HFOG:
I may not be able to vouch for others but I know the Lord leads me in several areas of my life. Academic, financial, material, relationship, physical etc just name it. He never forces anyone. Proverbs says acknowledge Him in ALL your ways and He'll direct your part. Getting to know anybody isn't a day's job. It takes loads of time, sacrifices and committment and the same thing applies to our relationship with the Lord. He only speaks to His sheep, His sons. If you are a sincere seeker you'll surely find Him. Hebrews 11:6. He's a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him. Just begin from little things. God's interested in everything that concerns you. Don't ignore God through out life and expect to get His attention when marriage matters crop up

dont misunderstand me young woman, i did nt say God doesn't lead. My take is dat i'm yet to see where God match make in d bible, throughout paul's teaching on marriage he never mentioned dat. I read an article by pastor Adeboye of redeem, he says God stop matchmaking after Adam blamed God concerning this. But our pastors are advocating it. I'm not saying God doesn't lead o. But wher can we find in the bible the standard of matchmaking by dream. Bcus bible is our standard.

Listen......as a child of God, a daughter of zion, you cant be filled with the holy spirit and still be looking for husband because by the time the gift of God is manifesting in you, men, great men will be rushing at you and then by the power of the spirit you discern the man that is meant for you......and for your friend she really needs to go ahead in prayer and enquired from the LORD propably through great men of God that can "see".

Debeloved87:
Listen......as a child of God, a daughter of zion, you cant be filled with the holy spirit and still be looking for husband because by the time the gift of God is manifesting in you, men, great men will be rushing at you and then by the power of the spirit you discern the man that is meant for you......and for your friend she really needs to go ahead in prayer and enquired from the LORD propably through great men of God that can "see".

but some so called spirit filled men of God end up marrying a witch o. Do u want to tel me dat dey didnt pray b4 chosen a life partner? Mr man, dere is no standard 4 revealing spouse tru dreams, and if dere's one pls let me knw. Dont be decieved, study paul's teachings very wel. Many xtians homes ar on fire today bcus dey saw each oda tru dreams that has no standard in d bible. And many single sistas remain single bcus dey r stil waitin 4 dream. Bible says my people perish 4 lack of wisdom. Be wise. Paul taught us to marry a xtian based on love. Read ur bible very wel.

Abraham married base on love, isaac married d wil of his father tru God guidiance, jacob married 4 love, joseph married based on love, Moses e.t.c. God only warn dem not to marry 4rm some tribes likewise paul taught us not to marry an unbeliever. Bible says he dat findeth a wife, findeth a gud tin...if u read d bible very wel, God's favour comes in after finding d wife. That means if u commit d relationship or marriage to his hand.

About the article by Mr. Enoch Adeboye on Finding a life partner...as stated by the OP , here is an article for that.
http://www.gistus.com/15027/pastor-adeboyes-message-singles-choosing-life-partner

Many people married with no thought of match making and their homes are standard. Did Mr Enoch receive any revelation about his wife before marrying her ?
Just asking...

Yossykit:
but some so called spirit filled men of God end up marrying a witch o. Do u want to tel me dat dey didnt pray b4 chosen a life partner? Mr man, dere is no standard 4 revealing spouse tru dreams, and if dere's one pls let me knw. Dont be decieved, study paul's teachings very wel. Many xtians homes ar on fire today bcus dey saw each oda tru dreams that has no standard in d bible. And many single sistas remain single bcus dey r stil waitin 4 dream. Bible says my people perish 4 lack of wisdom. Be wise. Paul taught us to marry a xtian based on love. Read ur bible very wel.

driving home your point without throwing tantrums is a good sign of maturity, which your comments up there is evidently defied of. if your future can't be revealed to you through dreams or visions that showcase your depleting state of spiritual life. every marriage whether orchestrated by God or the individuals suffered turbulence, your choice to make it work determines the elasticity of the marriage. marriage is a spiritual phenomenon, therefore the spiritual approach to it cannot be excused lest it be on a faulty foundation.

Debeloved87:
driving home your point without throwing tantrums is a good sign of maturity, which your comments up there is evidently defied of. if your future can't be revealed to you through dreams or visions that showcase your depleting state of spiritual life. every marriage whether orchestrated by God or the individuals suffered turbulence, your choice to make it work determines the elasticity of the marriage. marriage is a spiritual phenomenon, therefore the spiritual approach to it cannot be excused lest it be on a faulty foundation.

wht exactly are u saying my bro. U are jst trying to convince us wit ur point leaving the ques unanswered. The ques is dat 'where can wil find it in the bible dat spouse ws revealed tru dreams or vision? I tried to justify my point by givin xters in d bible and paul's teaching in 1cor 7:1-40. I also made ref to pastor Adeboye's article on dis. Are u telling me dat u are holier dan d apostles or baba Adeboye? Are u sayin bible shud not be our standard again? I want to contradict ur point by saying 'many men of God married tru dream and vision and they are facing hell today. Pls dnt let us ague blindly. Jst give an ans to the ques laid down b4 u. Mention any xter in the bible dat married tru dis means or state wher i can find it dat xtians can marry tru dreams if truely bible is ur own standard of livin as a xtian

Lets be sincere wit ourselves, this issue of will, dreams and vision in chosin a life partner is jst a doctrine in our churches, expecially d pentecostal churches. Many pple are regretin it today and many are rejoicin. Many are stil singles bcus of dis. Marriage is wht wil end on earth here, it is a mata of choice, not compulsory. In genesis, God says it is a gud tin, but not a sin if u chose not to marry. Paul says we shuld marry a xtian based on love. He also advise we can remain like him if we can control our urge. So marriage is a mata of choice o. Let us be wise, dnt allow church doctrine to brainwash u. Let the bible be ur standard.

mekzyjoe:
. U r sick n stupiid,,jst to let u no....notin is funny abt u n ur post,,,,always a fool..mofo

Juss tain ya "dumb-God" say I don h-enter plane!
Ewu!

Kanwulia:


Juss tain ya "dumb-God" say I don h-enter plane!
Ewu!

MUMU CLOWN..DIRTY PIG

The idea is ancient, it was believed at the time, that people are predestined. The reason it's very common in this part of the world can be attributed to the level of superstitious believes.

People should be more concerned about compatability and understanding than anything else.

BodyKiss:
The idea is ancient, it was believed at the time, that people are predestined. The reason it's very common in this part of the world can be attributed to the level of superstitious believes.

People should be more concerned about compatability and understanding than anything else.

tnk u my bro. Infact, the basis is not even in d bible. God only commanded the children of israel nt to marry from certain tribes, paul also advocated that xtians should not marry unbelievers. Love and xtianity shud be the basis.

Yossykit:
tnk u my bro. Infact, the basis is not even in d bible. God only commanded the children of israel nt to marry from certain tribes, paul also advocated that xtians should not marry unbelievers. Love and xtianity shud be the basis.

Love and Christianity?
Satan impersonated love to become lust, don't you know that unbelievers can pretend they love you to bring you down?
Christianity is not a major factor, many profess Christians but they are not, before the marriage they will let you believe they are real Christians, after the marriage, you will see their true colour.

God's time is the best, why do you want to choose for God, if you know your God personally, and you have a real working relationship with him, you will know that God's time is the best and he knows the best for you.. Their is no such thing as old pattern. God's standard never change.. The problem we have in this perverse generation is that we don't really have a personal relationship with God and we want him to speak to us or show us our partner, is that possible?

what if I don't love the man, even when he has been confirmed as the will of God for me? Should I go ahead and accept him without love? Pls I need answers.

Felvet:
what if I don't love the man, even when he has been confirmed as the will of God for me? Should I go ahead and accept him without love? Pls I need answers.

Do you think God is someone that sponsors his children sadness?
He will show you the bone of your bone,He knows the right person for you, there is no how you will see God's right choice for you and you won't know it except your relationship with God is ephemeral!

Ajibam:

Do you think God is someone that sponsors his children sadness?
He will show you the bone of your bone,He knows the right person for you, there is no how you will see God's right choice for you and you won't know it except your relationship with God is ephemeral!

I'm having this problem right now Bro, I don't love this guy, I don't like where he came from, but by revelations I was told he is the will of God for me. I have been praying for God to give me genuine love if he is the right person, because I really want to do the will of God in marriage, yet I feel nothing for him. Someone told me there is a hindrance and all that. Right now I am more than confused.

Felvet:
I'm having this problem right now Bro, I don't love this guy, I don't like where he came from, but by revelations I was told he is the will of God for me. I have been praying for God to give me genuine love if he is the right person, because I really want to do the will of God in marriage, yet I feel nothing for him. Someone told me there is a hindrance and all that. Right now I am more than confused.

Hello sis, you were told?
Firstly, please organise your own prayer and even if it requires fasting, marriage is a serious issue, and hear it from God personally, if it is still this guy you don't love then you have to fasten your belt cause there might truly be hindrances or forces on your own part that don't want you to be fulfilled..
I pray God will help you.
You can pm me, we can talk better.

Ajibam:

Do you think God is someone that sponsors his children sadness?
He will show you the bone of your bone,He knows the right person for you, there is no how you will see God's right choice for you and you won't know it except your relationship with God is ephemeral!

mr. Ajibam, let me clarrify some things here. D issue of dreams and vision in marriage is not biblical. Its jst a doctrine in the pentecostal churches. We av seen cases of wht felvet said, we av seen cases of real men of God marrying witches tru dis idea of vision and dreams, search ur bible very well, God never led anybody into marriage in the bible tru dese, and i knw God wil neva change. For u to undastand beta that its a doctrine in our churches, in churches like deeper life, mfm, i tink rccg also does it, if the intendin couples reali saw themselves (will) but during medical check up, their genotypes contradict. The church wil never do dat wedding. My ques is dat why did technology takes over frm the so called wil of God, wht does God has to do with issue of genotype? So i want to categorically tel u dat its church doctrine not biblical at all. Dont be decieved and brainwashed by church doctrine. Use ur bible, search it daily. Baba Adeboye never saw any wil and he is happily married 4 gud 47yrs now, Same applicable to Oyedepo and many apostles and xters in d bible. Marry a xtian and marry 4 love. Dat is my take o.

@felvet this is someone like you.. Read her confession and get what am saying.
http://ruthiedean.com/2013/10/01/when-it-isnt-clear-hes-the-one/

Yossykit:
mr. Ajibam, let me clarrify some things here. D issue of dreams and vision in marriage is not biblical. Its jst a doctrine in the pentecostal churches. We av seen cases of wht felvet said, we av seen cases of real men of God marrying witches tru dis idea of vision and dreams, search ur bible very well, God never led anybody into marriage in the bible tru dese, and i knw God wil neva change. For u to undastand beta that its a doctrine in our churches, in churches like deeper life, mfm, i tink rccg also does it, if the intendin couples reali saw themselves (will) but during medical check up, their genotypes contradict. The church wil never do dat wedding. My ques is dat why did technology takes over frm the so called wil of God, wht does God has to do with issue of genotype? So i want to categorically tel u dat its church doctrine not biblical at all. Dont be decieved and brainwashed by church doctrine. Use ur bible, search it daily. Baba Adeboye never saw any wil and he is happily married 4 gud 47yrs now, Same applicable to Oyedepo and many apostles and xters in d bible. Marry a xtian and marry 4 love. Dat is my take o.

Just one thing I will like to say to this post, am not talking of any church doctrine here, am speaking from "experience"..
Did I indicate in my post that I don't read my bible?
I don't have pastors as my role model, that's there life, how sure are you that God won't dealt with you in another way..
I wonder if you always hear God's voice?
If you do, you will understand what am saying and going to God for direction, cause it is like putting God first, allowing God to take the wheel , telling him you can't do it on your own, but if you can do it on your own, as in find the one you love, then the choice is yours.. Goodluck..

@felvet, if you are through with the link above, you can follow this thread and read what's there, it will surely help.. Goodluck.
https://www.nairaland.com/1080013/knowing-gods-choosing-partner

ayoku777(m):

God can and should choose a spouse for His children; and we also should deliberately ask Him for such leading and signs.

When Abraham sent his servant to go get a wife for Isaac, the servant prayed to God this way in Gen 24v14;

"And let it come to pass that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be SHE THAT THOU (GOD) HAST APPOINTED FOR THY SERVANT"

These scripture shows that there is a HE or a SHE that God has appointed for His children -a destiny partner to help with their God-given assignment. He didn't say "let her be the type of woman you've appoined"; he said "let her be SHE that you have appointed".


They say you don't decide your destiny, you discover it -God decides it. I also believe you don't decide your destiny partner, you discover him or her.

As a christian you should ask God to show you your destiny partner, the one He himself has appointed. And He will answer; He doesn't waste time with such requests, unless you're still young and immature (either physically or spiritually) and He feels there are other things you should be worried about for now. Or unless you are not watchful or sensitive to His witness.

God will answer, He will order your steps or nudge your heart with His witness, or give you a sign or speak to you. This leadings get more specific and unambiguous as you mature.

The reason you need such leading (beyond just the biblical criteria for a partner) is because not every Godly, God-fearing, spirit-filled and led man or woman is for you.

Abraham's servant wasn't just looking for a chaste, God-fearing, hardworking woman; he would have been lost for choice if he was merely looking for that. He was looking for the one God appointed for Isaac -Isaac's destiny partner.Is it possible to marry someone God did not appoint for you? Well, I believe the reason Abraham's servant prayed that specific prayer was because that mistake is possible.You can marry such a person If you choose based on lustful, carnal, mundane and fleeting human criterias.
Can you make a marriage work even after such a mistake? I believe that with love, patience, forgiveness, tolerance, commitment and God's grace, any marriage can weather any storm, even if you didn't specifically ask God for help in choosing. We've seen unbelievers with model unions that even believers can learn from. But I also believe that there are some storms that arise specifically because of marrying the wrong person not appointed by God for you.
Even so God is awesome and can make all things work together for good, no matter the mistake that led to that issue. If we ask for His help.But about asking Him to choose for you, I've studied Isaac. It is worthy of note that out of the founding fathers (Abraham, Isaac and Jacob) and the patriachs; only Isaac was not plagued with the polygamy palavar, maid and househelp issue and concubine crisis that was the norm with his fathers and descendants. Isaac ended up marrying just one wife (Rebakah) and didn't sleep with anymaid or have any concubine. Unlike Abraham, Jacob, Judah, David, Solomon etc.

I'm not saying if you marry your destiny partner you are guaranteed not to stray, but I believe if you marry your God-appointed destiny partner, it will save you a lot of drama and might even help with (not guarantee) not straying. Because you guys will be compatible in ways and depths you never could have imagined much less foreseen -ways only God could have been responsible for

https://www.nairaland.com/1941381/does-god-choses-spouse-people

@ajibam, whether God speaks to me or not, its non of ur business. @felvet, if u av read wht he posted, u wil see clearly dat d post condicted his point. All the posters dwelled more on love. Read 1cor 7:1-40 very well and understand. D whole chapter is basically on marriage. Dnt be decieved, love is d basis 4 any successful marriage. Love doesn't grow frm nothing bt grows frm love. Paul says u are free to marry whom u love only in d lord. If truely u dnt av anytin again him and u av prayed bt the love is nt still dere, pls think abt it ooo. Marriage is a personal affair o, it is based on choice. Baba Adeboye says God stopped match making after Adam blamed God dat it was Eve dat He gave him dat misled him. All our patriach and matriach in the bible married based on Gods instruction nt to marry an unbeliever, and all the marriages were based on love. paul also advocated it. Pls make sure u marry a born again xtian based on genuine love (not lust). Marriage is an earthly tin which wil ends here on earth. Its not compulsory but necessary. Pls be guided by God's word and make sure u dnt av anytin against the brother, but if the love didnt come after all ur prayers, it is left for u o bcus marriage is personal. May God help u to choose rightly. Also av it in mind dat marriage is a life contract, no room for divorce, it is for better, 4 worse. But our prayer is that the betters shud be more dan worse which can be achieved by God through Love.

Many dreams and revelations are propounded and propagated by the devil. That was the reason many real men of God married daughters of the devil. God can lead you tru these but very rear. Infact the basis is not in the bible. It is a doctrine in our churches. Be wise.

Ajibam:

Hello sis, you were told?
Firstly, please organise your own prayer and even if it requires fasting, marriage is a serious issue, and hear it from God personally, if it is still this guy you don't love then you have to fasten your belt cause there might truly be hindrances or forces on your own part that don't want you to be fulfilled..
I pray God will help you.
You can pm me, we can talk better.

Yes I was told by the people I gave the prayer topic. I have not been able to get any confirmation on my own. Meanwhile, I will stick to your advice to pray and fast more. Thanks. My phone does not pm.

Ajibam:

I pray God will help you.

Amen

Yossykit:
@ajibam, whether God speaks to me or not, its non of ur business. @felvet, if u av read wht he posted, u wil see clearly dat d post condicted his point. All the posters dwelled more on love. Read 1cor 7:1-40 very well and understand. D whole chapter is basically on marriage. Dnt be decieved, love is d basis 4 any successful marriage. Love doesn't grow frm nothing bt grows frm love. Paul says u are free to marry whom u love only in d lord. If truely u dnt av anytin again him and u av prayed bt the love is nt still dere, pls think abt it ooo. Marriage is a personal affair o, it is based on choice. Baba Adeboye says God stopped match making after Adam blamed God dat it was Eve dat He gave him dat misled him. All our patriach and matriach in the bible married based on Gods instruction nt to marry an unbeliever, and all the marriages were based on love. paul also advocated it. Pls make sure u marry a born again xtian based on genuine love (not lust). Marriage is an earthly tin which wil ends here on earth. Its not compulsory but necessary. Pls be guided by God's word and make sure u dnt av anytin against the brother, but if the love didnt come after all ur prayers, it is left for u o bcus marriage is personal. May God help u to choose rightly. Also av it in mind dat marriage is a life contract, no room for divorce, it is for better, 4 worse. But our prayer is that the betters shud be more dan worse which can be achieved by God through Love.

Thank you so much.

mekzyjoe:

MUMU CLOWN..DIRTY PIG

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Ijjiot!

Kanwulia:


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Ijjiot!

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Kanwulia:


Make I nor smell your azze for the family sesssshun with dez your useless threads ahgen o!
Ijjiot!

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