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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Farouksenior: 4:59pm On Oct 03, 2014
Safari29:


bro I mean when u are in bad or hard time and she is not yet stable. She won't be loyal
Ok. Wil watchout 4dat
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by strawberrypie(f): 6:04pm On Oct 03, 2014
i see no big deal in it as a lady i will gladly marry a man wit kids, infact i luv it
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by simdam500(m): 7:43pm On Oct 03, 2014
[size=40pt]YES! YES!! YES!!![/size]

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by TonYzeallY(m): 8:25pm On Oct 03, 2014
Like G'nvive?...yes i will
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by khiaa(f): 9:22pm On Oct 03, 2014
ericessien24: so you want to admit your relationship Is perfect? havnt you had misunderstanding before and resolved it? why didn't you leave him?


Answer my question. I asked you, would you stay with a woman who continue to break your heart?
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by ericessien24: 9:26pm On Oct 03, 2014
khiaa:


Answer my question. I asked you, would you stay with a woman who continue to break your heart?
I can't even go out with that kind of a woman not talk of marry her? that's the reason for relationship.and your turn
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by khiaa(f): 9:44pm On Oct 03, 2014
ericessien24: I can't even go out with that kind of a woman not talk of marry her? that's the reason for relationship.and your turn

So why do you feel a woman should stay with a man who breaks her heart but you admit you would not stay. Why the double standards?
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by tonychristopher: 11:00pm On Oct 03, 2014
I will marry and I have dated many ...most of them are matured but apart from that she must have only a kid . I won't take children

The kid won't stay with us the first few years of marriage but then I will love the kids as mine

Its no big deal

Better to marry a baby mama that will give me peace or single presumed virgin and give me hell

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Boomerangoflife(m): 11:06pm On Oct 03, 2014
When u read some comments here u thank God for the mentality He has given u and find it difficult to place these guys in the century they actually belong.

Imagine people making much of raising another man's child as if its a taboo. People adopts children and raise them, People found charity organisation for taking care of orphans and old people all over the world. So taking care of woman's child u love has now become taboo.

I figure out Most sees raising of children as investment which they gonna reap in the future that's what poverty has done to this nation.

Another was like "I tried it but it didn't work for me" when has ur failure becomes everybody's failure?
Many have fail where Adenuga n otedola succeeded, so what's the big deal?

I commend those who said they CAN'T and give no reason, I call that choice.

#GOODBYE_and_GOOD_ RIDDANCE

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by ericessien24: 1:14am On Oct 04, 2014
khiaa:

So why do you feel a woman should stay with a man who breaks her heart but you admit you would not stay. Why the double standards?
explain the meaning of heart breaking and causes?
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by khiaa(f): 1:31am On Oct 04, 2014
ericessien24: explain the meaning of heart breaking and causes?


Constant lying, cheating,stealing abusing, a man she loved that turned out to be a son of a biatch. sad
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by ericessien24: 2:02am On Oct 04, 2014
khiaa:


Constant lying, cheating,stealing abusing, a man she loved that turned out to be a son of a biatch. sad
all this you wrote ,who does it more in a guy and lady.you making all the ladies look like saint but don't forget bitches ain't loyal.
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by khiaa(f): 2:34am On Oct 04, 2014
ericessien24: all this you wrote ,who does it more in a guy and lady.you making all the ladies look like saint but don't forget bitches ain't loyal.


No, you said a woman isn't loyal because she's leaves a man just because he broke her heart, then you turn around and said you would not be with a woman who would break your heart.
Tell me what makes a man special that he shouldn't take such treatment but a woman should. I know there are some coniving biatches out there just as there are coniving manbiatches as well.
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by khiaa(f): 2:43am On Oct 04, 2014
tonychristopher: I will marry and I have dated many ...most of them are matured but apart from that she must have only a kid . I won't take children

The kid won't stay with us the first few years of marriage but then I will love the kids as mine

Its no big deal

Better to marry a baby mama that will give me peace or single presumed virgin and give me hell


Ain't this a biatch!!!
What woman in her right mind would marry a man who doesn't want her child in their home for years, this is insanity. Where do you suggest the kid stay? The child will never love such a man but despise him for keeping him and his mother apart. It's best that such a man stay away from single mothers because his heart is too cold.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by afreekah: 6:14am On Oct 04, 2014
woptri1: hmmmmmm this topic is pointing directly at me cos that's the trouble av got myself into now. She don love die but I know there will be problem in the future. Thinking of a way to wave it o

same here bro ...
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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by nex(m): 2:48pm On Oct 04, 2014
I can marry a woman who already has a child. Who knows, it may turn out that I'm incapable of having my own children, and having a spouse with her own kid could be a blessing.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 3:24pm On Oct 04, 2014
nex:
I can marry a woman who already has a child. Who knows, it may turn out that I'm incapable of having my own children, and having a spouse with her own kid could be a blessing.
pls I reject that saying on ur behalf. You must have ur own kids.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by 2tek: 7:09pm On Oct 04, 2014
cliffm43:
i will marry a single mother,because she is tasted and trusted...you can trust that she can give you a child also,but single ladies?NO,unless she become pregnant for me,because they have killed many children through abortion
How do u know she has not done abortioons after having d baby. After having d baby, do u know how many men she has dated nd slept with? Do u know if d bedmatics resulted to pregnancy nd she decided to abort it in other not to have a second baby outside wedlock?
I know someone who married a single mother nd they couldn't get another child after d marriage. If u are afraid she may not conceive, whether single mum or single lady, ensure she gets pregnant b4 u pay dowry.
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Tuktuk: 11:22pm On Oct 04, 2014
sugaarbear:
sorry about that hun buh what happened to your late husband's 4 kids?
they are still with me but will eventually have to give them up to their mothers pple.
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Praise5: 4:28pm On Oct 05, 2014
Farouksenior:

Am in a relationship. Wit one. Bt she has dis problem of thinkin too much. Worried abt my family Esp. U eva in dat scenario wit ur naw husband??


[i]I love her alot. My mates tink m weird bt dts dia P[/b] grin
Worrying about your family in my humble opinion will have to do with her fear of them accepting her the way she is. Its your duty to reassure her and also make sure your family don't make her a prey to bully or insult. Its your duty to make your family ilunderstand that being with her is your choice and decision. My hubby never allowed ANYONE cross borders with me.
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Praise5: 4:32pm On Oct 05, 2014
Safari29:



bro I mean when u are in bad or hard time and she is not yet stable. She won't be loyal
Young man believe me, that can happen with any other woman irrespective of their status.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Lovechyld101(m): 7:20pm On Oct 05, 2014
I can marry a single mother well I have lots of friends who are single mother most of them happened when they where younger majority early teens but there are some criteria I have to follow. If the gurl too suit me like crazy and we love each other,
2) Either I adopt the child with confirm paper backing and na my surname hin go dey use or he goes to her mom or father
Its easier if the child is a girl they get married and that is it but boy mehn!!! property sharing and all between him and your real children it difficult
But I believe with love prayer it gona work.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 8:17pm On Oct 05, 2014
Now if for instance a single mother's child doesnt live with her and she doesnt ask you for a dime and doesnt even want you to adopt him talk less of training him, would you marry her?
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 7:02am On Oct 06, 2014
[quote author=cutiesoglam post=26812083][/quote]

cutiesoglam i admire ur courage and charisma. i wish u all d best.
its not easy playing a role of two people.
mine was as a result of domestic violence which made leave wit my kid in other to save my life.
av moved on and am glad i made that move
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 7:08am On Oct 06, 2014
Safari29:



thank ur God u made it. guys dating single mother with marriage prospect is hell if u are still young. especially if she's broke. she'll suck u dry

its a f***king lie.not all women ar like that.she is just lazy and making herself a liability.

i blive once a while a man should show love nd stop being stingy.if it was a single babe wunt u spend?
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by maternal: 7:13am On Oct 06, 2014
CharmO1:
Now if for instance a single mother's child doesnt live with her and she doesnt ask you for a dime and doesnt even want you to adopt him talk less of training him, would you marry her?

Impossible. How can you share finances as a married couple and be sure not a penny of your hard earned money would go to ANOTHER MAN'S CHILD ? With all the single childless women out there only an idiot would marry a single mother. It's like buying a used car for the same price of a brand new car. Makes no sense. His extended family wouldn't even accept ANOTHER MAN'S CHILD as their own. Single mothers or baby mama's should go sit down. After carry belle for some useless guy you're now looking for a captain save a baby mama.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 7:14am On Oct 06, 2014
maternal:


Nobody wants to hear your story, just as you wouldn't hear a broke man's story if he asked for your hand in marriage before you had your child. Of course you would have laughed in his face and say no. It's funny how all these naija women who have a unrealistic list of what a man should be or have before they marry him become so humble now as single mothers. I'd rather die a honorable death than marry a single mother. Me raising another man's child? Over my dead body.

maternal u ar short sighted nd immature. if tables were turned am sure u wil b a complete jerk.

no girl wanted to be a single mum by choice.its circumstances beyond control that led to it which involved a man like u.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by maternal: 7:25am On Oct 06, 2014
ephee:


maternal u ar short sighted nd immature. if tables were turned am sure u wil b a complete jerk.

no girl wanted to be a single mum by choice.its circumstances beyond control that led to it which involved a man like u.


Go and sit down. And every broke man want to be poor ? Is it not circumstances as well ? But if a broke man approached any of these girls prior to them being single mothers they would laugh and insult them. Now they're in a unfavorable situation see how humble they are. They want the whole world to feel sympathy for them. Circumstances beyond control ? Close your legs, wear protection, and marry a man based on good moral/values oppose to his bank account. These women need to own up to the poor decision most made. Some are unavoidable I know. Like a widow.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 7:27am On Oct 06, 2014
CharmO1:
Some people raise their fingers to point and judge forgetting their hands are smeared as well. Yes, some single mothers are this way because of careless decisions made in the past. No one is above mistakes. Where I usually get angry is where a man wants to sleep with a single mother all in the name of dating but he later would say he can't marry her. That is very wrong. Some men here shouting NO have forgotten they have sisters. And bros, if a guy impregnates ur sister and says he won't marry her, I bet you, you can't force him. What if he is forced and he eventually kills your sister? Some of these men that impregnate ladies would just abandon the ladies. Even if she begs with her blood, he won't take her meanwhile he is part of the cause. This whole thread has reminded me of when I gave birth and the whole world was laughing at my family, we kept our heads up. Few years ago, one of those laughing families faced this very same issue. Their daughter got pregnant and to cover shame they took her for abortion. She died in the process. Don't judge and condemn people because you don't know what karma has in store for each one of us. After all, marriage is a choice. Choose wisely who will make you happy because happiness is what makes a home.

charm01 love u for this.

keep ur head high.

mine was as a result of domestic violence and non challant, arrogant and aggresive attitude.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 7:42am On Oct 06, 2014
maternal:


Go and sit down. And every broke man want to be poor ? Is it not circumstances as well ? But if a broke man approached any of these girls prior to them being single mothers they would laugh and insult them. Now they're in a unfavorable situation see how humble they are. They want the whole world to feel sympathy for them. Circumstances beyond control ? Close your legs, wear protection, and marry a man based on good moral/values oppose to his bank account. These women need to own up to the poor decision most made. Some are unavoidable I know. Like a widow.

maternal u ar a learner.am sure u ar one of dem broke ass niggars.

go for ur size nd stop acting fustrated.u can as well end up with ur fellow mgbeke.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 8:15am On Oct 06, 2014
maternal:


Impossible. How can you share finances as a married couple and be sure not a penny of your hard earned money would go to ANOTHER MAN'S CHILD ? With all the single childless women out there only an idiot would marry a single mother. It's like buying a used car for the same price of a brand new car. Makes no sense. His extended family wouldn't even accept ANOTHER MAN'S CHILD as their own. Single mothers or baby mama's should go sit down. After carry belle for some useless guy you're now looking for a captain save a baby mama.
This ur poverty is really bothering you. But to be candid it's not ur poverty that limits you, it's your stinky attitude. Grow up and open ur mind a little then poverty will leave u alone. Until you do that, you will always eat stones and granite for breakfast.

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