Most men after marriage realise that its their mistress they actually love. They discover that too late. The wife stops trying to win her man after marriage. The truth is men love to be seduced. After marriage and child birth women call their husband Papa John while side chicks call them baby.

As a man,a side chick who's giving you peace of mind is more valuable than a house wife who's steadily giving you wahala.....

because side chicks are single and tend to pretend.

As a man, if a side chick gives u peace of mind. Just marry her and the peace of mind disappears.

Natbrowny:
because side chicks are single and tend to pretend.

As a man, if a side chick gives u peace of mind. Just marry and the peace of mind disappears.

In other words side chicks are not to be married

uchkochi:

In other words side chicks are not to be married

They can be married na.. 😂

But they won't be the same after the marriage. The will stop behaving like side chicks and they will not want u to have other side chicks coz they r now wives
. Forgetting that they were once side chick to another womans husband.

Na cycle wey be like ring

Natbrowny:
because side chicks are single and tend to pretend.

As a man, if a side chick gives u peace of mind. Just marry and the peace of mind disappears.

Simple & Correct

But you guys never leave your wives for side chicks. You're all talk.

1Sharon:
But you guys never leave your wives for side chicks. You're all talk.

You think so.

1Sharon:
But you guys never leave your wives for side chicks. You're all talk.

Because the wives never want us to leave. I discussed divorce and separation with my wife one time and she went ballistic.
You pretend you don't know the ways of you Nigerian women.
Let me enjoy my side chick in peace.
A typical Nigerian woman prefers to be married to a husband with side C than be divorced.
I have no qualms moving out of my home, you live life once and then die.

My reasons for preferring my side chick over my wife:

1. She is hard working
2. She never spends hours on Instagram or Tick Tock.
3. She treats me like a king and gives me 100% attention whenever we are together.
4. She is physically fit and verry attractive.
5. She gives kind blowing sex every position imaginable.
6. She is not religious, I despise a black woman who is religious and superstitious.
7. She goes out of her way to make me special.
8. She communicates with me, we can actually hold a discussion. She is always observing to know if I am ok and satisfied.
9. She does not spend 3 hours on the phone talking to her Naija friend and relatives, gosh! I despise that a lot.
10. She knows how to please a man.

Nnamdipapa:
My reasons for preferring my side chick over my wife:

1. She is hard working
2. She never spends hours on Instagram or Tick Tock.
3. She treats me like a king and gives me 100% attention whenever we are together.
4. She is physically fit and verry attractive.
5. She gives kind blowing sex every position imaginable.
6. She is not religious, I despise a black woman who is religious and superstitious.
7. She goes out of her way to make me special.
8. She communicates with me, we can actually hold a discussion. She is always observing to know if I am ok and satisfied.
9. She does not spend 3 hours on the phone talking to her Naija friend and relatives, gosh! I despise that a lot.
10. She knows how to please a man.

What stopped you from marrying a wife all these qualities? Seems you just wanted the best of both worlds.

Nnamdipapa:


Because the wives never want us to leave. I discussed divorce and separation with my wife one time and she went ballistic.
You pretend you don't know the ways of you Nigerian women.
Let me enjoy my side chick in peace.
A typical Nigerian woman prefers to be married to a husband with side C than be divorced.
I have no qualms moving out of my home, you live life once and then die.

I'm sure your wife didn't want you to cheat on her either but that didn't stop you.

1Sharon:


I'm sure your wife didn't want you to cheat on her either but that didn't stop you.

I didn't get what I wanted in marriage and I discussed with her I do not love her anymore and we seem incompatible and suggested we divorce and she strongly objected.
What do you expect me to do, live an unhappy life and just grow old and, die like that?
I only stick to one side chick who understands me and wife does not care about what I want despite numerous conversations. I think I am being used to take care of everyone financial and emotional needs while no one gives a fvuck about mine.
I am having the blast of my life.

Nnamdipapa:


I didn't get what I wanted in marriage and I discussed with her I do not love her anymore and we seem incompatible and suggested we divorce and she strongly objected.
What do you expect me to do, live an unhappy life and just grow old and, die like that?
I only stick to one side chick who understands me and wife does not care about what I want despite numerous conversations. I think I am being used to take care of everyone financial and emotional needs while no one gives a fvuck about mine.
I am having the blast of my life.

She didn't object to you cheating on her?

How comes your wives conveniently object to things you didn't want to do ?

uchkochi:
Most men after marriage realise that its their mistress they actually love. They discover that too late. The wife stops trying to win her man after marriage. The truth is men love to be seduced. After marriage and child birth women call their husband Papa John while side chicks call them baby.

you are wrong,men don't love only one side chick,they love various categories of side chicks,

1Sharon:


What stopped you from marrying a wife all these qualities? Seems you just wanted the best of both worlds.

I married at 21 my dear, my biggest mistake. At that age, a guy does not really know what he wants plus she hid most of her characters then like most of our women do who desperately want to marry a well to do guy. That was 17 years ago.

Nnamdipapa:


I married at 21 my dear, my biggest mistake. At that age, a guy does not really know what he wants plus she hid most of her characters then like most of our women do who desperately want to marry a well to do guy. That was 17 years ago.

And you still won't leave. Enjoy your lovely marriage.

1Sharon:



And you still won't leave. Enjoy your lovely marriage.

You have to be in a man's shoes to trully see things my pov honestly and I am not a bad guy.

Bro we are kinda in the same boat, totally incompatible she can't can't hold constructive convo, doesn't have own word, can't hold brief for me nor defend my honor behind me, errors here and there etc.

I'm interested and would want to know how you pull this off!

A4alpha:
Bro we are kinda in the same boat, totally incompatible she can't can't hold constructive convo, doesn't have own word, can't hold brief for me nor defend my honor behind me, errors here and there etc.

I'm interested and would want to know how you pull this off!

Bro, I really tried for the first 10 years and realized life was passing me bye.
We both married as virgins because of our religious backgrounds but I soon realized she did not like sex.

Now, I bear the expenses 100% with nothing to show for it. She never read a book or take improvement courses.
Always on social media and most times never cook for the kids. The kids cook for themselves while I cook occasionally. Will wake up in the morning and never step down till around 2pm.
The only time she is energetic is when religion is involved. I was approached by my side chick because of my good looks and we have been dating the past four months.
I actually love my side chick because of the attention she showers on me constantly omg!

You gat be careful though as these took me years of planning, I had to create a business where I can earn dollars from anywhere in the world and I have secret account's all over the world so she gets nothing on me as I can relocate at a short notice. I also studied and know all the loopholes in the marriage and divorce law.

Then no need of getting marry.

Sonnobax15:

As a man,a side chick who's giving you peace of mind is more valuable than a house wife who's steadily giving you wahala.....

Na you know where you dey jam jezebels.
Side chic sef fit be sikiratu-sindodo and be tormenting ya life. Just be an alpha male.

Nnamdipapa:


Bro, I really tried for the first 10 years and realized life was passing me bye.
We both married as virgins because of our religious backgrounds but I soon realized she did not like sex.

Now, I bear the expenses 100% with nothing to show for it. She never read a book or take improvement courses.
Always on social media and most times never cook for the kids. The kids cook for themselves while I cook occasionally. Will wake up in the morning and never step down till around 2pm.
The only time she is energetic is when religion is involved. I was approached by my side chick because of my good looks and we have been dating the past four months.
I actually love my side chick because of the attention she showers on me constantly omg!

You gat be careful though as these took me years of planning, I had to create a business where I can earn dollars from anywhere in the world and I have secret account's all over the world so she gets nothing on me as I can relocate at a short notice. I also studied and know all the loopholes in the marriage and divorce law.

Wow Nothing is new under the surface I must admit because it's as though I'm the one talking here, almost the same experience though mine gives sex no wahala that side but lack basic life necessity when it comes to emotional intelligence, her companionship and support is close to nothing. what she lacks in positivity she made-up in negativity, she's also a smart and happy liar without conscience.

I look good too and dress fairly well but I try not to cheat because I know whoever I cheat with will definitely tag along or show qualities that my wife does not have, which will increase my agitation or hasten our breakup. for over 16years now bro, I have been waiting for her to change but with the looks of things I don't think an adult can change especially those who reject advise and snobs moves that will bring her at par with me.

But I don't want to grow old with her in her condition and also wish to keep her is change happens soonest. CONFUSED!!

What men passes through in their Marriage.


Marriage is truely a self inflicted Prison!!!

Nnamdipapa:


I married at 21 my dear, my biggest mistake. At that age, a guy does not really know what he wants plus she hid most of her characters then like most of our women do who desperately want to marry a well to do guy. That was 17 years ago.

divorce that bastard

A4alpha:



Wow Nothing is new under the surface I must admit because it's as though I'm the one talking here, almost the same experience though mine gives sex no wahala that side but lack basic life necessity when it comes to emotional intelligence, her companionship and support is close to nothing. what she lacks in positivity she made-up in negativity, she's also a smart and happy liar without conscience.

I look good too and dress fairly well but I try not to cheat because I know whoever I cheat with will definitely tag along or show qualities that my wife does not have, which will increase my agitation or hasten our breakup. for over 16years now bro, I have been waiting for her to change but with the looks of things I don't think an adult can change especially those who reject advise and snobs moves that will bring her at par with me.

But I don't want to grow old with her in her condition and also wish to keep her is change happens soonest. CONFUSED!!

divorce her ASAP

uchkochi:
Most men after marriage realise that its their mistress they actually love. They discover that too late. The wife stops trying to win her man after marriage. The truth is men love to be seduced. After marriage and child birth women call their husband Papa John while side chicks call them baby.

Most men cherish women that will give them good f-ukc and peace, it's that simple.
Most side chicks play these part very well even if it's a script

A4alpha:



Wow Nothing is new under the surface I must admit because it's as though I'm the one talking here, almost the same experience though mine gives sex no wahala that side but lack basic life necessity when it comes to emotional intelligence, her companionship and support is close to nothing. what she lacks in positivity she made-up in negativity, she's also a smart and happy liar without conscience.

I look good too and dress fairly well but I try not to cheat because I know whoever I cheat with will definitely tag along or show qualities that my wife does not have, which will increase my agitation or hasten our breakup. for over 16years now bro, I have been waiting for her to change but with the looks of things I don't think an adult can change especially those who reject advise and snobs moves that will bring her at par with me.

But I don't want to grow old with her in her condition and also wish to keep her is change happens soonest. CONFUSED!!

Bro, because you haven't started cheating, please let me share some tips.

She feels EXACTLY the same way you do, about you. Like if you dropped dead, she'd cry but also be relieved.

Now, you have 2 choices:

1. Blow up your marriage.

Seems easy but I swear to you, you'll regret it when you're older. Even if you do cheat and stay, she'll know. And I'm telling you as a woman, we can hold grudges till we die. If you want to be 65 and terrified of trusting a woman who has been angry for decades about your behaviour with your old age, pray continue like several other men.

2. Fix your marriage.

Sounds hard, but take my advice and in 6-9 months, you won't be on NL talking like this. You'll be grinning in delight, your wife will be your babe once again.

To achieve no.2, turn her into your side chick

You're the man, the marriage takes its temperature from you (even biblically it is so). Fill her emotional cup (it is empty, so she can't pour into you). Love her. How so?

- sit down and make a list of everything you are attracted to in a woman. Ask her to make the same for her ideal man. Exchange the lists. INTENTIONALITY.

- spend time and attention on her. If she watches kdrama, ask to watch one with her. Forreal. Kdrama has horror, suspense, political, love, marriage, thriller, action and sci-fi. Which means, you can actually watch something with her. Then make her watch your stuff with you. AFFECTION.

- date night: every weekend this December, find somewhere you and her will go to. I can give you tips sef. ATTENTION.

- send her a link to a men's wear vendor and ask her to pick what she likes you to wear. Then buy it and wear it. Now do the same for her. Down to perfume. Pay for her manicure and pedicure. Whatever you like, you lead by example. VALIDATION AND TRUST.

- every time you see a fine girl outside, text your wife. Tell her "I was just thinking of you". Chat her up. If she's on social media, it's because YOU DON'T TALK TO HER SO SHE'S LONELY IN YOUR MARRIAGE AND IS FINDING VALIDATION ONLINE. And there are several Balthazars in Nigeria (they just don't record it ). So be chatting your wife up, gossip, gist, funny jokes, se.xy talk. ATTENTION.

- Spend some money. Be it sexxx toys, lingerie, ankle chain (you'd be surprised what she likes). Books, whatever. AFFECTION

- Pray with her. Wake up and find a prayer on Pinterest, personalise it and send "Iremide, ....". LOVE AND CARE.

- tell her "Iremide...I don't want to just lead you, I want to be your king. Be my Esther. Look good for me. Please let me pamper you. Let me solve all your problems. The problems you solve yourself, share them with me, so I can praise you. Stain my eyes with your beauty and shake my mind with your wisdom. I love you". Tell her this twice a week. LOVE AND GUIDANCE.

- Look at your flaws and start correcting them. If you can't change, then neither can she. Change starts with you, not with her. Read that again. Go and read the bible, God is very clear whose He holds responsible for the health of a marriage. Change starts with you. SELF-REFLECTION AND RESPONSIBILITY

- Remember, you're the Head of the House, it's actually your job to lead your marriage. The reason so many marriages are unhappy are because men are being irresponsible and women are doing their jobs. RESPONSIBILITY.

There is no such thing as a submissive second-in-command who does all the work whilst Dangote stays lazy. Read that sentence again.

Do this. Work on yourself. Don't expect quick fixes, but start this December (I fit drop list of restaurants and hang outs. Come back and testify next year. Sha don't get pregnant o, because the last couple who did all this, surprise last baby at 46

So, it's upto you. Make your choice.

All the best

uchkochi:
Most men after marriage realise that its their mistress they actually love. They discover that too late. The wife stops trying to win her man after marriage. The truth is men love to be seduced. After marriage and child birth women call their husband Papa John while side chicks call them baby.

🙇🏼‍♀️ 🙇🏼‍♀️

Nnamdipapa:


I didn't get what I wanted in marriage and I discussed with her I do not love her anymore and we seem incompatible and suggested we divorce and she strongly objected.
What do you expect me to do, live an unhappy life and just grow old and, die like that?
I only stick to one side chick who understands me and wife does not care about what I want despite numerous conversations. I think I am being used to take care of everyone financial and emotional needs while no one gives a fvuck about mine.
I am having the blast of my life.

Good for you Papa Nnamdi. Ina ilé l'ọmọ ẹranko ma ya gbẹhin.

placeofallure:


Good for you Papa Nnamdi. Ina ilé l'ọmọ ẹranko ma ya gbẹhin.

Orie ti daru.

Nnamdipapa:


Orie ti daru.

Why? I said whatever suits you, it's good for you. Many men always return home after a long sojourn playing away match.

So what is the cause of Ori è ti daru in that one now?