calabaman:
Hello op,

I think you answered your question.

Truth is no marriage is perfect as both of you are from different backgrounds and would have different opinions on issues.

I would recommend fixing your marriage.

spice123:
The bitter truth is:
Anyone who has ever gone through divorce can never stay in a marriage. Quote me anywhere. Even if the fellow remarries, same cycle will repeat itself its only a matter of time.
Go and do your personal research on people who have ever divorced even for once.

Afodot0022:
I already have this understanding that there is no perfect marriage,having the notion of a perfect marriage is just a mirage. Fixing the marriage and making things work would have been better but whereas your partner is not ready or willing to make this work again, you have no other choice than to opt out and move on. There is no angel or perfect person so expecting perfection is delusional.

spice123:
The bitter truth is:
Anyone who has ever gone through divorce can never stay in a marriage. Quote me anywhere. Even if the fellow remarries, same cycle will repeat itself its only a matter of time.
Go and do your personal research on people who have ever divorced even for once.

Dogalmighty17:
If you are divorced, why put your self through the stress of remarriage again? Marriage is hardly worth it in my opinion. You have no guarantee that the second will be better than the first.

Mom007:
The bible emphasises remaining with the wife of your youth. Even if it means forgiving her a serious transgression (if she repents) or if she is an unbeliever but willing to remain with you. E get why. Do not be hasty to divorce and remarry. Even when you divorce, God said do not remarry else you make her and yourself fornicators. God's opinion is all that counts.

spice123:
The bitter truth is:
Anyone who has ever gone through divorce can never stay in a marriage. Quote me anywhere. Even if the fellow remarries, same cycle will repeat itself its only a matter of time.
Go and do your personal research on people who have ever divorced even for once.

spice123:
➜The bitter truth is: Anyone who has ever gone through divorce can never stay in a marriage. Quote me anywhere. Even if the fellow remarries, same cycle will repeat itself its only a matter of time. Go and do your personal research on people who have ever divorced even for once.

akube34:
shut up. Where did you get this fact from. My Anty divorced years ago and remarried. She has been in that marriage for over 35 years now

ayomilore:
Try and fix your marriage by all means because....

You are not sure the new one you will have will be better

Loneliness is not a good thing it mostly leads to depression and suicide, it also breeds immorality

If you leave your wife to marry a new one, she and her family will never wish you well again, imagine having more enemies with the one you already have

Patience and forgiveness are two key attributes most couples are lacking and its really affecting most homes nowadays.

Beremx:
Oga go and work on your first marriage because the second one which you want to embark on will not work. You need to work on yourself because you have your own issues which crashed your marriage. If you don't work on yourself, your second marriage will end too

Beremx:
Oga go and work on your first marriage because the second one which you want to embark on will not work. You need to work on yourself because you have your own issues which crashed your marriage. If you don't work on yourself, your second marriage will end too

2mch:

100% correct. If your first marriage fail, likelihood your second marriage will fail is higher. About 80% because most people try to blame the other as being the cause of the marriage breakdown. When they were equally responsible and should be able to point out where they failed and how they have improved. Mind you, am not looking for crowd but one thing I believe is that people experience are lessons, they are people here that have experienced such and are qualified to advice properly reason why I come here to share stuff, I prefer coming here where nobody knows me and getting advice that going to people I know that will still use my issues to mock me.

OP, you lack introspection. You are still blaming the woman for not wanting to work on it. When you should be working on yourself and working to show her you have changed and changed genuinely. You are even looking for crowd of online people to come and give you advice on how to make decisions on your life and marriage. You do not need to be married. You need to mature first. Don’t go and drag another persons daughter into a failed marriage.

Afodot0022:
Hmmm, this notion is true though but I still think there are some divorcees that remarried and eventually made it work due to their experience to be a better person to their partner, just that they will easily opt out of marriage if any minor issue occurs being they have experienced the essence of being single and independent so putting effort for the marriage to work won't move them. My take though. Am divorced now and to be honest, getting married again is not my priority cos am not just ready for the stress and draining involved in marital life.

Afodot0022:
Thanks for your input, well I won't say I am a perfect person but I have my flaws too, my ex has her flaws to and not also perfect. I will say am not the caused of the separation cause all these happened because of cheating from her end, we separated afterwards for two years and in the space, this woman never shows any remorse to even apologize properly for what she did, she never agreed she was the caused of anything, but because of forgiveness and also because I don't want my kids to be raised in a broken home, I am willing to forgive her wrong and continue the marriage, now maybe because she is with another man and I love , making decisions to come back is so difficult for her now , so how will all these be my fault,if she never did what she did, am sure by now we are still going to be married.

Adexvivacity:


With this being said, oga forget that lady. She cheated and you caught her, what other advice do u need. You are guessing she aint coming back for now cos she is with another man....that means u will take her back when she fuckup there as well. If u have kids already, face them and take good care of them. A cheat wife may end ur life one day.

Tayorshd87:
You are asking a deep 🤢 question and indeed it really worth it .

Just have it in mind that getting married to another woman doesn't guarantee what u actually needed instead fix d first and talk about how to reconcile in case of future disputes between you guys.

As at present am also thinking about divorcing but d impact of this same lady in my house ehn 🤔
Also thinking about about another one of she will be better and there is no guarantee of getting a better one 🙁

For this reason ehn ..


I just carry my cross

I wish you well

Afodot0022:
Are you saying I should reconcile with a woman that destroys her marriage because she cheated and she is not remorse and also claiming right on it, even during separation,she already in another relationship with another man, how can one reconcile with such with all this baggages, is it not better to move on than setting with such woman

Afodot0022:
Are you saying I should reconcile with a woman that destroys her marriage because she cheated and she is not remorse and also claiming right on it, even during separation,she already in another relationship with another man, how can one reconcile with such with all this baggages, is it not better to move on than setting with such woman