Definition of trust issues and insecurities in marriage. Wahulur

faithfull18:
Trust is a fundamental part of relationship. Why would you marry someone you don't trust to be faithful

Did you know Trust can be compromised at any point in time, even by Virgins.
Please you Guys should think naaaa.
Life is not always Black or White.

Even some people who trusted their spiritual fathers ended up getting it rough. Think!

MakindeHassan:
What do you expected her to respond? You expect her to be honest if she just did?

You don't ask such questions until you have evidence. Even if you know she did, it you just act like you don't know until you gather evidence.

Asking such without evidence will just create problems and start a war in-house.

exactly....
marriage depends on trust between man and woman....

Which kain question be that?

You no trust your wife? Even if she do, will she tell you. Una go fight Taya. It's better you carry your mind with all these years believe. Stick to your God and have eternal peace.

AlphaNugget:

Are you asking from experience?

😂😁 no break this table leg Abeg

You should have installed a Totometer or a Fuckameter before you travelled. At least that could have prevented this thread.

Please ask if your father ever ask such question from your mum.

Don’t ask her
Snoop around and make your findings low key sha

Which kain tactless kweshon be dis naa? You think say people wey say 'Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned' dey joke? Oya oga alpha dog ask naa, make u use ur hand pour yourself hot water. Let sleeping dogs lie. This is uncalled for especially as she has not given you reason to suspect such before ur trip.

Love800:
Thats not necessary. There are certain questions you keep private to yourself and in the world generally!

Where in an age where people showcase their stupidity for various reasons.

exposin his own toto in public....

nna men men nowadays weak....

Kajaard:


Keep your sanity. Don't ask her. It won't end well.

Don't listen to this advice
These are serpents and HYPOCRITES.

A taboo is a taboo

Na you go suffer the consequence.

IF YOU DIDN'T MEET OR MARRY HER AS A VIRGIN, NEVER EVER TRUST HER OR ANYTHING THAT COMES OUT OF HER MOUTH AS REGARDS HER SEXUAL HISTORY, EVEN WHILE YOU'RE MARRIED TO HER.

thesicilian:

Are you saying this because your instrument is smaller than every other person's?

No
I think you're saying this because your hole is probably large due to high BODYCOUNT...

MuslimIgbo:

Don't listen to this advice
These are serpents and HYPOCRITES.

A taboo is a taboo

Na you go suffer the consequence.

IF YOU DIDN'T MEET OR MARRY HER AS A VIRGIN, NEVER EVER TRUST HER OR ANYTHING THAT COMES OUT OF HER MOUTH AS REGARDS HER SEXUAL HISTORY, EVEN WHILE YOU'RE MARRIED TO HER.

do you tell your sexual history to women when you meet them....??
why do you await that from women....??

thesicilian:
If she did, she'll never tell you so why bother to ask?

excatly my thoughts,pls don't be bothered by what you cannot control, especially pvssy that have a mind of it's own, nothing will happen to you if you don't know,asking will only make her buckle up and tighten her defences ignore her and she might get careless then you will get your answers

Save yourself

You Wan ask her when you no get prove?

Oga if you don't want her again just tell her you want a divorce instead of causing an issue that will destabilize the marriage even if you apologize at the end.

And you expect a sincere answer?

It will be better you do your findings codedly else you will turn your home into a spilled milk which will take God's grace to amend again.

I bet you, you will find out if she had actually done. Or is doing anything of such magnitude.

Funny man. Even if she slept with 10 man with big blokos, bumper to bumper you expect her to tell you she did?

pelusi:


Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

What part of Nigeria are you from? Hope you are not from Enugu Ezike!. They are the only people I know who believe such nonsense.

If you are paranoid and worried about your life…don’t leave your wife for too long or get yourself involved in long distance relationship.

You left for 8 months and probably looking for excuses to blame your wife for any misfortune you might’ve experienced or experiencing. If your wife cheated on you, you won’t be here typing and asking questions.

Lol!

The man in question is just childish or cant control emotions. He needs to improve on self-worth!

ppogba:


Where in an age where people showcase their stupidity for various reasons.

Uikolins:
If you need the video of the viral sex scandal of Battasar Ebang Engonga of Equatorial Guinea, just DM.
Infact his wife too is not clean, her own leaks has come out and I have them all.
Just DM me, you will also get other VIP's leaks that will burst your head😃

People he slept with are the following among others.
The president's sister.
The AFG's wife.
His Brother's wife
The IGP's wife.
Pastor's wife
About 20 minister's wives
His uncle's pregnant wife
And many more totalling 400.
DM

See wetin person brother dey do online, shame no even catch you.

MightySparrow:



I understand your fears but if you asked such a question, you would be starting WW2 in your home. No woman would admit to cheating even if caught in the act not to talk of something you can't prove.

However, pray about it very well before you can do anything with her for the reason of the consequences and stylishly throw a joke or a fabricated story about what could happen and watch her reaction.

In my opinion, he knows his wife and should know the best delivery method.

How you talk to people matters more than what you want to say.

However, since he has doubt, I will suggest learning how to deliver the question first. He clearly don’t know how to.

@OP, asking won’t do any good BTW. Women generally won’t tell the truth, except she is still naive. But a married woman is far from naive IMO.

If it’s truly an abomination where you come from, those who make the law should also provide a way to know. Consult them.

okoroemeka:
excatly my thoughts,pls don't be bothered by what you cannot control, especially pvssy that have a mind of it's own, nothing will happen to you if you don't know,asking will only make her buckle up and tighten her defences ignore her and she might get careless then you will get your answers

she go fight you....then you are not the right guy for her anyways....

why should she bother....

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

u sound like a weak man tbh
U dey fear ask ur wife question
If you are scared it means she don dey show signs say she go cheat
My honest take is even though you ask her she wouldn't admit it

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Ask it jokingly at first. Then tell her you're serious o. That if she has done it with someone else, and then do it with you, that so so and so will happen to her...

Note I said her, not you. If you say it will happen to you, she will still keep lying. Women prefer being widows than being caught cheating.

Latakia:
Please ask if your father ever ask such question from your mum.

How will you know?

How can a man ever trust a girl he didn't meet or marry as a virgin?
It's stupidity to trust such girl.

MANY OF YOU AVERAGE GIRLS IN THIS GENERATION HAVE EVEN DATED MARRIED MEN...

IF A GIRL CAN SLEEP WITH MARRIED MEN WHILE SINGLE, WHAT'S SPECIAL ABOUT HER NOT SLEEPING AROUND WHILE MARRIED?

A GIRL WHO DOESN'T RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE'S MARRIAGE WHILE SINGLE CAN NEVER RESPECT HER OWN MARRIAGE.

THAT'S A FACT!

Marc3500:
u sound like a weak man tbh
U dey fear ask ur wife question
If you are scared it means she don dey show signs say she go cheat
My honest take is even though you ask her she wouldn't admit it

i dont fear my wives....

i just make sure i dont get in their way of lifes....😂😂
who wan suffer....😂😂

but i have to trust....their is no other way....

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Trust will always be an issue in every relationship

If you already informed your wife about your tradition and she accepts it even when she knows the consequences, there is no need to cause for alarm and no need to ask her

So I think you should just calm down your mind and don't ask a question that will trigger problems

If your tradition is effective, then the truth will come out without asking

What if you ask her, she picks offence and start using it against you, she will keep using it against you especially if she is innocent of your suspicions

So don't aks her let peace rain and let your tradition prove itself.

Am just making my contribution anyway

You only ask these sort of questions when you've got irrefutable evidence to the fact. Otherwise it's like asking a close friend if he plans on murdering or selling you out. It's just not a wise thing to do, objectively speaking

Mtcheeew idiot , where did you come from wey dey no fit nack your wife ? You gonna learn d hard way .... continue dey reason who nack your wife or who no knack am