I have discovered something. Most victims of Rape would rather not talk about the incident to anybody. They keep it inside and it kills them slowly. The truth is noone remains the same after a rape incident. Such form of sexual abuse usually leave the victim scarred for life unless they can get to the point wher they can talk about it. The problem is they dont want anybody to know about it. So i have decided to create this thread to help them out. Good thing here is both the councellor and the one being advised can both remain anonymous. Come lets talk without the criticisms which u dread so greatly. Some of you even believe it was your fault. IT WASN'T. I'll be waiting.
Dr Peaches

Are u a therapist or a counselor?

kozaic:
Are u a therapist or a counselor?

ah.. I wouldn't say am a therapist. Am a counselor but in my experience a one on one conversation can give one the sense of calm and peace which seems to be the ultimate aim of therapy

I was molested by my ex-girl friend. I never told anyone, I'm saying it for the first time. You are my confidant, you hear?

kozaic:
Are u a therapist or a counselor?

She is probably "amebo" ...lolz

But does sex.ual harassment counts?...I get that like often that I begin to live with it as a form of life

No one believes a man but a woman?...God save you if the judge is a woman!

Crocz:
But does sex.ual harassment counts?...I get that like often that I begin to live with it as a form of life

No one believes a man but a woman?...God save you if the judge is a woman!

actually that is just the kind of Molestation we are talking about. Guys and ladies both suffer from it. you won't believe the number of guys who were molested by older female relative while growing up

I remember being molested when I was young by an elderly girl neighbor.I kept it mute up and till this moment.how can u assist Op? Coz she has broken my record of being chaste.

Ploy:
I was molested by my ex-girl friend. I never told anyone, I'm saying it for the first time. You are my confidant, you hear?

i hear you bro. And how are yom dealing with that?

Mutuwa:
I remember being molested when I was young by an elderly girl neighbor.I kept it mute up and till this moment.how can u assist Op? Coz she has broken my record of being chaste.

well, brother, your case is quite familiar. Actually it happened to my brother. The most likely outcome of such incident in a guy is addiction to sex. They got a taste quite early in life and from someone older so that gives them skills and boldness. Only few shrink from women after such event

This thing can't work.

Derailers in action.

Kissbliss:

actually that is just the kind of Molestation we are talking about. Guys and ladies both suffer from it. you won't believe the number of guys who were molested by older female relative while growing up

Cool...so let's see whose (lady) gonna summon courage first

Crocz:


Cool...so let's see whose (lady) gonna summon courage first

sorry bro, most ladies just inbox me directly. So if you are waiting to see if your girlfriend will report you... Maybe she will. Just kidding bro. Not all the ladies will post it directly on the thread especially if it was very serious and involved a Father or another close relation

LogoDWhiz:
This thing can't work.

Derailers in action.

ya. I saw that possibility. We just have to see the silver lining and not the dark cloud

Kissbliss:

sorry bro, most ladies just inbox me directly. So if you are waiting to see if your girlfriend will report you... Maybe she will. Just kidding bro. Not all the ladies will post it directly on the thread especially if it was very serious and involved a Father or another close relation

Haha...but this is a faceless forum unless you put a face on your dp

Sometimes, you just train and make you mind belief that somethings never happened...best form of Psychology
How you do that depends on how strong minded you are

Crocz:


Haha...but this is a faceless forum unless you put a face on your dp

Sometimes, you just train and make you mind belief that somethings never happened...best form of Psychology
How you do that depends on how strong minded you are

ya. You probably right. But i dont think you ve been raped before. U just can't think it didn't happen. Noone is that strong. It did happen so you just have to find a way to deal with it. As for here being a faceless forum i can assure you most girls dont get that. They have pictures EVERYWHERE!!

Kissbliss:

ya. You probably right. But i dont think you ve been raped before. U just can't think it didn't happen. Noone is that strong. It did happen so you just have to find a way to deal with it. As for here being a faceless forum i can assure you most girls dont get that. They have pictures EVERYWHERE!!

Maybe it's harder for women to deal with...I just shared how I dealt with mine

Kissbliss:

well, brother, your case is quite familiar. Actually it happened to my brother. The most likely outcome of such incident in a guy is addiction to sex. They got a taste quite early in life and from someone older so that gives them skills and boldness. Only few shrink from women after such event

COUNSELOR, what you just say now, how does that help your client?

Lalalaa

Kissbliss:

ya. I saw that possibility. We just have to see the silver lining and not the dark cloud

Hmm.
Okay.

Let's wait and see.

I hope it works o.



My 2000th post on nairaland

spyg1:
COUNSELOR, what you just say now, how does that help your client?

well, you see why people inbox me straight up. He's yet to tell us how it affected him. Then we will help with good advice

Owk...I will post mine soon. It was very nasty.

Kissbliss:
I have discovered something. Most victims of Rape would rather not talk about the incident to anybody. They keep it inside and it kills them slowly. The truth is noone remains the same after a rape incident. Such form of sexual abuse usually leave the victim scarred for life unless they can get to the point wher they can talk about it. The problem is they dont want anybody to know about it. So i have decided to create this thread to help them out. Good thing here is both the councellor and the one being advised can both remain anonymous. Come lets talk without the criticisms which u dread so greatly. Some of you even believe it was your fault. IT WASN'T. I'll be waiting.
Dr Peaches

u start first.....afterall thats what i saw in my movie of the year: temptation - confession of a marriage counselor

Like seriously op, you want molet victims to publicly say their stories here therefore making the world know they've once been molested?

Don't you think it will open wounds?

Well I pity molest victims sha

alotofgrace:


u start first.....afterall thats what i saw in my movie of the year: temptation - confession of a marriage counselor

somehow i knew someone was going to ask me to spill my own story. I share that with the people am counselling not people who wil make fun of it. It wasn't a nice thing to happen to anybody

MzMariah:
Like seriously op, you want molet victims to publicly say their stories here therefore making the world know they've once been molested?

Don't you think it will open wounds?

Well I pity molest victims sha

not publicly. Email me. Besides they can't get over it by sitting on it. they need to get over it by talking to someone. Not necessarily me but anyone with listening ears

Kissbliss:

not publicly. Email me. Besides they can't get over it by sitting on it. they need to get over it by talking to someone. Not necessarily me but anyone with listening ears

The memory is always like yesterday no matter who you talk to.

Well I might be wrong sha.

Kissbliss:

somehow i knew someone was going to ask me to spill my own story. I share that with the people am counselling not people who wil make fun of it. It wasn't a nice thing to happen to anybody

miss! with due respect, not all dudes here are clowns....when a thread becomes a matter of concern then u get my attention.

well am not offended by ur comment ma

MzMariah:
The memory is always like yesterday no matter who you talk to.

Well I might be wrong sha.

no. You are absolutely correct. I still remember mine but it doesn't feel like yesterday. It feels like it happened in another life. Thanks to my pastors wife

Kissbliss:

no. You are absolutely correct. I still remember mine but it doesn't feel like yesterday. It feels like it happened in another life. Thanks to my pastors wife

Wow. But are you sure one can heal? I see molest as emm....alright, I'm happy for you.

alotofgrace:


miss! with due respect, not all dudes here are clowns....when a thread becomes a matter of concern then u get my attention.

well am not offended by ur comment ma

i meant no offence. You can imagine how guys get on social networks. Especially if they are anonymous

Kissbliss:

i meant no offence. You can imagine how guys get on social networks. Especially if they are anonymous

i understand....