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Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by pryd(m): 9:29pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Hey Godmother, what you feel is not strange. It's a good thing you're still conscious of ur happiness, which is basically the reason for ur "over cautious tendency" but you really need to let go. The more the experience holds you back, the more you dignify the one who caused you the pain(experience). Don't allow the past rub you of the beauty that lies in wait. All the best dear. |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Tymax(m): 9:30pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
I will share a few words with you my sister. Once upon a time, I trusted someone 100%. Oh, she was my sunshine! But one day I uncovered a secret that shattered my ideal- she had betrayed my trust and later rubbed it in. Thereafter, I accepted one truth: "no one deserves to be burdened with 100% of your trust." You would be setting them up for failure in that regard BECAUSE we are humans. Our humanity is enough to not make us trustworthy. When trust is requested or required, GIVE A MEASURE but don't beat yourself up when people don't meet up. Take it in stride. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by sparklie(f): 9:35pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
I'm also guilty of this o. I don't also knw how to help myself. It has even made me to start avoiding male folks cos I feel that anything that comes out of their mouth is embedded with lies even when they r speaking d truth. Yeaa, I was hurt wellu wellu, but I've tried moving on and I "think" I have. But I don't just see myself trusting. |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Godmother(f): 9:36pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
dovelike: Babes pls join my train in looking for a solution. Cos its not a healthy thing |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Nobody: 9:49pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Godmother:Yes,I know |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by cbrass(m): 9:49pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
dovelike: I think u will end up finding your self in a space you donot belong to because of your conceived idea about boys and getting out will be too difficult hence you get depressed and you know what that can lead to if not managed on time. Besides Your dad was once a boy and your mother loves and trusted him hence you were their product, beautifully made ......ponder on this always. *cheers* |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Nobody: 9:53pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
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Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by GlorifiedTunde(m): 9:55pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
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Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by cbrass(m): 9:56pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
sparklie: Hmm, you see not all guys are bad as you think, there are good ones out there and I mean reaaaly good ones. Probably there was some fault on your side too that led to this or but u still haven't realised it, now when you sin against God and He whoops your as5 then you go on your kneels and ask for forgiveness, why do you think He forgives you, its because He gave you that benefit of doubt that u won't commit that sin again hence He starts trusting you again. Now borrow a leaf from this and start trusting again 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by cbrass(m): 10:03pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
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Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by iamjane(f): 10:45pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
marieolae: Say something to the godmother first lest you d be guilty of derailing as an attention seeker! @op I feel you I'm learning from this cos I'm battling it too 3 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by akpumping7720(m): 10:53pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
One thing I realized about this whole relationship of a stuff is dat, treat things d way they comes, do u best and leave d rest never allow d relationship u are into occupies 90 per cent of ur mind wen u ave other things to respond to, FREE YOUR MIND. Datsall. 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by dahmie2013: 11:16pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
cbrass: Yes, I don't need nyone 2 trust me, cos if u do, den I'm on my own, but if u don't I no sumone's watching&has my back. OP, I share ur thut, I can never trust nyone, cos I don't even trust myself&dats cos human&I can make mistakes. Dis has really helped me alot&has made me more careful in dealing with ppl. Its not abt 4giving or not 4giving just dat we learn 4rm mistakes&i learnt d hard way. |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Nobody: 11:17pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Dearie, Sorry about your past. Your past accumulate to be your experience. We've all had bad relationships in the past but it shouldn't deter the good things in the future. Godmother, you shouldn't look for the escapist path. You should try as much as possible to face today without hinging to your past experiences. Life is good, I tell you and relationship is sweet when there is trust and love. Don't kill that beautiful part in you because of what someone did in the past. This is the reason we have time, time heals all things and it also renders things we feel are bad to nonsense. You cannot change yesterday and yesterday cannot deter tomorrow from existing. So understand this, Person A is now the past while the good Person B is here. Don't make the right person leave because you still feel hatred for person A. Learn to see it as one of those things that will make your story sweet. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by golddeejay(m): 12:46am On Oct 16, 2014 |
y r u ladies having trust issues...u people do hurt us too but we take it n let it go like men...okay we r MEN Ok Godmother The truth is neva give ur 100%trust(else u get hurt easily) to anybody atleast at first but if the person cares abt u nd trust u like 50%, then u can atleast give him like 30-40%. With that u have encourage that person to care n trust u more, nd before u kno it r trusting the person more n more...u will b surprised u found urself giving dat person ur all. Relationship is more of give and take, if someone is caring so much for u and you can even trust him a bit. Then u will loose him. It may not be easy but if luv him, then u hav to let go of the negative emotions u ve bottled up inside little by little. Wish u a happy life |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Nobody: 4:27am On Oct 16, 2014 |
Godmother: I also do suffer from this stuff too. |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Rapsainot(m): 5:09am On Oct 16, 2014 |
Godmother:
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Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by mployer(m): 6:23am On Oct 16, 2014 |
This is where you need God. I trust people not because I know they can't hurt me but because I trust God to keep me safe if they decide to do so. Should they eventually hurt me, I still trust God for fast healing of the pain and making great good out of the bad. You see, my trust for people is hinged on my trust in God. I will stop trusting people the day I stop trusting God, and I don't see that happening soon. |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by mployer(m): 6:28am On Oct 16, 2014 |
dahmie2013: I don't see how trusting no one is going to help. It will only make you loose out on many opportunities. We deal with humans everyday and trust is required if you want to get the best out of people |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by dapsy4u2(m): 6:55am On Oct 16, 2014 |
Trust God and give man benefit of doubt! |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Godmother(f): 7:24am On Oct 16, 2014 |
mployer: This is a great idea and will definitely help me. I ll start implementing this to heal. |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by sparklie(f): 8:04am On Oct 16, 2014 |
cbrass: The only fault I knw of is "trusting too much". When these people now realise what they've done, they now start apologising and by that time I've gone bak to my shell and I don't want a part 2 of d former act. Trust me, in our world, nice and good people are taken for granted! |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by iamdotune(m): 9:07am On Oct 16, 2014 |
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Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Nobody: 9:08am On Oct 16, 2014 |
Godmother: Start by trusting yourself. Yes trust yourself, trust that you care about yourself enough not to put yourself in harms way. Sometimes protecting yourself by living life on the defensive leads to more pain the very thing you are trying to avoid you attract. Don't let your fears rule you and make you hide your lovely self so Godmother trust yourself that way you'll learn to trust others and you'll know who is good for you and who is bad for you. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Nobody: 9:49am On Oct 16, 2014 |
Me too dearie...hmmmmm Godmother: |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by dudesexy1111(m): 10:57am On Oct 16, 2014 |
actually jus move on kkk i faced dat situation tooo but i moved on take care dear |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by cbrass(m): 11:34am On Oct 16, 2014 |
sparklie: Its good you said they come apologizing which means they have known their fault, you see some ppl may not know the value o something until they loose it, but if giving the chance to own that thing again they will guard it jealously with their life. You wouldn't want God to go into his shell by the time you come asking for forgiveness too...*think of that pls* |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Godmother(f): 5:53pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
cbrass: If you give some people a second chance, they will still mess up again |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by GoodFaith: 7:32pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Godmother:Ok good don't trust any person U will likely live ur life unhappy 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by cbrass(m): 10:38pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Godmother: Not when they trully and sincerely repented of their ways, But if they messed up again...then it is your fault |
Re: I Have A Very Distrustful Nature by Godmother(f): 3:27am On Oct 29, 2014 |
cbrass: Geez! My fault you say?! Pls explain to me how it is my fault that a grown-up man/woman chooses to mess up when given a second opportunity. Just as an example, if you sin against God and he forgives you, then you go back to your sins, does it make it His fault that you sinned again? |
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