I recently met this girl and she was honest enough to tell me that she cheated twice on her ex twice

First time with a guy, second time with another. They eventually broke up and she attributed it to her ex finding out and breaking up with her and how she was also done, according to her, she wasn't getting enough attention, care and love and had been long over the relationship before it waas over. As a matter of fact, the guy has been begging her to come back which is kinda weird considering she cheated so, might be true about the neglect.

To be fair to her, it was a long distance relationship (same country) and the guy never for once attempted to see her for over 3 months.
She was very honest with me about everything and i'm not sure many girls will do that.

With that said, this girl likes me a lot and seems to be in love with me, i'm falling for her as well and she's said the ball is in my court. My fear is that i've been a victim of a serious infidelity in a relationship, my ex cheated on me which was shattering and left me scarred

It's been a long time since that and i've pretty much been single since my ex and i'm long over it but is this the right way to get back in the game? For those hwo have cheated in previous reltionships, do you see/find yourself doing it again?

Serious reponses only

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Old things have passed away. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Watch her closely. Some girls have done a lot worse than that and they are still living good lives. It's a good thing she told you about her past.

Let he who is without sin be the first to cast a stone...

Caracta: Old things have passed away. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Watch her closely. Some girls have done a lot worse than that and they are still living good lives. It's a good thing she told you about her past.

Let he who is without sin be the first to cast a stone...

I've never cheated on a girl

Can you trust such a guy if it was reversed?

DnigerianPrince:

I've never cheated on a girl

Can you trust such a guy if it was reversed?

It wasn't an accusation. I was just trying to tell you that nobody is perfect. Twasn't even a direct shot at you.

As for me, the fact that a man has never cheated doesn't mean he cannot cheat He might just choose not to. I trust a man, not because of what he CAN do but because of what he chose not to do. And also for the sake of peace and longevity.

Do you trust a girl that has never confessed cheating before? Pls answer.

Not true. Anybody can have a switch-flip, a sense of conviction.
Some hated the things they once sherished, other love wot they once abhor!

Caracta:
It wasn't an accusation. I was just trying to tell you that nobody is perfect. Twasn't even a direct shot at you.

As for me, the fact that a man has never cheated doesn't mean he cannot cheat He might just choose not to. I trust a man, not because of what he CAN do but because of what he chose not to do. And also for the sake of peace and longevity.

Do you trust a girl that has never confessed cheating before? Pls answer.

I didn't think it was a shot at me

I can't say i do or don't but because she has no history of such or none that i'm aware of, it makes it easier to trust her and let her have such benefit.
However you're right in the sense that, everyone is capable of cheating but we only choose not to. Question now is, why didn't she choose the other option of not cheating? Please note, i can't ask her this as it makes her feel worse about herself and it's like beating a dead horse BUT i'm curious

She made a mistake she wasn't proud of (i guess). How would you have known if she didn't tell you? There are some things we do and question our actions later. I'm not trying to hold brief for her action(s)...but i think you should give her a chance. To make you feel better, don't get deeply involved and commited until you trust her again.

Caracta: She made a mistake she wasn't proud of (i guess). How would you have known if she didn't tell you? There are some things we do and question our actions later. I'm not trying to hold brief for her action(s)...but i think you should give her a chance. To make you feel better, don't get deeply involved and commited until you trust her again.

I agree we make mistakes as human, thanks for the advice and it's duly noted

They never actually tell the correct number of times they have cheated.

tpacalipse: They never actually tell the correct number of times they have cheated.

I want to believe in this instance that she did.

Guy every girl is capable of cheating, it is in them whether they have done it or not, that we know (xThis is your girl when she is still with her ex and had not cheated), okay now we know that sometimes there can be tempatations that one cannot resist at times and this leads to cheating, when a girl has done is once and she is truly sorry she can decide not to do it again (This is your girl after she has cheated once on her ex), here we don't know whether the girl will cheat again though it likely that she will but there is still a chance, you just have to watch and then see what happens (ooops what happens, your girl cheats again). do you see the point i am trying to make?
Hey you could look at what caracta has said and decide to have faith or you can look t history and also consider the fact that sometimes appearing to come clean can also be a deception. Guy i will tell you something, it is not safe to hang on to only one babe even when the babe is good, talkless of one that has cheated twice before, guy forget confession matter, catholics confess all the time but sometimes they still repeat the smae sin (this is not a jibe at catholics just for analogical purposes).

summary of Advice: Watch your step with that girl, you have no proof that she has changed, all you have is proof that she can cheat and has done it before (twice on one guy). What a girl says is different than what she does until and unless proven otherwise

what language is the word 'CHEATER'?.
Gbagaun on the front page!

Once debe is always debe

d only constant thing is CHANGE! A cheat can definately change

She cheated TWICE on her ex TWICE..what kind of woman is dat

money-hungry :
what language is the word 'CHEATER'?.
Gbagaun on the front page!

go use am kolet money 4 bank

D best advice I will give to u is to be like a consultant to the girl...as in tell her if she wants to pump...u will recommend guys for her..but she should not just do without ur consent datzall

Mr op! Trust me when I say, she will cheat again and again and again. Proof is that, she didn't open her legs to just one guy alone, she did it once and went further to do it the 2nd time... Come on, can't you see the hand writting? She'll do it again.

I think she's sorry only because she was caught.

In-fact, she have no right to call her punny private part anymore, it now belong to the federal government. Hence, it's a public dumping ground.

the heading of this thread is a disgrace to Nigeria . ..."CHEATER" ... are we talkin about animals here edit that ..once a CHEAT ,always a CHEAT.thanks

The answer to this question... ehn? lies in research. However research in itself is not universal as it is usually limited to a sect or age or sex.

We can only have opinions, conjectures and bla bla bla from people here.

In my own opinion, I do not know.


ON THE CONTRARY YOU GUYS SHOULD FORGET ABOUT HEADING. Imagine? The word is even acceptable and we don abuse the guy.

At op! Are you a student in a higher institution? This sounds like campus stuff.

Run for dat girl she is a cheater

Jazzgreen: the heading of this thread is a disgrace to Nigeria . ..."CHEATER" ... are we talkin about animals here edit that ..once a CHEAT ,always a CHEAT.thanks

Too many useless english professors...the word CHEATER has been accepted in use...especially on media even in d US....so stop saying rubbish

Op, you are just selfish. You are not married to her and still want to have her alone 2 yourself

short form of two words "cheat' and "her"

Jazzgreen: the heading of this thread is a disgrace to Nigeria . ..."CHEATER" ... are we talkin about animals here edit that ..once a CHEAT ,always a CHEAT.thanks

Ode.. CHEETAH is for animal!! And like someone said.. the word CHEATER has been recognised!! So phuck of here and stop forming!

@OP.. She still gon cheat just to taste more bulalas!!

money-hungry :
what language is the word 'CHEATER'?.
Gbagaun on the front page!

According to the english man, you are a CHEAT. Nowadays though, people care less what the English man thinks.
Yes Cheater is not supposed to be a word but AMERICANS use it and if you know anything about America, you will realize anything Yankee says goes. EVEN CNN has used the word CHEATER on their display a million times so let it rest. CHEATER has come to stay.

:/ah tayama ooo....

It's true if speaking of men but false if talking of women.