You will never understand what it means to fall into grave sexual temptation until you start living a sexually pure life or until you decide to work for God.
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I'm not yet a pastor in full time ministry but I can tell you the truth based on series of temptation I get these days, the work of a pastor is one of the hardest when it comes to standing against sexual temptation.
Yesterday I also perfectly understood why pastors fall for married women or ladies whose marriage or relationship is in crises during counseling.
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The truth is counselling a heart broken woman is a big trap. A big trap that can only take God and courage to not fall into. You will be shocked that the person you are counseling is so vulnerable and sexually primed that the greatest emotions flowing through her at that time is a urge to be touched, cuddled, caressed and knacked. I saw everything last night, and my defence began to crack, wane, weakened and almost dissolved completely while the lady was begging time for me to touch her.
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It was yesterday I realized that deciding to live a holy life or deciding to be a pastor means that you have only signed yourself into continuous sexual temptation. No wonder most pastors fail! I thought I had won the demon of temptation until I experienced the dimension of counseling a broken married lady.
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I won't go into the story. It's a long crazy one. But pastors will understand what I'm saying .... And if you have not counselled a heartbroken woman either married or single... You can never understand. How I escaped without crashing totally is a mystery.

Next time you find yourself in such a situation just suck her breasts and move on because it is not considered as cheating

Seems this op will soon fall or has already fallen sef
The way he even palash the “knack” word sef

FreeSpirited:
You will never understand what it means to fall into grave sexual temptation until you start living a sexually pure life or until you decide to work for God.
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I'm not yet a pastor in full time ministry but I can tell you the truth based on series of temptation I get these days, the work of a pastor is one of the hardest when it comes to standing against sexual temptation.
Yesterday I also perfectly understood why pastors fall for married women or ladies whose marriage or relationship is in crises during counseling.
.
The truth is counselling a heart broken woman is a big trap. A big trap that can only take God and courage to not fall into. You will be shocked that the person you are counseling is so vulnerable and sexually primed that the greatest emotions flowing through her at that time is a urge to be touched, cuddled, caressed and knacked. I saw everything last night, and my defence began to crack, wane, weakened and almost dissolved completely while the lady was begging time for me to touch her.
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It was yesterday I realized that deciding to live a holy life or deciding to be a pastor means that you have only signed yourself into continuous sexual temptation. No wonder most pastors fail! I thought I had won the demon of temptation until I experienced the dimension of counseling a broken married lady.
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I won't go into the story. It's a long crazy one. But pastors will understand what I'm saying .... And if you have not counselled a heartbroken woman either married or single... You can never understand. How I escaped without crashing totally is a mystery.

the story please

And to think this is just a 7months old marriage. And lady is already crying that she wants to go back to being single. I shock.. To even realise lady was too emotionally stressed by the whole thing that she just want an emotional cushion that will be knakking her as coping mechanism. Really crazy

Danielomisco:

the story please

Met her last month in a Keke on a Sunday.
I don't know how and why I broke my rules where I promised not to collect ladies numbers anymore
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As much as I tried to be focused.. The subtle green light was serious.. She's mature looking, bold and tall.. Immediately I broke the ice, she just flowed into the conversation. At the end I broke my rules and asked for her number.
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I thought she was just the normal working class ladies who want relationship... Until yesterday when she came calling and pestering to come see me for encouragement/succor, I never knew she was married!

FreeSpirited:


Met her last month in a Keke on a Sunday.
I don't know how and why I broke my rules where I promised not to collect ladies numbers anymore
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As much as I tried to be focused.. The subtle green light was serious.. She's mature looking, bold and tall.. Immediately I broke the ice, she just flowed into the conversation. At the end I broke my rules and asked for her number.
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I thought she was just the normal working class ladies who want relationship... Until yesterday when she came calling and pestering to come see me for encouragement/succor, I never knew she was married!

oh no,sad story indeed.

FreeSpirited:
And to think this is just a 7months old marriage. And lady is already crying that she wants to go back to being single. I shock.. To even realise lady was too emotionally stressed by the whole thing that she just want an emotional cushion that will be knakking her as coping mechanism. Really crazy

God please....7months??hmmn

Danielomisco:
oh no,sad story indeed.

Really more sad that she's a worker in church
Her husband is like the pastors PA... With multiple designations
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Things are happening o.
And if you see this shy soft spoken fine lady.. U will feel pity... Everything I was saying no enter her heart... She badly wanted an emotional tampoon to lean on, with sex to kill her sorrow..

TheBreastSucker:
Next time you find yourself in such a situation just suck her breasts and move o because it is not considered as cheating

Not that easy..u will be adding petrol to fire..before u know she will direct ur hand to her wet pussssyyy and then ur brain will activate.

FreeSpirited:

Really more sad that she's a worker in church
Her husband is like the pastors PA... With multiple designations
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Things are happening o.
And if you see this shy soft spoken fine lady.. U will feel pity... Everything I was saying no enter her heart... She badly wanted an emotional tampoon to lean on, with sex to kill her sorrow..

Oga go in to details na! What's with all this small small gist you're dropping??

Read about this and digest it, marriages is not ur mates and also you won't understand how woman behaves until you see how a mad man behaves

Mopeola:
Read about this and digest it, marriages is not ur mates and also you won't understand how woman behaves until you see how a mad man behaves

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It's like sometimes, a lot of men don't know what they are going into when they decide to give in to societal expectation that they must marry .
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In this case
- The guys source of income isn't regular
- Guy is mean and unappreciative according to the lady cos she supports the home more often than not..
- Jealous and reactive
- poor communication and little gisting bond time...
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I'm like why did u guys now marry each other

FreeSpirited:

Really more sad that she's a worker in church
Her husband is like the pastors PA... With multiple designations
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Things are happening o.
And if you see this shy soft spoken fine lady.. U will feel pity... Everything I was saying no enter her heart... She badly wanted an emotional tampoon to lean on, with sex to kill her sorrow..

maybe her husband doesn't have a clue too

Danielomisco:
maybe her husband doesn't have a clue too

From our discussion, she says her husband is kind of mean... And lady is frustrated.. Seems a broke church man is an angry man.
She says husband has locked her out twice for going to church program. The last one that happened two days ago husband ejected some of her belongings to the verandaa before she came back from program btw 6 and 8pm....

FreeSpirited:


From our discussion, husband is kind of mean... And lady is frustrated.. Seems a broke church man is an angry man.
She says husband has locked her out twice for going to church program. The last one that happened two days ago husband ejected some of her belongings to the verandaa before she came back from program btw 6 and 8pm....

I'm learning here,the other side of the story will be interesting but either ways men need to be really careful with women live very very careful.

Danielomisco:

I'm learning here,the other side of the story will be interesting but either ways men need to be really careful with women live very very careful.

The man is also not honest about domestic matters and money according to her. And the lady finds out on a number of occasion. I also noticed another one.. When a relative called... Who narrated how hubby denied to have packed his belongings outside.. Whereas Lady was saying it was a lie

When I told her her man has the potential to be a good hubby being a Christian if she can exercise patients... She says Christian by mouth
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And the lady finds

FreeSpirited:

The man is also not honest about domestic matters and money. And the lady finds out on a number of occasion. I also noticed another one.. When a relative called... Who narrated how hubby denied to have packed his belongings outside.. Whereas Lady was saying it was a lie

When I told her her man has the potential to be a good hubby being a Christian if she can exercise patients... She says Christian by mouth
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And the lady finds

why do i feel she went too deep trying to manipulate you

FreeSpirited:
And to think this is just a 7months old marriage. And lady is already crying that she wants to go back to being single. I shock.. To even realise lady was too emotionally stressed by the whole thing that she just want an emotional cushion that will be knakking her as coping mechanism. Really crazy

Well
That is why some marital stories are just unbelievable
This one is 7 months
You have not seen the one of 24 hours and the two couples don't want the marriage again

FreeSpirited:


From our discussion, husband is kind of mean... And lady is frustrated.. Seems a broke church man is an angry man.
She says husband has locked her out twice for going to church program. The last one that happened two days ago husband ejected some of her belongings to the verandaa before she came back from program btw 6 and 8pm....

If the husband locked her out for going to church
Then she did not marry a church man
And you claiming whatever you are reveals you own deficiency when you you wrote a broke church man is an angry man

FreeSpirited:

Really more sad that she's a worker in church
Her husband is like the pastors PA... With multiple designations
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Things are happening o.
And if you see this shy soft spoken fine lady.. U will feel pity... Everything I was saying no enter her heart... She badly wanted an emotional tampoon to lean on, with sex to kill her sorrow..

Absolutely a fak storyline that you are saying the husband is the pastors pa

The op just concocted a cock and bull story

baralatie:

Absolutely a fak storyline that you are saying the husband is the pastors pa

On this Nairaland.. U people can be quite stvpid sometimes or unbelievable. Oga, there are some monikers u don't post this kind of thrash about...

When I was regular on Reddit... I hardly see people discount others story for its oddity... And the most crazy , awkward story or life experience u will ever read is on Reddit... But u guys here with little view about life always down talking people...

baralatie:
The op just concocted a cock and bull story

I've been here for long..... U should know whom u wud splatter with such tag.. Really crazy u are probably above 35 or 40 yet talking like a naive jjc

baralatie:

If the husband locked her out for going to church
Then she did not marry a church man
And you claiming whatever you are reveals you own deficiency when you you wrote a broke church man is an angry man

Are you this stvpid or naive to not know many churchy religious men have bad marriage while maintaining fake love in public?.. I have seen many including pastors... This shows u are a baby...
And I never claimed I don't have deficiency.
The fact that I allow her to come to my place is one deficiency cos I could smell from her chats that she needed more than encouragement... I had to battle with my willpower to control my hormone..... Same lady first asked me about where to get hotel for cooling off..... I had to deflect it cos I know the meaning... telling her to come over was a risk... Instead of sit down and learn u are talking trash

Be careful of woman that carry church on their heads to the detriment of their husbands or families, it doesn’t end well

When a woman says I’m sad, I need someone to talk to, can I come over…

Just know that heightened emotions —-> Sexual vulnerability/arousal, and Negative emotions —-> a need to feel good, feel wanted.

A woman is In a chaotic or low energy state in such cases and will seek to receive a man’s energy to order her chaos or raise her energy level.

If you succumb, your energetic integrity is compromised and your energy field (life-force) diminishes.

I always avoid such women.

At op,I have been there before.Dont just have a discussion with her in a private place anymore.Make sure you guys meet in an open place to avoid stories that touch.

Danielomisco:
God please....7months??hmmn

Don't be surprised. The first 2 years or so in marriage are usually the most difficult.

baralatie:

Absolutely a fak storyline that you are saying the husband is the pastors pa

Pastors PA is also a human being. God forgive me, but I've spent a night with a Pastor's wife before. We are all human

eastOFwest:


Don't be surprised. The first 2 years or so in marriage are usually the most difficult.

I even told her first 5 years is usually the most turbulent.... According to marriage and divorce stat

FreeSpirited:

I even told her first 5 years is usually the most turbulent.... According to marriage and divorce stat

Exactly. Sadly, some women need to cheat first before they realise the value of their marriage. Some just have to get it out of their system and will never do it again. Sort of "marriage character building." Don't ask me why

eastOFwest:


Pastors PA is also a human being. God forgive me, but I've spent a night with a Pastor's wife before. We are all human

And i am not God to judge
What i am saying is the story is not true
It is true that infidelity happens even amongst some ministers I have seen Wella
But to say the wife is a worker in church and the husband is the pastors p.a and the husband is fighting the wife for going to church.tye story get k leg