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Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by etenyong(m): 5:52am On Oct 12, 2014 |
■ I don’t want my daughter to suffer the consequences of circumcision like I did –Mum ■ Her circumcision is a must as tradition demands –Dad’s family Against the background of a child Rights Law that guides against harmful cultural practices on children in Ekiti State, two families: the royal family of Olaoye in Ushi-Ekiti and the Oyenekan family are at loggerheads over the circumcision of a 5-year- old girl. The once rosy relationship between both families has now turned sour following a disagreement over the circumcision of their 5-year- old daughter, (name of baby withheld). Miss Olufunke Oyenekan, mother of the 5-year old girl and fiancee to Mr. Emmanuel Olaoye, son of the Olaoyes, a royal family in Ushi-Ekiti, Ekiti State, had disagreed with the Olaoyes over their decision to perform the traditional circumcision rites on her daughter. The woman, sensing that her husband’s family wanted to perform the rites by all means, fled with her child from the Olaoye’s family house in Ushi Ekiti in 2012 and her whereabouts has since remain unknown. Recently, the Olaoye family again raised the alarm through a representative, identified as Chief Olu Olaoye over the sudden disappearance of Olufunke and her daughter. The family said that their son’s fiancee did not mean well for the family by preventing them from performing the circumcision rites on the child. Their explanation is that it is a mandatory cultural practice to have all their children circumcised, moreso that theirs is a royal family whose duty it is to preserve the cultural heritage of the people of Ushi Ekiti in order to set an example for the people. “She (Olufunke) is not helping us, neither is she helping our daughter she has taken away. There are certain cultural practices that we adhere to in our land, some are avoidable while others are not. This practice of circumcision is part of the unavoidable ones. Olufunke cannot prevent us from carrying out cultural and traditional rites on our own blood. It is a must that we do the circumcision rites for the girl. Moreso, that the child is a princess, a daughter from the royal family of Ushi Ekiti and possibly a future regent!. “We have told them (Olufunke’s family) that they must ensure that they produce her because she cannot prevent us from performing our traditional duties. She must bring our daughter for the circum cision rites, “ he said, fuming with anger. Meanwhile, Olufunke has vowed not to allow anyone, even if it is her husband, to carry out any circumcision rites on her daughter. A member of her family, who spoke to Sunday Sun on condition of anonymity because of the sensitive nature of the matter, said: “As for the Oyenekan family, we have no problem with whatever the Olaoye family wants to do with their daughter. In our part of the world, it is the man who owns the child and has the final say over him or her. But our daughter, Olufunke is more western-oriented than many of us. She has vowed not to allow any circumcision for her daughter. She says the practice might have an adverse effect on the girl in the future. We would have been able to intervene in the matter to ensure that peace reigns but right now, I can swear to you that we do not even know the whereabouts of Olufunke and her child. In fact, we learnt that her older son has also joined his mum where she was but we do not have any idea of where that is. There was a time she took refuge with their pastor in a church in Abeokuta. The pastor assisted in getting the human rights group to intervene for peaceful resolution of the matter, but the fiance’ family became violent about the matter, they wanted to get their daughter by all means. We learnt that Olufunke narrowly escaped the attack on her and ran off with her daughter. We can only appeal to our in-laws to exercise patience on this issue till God makes Olufunke to come back, right now, there is nothing anyone can do.”, the man said. Speaking on phone to the Sunday Sun, Mr. Emmanuel Olaoye, fiancé to Olufunke, narrated how the trouble over the circumcision rites started, his words: “My fiancée, Olufunke Oyenekan and I met in February14,2006 and we love each other but haven’t married legally. We were co-habitting and eventually had two kids. A boy and a girl. “Things went on smoothly between us till I lost my father who was a traditional ruler in Ushi Ekiti, my home town. I received the message of the death of our royal father and was told I had been picked as his successor. So, I went home for the burial rites and took my wife-to-be and our children with me, actually to ensure that my extended family get to know her. We travelled to Ushi Ekiti in January 1,2012. “However, we didn’t know that a shocker was awaiting us at Ushi-Ekiti. My family demanded that we submit our children for circumcision rites. Funke, my wife-to-be, didn’t like this arrangement at all. She didn’t particularly want our daughter, who was then two years and four months old to be circumcised as she said she didn’t like what she experience as a woman who was circumcised by her parents when she was young. “But my people won’t be persuaded to spare our daughter of the treatment because our tradition forbids any of our blood not being administered the circumcision rites. “My fiancée has since fled with our daughter since the disagreement in Ushi-Ekiti. As I’m going to succeed my late father as the traditional ruler of our town, it becomes more mandatory for my children to be circumcised. Here in our land, it is part of the prerequisites of a king-to-be to have all his children circumcised. We really do not have a choice here. But my fiancee sees the practice as barbaric and outdated. She won’t have any of it for our daughter. “ “That is why she ran away with our daughter. Our son has also joined her where she is. I want to believe her people arranged her escape and know her whereabouts but they are claiming ignorance of it. We once heard she was in a pastor’s custody in one Bethel Love Church in Abeokuta, Ogun State. My people went there but she escaped from them and fled to an unknown place with the children and hasn’t been seen since then. I’m just confused about the whole development, “ Olaoye said, wearing a defeated melancholy look. sunnewsonline.com/new/?p=85744 |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Innez(m): 5:55am On Oct 12, 2014 |
In dz modern tyms, female circumcision? Yuck!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by SmooshCHN: 6:04am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Say No To Female Circumcision. 6 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by SAMBARRY: 6:15am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Which kain bush meat baboonish family be that one. Them no go school ni? 3 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by kenny987(f): 6:31am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Tradition indeed! They should let d girl n her mother be, their tradition didn't demand dt dey get married since, now they want to stress d little girl. And to think dt men are d advocates of these barbaric traditions...they should ask themselves wat purpose female circumcision will serve rather than following a dated traditional dt is even dangerous to d well-being of females hook, line and sinker! 1 Like |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 6:36am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Its a shame this kind of topic wont make frontpage. The MODs are too inhuman to consider them frontpage worthy. Yesterday, a post about female corp member brutalized by a police woman failed to make frontpage. Later they will say it didnt have much comments to warrant frontpage and i'll ask; where lies your consciences? 4 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by naturally: 6:44am On Oct 12, 2014 |
I thought female genital mutilation doesn't exist anymore. All these villagers sha |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by cococandy(f): 6:45am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Disgusting pigs 1 Like |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by SAMBARRY: 6:54am On Oct 12, 2014 |
djmally:when tonto dike, toolz or mercy aigbe new pinshores have not yet made front page na female circumcision by barbarians go make front page. Dey Jones 1 Like |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by DesChyko: 6:57am On Oct 12, 2014 |
How can the government stand in the face of this abominable act and do nothing?? In spite of it being cultural, it is dangerous and threatening to the life of a Nigerian, hence, it should be looked into. The 'surgeons' just don't get tired of groping at little girls' vag1na. Don't be surprised to see them having an erection while circumsizing the girls. Bloody retards 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by SAMBARRY: 7:00am On Oct 12, 2014 |
DesChyko: |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Harmthe(m): 7:16am On Oct 12, 2014 |
let quickly join front page o b4 dey stole my mandate o |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by EfemenaXY: 7:21am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Crazy, selfish, self-centered, barbaric family, with an illiterate weak son for an heir. That woman had better run to the far ends of the earth with her kids to escape them. She's even got a very valid reason to come seek refuge in the West. Smart, loving, mum with her senses intact. I pray they never find her. Idíöts. Mtcheew. 11 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by cococandy(f): 7:27am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Reading the guy's words got me very pissed. It's obvious the culture is more important than the wellbeing of the girl in question. Girls must be suffering in that community. EfemenaXY: 3 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by troy20(m): 7:43am On Oct 12, 2014 |
out of curiosity does a circumcised woman live with any physical defects or inhibitions? |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by EfemenaXY: 7:44am On Oct 12, 2014 |
cococandy: And that's precisely why I say he's a weak fööl. ~ Co-habiting for 8 years + two children to show for it and yet, he couldn't put a ring on it - probably because his people said "no". ~ Now they go after her and her kids claiming marriage rights. They don't get what they want so what next? Launch an attack which the poor woman narrowly escapes...and what does the idïöt do about it? Nothing. ~ Read the last sentence. What's his reaction / opinion about the whole issue? Confusion. Defeated. Melancholy. The guy is a complete fööl. The "fiancé" is so much better off without him. Kids need their parents to protect them. Not subject them to horrific procedures that risk their young, innocent lives. 5 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 9:17am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Imagine this trash coming out of a future king's mouth No wonder, today's kings have mostly lost the past glory. Circumcision is a huge no no now...the earlier they get used to it, the better for the community. Its no longer the stone age where primitive practices are welcomed . I bet the palace in question has been refurbished to be new age compliance. Iranu 4 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 9:26am On Oct 12, 2014 |
My RESPECT GOES TO THE MOTHER OF THIS CHILD. WELL DONE! Ignorant people calling themselves royal. This is what happens when people use tradition instead of their brains to "reason". 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by sassygal(f): 9:29am On Oct 12, 2014 |
troy20: You mean apart from the myriad of infections and blood poisoning that would most likely occur, using knives and tools that are not sterilised, the serious bleeding that could occur - God help that the child won't have haemophilia and bleed to death. Most of them suffer mild to severe obstetric and gynaecological problems in future. Depending on the degree or extent of circumcision, no circumcised female will enjoy sexual pleasure as the clitoris has been cut. Read extensively on this subject while studying traditional medical methods and I believe no right thinking human will subject a child to this! Heck, after cutting they drop the slime from a snail on to the wound! #yuck 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 9:34am On Oct 12, 2014 |
troy20: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkDuzLA8T9w 1 Like |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by EfemenaXY: 9:39am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Anyone who sees nothing wrong with this must be insánė. A simple Google Image search of the phrase female genitál mutilation should answer any questions one might have of this evil practice. 2 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 9:51am On Oct 12, 2014 |
Chei! Still in 2014? My prayer has always been that me and my family will never have anything to do with cowards all tru our lives. Both past and future generations,Amiiiiiiin! 2 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by SAMBARRY: 10:11am On Oct 12, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:it shocks me beyond words how some nigerians live and behave like they are living in 1820 with no form of finesse and civilization. Thinking and acting like primitive cave peeps disgusting! 2 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by sassygal(f): 10:31am On Oct 12, 2014 |
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Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 12:43pm On Oct 12, 2014 |
I Love that mother already This is the definition of a mother! 4 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by otukpo(f): 6:17pm On Oct 12, 2014 |
The Olufunke did well to disappear with her children. And she shouldn't show face untill that her daughter is an adult. 2 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 10:44pm On Oct 12, 2014 |
RESPECT. I don't know how some mothers allow such barbarity to be practiced on their children. I truly hope they're OK. 2 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 11:20pm On Oct 12, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:I got goose bumps watching this. 2 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Kanwulia: 11:27pm On Oct 12, 2014 |
Dem still dey cut toto for this day and age? Ndi 'Ekitty Kat' di kwa egwu o! She is not even a 'wife'. . . but a 'fiancee'? Royal BUSH family indeed! “She (Olufunke) is not helping us, neither is she Local tinz! Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeew!!! 4 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by EfemenaXY: 11:33pm On Oct 12, 2014 |
After watching that video and seeing the very graphic images of FGM on google, I feel so traumatized, I just want to never stop hugging my daughter, much less letting her out of my sight! She probably thinks mum's bonkers anyway... 2 Likes |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Waspy(m): 12:45am On Oct 13, 2014 |
The family shld be reported to law enforcement bodies |
Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by Nobody: 2:33pm On Oct 13, 2014 |
... not to even talk of generational curses and negative covenants that the child may inherit through the 'act'. I'm pissed off already. 1 Like |
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