quickly saw what was about to happen and pushed me aside while his niece unfortunately caught a stray bullet in the process.

His plan was to shoot the both of us, but with me, he couldn't go ahead with it in the presence of his children because they were also there at the party... His eldest son was screaming in the background begging him to stop... He only pointed the gun to my head and told me how I was lucky that I'm his children's aunt, as he considered me as their mother as well.

He was planning the whole thing for a while, but unfortunately for him, he couldn't find the right time or place where he'd find us together in a public space until the day of the party.

I now understand why some people are skeptical about bringing broken people from broken homes into their families, especially temperamental people.

brain54:

Sorry about his neice...

May her soul rest in peace. I am guessing it was a robbery.

So many things I would like to ask but I know there are limitations to what you can say on a public forum about your privacy.

You did sound like you had many things on your chest you wanted to talk about. I noticed.

If you feel comfortable talking about some of them you can share. I am really interested in hearing about them if talking about it will make you feel better.

You may have started on a sad note but I do wish you and yours have a happy married life. Live happily ever after.

Happy endings are what matters in the end!

Samantha125:
He was actually shot my brother-in-law, I was with my husband and his niece when the whole thing happened... We were attending my other sister's engagement party which was held a week before my wedding and fortunate enough, my husband quickly saw what was about to happen and pushed me aside while his niece unfortunately caught a stray bullet in the process.

His plan was to shoot the both of us, but with me, he couldn't go ahead with it in the presence of his children because they were also there at the party... His eldest son was screaming in the background begging him to stop... He only pointed the gun to my head and told me how I was lucky that I'm his children's aunt, as he considered me as their mother as well.

He was planning the whole thing for a while, but unfortunately for him, he couldn't find the right time or place where he'd find us together in a public space until the day of the party.

I now understand why some people are skeptical about bringing broken people from broken homes into their families, especially temperamental people.

Oh my goodness...

I'm so sorry you and your family had to go through this horrific experience. Thank God your husband acted quickly and saved you. My heart goes out to his niece's family and your entire family for this senseless trauma.

You made a comment some time ago about someone threatening another member of your family. I can't recall the story accurately again. Is he the same person that weilded a gun threatening to shoot?

Can you go into details as to the cause of his wanting to shoot you and his brother? Like what would have triggered such hateful emotions and vengeance.

Where is he now and was the police involved?


How are you and your loved ones coping? Are you receiving the necessary support?"

Therapy may be helpful.

You have really been through a lot.

What made you cry at your wedding?

Will you be comfortable talking about it?

I hope you heal from this traumatic experience completely!

Samantha125:
He was actually shot my brother-in-law, I was with my husband and his niece when the whole thing happened... We were attending my other sister's engagement party which was held a week before my wedding and fortunate enough, my husband quickly saw what was about to happen and pushed me aside while his niece unfortunately caught a stray bullet in the process.

His plan was to shoot the both of us, but with me, he couldn't go ahead with it in the presence of his children because they were also there at the party... His eldest son was screaming in the background begging him to stop... He only pointed the gun to my head and told me how I was lucky that I'm his children's aunt, as he considered me as their mother as well.

He was planning the whole thing for a while, but unfortunately for him, he couldn't find the right time or place where he'd find us together in a public space until the day of the party.

I now understand why some people are skeptical about bringing broken people from broken homes into their families, especially temperamental people.

Hold on ... Is this really real ?? Cause this sounds like a movie narration to me ...




I'm finding it hard to believe what I'm reading right now

😨😨

harqinhola:
This is a very sensitive and important topic, especially regarding rape within marriage. I’ve been married for several years, and there have been many times when I come home exhausted, and my wife wants to be intimate. In those moments, to be honest, I’m often not interested. Sometimes, after repeated pleas, she insists and even
threatens to seek attention from other men, and I end up giving in. Afterward, I just fall asleep.

At what point could a man consider this as coercion or even rape within marriage? Can men experience rape in marriage as well?

A Man can't rape his legally married wife, vice versa. There's nothing like spousal rape in Nigeria.

Angel55555:


A Man can't rape his legally married wife, vice versa. There's nothing like spousal rape in Nigeria.

Some females would disagree with you .

I understand, had someone also told me the same thing, I'd have also thought it's a movie because I still can't believe it myself.

Silentgroper:
Hold on ... Is this really real ?? Cause this sounds like a movie narration to me ...




I'm finding it hard to believe what I'm reading right now

😨😨

Samantha125:
He was actually shot my brother-in-law, I was with my husband and his niece when the whole thing happened... We were attending my other sister's engagement party which was held a week before my wedding and fortunate enough, my husband quickly saw what was about to happen and pushed me aside while his niece unfortunately caught a stray bullet in the process.

His plan was to shoot the both of us, but with me, he couldn't go ahead with it in the presence of his children because they were also there at the party... His eldest son was screaming in the background begging him to stop... He only pointed the gun to my head and told me how I was lucky that I'm his children's aunt, as he considered me as their mother as well.

He was planning the whole thing for a while, but unfortunately for him, he couldn't find the right time or place where he'd find us together in a public space until the day of the party.

I now understand why some people are skeptical about bringing broken people from broken homes into their families, especially temperamental people.

After reading this. I started wondering.
Firstly, Rest in peace to the niece for being in a get together place at the wrong time, cos she caught a bullet prepared for you.
Now, why would a bother-in-law desperately want to take out his sister-in-law and her husband?
As it was, before the shooting, you and your husband weren't married yet! So, as a boyfriend at some point, you dragged him into your family feud?
I bet there has been a one or two time confrontation between them. You manipulated him to man up and challenge your bro-in-law. Dont you have brother?

Yea, I see most broken people, knowingly or unknowingly trying to drag other persons to either fill their broken spaces or break them, too. Feel my pains with me or we all burn. Selfish, huh.
So, where is the shooter now, the gangster brother in law, walking freely or with the authority?

The man is now under police custody... He already had issues with the law when the whole thing happened.

I already had a protection order against him and on top of that, he was already facing some serious charges for attempting to shoot another man he got into a physical fight with last year upon realising that the man was overpowering him during the fight.

The police confiscated his gun, not knowing that he had 2... The second one was obviously not legal and it's the one he used to shoot my husband.

And he also had issues with my first brother-in-law to a point that my first brother-in-law had to stop his children from visiting their aunt's place, which is my sister's house... He was worried about his children's safety due to the man's temperamental tendencies.

The whole shooting was just the beginning of the whole drama, but I don't have the energy to talk about everything right now... What matters now is that we're now safe and in a good place... My husband and I are planning on going for a couple's therapy because we've really been through a lot this year.

brain54:


Oh my goodness...

I'm so sorry you and your family had to go through this horrific experience. Thank God your husband acted quickly and saved you. My heart goes out to his niece's family and your entire family for this senseless trauma.

You made a comment some time ago about someone threatening another member of your family. I can't recall the story accurately again. Is he the same person that weilded a gun threatening to shoot?

Can you go into details as to the cause of his wanting to shoot you and his brother? Like what would have triggered such hateful emotions and vengeance.

Where is he now and was the police involved?


How are you and your loved ones coping? Are you receiving the necessary support?"

Therapy may be helpful.

You have really been through a lot.

What made you cry at your wedding?

Will you be comfortable talking about it?

I hope you heal from this traumatic experience completely!

Samantha125:
The man is now under police custody... He already had issues with the law when the whole thing happened.

I already had a protection order against him and on top of that, he was already facing some serious charges for attempting to shoot another man he got into a physical fight with last year upon realising that the man was overpowering him during the fight.

The police confiscated his gun, not knowing that he had 2... The second one was obviously not legal and it's the one he used to shoot my husband.

And he also had issues with my first brother-in-law to a point that my first brother-in-law had to stop his children from visiting their aunt's place, which is my sister's house... He was worried about his children's safety due to the man's temperamental tendencies.

The whole shooting was just the beginning of the whole drama, but I don't have the energy to talk about everything right now... What matters now is that we're now safe and in a good place... My husband and I are planning on going for a couple's therapy because we've really been through a lot this year.

You are right...

What matters is that you are safe now.

Given everything you've been through, seeking couple's therapy is a wonderful idea.

It's good that you're taking proactive steps to heal and strengthen your relationship. Remember, prioritizing your mental health and well-being is crucial during this period.

If you ever need to talk or share more about your experience, I'm here to listen. Remember to take care of yourself and your loved ones.


I wish you the best Samantha... The very best!

I never manipulated my husband into doing anything, already I had a protection order against my brother-in-law because he tried to harm me before, but failed.

And yes, they've had a confrontation before which let into a physical fight... Somehow the news of the fight and protection order ended up reaching his workplace because he is a law official and he ended up getting demoted... It wasn't long that he had been promoted when he got demoted and he didn't take it too well.

He has a violent past and has a lot of enemies, my sister has been the one protecting him all these years... She even personally confided in me about how she's the mastermind behind her husband's promotion and how at one point she even had to lie under oath for her husband to be where he is today... Even he has admitted a couple of times about how he would've been a nobody without her.

He's now under police custody, he was already facing other separate charges when he shot my husband... Anyways, you're free to believe whatever you want to believe because at the end of the day, you're entitled to your own opinion and I don't have the energy for arguments.

kushme:


After reading this. I started wondering.
Firstly, Rest in peace to the niece for being in a get together place at the wrong time, cos she caught a bullet prepared for you.
Now, why would a bother-in-law desperately want to take out his sister-in-law and her husband?
As it was, before the shooting, you and your husband weren't married yet! So, as a boyfriend at some point, you dragged him into your family feud?
I bet there has been a one or two time confrontation between them. You manipulated him to man up and challenge your bro-in-law. Dont you have brother?

Yea, I see most broken people, knowingly or unknowingly trying to drag other persons to either fill their broken spaces or break them, too. Feel my pains with me or we all burn. Selfish, huh.
So, where is the shooter now, the gangster brother in law, walking freely or with the authority?

Samantha125:
I never manipulated my husband into doing anything, already I had a protection order against my brother-in-law because he tried to harm me before, but failed.

And yes, they've had a confrontation before which let into a physical fight... Somehow the news of the fight and protection order ended up reaching his workplace because he is a law official and he ended up getting demoted... It wasn't long that he had been promoted when he got demoted and he didn't take it too well.

He has a violent past and has a lot of enemies, my sister has been the one protecting him all these years... She even personally confided in me about how she's the mastermind behind her husband's promotion and how at one point she even had to lie under oath for her husband to be where he is today... Even he has admitted a couple of times about how he would've been a nobody without her.

He's now under police custody, he was already facing other separate charges when he shot my husband... Anyways, you're free to believe whatever you want to believe because at the end of the day, you're entitled to your own opinion and I don't have the energy for arguments.

A broken, violent law official with a gun!!! Sounds a lot like most Naija security personnel

Frankly ma dear, you do not need to care about what the hell I believe in. I only wish you and your families a peaceful home. Now, from your narrative, I could sense that your husband nurtured hate and seek revenge somehow for whatever harm your brother in law might have tried on you that caused protection order against him. Your husband knew this cos you won't just stop talking about it at any given time. This has only fueled the anger in your man to be a captain -proctect-a-...And he later became a victim. I probably believe, even you, had confronted your brother-in-!aw, verbally insulting his life.

Whatever it is, he felt you and your husband caused him a demotion, another threat to break him further, he now sees the both of you as his enemies. You know he is a violent person. You should have prevented their ways from crossing. Hello, Hi, Good day should have been the best and lengthy conversations for both of them(your husband and bro in law).

Na wa. So, he was facing other charges while freely walking and planning to address his next dispute through taking lives. Damn, the man is wicked. Why would a man like that be a law official? I could imagine the lives he would have destroyed.

See, people like him don't reflect on issues to see their fault in it. They only see things their way. He's currently feeling(not thinking his actions) that you and your husband put him in police custody and would pay for it someday if the system lets him out.

I pray this situation pass you and your families.

I'm in a good space now and thanks for your concern...🙂🙂🙂

kushme:



A broken, violent law official with a gun!!! Sounds a lot like most Naija security personnel

Frankly ma dear, you do not need to care about what the hell I believe in. I only wish you and your families a peaceful home. Now, from your narrative, I could sense that your husband nurtured hate and seek revenge somehow for whatever harm your brother in law might have tried on you that caused protection order against him. Your husband knew this cos you won't just stop talking about it at any given time. This has only fueled the anger in your man to be a captain -proctect-a-...And he later became a victim. I probably believe, even you, had confronted your brother-in-!aw, verbally insulting his life.

Whatever it is, he felt you and your husband caused him a demotion, another threat to break him further, he now sees the both of you as his enemies. You know he is a violent person. You should have prevented their ways from crossing. Hello, Hi, Good day should have been the best and lengthy conversations for both of them(your husband and bro in law).

Na wa. So, he was facing other charges while freely walking and planning to address his next dispute through taking lives. Damn, the man is wicked. Why would a man like that be a law official? I could imagine the lives he would have destroyed.

See, people like him don't reflect on issues to see their fault in it. They only see things their way. He's currently feeling(not thinking his actions) that you and your husband put him in police custody and would pay for it someday if the system lets him out.

I pray this situation pass you and your families.

kushme:



A broken, violent law official with a gun!!! Sounds a lot like most Naija security personnel

Frankly ma dear, you do not need to care about what the hell I believe in. I only wish you and your families a peaceful home. Now, from your narrative, I could sense that your husband nurtured hate and seek revenge somehow for whatever harm your brother in law might have tried on you that caused protection order against him. Your husband knew this cos you won't just stop talking about it at any given time. This has only fueled the anger in your man to be a captain -proctect-a-...And he later became a victim. I probably believe, even you, had confronted your brother-in-!aw, verbally insulting his life.

Whatever it is, he felt you and your husband caused him a demotion, another threat to break him further, he now sees the both of you as his enemies. You know he is a violent person. You should have prevented their ways from crossing. Hello, Hi, Good day should have been the best and lengthy conversations for both of them(your husband and bro in law).

Na wa. So, he was facing other charges while freely walking and planning to address his next dispute through taking lives. Damn, the man is wicked. Why would a man like that be a law official? I could imagine the lives he would have destroyed.

See, people like him don't reflect on issues to see their fault in it. They only see things their way. He's currently feeling(not thinking his actions) that you and your husband put him in police custody and would pay for it someday if the system lets him out.

I pray this situation pass you and your families.

hahaha .. did you not know how to complete the phrase or you got lily livered to be able to let it out in full .


I bet i saw something like "captain save a hoe"

😂😂😂
Do not allow anyone let you speak less what's in your mind ..

let it all out ...

😅😅😅

brain54:

You are right...

What matters is that you are safe now.

Given everything you've been through, seeking couple's therapy is a wonderful idea.

It's good that you're taking proactive steps to heal and strengthen your relationship. Remember, prioritizing your mental health and well-being is crucial during this period.

If you ever need to talk or share more about your experience, I'm here to listen. Remember to take care of yourself and your loved ones.


I wish you the best Samantha... The very best!

bruh, she's married you know 🙄🙄🙄 .

🤦🤦🤦🤦

DeeScan:


bruh, she's married you know 🙄🙄🙄 .

🤦🤦🤦🤦

You are a fool you know...

I knew one of them will quote me. I expected you.

Because you are a pervert and do not understand what it means to show genuine sympathy for people. Not everyone is like you.

I never forgot she was married. And I never had any intentions towards her. She has always been my "banter mate" here on NL before she deactivated.

Nothing more and nothing else.

I don't even know why I am explaining anything to you.

Mumu!