Hello,

I am a single guy thinking of getting married soon but some of the ladies I am considering having a serious relationship that may lead to marriage with are not virgins. This came as a surprise to me as I thought it will be easy to find a virgin to settle down with.

Should I try to focus on finding the one with best character and settle with or I should continue with my search to find a virgin?

I understand marriage is more than virginity but I am just wondering.

Looking forward to your responses.

Thanks

damzy88:
➜Hello, I am a single guy thinking of getting married soon but some of the ladies I am considering having a serious relationship that may lead to marriage with are not virgins. This came as a surprise to me as I thought it will be easy to find a virgin to settle down with.
➜ Should I try to focus on finding the one with best character and settle with or I should continue with my search to find a virgin? I understand marriage is more than virginity but I am just wondering. Looking forward to your responses. Thanks

1. You are not a virgin, but you expect that there would be virgins everywhere else, abi? No be craze dem dey call that?

2. I honestly don't think you will benefit from marriage at all as there is the chance that this virginity obsession of yours will most likely lead you to either rape your daughter or maybe even your wife's sibling/house help who you happen to perceive is a virgin. I have read enough stories of your kind to realize that these delusions never simply go away. They find other ways to compensate for the lack in your lives; Nigeria is riddled with stories of your kind that it is probably better you are not allowed near children at all.

Kobojunkie:
1. You are not a virgin, but you expected that there would be virgins everywhere abi? No be craze dem dey call that?

2. I honestly don't think you will benefit from marriage at all as there is the chance that this virginity obsession of yours will most likely lead you to raping your own daughter or maybe even your wife's sibling/house help who you happen to perceive is a virgin. I have read enough stories of your kind to realize that these delusions never simply go away. They find other ways to compensate for the lack; Nigeria is riddled with stories of your kind that it is probably better you not be allowed near children at all.

Okay. Thanks. Let me wait for the responses of more reasonable people.

damzy88:
Okay. Thanks. Let me wait for the responses of more reasonable people.

Of course, you would not find it reasonable for anyone to point out that these delusions/fixations are likely to lead nowhere good if not immediately nipped in the bud. Your best bet is to make an appointment immediately with a professional mental health therapist or counselor, so you can rid yourself of what is clearly an unhealthy fixation.

damzy88:
Hello,

I am a single guy thinking of getting married soon but some of the ladies I am considering having a serious relationship that may lead to marriage with are not virgins. This came as a surprise to me as I thought it will be easy to find a virgin to settle down with.

Should I try to focus on finding the one with best character and settle with or I should continue with my search to find a virgin?

I understand marriage is more than virginity but I am just wondering.

Looking forward to your responses.

Thanks

I doubt you have a effective spirituality

Bro MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE.......... it is not by force.... don't force it.

Stop taking yourself too seriously either, you are NOT a saint.

Focus on being the kind of man, most genuine ladies will see as ODOGWU.... will see as someone worth following or submitting to.

Be a LEADER.... have results in both finances and leadership.

Stop distracting yourself worrying about women.

WOrk on your relationship with GOD and get it right before its too late.

Be busy being happy and doing activities that make you happy and fulfilled.


Marriage will be a by-product of such a high impact life.

Don't settle, don't chase.... simply attract and filter.

Kobojunkie:
1. You are not a virgin, but you expected that there would be virgins everywhere abi? No be craze dem dey call that?

2. I honestly don't think you will benefit from marriage at all as there is the chance that this virginity obsession of yours will most likely lead you to either rape your daughter or maybe even your wife's sibling/house help who you happen to perceive is a virgin. I have read enough stories of your kind to realize that these delusions never simply go away. They find other ways to compensate for the lack in your lives; Nigeria is riddled with stories of your kind that it is probably better you are not allowed near children at all.

nobody said women should not marry virgins too, why e dey pain you?

the man want virgin, if you are not a virgin, don't feel bad that he will not marry you.


damzy88, do not listen to bitter non-virgins on the internet. they hate seeing men getting what they want and it is one of the core tenets of nigerian-feminism (also including nigerian women abroad, they somehow carry that stupid way of life outside)

EDGEof2MORO:
➜nobody said women should not marry virgins too, why e dey pain you?
➜ the man want virgin, if you are not a virgin, don't feel bad that he will not marry you.
➜ ..., do not listen to bitter non-virgins on the internet.
➜ they hate seeing men getting what they want and it is one of the core tenets of nigerian-feminism (also including nigerian women abroad, they somehow carry that stupid way of life outside)

1. E dey pain you be reason why you respond, abi?

2. I didn't say he could not want a virgin. I simply made it known to him where that fixation of his most likely comes from and will eventually lead him. Marriage to that kind of human amounts to marrying a crisis waiting to happen.

3. Of course, you would not want him to listen even though this very internet is filled to the brim with stories of how such men easily end up trapped by that desire of theirs.

4. I don't hate seeing men or women getting what they want, nor do I hate seeing them get what they deserve. I simply warn of how those desires may lead to a possibly undesirable yet deserved end for men who reason as he does. The pattern has been observed both in those abroad and in Nigeria. Only that in Nigeria, many of these men end up predators that run wild, and their kids are rarely ever spared, a very sad situation.

DON'T get married.
It's POINTLESS!

But if you insist, your bride's virginity must be NON-NEGOTIABLE.

The fact that you are finding it difficult to see a virgin is a SIGN.

It's a sign of the CALIBRE of women out there today:
LOOSE in morals and LOOSE in pussy.

The idea that you can settle down with "one with a good character" is MADNESS!

First of all, virginity is a good MARKER of good character in women. It speaks to a woman's CHASTITY and SEXUAL DISCIPLINE. Both of which are essential to a great home.

PLUS, once a woman is NO longer a virgin. You'll NEVER know her body counts.

She'd swear on ALL the gods that it's NOT more than three. Meanwhile, she's had 3 dicccks in one day. Sometimes, all at ONCE.

But you'll NEVER know. And you'll have to take her words for it.

Finally, there is the issue of GENETIC POLLUTION.

Scientists once conducted an experiment using spiders. They had ONE group of female spiders and TWO groups of male spiders.

One group of the male spiders contained LARGE spiders and the other contained SMALL ones.

First they let the large ones mate with the females. Then they let the small ones IMPREGNATE them.

They found that the OFFSPRINGS carried a SIGNIFICANT trace of the DNA of the mother's previous partner even though he didn't sire them.

At first, the scientists thought that the results were because the LARGE spiders had more dominant and powerful genes.

So they conducted a NEW test with new sets of spiders. This time, the small spiders first mated with the female spiders while the larges ones IMPREGNATED them.

Shockingly, the results were the SAME.
The OFFSPRINGS still had significant levels of the DNA of the mother's previous partner.

Put simply:

Marrying a NON-VIRGIN could result in having children with the genetic qualities of a STRANGE man.

Your child will have more than ONE father.
They will NOT be 100% yours.

A QUASI-BASTARD, if you will.

So insisting on a VIRGIN is not just about you.
It's about your KIDS too.

Virginity in a bride is a standard that must NEVER be compromised.

A non virgin bride automatically means the Saviour of the world will never come from your waist.

Think about it.

EDGEof2MORO:
nobody said women should not marry virgins too, why e dey pain you?

the man want virgin, if you are not a virgin, don't feel bad that he will not marry you.


damzy88, do not listen to bitter non-virgins on the internet. they hate seeing men getting what they want and it is one of the core tenets of nigerian-feminism (also including nigerian women abroad, they somehow carry that stupid way of life outside)

Great

Namaster:
DON'T get married.
It's POINTLESS!

But if you insist, your bride's virginity must be NON-NEGOTIABLE.

The fact that you are finding it difficult to see a virgin is a SIGN.

It's a sign of the CALIBRE of women out there today:
LOOSE in morals and LOOSE in pussy.

The idea that you can settle down with "one with a good character" is MADNESS!

First of all, virginity is a good MARKER of good character in women. It speaks to a woman's CHASTITY and SEXUAL DISCIPLINE. Both of which are essential to a great home.

PLUS, once a woman is NO longer a virgin. You'll NEVER know her body counts.

She'd swear on ALL the gods that it's NOT more than three. Meanwhile, she's had 3 dicccks in one day. Sometimes, all at ONCE.

But you'll NEVER know. And you'll have to take her words for it.

Finally, there is the issue of GENETIC POLLUTION.

Scientists once conducted an experiment using spiders. They had ONE group of female spiders and TWO groups of male spiders.

One group of the male spiders contained LARGE spiders and the other contained SMALL ones.

First they let the large ones mate with the females. Then they let the small ones IMPREGNATE them.

They found that the OFFSPRINGS carried a SIGNIFICANT trace of the DNA of the mother's previous partner even though he didn't sire them.

At first, the scientists thought that the results were because the LARGE spiders had more dominant and powerful genes.

So they conducted a NEW test with new sets of spiders. This time, the small spiders first mated with the female spiders while the larges ones IMPREGNATED them.

Shockingly, the results were the SAME.
The OFFSPRINGS still had significant levels of the DNA of the mother's previous partner.

Put simply:

Marrying a NON-VIRGIN could result in having children with the genetic qualities of a STRANGE man.

Your child will have more than ONE father.
They will NOT be 100% yours.

A QUASI-BASTARD, if you will.

So insisting on a VIRGIN is not just about you.
It's about your KIDS too.

Virginity in a bride is a standard that must NEVER be compromised.

Brilliant analysis using the Spider. Thanks

Kobojunkie:
1. You are not a virgin, but you expected that there would be virgins everywhere abi? No be craze dem dey call that?

2. I honestly don't think you will benefit from marriage at all as there is the chance that this virginity obsession of yours will most likely lead you to either rape your daughter or maybe even your wife's sibling/house help who you happen to perceive is a virgin. I have read enough stories of your kind to realize that these delusions never simply go away. They find other ways to compensate for the lack in your lives; Nigeria is riddled with stories of your kind that it is probably better you are not allowed near children at all.

Your comment is rubbish.
If person want marry virgin, let him marry a virgin.
If you didn't marry a vrigin, allow him to marry a virgin. Stop castigating people who want to do the right thing.

sarkinbauchi:
✓ Your comment is rubbish. If person want marry virgin, let him marry a virgin. If you didn't marry a vrigin, allow him to marry a virgin. Stop castigating people who want to do the right thing.

Have I said, "Don't marry a virgin."? You are free to marry yourself a virgin. I merely posited that that particular problem never seems to end with just marrying a virgin, as we have seen it play out many times in society.

If you aren't a virgin and you are looking for a virgin, then you aren't being reasonable, it's only fair you meet the standards you expect to find.

No benefits.

And if you want to marry a virgin, then you will grow old because meeting them is by luck

Marry a virgin. A lady of good character. One u love and loves u. Marry ur soul mate. But in a quest to marry a virgin don't ignore other indices. Any LovePeddler can pretend to be a virgin. I recommend this book atomic vibes by James Clearie. If u haven't read it. Don't get married👵

A. Typical nairaland banter. But they never ask their mother if she did a DNA test.

J

A Woman's Character is more important than her Virginity.


You can marry a Virgin that end up being a jezebel that torment your life.

Virginity is a sign of decipline and purity. One of the few emotional advantages is that your woman will only be emotionally attached to you till you break her trust.
Spiritually: she has every power to decide your fate if you fvckup or do otherwise.
Finally: virgin or not any lady can become a public toilet bcs every olosho, peternity fraudsters where once a virgin

Eeyah! Keep looking you will soon find one.

Virgin ko, delta ni.

There are alot of benefit, nah we wey marry virgin understand...

Marriage needs a lot of things for peace and love to reign, virgin wife is the most important thing.

To even see the virgin from 13 years upward in Nigeria hard self. All of them na extra wide products

Oh, look, this stupid question for the nth time. Nairaland ever as backward as Sango Ota.

Story

damzy88:
Hello,

I am a single guy thinking of getting married soon but some of the ladies I am considering having a serious relationship that may lead to marriage with are not virgins. This came as a surprise to me as I thought it will be easy to find a virgin to settle down with.

Should I try to focus on finding the one with best character and settle with or I should continue with my search to find a virgin?

I understand marriage is more than virginity but I am just wondering.

Looking forward to your responses.

Thanks

Are you a Virgin?

j

You have asked a beautiful question,but you see, marrying a virgin is good but not paramount, just watch out for some of this factors when considering who you will settle with, make sure the person is not a single parent raised person, it always ends in regret.Watchout, and make sure there upbringing is topnotch,if they had a bad experience through marriage from there parent you will see sege. Virginity is nothing compare to a good upbringing and the person also retrained there self to be a good personality on there own.You can marry non virgin and still be happy if they have a good character and fear of GOD.