lynpetra:
i believe i am, getting married because i love,cherish and wish to spend my natural life with a well deserved companion..Kids are added advantage.I can not and will not,in all my existence in this life and in the after divorce my husband on that groun.Impotency is not and will not be the basis to measure my marriage.It won't even bring chaos.It sure can bring one thing and that's redemption.I will prove to him that he has got me,we must find a way to have children of our own,if he choose to be open minded.Impotency to me is Nothing.Not even my parents,friends will ever know nada!Not even the gods!!

Kirinwa:


As a matter of fact there's no reason for divorce because divorce on grounds of adultery was given in old testament cos of their sturbornness but New testament says stay married Until death do you part.

What baffles me is that some preachers divorce and remarry. Whatever informs that decision.

Besides op I guess you are still single cos I cant fathom how a married person was asleep during declaration of marriage oaths.

josite:
IF THE IMPOTENCY has not always been there,if it develops after the marriage.it is best to take it as a sickness and a christian is certainly not the person that abandons a sick person cus of sickness,so it is wrong for a christain to abandon a spouse cus of impotence or sickness.

if however a christain elects to be human as most of us christians often do ,expecting GOD to understand,the spouse should be ly and kindly given the options to suggest an acceptable man that will be providing the much needed sex/sperm as many of our forefathers faced with the same challenge used to do or better still to agree to a divorce cus it is best to leave rather than cause the impotent man additional pain.it may even be that GOD wants to bless the impotent man and he wants you to be out of his life before he does so.dont be suprised the moment you abandon the impotent man,he becomes potent and gives your best friend a triplet producing pregnancy.

marriage is created by law and the law of nigeria allows you to divorce if the guy cannot consume u.note however a man may be potent meaning he has good erection and yet not virile.so you need to say the exact definition of impotence cos quite a number of men that dont have a good enough erection for appreciable length of time are virile meaning if their sperm drops inot your pussy,u get pregnant meaning they are impotent by reason of no erection but potent by being capable of having productive sperm.

if you mean he is not virle,not productive and you really waant to have kids,i will advise you divorce if both of u cannot aggreed on another man impregnating u.Atimes impotency arises out of incompatibility from heaven or hell and change of partners resolves the issue as one of the partners may be labouring under an unbroken curse.

It is evil to hold down a man or woman into the marriage if they dont want to stay.as paul says let the unbelieving spouse departs if they want to.A SMART,WISE,GODLY imptent man will not force the spouse to say if she wants to leave,let her go especially if she is approaching menopause.

koyyes:

You are wrong and no true christian should believe your epistle.

Kay17:


It begs the question: who defines marriage, God or the State?

Toks2008:


Be specific please,which side should they disbelieve? and please make your assertions right by intelligently stating why you think otherwise rather than approaching it dogmatically.

kamo2930yahoo:
the question says IS IT WRONG? And u said NO? Your answer ought to be YES judging by your reasons.

olayinka63:
not only christian islam forbade muslim from marriage due to impotency cos it has great defects in family life

striktlymi:


God!

macof:


when has god ever defined marriage..
Is it the one men said god said?

lanrefront1:
You didn't explain yourself well.

Are you taking about couples who have been married for many or several years and something now happened to the husband?

(There is female impotency too but the I'll assume we're talking about that of the male since it's the most common and understandable)

Then the second scenario: a man and woman gets married and the wife discovers that the husband is impotent. Such a marriage can definitely be dissolved by church elders or authority.

mnairaland:

Marriage was defined by God the creator in genesis when he said,'It is not good for man to be alone.I will make him an help suitable for him.
Marrige is is the union of a man and woman primarily for companionship.

Toks2008:


Be specific please,which side should they disbelieve? and please make your assertions right by intelligently stating why you think otherwise rather than approaching it dogmatically.

mnairaland:


You are partly right but using wrong approach.

Yes, the emphasis was on the woman when jesus spoke about it, when he said except on the ground of adultery.
But you seem to condole infidelity on the part of men. That is where your approach is wrong. Infidelity is not expected of christians, real christians and this thread is addressed to real christians I believe. The man who make a habit or culture of infidelity, is priobably not a real christian.

By the way, i Paul's epistle, which was inspired by the holy spirit, the was no gender prefernce . It applies to both sexes. No sex is given preference.

Jesus wa was speaking to Jews who had a divorce background, that is why he spoke like that. For new testament christians, no sex distinction. Bible says, "In christ Jesus.. there is neither male or female , bond or free , but a new creation.

So u you see, divorce and infidelity is not allowed for both sex.

lynpetra:
i believe i am, getting married because i love,cherish and wish to spend my natural life with a well deserved companion..Kids are added advantage.I can not and will not,in all my existence in this life and in the after divorce my husband on that groun.Impotency is not and will not be the basis to measure my marriage.It won't even bring chaos.It sure can bring one thing and that's redemption.I will prove to him that he has got me,we must find a way to have children of our own,if he choose to be open minded.Impotency to me is Nothing.Not even my parents,friends will ever know nada!Not even the gods!!

born2fuck:
Being a christian doesn't mean you should be mumu, even Jesus was never mumu as people of now a days Christianity, I remember dem David, Solomon, Elijah, and Moses, all of dem sharp. If your marriage have issue, divorced and get a new life, there is always room for forgiveness

jacabi:
Till death do you part.

striktlymi:
The question here should be: was there ever a marriage to start with?

In my view, a number of factors must be considered before someone can truly claim that he or she is married.

1) The union must be one entered with full consent.
2) The couples must be able to consummate the union via the conjugal act.
3) The couples must have attained the age of reasoning.

Without those 3, there is no marriage. A man who is impotent would have defaulted on at least one of the above. The lady would be right to ask for a dissolution of the union as divorce does not come to play here.

enkay4love:
Point of correction,impotency is'nt an inherent problem,it is simply caused by man-made factors.

booqee: Well except in a case where the person caused it himself
and didn't tell his/her partner...

enkay4love:
A man can be impotent for life,if he had untreated mumps as a child,untreated STDs especially Syphilis as an adult & if he has a spirit wife. A woman can be impotent in marriage,if she damaged her womb thru an abortion by a quack in her single days,untreated STDs & if she has a spirit husband. That's all for now.Above all,it pays to be health-conscious & prayerful at all times,cos that's the only weapon.

enkay4love:
& if she has a spirit husband

LordReed:


And if it is the woman that is unable to bear children, what then?

born2fuck:
Being a christian doesn't mean you should be mumu, even Jesus was never mumu as people of now a days Christianity, I remember dem David, Solomon, Elijah, and Moses, all of dem sharp. If your marriage have issue, divorced and get a new life, there is always room for forgiveness

striktlymi:


Same principle!

LordReed:


It is unfortunate that you would advise that a couple divorce simply because one or the other of them is unable to bear children. Marriage and divorce are not kids games were you take turns to do a hop skotch. As an institution strictly for adults it is necessary adult solutions be sort for some of these issues. We have the best of both worlds in that we can seek both spiritual and physical aid to our problems as Christians and to suggest that divorce is the prime solution for some of these situations is like cutting off the head to cure a headache.