Hello, someone need advice, pls only responsable married men or women should comment on this. Singles, my apology in advance.

He has paid her bride price. Because of his job and few other logicstics from her own schedule, d wedding was shifted forward to atleast, 8 months time.
He is an advocate of no s*x before marriage, jus lik her. Now she visits him more regular at least twice in a month and spend 2days or so before traveling.
D problem is d responsability of marriage is now telling on him, even though he was yet to start enjoying d sweet side of marriage.
He is now wondering whether he can sustain the surpressed sexual feelin til afta weedin. Though both are strong christian.
Yestarday night he had a passionate talk about it wit her.
Excerp: "let's hav a protected s*x, because i don't want u 2 be pregnant before our weddin"
ans: "no pls let's hav patience"

He: " we are already married by law, only waitin 4 God's blessing thru weddin" then she opened up.

Ans: " i'm a virgin, i promised God that i wil not do it until after my weddin. Dear, i'v kept it 4 a long time. I wil not be happy if i break that promise."
he was short of words and find it difficult to convince her.
Pls he need advice on how to cope til after d weddin, since it wil not be proper to tell her to stop visiting regularly.
Men in NL, Do u have similar exp. How did u handle it?
Women, do u think she's right? If no, what do u think he should tell her?

The topic says "fiancee" not "wife"

Anyways,
He can cope with a big size of family vaseline and addition of 1hour to the normal time it lasts him to take his bath


Before I go,
Truth is as bitter as dogoyaro
he should also buy some bottles of beer and start chilling it now..It's usefulness cannot be over emphasized,he could either use it to restore strength when he eventually enters paradise or hold tears when he finds out she's as wide as Jacob's well


am I communicating?

It is well

darisgod:
It is well

thanks madam, ur advice would be appreciated.

Odilafta:
He can cope with a big size of family vaseline and addition of 1hour to the normal time it lasts him to take his bath


Before I go,
he should also buy some bottles of beer and start chilling it now..It's usefulness cannot be over emphasized,he could either use it to restore strength or hold tears


am I communicating?

this thread is not 4 singles pls, that's why i posted in family section instead of Romance section ok!

silvoice:
this thread is not 4 singles pls, that's why i posted in family section instead of Romance section ok!

You sure there're only married people in this family section?
Does my comment look like that of a troll? If it does kindly disregard it.
Thanks.

Odilafta:
He can cope with a big size of family vaseline and addition of 1hour to the normal time it lasts him to take his bath
Before I go,
he should also buy some bottles of beer and start chilling it now..It's usefulness cannot be over emphasized,he could either use it to restore strength or hold tears
am I communicating?

correct babe Carry go jor, nothing do you.

You are surely communicating, only if they will open their eyes and read

Mstcheeww! So now married peeps abstain from sex? Or, didn't you just say they've done their trad?

And why does it seem like the guy is just getting to know his wife is a vagin?

Whatever rocks their boat jare.

You are lucky man. A discipline lady like her would be less likely to cheat on you

Chillisauce:


correct babe Carry go jor, nothing do you.

You are surely communicating, only if they will open their eyes and read

Aunty mi
the man say I be single so I don pack my mouth inside coke bottle

silvoice:
Yestarday night he had a passionate talk about it wit her.
Excerp: "let's hav a protected s*x, because i don't want u 2 be pregnant before our weddin"
ans: "no pls let's hav patience"

He: " we are already married by law, only waitin 4 God's blessing thru weddin" then she opened up.

Ans: " i'm a virgin, i promised God that i wil not do it until after my weddin. Dear, i'v kept it 4 a long time. I wil not be happy if i break that promise."
he was short of words and find it difficult to convince her.

Why this? If he feels so convinced that they are already married and entitiled to married benefits, what is he afraid of if she gets pregnant before ''our wedding''

Married people don't decide not to get pregnant because of what people will say......

If he doesn't want pregnancy ''before our wedding'' then i assume that he doesn't yet see themselves as married so let him wait like he has been waiting before till ''their wedding''

Phema:
Mstcheeww! So now married peeps abstain from sex? Or, didn't you just say they've done their trad?

And why does it seem like the guy is just getting to know his wife is a vagin?

Whatever rocks their boat jare.

yes! he was surprised 2 hear from her dat she's a virgin cos he has never demanded 4 s*x until now.
But Heh! Does it mean he can't get a good advice here?

silvoice:
yes! he was surprised 2 hear from her dat she's a virgin cos he has never demanded 4 s*x until now.

So, he got married to someone he didn't even know much about? Not even an info as little as whether she has had s€x or not? And you say she visits and stays for 2 days biweekly? Your friend is not serious. Same with his wife.

And nope! It does not seem like you will get any good advice on here. Its either the story is fake or the people in it are fake.

Phema:


So, he got married to someone he didn't even know much about? Not even an info as little as whether she has had s€x or not? And you say she visits and stays for 2 days biweekly? Your friend is not serious. Same with his wife.

And nope! It does not seem like you will get any good advice on here. Its either the story is fake or the people in it are fake.

no! Don't get it wrong. She had told him in d past that she don't hav a boy friend, since 2yrs dat he knew her, her lifestyle shows it, but he himself has dated women. So wether Virgin or not was nt an issue 4 him. Believ it or not, most women wil nt open up on dat, especially if dere 1st experience is bad. Again it's now dat she's staying 2day b4 travelin. B4, he does d visitin.

Jus thinkin

If the lady says "No". Then accept it else move on to someone who'll say "Yes".

@OP

First off, she's not his fiance. She's his wife. He has paid her bride price and they are fully married.

However, since she wishes to remain a virgin until she puts on her white dress, he should respect her wishes.

Both of them should carry on life like they did before they got married. That means they should not expose themselves to unnecessary temptation. She should stop visiting him and staying the night. They should keep on taking all the precautions they did during courtship to avoid temptation.

D lady sef na wah is she supposed to spend d night n still expect d man to hold body?
If she wants a chaste wedding she should help dem both by staying away for now or visit briefly.its like telling a hungry man."take! This is your food but don't eat it now. Stay awhile with it"

The lady is definitely hiding something from him. It will be very silly if at the end she's not a virgin after all.

berem:
The lady is definitely hiding something from him. It will be very silly if at the end she's not a virgin after all.

You typed my mind!

Phema:


So, he got married to someone he didn't even know much about? Not even an info as little as whether she has had s€x or not? And you say she visits and stays for 2 days biweekly? Your friend is not serious. Same with his wife.

And nope! It does not seem like you will get any good advice on here. Its either the story is fake or the people in it are fake.

They are a confused lot!

Odilafta:

Aunty mi
the man say I be single so I don pack my mouth inside coke bottle

Don't mind him. Bring back the mouth jor. Better advice no dey for single or married . This your own correct wella

If I were the op, I will ask her, is there something you are hiding? If I find out that you have been lying to me all along even one hour after our wedding, I go divorce you straight away!

@all. Thanks. He's just thinkin how to crash some of his programs and do the weddin as soon as possible. But that wil mean spending too much as other people hav to do d planin and he may not hav much savings left afta d weddin

Odilafta:
He can cope with a big size of family vaseline and addition of 1hour to the normal time it lasts him to take his bath


Before I go,
he should also buy some bottles of beer and start chilling it now..It's usefulness cannot be over emphasized,he could either use it to restore strength when he eventually enters paradise or hold tears when he finds out she's as wide as Jacob's well


am I communicating?

evils

YES SIR

Odilafta:
He can cope with a big size of family vaseline and addition of 1hour to the normal time it lasts him to take his bath


Before I go,
he should also buy some bottles of beer and start chilling it now..It's usefulness cannot be over emphasized,he could either use it to restore strength when he eventually enters paradise or hold tears when he finds out she's as wide as Jacob's well


am I communicating?

Even if she visits must she sleep over? If she was bold and open about her commitment to God. Why are you bottling your own feelings about the temptations you are facing?

Is this the foundation you want to build your marriage?

Phema:
Mstcheeww! So now married peeps abstain from sex? Or, didn't you just say they've done their trad?

And why does it seem like the guy is just getting to know his wife is a vagin?

Whatever rocks their boat jare.

Didn't you read the part where it was said they are christians. If you don't know the christian doctrine, kindly ask.

Fxwarrior:

Didn't you read the part where it was said they are christians. If you don't know the christian doctrine, kindly ask.

So, christians are meant to abstain from sex after trad wedding? Or that doesn't count?

Phema:


So, christians are meant to abstain from sex after trad wedding? Or that doesn't count?

A christian's wedding is not complete without white wedding or church blessing if they can't afford wedding.

Fxwarrior:

A christian's wedding is not complete without white wedding or church blessing if they can't afford wedding.

Oh really? So for people that did Trad and Registery, their wedding isn't "complete"?

To each his own.

Phema:


Oh really? So for people that did Trad and Registery, their wedding isn't "complete"?

To each his own.

Not complete without the church wedding.The Op knows that and that is why he is avoiding pregnancy.