What do i do, when my husband has no interest in sex, after several conversation on the issue, he told me point and black that he drive no happines in sex, that sex is not his life style, that if not for children he will remain enuch till death. This sex issue destroyes his first and second marriage, He made me to know that the prevous was caught wit different men to the extend of them getting pregnant, mine is the third marriage, now i know he is the cause of their unfaithfulnes, for me i don't want to sleep with another except my husband, but he is starving the madness out of me, like once in a month, if u ask him either he has prayer or he has major problems not sex, i inquire and was made to understand that, that is his life right from youth, am 33 he is 50, please am dying silently, but i know he is a good man but this sex is the prob i have with him, and i love sex at least 3 times a week,

For better,for worse no dey ur marital dictionary?

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successking401:
For better,for worse no dey ur marital dictionary?

if ur wife starve you of sex for months, you will remember "for beta for worse"?


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oweniwe:


if ur wife starve you of sex for months, you will remember "for beta for worse"?

Good question. To him, s*e*x is more important to a man than a woman.

Sophyrocks:


Good question. To him, s*e*x is more important to a man than a woman.

nor mind am.....

3 times a week is even too small

the age gap between husband and wife wide sha

Una no do courtship?These are things you should discuss before marriage.Well,nothing God can not do,hand him over to God in prayer.

Pepunis:
What do i do, when my husband has no interest in sex, after several conversation on the issue, he told me point and black that he drive no happines in sex, that sex is not his life style, that if not for children he will remain enuch till death. This sex issue destroyes his first and second marriage, He made me to know that the prevous was caught wit different men to the extend of them getting pregnant, mine is the third marriage, now i know he is the cause of their unfaithfulnes, for me i don't want to sleep with another except my husband, but he is starving the madness out of me, like once in a month, if u ask him either he has prayer or he has major problems not sex, i inquire and was made to understand that, that is his life right from youth, am 33 he is 50, please am dying silently, but i know he is a good man but this sex is the prob i have with him, and i love sex at least 3 times a week,

You sef get issues

Despite the fact that you knew he was married twice, you never bothered to find out why he sent them away and you still went ahead to marry him as 3rd wife

You are young and still sexually active, you shouldnt have gone for an old man of such age abeg.

You don marry am please stay and manage him like that

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successking401:
For better,for worse no dey ur marital dictionary?

i dey that is why am induring, praying for a change

Augustbreak:
Una no do courtship?These are things you should discuss before marriage.Well,nothing God can not do,hand him over to God in prayer.

no courtship at all dear

skyladon22:


You sef get issues

Despite the fact that you knew he was married twice, you never bothered to find out why he sent them away and you still went ahead to marry him as 3rd wife

You are young and still sexually active, you shouldnt have gone for an old man of such age abeg.

You don marry am please stay and manage him like that

thanks i wish i can rewind the hand of clock,

Pepunis:
no courtship at all dear

Commit everything to God.May be you should both try marriage counselling.

oweniwe:
Give me a call on

08104-419-419

i have a perfect array of "solutions" am sure you'l like.

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Augustbreak:
Commit everything to God.May be you should both try marriage counselling.

the last thing he will do is this, he knw pass everybody, i pray God counsell him for me

Pepunis:
no courtship at all dear

No wonder. You see why courtship is important? can you see why its good to investigate a man before marrying him?

Try to involve a counsellor to talk to him. If he doesnt want you to do what his other wives did to him, he better wake up and do something. Body no be wood o.

This is what many women are suffering in marriages today , anyone going into marriage should know that unclothedness is part of marriage. Pay attention to your spouse's feelings don't push them to the walls, sadly I'm going through same here. The best I can do for myself is to forget about it, I mean taking my mind off sexxxxx. pls no one should quote me

Pepunis:
no courtship at all dear

Why?

brito:
This is what many women are suffering in marriages today , anyone going into marriage should know that unclothedness is part of marriage. Pay attention to your spouse's feelings don't push them to the walls, sadly I'm going through same here. The best I can do for myself is to forget about it, I mean taking my mind off sexxxxx. pls no one should quote me

i do forget it for sometime, but i need to have more children at one, i have two 7 and 4, thanks dear

Pepunis:
i do forget it for sometime, but i need to have more children at one, i have two 7 and 4, thanks dear

I have a boy of 5, I'm a bit younger than you though

brito:







Why?

i dont knw hw it worked i was young and niave, i never knw sex cud be an issue,

Pepunis:
i dont knw hw it worked i was young and niave, i never knw sex cud be an issue,

Mine was a Christian courtship

brito:







Mine was a Christian courtship

hmmmm same here, we mate after a month he propose, and every rite was done,

A lesson for those intending to go into relationship or courting at the moment: these are the type of things yo discuss and address during courtship and not how to have the most glamorous wedding and the finest mansion.

Personal issues eg previous relationships(if any), sexuality, purpose, family background, interest, personal life ideologies, strength and weakness etc. These are some of the things that would help you succeed in your marriage as you would have a good knowledge of your partner. If it so happened that you won't be able to cope, you quietly break up with him/her before marriage.

We are tired of the increasing cases of divorce born out of people going into marriage ignorant of their partner.

Well, as for my sister, I'll advise you seek counsel from your spiritual leader(probably your pastor or parent in The Lord).

Your husband should know that once married, he doesn't own his body alone; likewise you, and so he doesn't have the right to deny you intimate attention simply because he's not down with it.

Children is not the primary reason why God instituted marriage, and se.x is not just about bearing children. It is for pleasure between married couples so that lust can be curbed.

The only time a partner can refuse the other partner intimate attention, is when he/she wants to carryout a religious exercise like fasting/prayer for sometime and it should be with the consent of the other partner.

Maybe your husband is viewing se.x wrongly eventhough he's a religious man and it has caused him 2marriages already; that's why I advise you to get your spiritual head involved am sure a bit of re-orientation would help.

And very importantly, pray to God for a change of mentality for him.

A spice of Fela's vegetables in his food and bottle of orijin will perform the magic.


You may not have enough strength to bear the consequences......

brito:
This is what many women are suffering in marriages today , anyone going into marriage should know that unclothedness is part of marriage. Pay attention to your spouse's feelings don't push them to the walls, sadly I'm going through same here. The best I can do for myself is to forget about it, I mean taking my mind off sexxxxx. pls no one should quote me

I'm sorry for quoting you but it's in good faith. How do you take your mind off sex? Have you tried making him realize how important it is to you? May be you guys can reach a compromise that's fair to u both.
@op,this applies to you as well

JEITO:
A lesson for those intending to go into relationship or courting at the moment: these are the type of things yo discuss and address during courtship and not how to have the most glamorous wedding and the finest mansion.

Personal issues eg previous relationships(if any), sexuality, purpose, family background, interest, personal life ideologies, strength and weakness etc. These are some of the things that would help you succeed in your marriage as you would have a good knowledge of your partner. If it so happened that you won't be able to cope, you quietly break up with him/her before marriage.

We are tired of the increasing cases of divorce born out of people going into marriage ignorant of their partner.

Well, as for my sister, I'll advise you seek counsel from your spiritual leader(probably your pastor or parent in The Lord).

Your husband should know that once married, he doesn't own his body alone; likewise you, and so he doesn't have the right to deny you intimate attention simply because he's not down with it.

Children is not the primary reason why God instituted marriage, and se.x is not just about bearing children. It is for pleasure between married couples so that lust can be curbed.

The only time a partner can refuse the other partner intimate attention, is when he/she wants to carryout a religious exercise like fasting/prayer for sometime and it should be with the consent of the other partner.

Maybe your husband is viewing se.x wrongly eventhough he's a religious man and it has caused him 2marriages already; that's why I advise you to get your spiritual head involved am sure a bit of re-orientation would help.

And very importantly, pray to God for a change of mentality for him.

if u tell him he do not own his body he will tell u that is the only chapter u knw i the bible, he will quote levitus where it is written when a man have intercourse wit his wife he is defile for 24hrs, he really need re-orientation, but how?, will he give in?

Pepunis:
hmmmm same here, we mate after a month he propose, and every rite was done,

A month?

soonest:

I'm sorry for quoting you but it's in good faith. How do you take your mind off sex? Have you tried making him realize how important it is to you? May be you guys can reach a compromise that's fair to u both.
@op,this applies to you as well

We do talk about it but I don't see it as a do or die affair

brito:







Why?

You are still asking why no courtship

Aint you going through the same thing despite your courtship?

The question would have been "why didnt they sample during courtship"?

brito:





A month?

he was like there is no need wasting time, i knw u are my wife already

Pepunis:
if u tell him he do not own his body he will tell u that is the only chapter u knw i the bible, he will quote levitus where it is written when a man have intercourse wit his wife he is defile for 24hrs, he really need re-orientation, but how?, will he give in?

Please just involve yourself in the word of God

Forget wonderful sexual activities from him

Not even your pastor can convince him

He will only tell them he don hear but wont change

I am sorry you are married to him so you have to endure it.

I feel for you sha at your age

One of the reasons it isnt advisable to marry a far older man