I will simply go to bed

Parents are more experienced than we re. Sometimes, they r some qualities they feel/see in our partners than we tend nt to notice or overlook in our partners. If they happen to tell u nt to marry the person u love, then there must be an ideal and convincing reason to b right. But, if there's none, il try to do d convincing masef.

I, for one dont like people dictating 4 me or forcing me to do sth against ma wish, bt if ma parents were to say its a NO for ma partner, i believe, ther's sumtin behind it & would sit 4 a logical reason why they said so since i knw them to b people who neva and will never enforce their will on we, their children or try to make decisions for us. Had it been they r d kind of forceful parents 4rm d start, then il might probably nt listen 2 them.

Amusaopeyemi:

It still happens o, especially when the person is from a particular tribe your parents. Don't like.
I've seen parents telling their children not to bring home girls from certain tribes.

You are right, my close pal been dating this Edo girl for the past 9 yrs but his family is against him marrying her, now he s in a dilemma, he neither could tell her he quits cos he madly loves her meanwhile the girl had even turned down many wealthy matches made by her royal family in the past neither can he go ahead to call for marriage b'cos no one approves of it in his family. As a matter of fact that's why he isn't married yet. We friends like the girl cos she s good, caring and lovable but what can we do. Mayb someone has an advise that could work.

Fight for what you want because they have no reason. My fiance's family did same to me, they never wanted me instead they started accusing me of things I never did, threathened to kill me, insulted me(they would take turns to call me to insult and threaten me).It continued for good 3yrs.We never gave up (it's not a good experience I must confess) there are times you would want to walk away.

If you really love your partner, do everything to make it work, persuade your parents.

My case is a testimony, I'll forever be grateful to Almighty God.I can't still believe we are planning our wedding, I can't believe, I'm now in good terms with everyone. I thank God for the good heart he gave to me, I don't hold anything against anybody.

Op, I talked about my experience so you can know these things happen and you can still win the battle. Parents want to always control their children, they want to always decide what you should do and shouldn't and it's really annoying.

Princecalm:
What do you do when your Dad or Mum detest of the one you love so dearly?.Will you just ignore and go on with the wedding.

It's so simple.........


Just remind them who hell is meant for! I'm sure they'll stop detesting!

Anas4sure:
I will go marry olosho as alternative...jst wake up 2 comment,sleepn tnz againI will go marry olosho as alternative...jst wake up 2 comment,sleepn tnz againI will go marry olosho as alternative...jst wake up 2 comment,sleepn tnz again

No need of saying you just wake up to comment, Its obvious maybe when you are full awake, re-comment...Oko olosho

Ok i was hia.

Some of our parents does not have a genuine reason for saying no to your partner. Most of the reasons are based on their own experiences. I just believe that parents should not hate your partner if there is no genuine reason to.

This Generation most parents are right about this issue cause people of this generation mistake love for infatuation a lot. Ma folks are the calmest in the world and will gladly accept any bride I bring home cause they trust ma instinct so much and bliv in me

I'll pray 2 God to know if they are right or that's d right person for me.

i will listen to their reasons, my mum or dad cannot just hate someone for no just cause.they won't judge till they get to interact with you.

Stelvin101:
This Generation most parents are right about this issue cause people of this generation mistake love for infatuation a lot. Ma folks are the calmest in the world and will gladly accept any bride I bring home cause they trust ma instinct so much and bliv in me

You are very funny, they will gladly accept any bride you take home, Just look very well no go carry jombo oo, All iz well, God will be with us all

Most of Ibadan girls are not well-cultured but not all........ Mie le fe omo ibadan rara was my previous thought but I'm now dating an ibadan lady but she got manners ;d

All I will do is listen to this music.magic-rude

Therez dis tin called discernment, not all have it, u myt be too crazy in love to discern someone, but when ur parents discerns anything about ur partner n it turns out negative u had better listen 2 ur parents. But not all parents can be right, if urs is the type that says "bring only a rich man home" sorry 4 u, dia advice will mar u.

stabilizer:


You are very funny, they will gladly accept any bride you take home, Just look very well no go carry jombo oo, All iz well, God will be with us all

Am Serious o. Even if na all those kind crazy gals with no character with no home training. They bliv I av a way of doing things right no matter what.

Just woke up to see this at the frontpage

oscarpad:
Name cannot be blank

You commented in the midnight, oh I see. Oga, come back to life no be meeting u dey, na nairaland u dey. How many names have u gotten this night again?

"What an elderly person sat down to see, a young person can't see it while standing, even if he climbs the highest mountain". Most of our parents are experienced in things of this life. I'll know their reasons and if its a geniue one, i'll go with it. As long as it has nothing to do with,
tribe, outcast or state.

my advice is to discontinue or stop that relationship for that period, try and convince them of the good side of your spouse and find a family member you know they do listen to, that might do the magic.

Our parent have much experience and know the world better than us and what most of them see, we don't even have a clue about it.
They surely have their reasons for objecting the relationship but I as a son of my parent will listen or pretend to listen and reason with them first, followed by talking separately with them and try to make them see things in my own view.
If the object, halt the wedding plan for that time but never, I repeat, never marry anyone without the consent of your parent.

Your parent is your parent, you will always need them....

@^^^ missberrypop5, I'm not following u, but I'm e-watching u

I'll simply walk away wit the one I love! #NoHardFeelings

missberrypop5:
"What an elderly person sat down to see, a young person can't see it when standing, even if he climbs the highest mountain". Most of our parents are experienced in things. I'll know their reasons and if its a geniue one, i'll go with it. As long as it has nothing to with,
tribe, outcast or state.

my grandma did it to some of her male kid nd end up nt giving birth until dey divorce nd marry d person of dre choice. so my mom wil never

Leave the person,... parental problem is not good not even for a woman who u "think" u Love

It wil only boust d moral of love I hav 4 her

I'll fast and pray. I'll tell God.... This is what I want, but if you know it'll hurt me in the long run, let Your Will be done.

eduson33:
Just the problem am facing now..will keep following this thread for more advice

Bros, just be calm, be yourself and this problem will be resolve, it takes time before parent adjust to reality as long as your lady loves you, she will be the only limiting factor, that is one of the challenges a man must face, gaining favor and acceptance from people we don't know. You will understand this issue in later life when you become a parent, this is your first test to prove your love n if you run, they will be justified that you never love the girl. Patience and perceiverance wins the race.

They should just allow me to ride the boat and see for myself if it will sink! Experience is the best teacher

If u are a Lady knw surely that their blessing is necessary, in fact u cant go on without bin given out by ur parents. But as a man u r expected to leave ur parent and cleave un2 ur wife. Weda or not ur parent consent to ur decision is actually immaterial.

I Don't Have Much To Say But Take This==> What An Elder Saw While Sitting Down, You Won't See Even If You're Ontop The Highest Iroko Tree. #my2kobo.