Jfrezzy:
Too many desperate woman in nigeria,when I see u desperate ,U been used ,anyway,I got no time 4 desperate woman anymore.

Smh what these desperados don't know is that many married couples are unhappy in their marriage. Many endure than enjoy their union. Marriage takes a lot of hard work to work especially if you marry the wrong person.

still some of them still pretend and say " what do I need a man for or I don't need a man whereas fire dey burn her underneath

holatin:
still some of them still pretend and say " what do I need a man for or I don't need a man whereas fire dey burn her underneath

Let's set something straight, please.

What I think some ladies try to say is the following:
What do I need a BAD man for?
It's better to remain single.


Most people want a healthy, loving relationship BUT not everybody can have such.
It's a pity but not a reason to enter a marriage that resembles hell on earth.

cococandy:
Eya. Such fallacy.
There are 102 males born for every 100 females.

the rest are speculations as the last census shows that there are approximately as much men as women and in some countires more men than women even.

The problem is the word 'eligibility'
When many women are hoping to marry a rich man they tend to overlook the single not so rich guys out there.

The women who don't see money as the first on the list of desirable traits will attest that there's no shortage of marriageable men

Again

Men generally do the proposing and since many men have commitment phobia... You know the rest.

The statistics above is fallacious to say the least. All evidence on ground point to the fact that their are more females than males on earth.

TV01:

If a society has a marriage culture that looks down on single ladies, it will equally look down on single men. Ladies don;t typically marry each other do they?

Ergo, men should be just as desperate, why is that no tthe case?


TV

Yes, the society looks down on single men as well.

I was once denied a political position cos I am single.

In social gatherings especially alumni meetings, the single guy can't help but feel odd. And maybe an old classmate walks up to you while you are standing/sitting alone and says... "guy, where's ur madam na? Let's meet her"

Worse of all, I was denied Visa to the USA cos I am single.

That pregnancy trick tho, escaped it twice already....girls are not smiling

donpeey22:
My own opinion is that single ladies should stop putting pressure on themselves and others about marriage, only to turn around and blame the society. Marriage is not a do or die affair as everybody must not marry. You must not have everything in life. So, if you can't find the kind of man you spent your youthful age searching for, don't start getting unnecessarily desperate when you clock 35. Be contented with your job, business or any other achievement you have been able to accomplish at that age. The truth is that most single ladies (apologies to the few who are single for no fault of theirs) are responsible for their singlehood because they made wrong choices and set so many unrealistic expectations for their desired men while still young. So, by the time they realize their mistakes at older ages, desperation sets in
and the whole blame game begins. My point is if people set their priorities right, they have higher
chances of achieving them and being happy, but
if the priorities are wrong, they will always fail and blame others for their failures.

Exactly my brother. I didnt know we were saying the same thing all the while.

oluwadanie1:
*just passing by*
I don't have any business with this yet.
Am still 17

18.when all hope were lost,they finally decided to be single mothers.they look for a boy of 17 years old(call him pet or son).furnish him with all he needed and use him to get a baby.

lol. Very true.

Click on the link below and share your veiws on dating in higher institution. Is it advisable or not?

http://schoolsmartnerd..com.es/2014/09/dating-in-higher-institution.html?m=1

Which evidence again?

More males are born per females.
So even if all those things do happen,it probably takes care of the the excess number of males and makes it an almost equal number with the total number of females.

So wetin u dey tok?

donpeey22:
The statistics above is fallacious to say the least. All evidence on ground point to the fact that their are more females than males on earth.

cococandy:
See question

Abi nah. When you say all the time i begin wonder.

samflex:
That pregnancy trick tho, escaped it twice already....girls are not smiling

Meaning two abortions i guess. Sorry for u.

donpeey22:
The statistics above is fallacious to say the least. All evidence on ground point to the fact that their are more females than males on earth.

How do you know the statistics are fallacious? Is it because they are inconvenient to you?

And what EVIDENCE have you got?

missbronze:
Na una sabi.

As for me, the only thing i desire in this life is to have a CHILD. A child to give all my love, to train, and to raise.

And, is only a child that will make me do anything desprate. because, a child is all i desire in this life.

Husband or no Husband, i dont give a damn.

And, am so glad that one can have a child without a husband.

you can buy sperm at sperm bank and do in-vitro fertilisation no body is compelling u to marry

cococandy:
Which evidence again?

More males are born per females.
So even if all those things do happen,it probably takes care of the the excess number of males and makes it an almost equal number with the total number of females.

So wetin u dey tok?

Hmm. You better do your research well.

missbronze:
Na una sabi.

As for me, the only thing i desire in this life is to have a CHILD. A child to give all my love, to train, and to raise.

And, is only a child that will make me do anything desprate. because, a child is all i desire in this life.

Husband or no Husband, i dont give a damn.

And, am so glad that one can have a child without a husband.

and how do you intend to achieve that without a husband except u want it out of wedlock

DECOtech:

Yes, the society looks down on single men as well.

I was once denied a political position cos I am single.

In social gatherings especially alumni meetings, the single guy can't help but feel odd. And maybe an old classmate walks up to you while you are standing/sitting alone and says... "guy, where's ur madam na? Let's meet her"

Worse of all, I was denied Visa to the USA cos I am single.

americans would deny you for that - they believe it is much easier for you to disappear & never return back if you don't have a family based in nigeria. single men are also treated harshly by the society.

cococandy:
Which evidence again?
More males are born per females.
So even if all those things do happen,it probably takes care of the the excess number of males and makes it an almost equal number with the total number of females.
So wetin u dey tok?

this isn't about sheer numbers, it's about eligibility. nigerian women are highly hypergamous. they want the best of the lot, this is why you have all these outrageous society weddings all the time. it's the dream of most women. most of them won't date their age mates, let alone date someone younger than them.

by the time you add height, finances, educational background, profession, material wealth, etc into the equation, you would see that 90% of the available men would have failed the selection process. only 10% of the men would remain for the vast number of women seeking for a partner....and thus the scarcity of eligible men.

carefreewannabe:


How do you know the statistics are fallacious? Is it because they are inconvenient to you?

And what EVIDENCE have you got?

I know because I am aware that sometimes people publish false information to make others feel better. The evidence are that Majority of people who have died since the boko haram insurgency are men. Also, a visit to the accident and emergency wards of any of the teaching hospitals in the country shows more male accident victims than females, so you see why the female population is higher than that of male.

The list in the OP IS VERY SHAMEFUL TO SAY THE LEAST. Awon Marry by fire by force crew.Nigerian women who do all these rubbish need to be ashamed of themselves, allowing the morally debased society to define what happiness means to them and reducing their future ambitions to just marriage alone. You all cannot think of something else other than Marriage. No future ambitions, no ways of reinventing and improving yourselves in other aspects of your life . No wonder your men dnt respect you and treat y'all like sh1t, call you all sorts of names like fish brain and dum coz you've got nothing upstairs other than marriage. And you wonder why your men are sick and tired of you after marriage.

If you women like, continue to allow society to turn you to puppets and reduce your brain to the size of a bean.

OnyeEgo1:
I am a guy, is it a must that i have to marry and start bringing forth little ones... Well dia are orphanages around jare, na adoption sure pass....
Marriage no dey my dictionary at all, n i knw i av a female counterpart out there too.

Haba Mana Bros... Ur ideology contradicts Ur Signature...

I agree with you. Which is why I said they need to reasses what counts as eligibility to them. Instead of whining as if men are not in existence.
Or better still be happy single if the available men don't meet their standards.

coogar:


americans would deny you for that - they believe is much easier for you to disappear & never return back if you don't have a family based in nigeria. single men are also treated harshly by the society.



this isn't about sheer numbers, it's about eligibility. nigerian women are highly hypergamous. they want the best of the lot, this is why you have all these outrageous society weddings all the time. it's the dream of most women. most of them won't date their age mates, let alone date someone younger than them.

by the time you add height, finances, educational background, profession, material wealth, etc into the equation, you would see that 90% of the available men would have failed the selection process. only 10% of the men would remain for the vast number of women seeking for a partner....and thus the scarcity of eligible men.

donpeey22:
I know because I am aware that sometimes people publish false information to make others feel better. The evidence are that Majority of people who have died since the boko haram insurgency are men. Also, a visit to the accident and emergency wards of any of the teaching hospitals in the country shows more male accident victims than females, so you see why the female population is higher than that of male.

So you think the data was made up to make women feel better? Interesting.

And you think that the majority of people who died fighting BH led to a lower amount of males as compared to females?
We will see it when the 2015 census will be revealed.

And you don't know that women are at higher risk in other situations and that many of them also die (young)?


The ONLY reason why you claim that these numbers are wrong is because they are inconvenient to you.
If I quoted the same source showing that women outnumber men, you would be very happy and CHOOSE TO BELIEVE IT.

It is that simple.

At poster... You said something which i think its not pleasant enough... You said something about taking the guys photograph to a CELE CHURCH. What proof do u have about that? And tell me a woman who does take her fiance's picture or name to the church or Alfa before planning to marry him? Its better u say church outrightly.. Making mention of a church's name isnt good enough.. Cheers!

patrickdarlins:
guys!!!!...its my birthday today!!!!help me celebrate with many likes.....kisses to u guys....i love u alllllll....@op...i will be back for ya quest....

Gay Alert!!! 14yrz Behind Barz Nobi Beans Ooh!

@OP:

What really do you intend to achieve with this thread?

cococandy:
You would agree if it says women are higher in number. No be so?
What reason would the workers have for inflating male population figures?

The pressure on wives to give birth to sons so as to continue the heritage (whatever that means) and to avoid being replaced by a malechild-bearing second wife is enough to tell you that the rate of male child occurences in nigeria Is probably higher than the 102males per 100females that is the world standard.

I am sorry girl but you sound a little bit bitter and way like an european lady...You are asking what to continue the heritage means and you are igbo..It's unfortunate how you think you can wipe away what has been for ages just cause you have been brainwashed and you now call yourself educated and exposed...Maybe when you get married you will ask your husband what continuing heritage means..Here is not Europe..If a woman can't have a male child,It should be noted that both should be supportive,pray and maybe seek for help from an expert.. stop forming to know..You are a woman and not a god..

swagloverss:
"Statistics show that only 3% of single women of marriageable age in Nigeria are undisturbed by their lack of a spouse! The other 97% would do just about anything to become Mrs. Somebody''.

As we read on, we are going to see some rather unorthodox things Nigerian women will do in their quest to bag a husband! Some are bizarre, some are skanky and some are downright sad but if you are willing to try anything and getting a husband is the only activity left on your bucket list, you might want to try a few! (Men beware).

In no particular order:

1)Snatching a friend or relation's man.
All is fair in love and war! Rumor has it that women have resorted to locking their phones, hiding their men and coding their gist from so-called friends because it's a jungle out there.

2)Re-inventing themselves.
Pretence is the order of the day. No man wants to tame the shrew or teach the inexperienced or make an honest woman out of a dishonest one so once marriage is desired, women package themselves in pseudo, ready-made, easy-to-use, highly desirable packages. After marriage, what you see is what you get!

3)Trapping with pregnancy.
This used to be the old school method of getting a man to propose. From skipping the pill to seducing the man or getting him drunk when she was ovulating, a woman usually knew she had the man where she wanted him once she missed her period even if there was no commitment. Now the guys are saying YES to baby mamas and YES to child support. Are the girls deterred? NO! The girls have stepped up their game by involving the parents and you know parents don't like scandals

4)Praying & Fasting.
This would presumably be an honorable means of obtaining a husband but sometimes the prayers are offered up to deities other than God & other times it becomes a song permanently.
Taking his photograph to Cele church for a prophetess to pray over or a powerful Alfa. Heard it works like charm.
Taking his spérm, hair or personal effects to Babalawo. Guys, disposing of your condoms yourself is not such a bad idea.

5)Outright Jazz!
My friend recently gisted me about how a tied up, live pigeon had been discovered in a friend's sister-in-law's box. The woman confessed to using jazz and said she hadn't been sure if the guy would actually propose so she took the necessary precautions.

6)Putting love potion in his food!
This is classic and timeless but shouldn't it be called a compelling potion? Because in this case, love na by force!

7)Proposing to a guy!
Yes it does happen (Who wears the engagement ring?) Toasting a man's family so they make the decision for him! A friend complained that a girl he detested had over the months gotten close to his family. Lavishing on them, cooking for them and basically being their go-to girl and now his mum had put her foot down that he had to break up with his girlfriend and marry little-miss-went-home-to-mama depending on how much power the family wields, their word may be final.

Asking daddy to get them a husband!
If daddy's a big shot, arranging a husband for you is usually as easy as pie and some men would sell their souls for a large chunk of daddy's money so both parties are happy.

9)Being the man's maga!
Some women believe that when you finally get a man to be interested in you, spoiling him and overlooking his every fault would get you into a white gown faster than an okada. Some men don't mind a woman who houses them, clothes them, feeds them, gives them pocket money, never gets upset with them even when they misbehave and cleans up after them with little or no contribution from them living the dream

10)Giving him unlimited freedom.
Tell me I am number one baby; tell me I am the future mother of your kids and not Amina, Bisi or Ngozi. Women used to want to be the one AND ONLY in their man's life, now being the number one is good enough.

11)Polishing up a low class, barely educated brother in exchange for a ring!
The deal is simple, you send your cleaner, gateman or driver to night school, you give him language lessons, you take him to buy some new clothes and deodorant and teach him to call you honey instead of madam and in exchange, he gets to marry you, share an expensive bedroom and never worry about his bills ever again!

12)Revamping you.
Change your wardrobe, lose 20kg, buy a truckload of Brazilian hair, study the karma-sutra, do an angioplasty and change the age on your birth-certificate to read 22. Botox, plastic surgery, a compulsory gym membership and a body magic also indicated!

13)Becoming a worker in church!
Rumour has it that men go to church to marry, the same rumour also reveals that Greeters Ushers and Lead Soloists have the best exposure. Praise the Lord!

14)Moving to a new town or part of town
This always peaks the men's interest and at the same time you get to run away from your past and the old maid labels!

15)Going for deliverance
Going for deliverance from a spirit husband and sowing a big marriage seed in church! Giving your possessions to the poor, giving a sacrificial offering or just giving one thing to God that would make you weep.

16)Abandoning hopes, dreams and ambitions!
I've heard people say that women looking for a prince charming live unrealistic dreams, virgins are old-school, overly educated women are proud, rich women are not submissive, ambitious women are conceited, women with demanding jobs won't have time for their families, women who want a faithful man are deluded and women who don't get pregnant before wedlock have something wrong with their plumbing! So forsake the masters, don't even dream of a PhD, quit your job, give away all your money and surely a husband will come.

17)Outright Desperation
And if all the above fails, they marry a married man!
He could be your friend's husband, your sister's husband, your cousin's husband, your colleague's husband, even your mother's husband if possible.

Can you blame these women? The average guy has commitment phobia or is out to play till he is all spent before he settles down or is waiting to make his first 5 million before saying I do. Even a man with no future ambition or class, much less finances still knows he could have his pick of the best women out there, once he announces he is looking to settle!

''The last census showed a female-dominated demographic with more women per eligible bachelor.
Family and society constantly put the woman in hot water making her personal successes irrelevant till she bags a man''.

guy to be honest with you putting this on NL is making me fill like you are mocking women, yes all you said may be true but its dose not call for debate on what women do to get husband, an not a women anyway but I have sisters, relatives and so do you also, and every other person that will comment on this threat, so mind what you say to women cos you marry one day or your sister will also marry one day, instead pray for them cos you don't know they are passing through without a man beside them thanks.

SwagPower:
Haba Mana Bros... Ur ideology contradicts Ur Signature...

how? Explain

cococandy:
I agree with you. Which is why I said they need to reasses what counts as eligibility to them. Instead of whining as if men are not in existence.
Or better still be happy single if the available men don't meet their standards.

would the society let them stay single? let's face it, as much as what the OP is true, the society is largely responsible for this pressure. if everyone minds their business, women would stay single & happy as it obtains in the developed parts of the world.

our society cannot harass women for being single & expect them not to take desperate measures. an unmarried woman in nigeria is an object of ridicule. it's almost like a disease for a woman with a marriageable age not to have a husband.

her parents will talk, her own friends would neglect her, family friends would keep pestering her about her wedding date & blah blah. just like the society expects a man to go out there & become successful by fire by force, it's the same for the woman to get married.

All the points are truth nd they r happening evryday............ Dats y i dey fear say make woman no use juju find me abeg.

I know that too.

What then can a spinster do if not to decide to be happy despite all odds or review what eligibility means to her.
Many good guys are single and ok(but not wealthy)
I know some ladies are wise too and are prepared to work together with the man to build a home while many are still deep in the man must provide everything mindset that makes them place money as the first on their list.

Some single ladies would be married today if they look at potential and not cash at hand.

When life throws lemonades...

coogar:


would the society let them stay single? let's face it, as much as what the OP is true, the society is largely responsible for this pressure. if everyone minds their business, women would stay single & happy as it obtains in the developed parts of the world.

our society cannot harass women for being single & expect them not to take desperate measures. an unmarried woman in nigeria is an object of ridicule. it's almost like a disease for a woman with a marriageable age not to have a husband.

her parents will talk, her own friends would neglect her, family friends would keep pestering her about her wedding date & blah blah. just like the society expects a man to go out there & become successful by fire by force, it's the same for the woman to get married.

carefreewannabe:


So you think the data was made up to make women feel better? Interesting.

And you think that the majority of people who died fighting BH led to a lower amount of males as compared to females?
We will see it when the 2015 census will be revealed.

And you don't know that women are at higher
risk in other situations and that many of them
also die (young)?

The ONLY reason why you claim that these numbers are wrong is because they are inconvenient to you.
If I quoted the same source showing that women outnumber men, you would be very happy and

CHOOSE TO BELIEVE IT.
It is that simple.

Mind you, it's non of my business if the population of men has suddenly grown higher than that of women. FYI, I have got a girl who's is hell bent on marrying me even as I am not yet ready for marriage. So, it's not about me.
It's about stating the facts!
I am aware that there are some conditions that put women at risk, but not as much as those that put men at risk.