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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by CoCoLav(f): 8:32pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
GooseBaba: That's what we are saying na. Widows that are landladies most often were married under the ACT. The law is always enforced if you have a good lawyer unless you are afraid they will use African juju on you so you leave it in the hands of God. Yes this is Nigeria and Nigerians dont joke with money or landed properties. 3 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GooseBaba: 8:33pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
chrisbaba1: Bros, the season for agalumo don pass na...? Besides, it all boils down to tribes and how they view their women folk... A first wife is the head of wives, if she signs court documents more blessings... In the case of multiple wives we can deduct that the women understand their culture.. So judging traditional laws with western influence is a bit too emotional... Meanwhile, go drink alomo bitters... 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:40pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
GooseBaba: We've all heard of many cases where the woman only discovers that the man had another wife or wives in the process of the burial and they start showing up , customary law will recognize all those women whereas if she got married in a registry she and her kids will be the main benefactors. Abeg if there any woman who's reading this and thinks customary law is the same it's not o. Research and find out what your rights are under customary law and make an informed decision. 3 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Vikthor(m): 8:41pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
....court for me...is a yes yes... White....Hmmmmmm is a No No. ....ttaditional ...I fit shun that one after all...bride price has been paid... 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GooseBaba: 8:43pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
tatiana009: Exactly..!! You think they did not know she has documents.... But they tried regardless.. What about the women who were not famous or strong enough to fight back with all their documents.. Be mindful of what tribe or tradition you marry into. When tradition overrules your gra gra documents.. Make he no be like film trick... 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by AreaFada2: 8:43pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
If you're conerned about in-laws chasing you out of husband house in case the worst happens, there's something called a will. Customary courts recognise trado-marriage. There's even something called common law marriage WITHOUT any marriage conducted at all: after some years of cohabitation. All these religions from the desert have turned people's head. 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by HARDDON: 8:43pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: Dah fvq? U mean d "bed-guy" didn't marry u ( whyte/trad) after all d constant ferocious browsing et all? He simply paid some dowry( finally bought a bed) n wanted u to start dropping them lil ones? Oh how has sweetlemon turn bitterlemon BTW, whose a33 do u always kiss to make FP? 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:45pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
GooseBaba: Precisely, they tried but they didn't succeed because she had legal backing. At the end of the day her documents helped her, edit hour those documents she would surely have been cheated and would have been nothing she could do about. That us the whole essence of it, why leave yourself or your wife unprotected when you can avoid it tradition will never out rule documents legally recognized by the law, all they try to do is bully the woman into not going to court but with the support if family I know many women who have successful eon against their in laws 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:45pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
tatiana009:are you encouraging this just because of his properties . there are men who do more for their concubines than they do for their immediate families. reason best known to them..... perhaps they feels fulfilled with the concubines. 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by AreaFada2: 8:46pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
tatiana009:. Are the other kids not the man's own? The other ladies have as much right as you. If your husband when alive didn't deem you sufficient for him, why should the courts or his family do so? It seems the motive here is to corner all his wealth and disenfranchise the innocent kids outside. So marry your soulmate, not just a rich guy that splashes money around on women or a gigolo? 3 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:49pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
GooseBaba:I can tell you the properties bianca inherited is not upto half of ojukwu's real wealth. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:50pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
AreaFada2: No the other women don't have the same rights as the legally married woman in the eyes of the law. The children will be taken care of but court registry does not recognize 2nd wife and so on so it protects the legally married wife. Yes the best thing is to marry a man that won't marry more than one wife or betray you however many women have been shocked by husbands they trusted and thought they knew well until strange women appear after he dies do it is always best to protect yourself 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by IYANGBALI: 8:52pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
OrlandoOwoh:no I won't help you to do your home work. If you are a lawyer or law student,I pity you,meanwhile for your information,gani fawehinmi is late,it shows how current you are |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GooseBaba: 8:52pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Mclick: Bros, love dey sour na..? Make love take back seat...marriage is a contract... Everyone needs to understand that.. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:54pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
majekdom2: It is more about protecting her children. We know of many situation where the family takes everything and the children are left to live a life of poverty. There are cases where the family will insist that the children's school fees is too much and take them out even though their father left enough money for such. To pay for university for the children even becomes another issues as the mans family would have taken his money. It's best to protect your wife and children's future 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by easystudy101: 8:55pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Typical kolomentality, who made white and court weddings more solid? Try and avoid traditional marriage and see what will happen to u when you come back to the village and demand for de rights and privileges of a married woman!!! Na dat time you go know de meaning of 'solid marriage' 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by HARDDON: 8:55pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
100Cents: Poor mentality from op. Sounds like a gurl poverty has ravaged her family , managed to hook down bed-guy n is doing everything to make sure life doesn't throw her back in d dungeon of despair no more. Poor mentality of most 9ja girls, grab all u can while all is rosy, like they can't make their own way, grow their own wealth 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:57pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by jmoore(m): 8:58pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Ishilove: I never knew one can obtain a document after the traditional marriage. Your plan is my plan B, Nice one |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by iykenex(m): 8:59pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Blebleswag: yes, it is just once in a life-time, mostly enjoyed at the early stage. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 9:00pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
majekdom2: Its law, not what I expect. Don't we feel like boko haram members should be slaughtered immediately they aee caught? Law is the standard not feelings. Any woman who won't mind being second can go for d trado solution nd those dont want should follow laws nd stop complaining. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 9:03pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
tatiana009:there are ways to protect your children's future these days . your wife would not need to fight for any property. have you heard of insurance. I dont think ur inlaw can go to an insurance company and start fighting for whats not theirs..... the case of bianca is just out of it cause those children had every right. you dont have to reap where you did not sow even as a legal wife. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Bitojoe(m): 9:05pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Bitojoe(m): 9:06pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: i tired for you self.you just keep on hammering on document.those who have it in mind of going to court at any argument in marriage, always end up in having marital problem. Are you into marriage so as file case in court against your husband.you need to change your mentality.God accept traditional wedding. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by ifeanyija(m): 9:06pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
The problem Nigerian girls ve is that they depend more on a man, they are not self sufficient so that are always seeking for a share of a man wealth that leads to the demand for court marriage.. female celebrities dont do court marriage. .. @op encourage girls to be self-sufficient. .. 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by abbakacici: 9:07pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
israelbenzion:thank you furthermore traditional marriage certificate or affidavit are acceptable in all organisation in Nigeria and you also apply for spouse visa to most countries including UK, US etc moreover is very cheap in kano is cost like 4k, But the only downside is that in case of divorce or death. the property will share according to traditional that marriage is conducted in, also the husband can married as many wives as he want. I think the reason that most men don't want a court wedding is that court wedding protected wives mostly. because when a lady ask a man for court wedding what he heard is this i want half your property in case or when you die i want to inherited your properties alone etc |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by 100Cents: 9:11pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
ayobase: There are two types of people on earth, the wealth creators and the consumers. I know where I belong. 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Everest9(m): 9:11pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: sister you are right, is good to do what suppose to be done but i will tell you something, For the fact that these days some women like you only fight more for backup in their marriage while focusing less on how to make their marriage work. for God sake you can do wedding is necessary but when you women use it as a weapon and backup to get a man's fortune then i will say that you don't even deserve both tradi and white |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by adewaleafolabi(m): 9:14pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
For me beyond the marriage certificate, a prenuptial agreement is paramount. It protects both parties and eliminates any greedy tendencies. 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by adebisicutie: 9:14pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
For those talking about will, I know of a situation where the man left a will and he informed his wife while he was alive. However when he died his brother bribed the lawyer and the will was destroyed so she had no evidence that he had left the children everything and she was supposed to be the administrator. She was married traditional so the mans family said things will be settled traditional. According to them a woman cannot be allowed to be the administrator so instead they selected the brother who was next to him age wise (the brother already knew he would be chosen). They then gave the control to the brother and that the woman would need to ask him for things for the children and he would give them. Once the brother got control he started giving her only peanuts for the children. Luckily she had a job so she was able to manage to feed the children but obviously there standard of living changed drastically. The children where not able to have the kind of life that their father had slaved all his life to give to them. What does it cost you to do a registry wedding and give your family an extra layer of protect just I case your family dosent want to stick to your wishes . Even though no woman should stay ideal and she would have her own money, a life with one source of income can never be the same, what is the essence of working hard all your life to give your children the best and then you don't do everything to ensure that happens 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GooseBaba: 9:15pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
tatiana009: One man multiple baby mama's is simply human. Procreation does not need certificate. However, African marriage via customary laws elevates the woman as a wife. While western influence laws that forbids multiple wives things degrade them to concubines. In western countries we still hear of children coming out of the woodwork after the man dies to claim their inheritance. So white wedding is an act of delusion. At least multiple wives situations, the women involved knows their situation. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 9:16pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie:What is the essence of will and testament. even without court wedding or traditional wedding, once the testator (A man who writes a will ) dies intestate, the wife is still entitled to his property too |
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