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Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 3:39pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
I chose women as the subject because they are the pillar of the house. Shaky pillars is a warning to a catastrophic occurrence of a building. Today's women are really focused on their careers more than their families . An instance is the trend, or can I say the norm of celebrities especially the women having failed marriages. Does that mean our women have lost the motherhood qualities? They embrace their careers so much that it almost choke. Where is the love for the family? I have a friend who was filing for divorce just because her husband asked her to quit her job and concentrate on building the joy back to their family. There are things we just have to compromise for the sake of the future of our children. 13 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by bukatyne(f): 3:47pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Yes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by nomabeeee(f): 3:51pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
I hv seen and met women who re sucessful in career and in marriage..and by Gods grace am going dt same way too..not easy shaa buh all one needs is determination,hardwork,perseverance..and an understanding husband..meanwhile its vry necessary to share ur visions wt a man b4 u guys get married..let it just be dt the man knows what the futuree lies for both of u..and also to know if u guys re headed for the same direction...and I strongly believe dt building a happy family should involve both parties ie couple..its not only the duty of the woman..the man should hv a role to play..my opinion though.. 31 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by nomabeeee(f): 3:55pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
One advice for career women:don't just put ur family/marriage behind bc u re pursing ur career..let ur family come first all the time..create time for ur family.. 8 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by zeb04(f): 4:04pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Asking someone to quit their is to the extreme. Why do we take decisions without considering the other party.is it only the woman's duty to bring joy into the family, .......weren't our mother's successful family and carrier women . You don't ask someone to make sacrifice you know you cannot do youself and marriages don't just pack up because of someone's ambition. We all have purposes,ambitions,goals in life and we can do that carrying everyone along. 34 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:06pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
zeb04:What about compromise? No one ask you to become a housewife 4 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Kimoni: 4:13pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Yes they can! Career women have had successful marriages in the past, still having and will continue to have. Numerous examples abound in every field. I would say celebrity marriages are rather not good examples cuz most are either based on faulty foundations or they just couldn't handle the success. Agreed getting married to a career woman comes with its own peculiar challenges but both parties can overcome them if there is love and understanding between them. And I don't want to believe it's any different from the other type of challenges that comes with marriage, if they cant both effectively solve one, they will solve the other types of challenges as well eg couples who are effectively able to handle the challenges that come with having a career woman in the home are more likely to be able to resolve financial issues, in-law issues, delayed pregnancies etc There are numerous benefits that come with it also, so couples just have to decide if they want to focus on the strengths or the challenges. OP, In the example you gave, how does a woman quitting her job translate to joy coming back to the family? I am struggling to understand the correlation. Are you saying the moment she started working, her husband and children became sorrowful? 34 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Busybody2(f): 4:14pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Something's got to give and in most cases its the children that loses out on "quality" time. 4 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:20pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Kimoni:Time with the family is a basic necessity. It depends on the nature of her job. 3 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by zeb04(f): 4:20pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
skydeep:my dear compromise is good so long it is not under compulsion . 5 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by cococandy(f): 4:23pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
I'm sure the man knew who he married before he married her. He saw her love for career but felt he could change her. Wrong. There's no way every woman out there will be the baby-birthing-and-nurturing-career-sacrificing kind of person. I'll advice the men to go for their kind of woman. If you don't like career women,don't marry one and then turn around to force her to quit her job. Some women are fine with being stay home moms,some are not. It's a BIG wide world. We shouldn't expect everyone to have the same plans and goals for their lives. 54 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:23pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
zeb04:No one is forcing you to. You know what is best for the family, so do it 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:27pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
cococandy:If they don't marry a career woman, who will? A lot men are afraid to marry career women. But at least, a career woman should make TIME for her family especially her kids 4 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by LordReed(m): 4:28pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Both father and mother have roles to play in building a family so when making career moves they must both consider the impact it will have on their family roles. A woman can have a successful career and have a happy home. It is not impossible to achieve it has been done by women and still is. Nobody should have to sacrifice family for career whether male or female. 6 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:33pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
LordReed:My point 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nobody: 4:33pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
skydeep: Its a hard one and as I always say, each situation is different and we need to look at things in its entirety and long term too Look at this family for example. Hubby insisted that the wife resigns so she can look after the family . . Now she is getting a divorce How has that helped the family? You get what I am saying? An unhappy woman being forced to give up her job and stay at home is of really no benefit to that same family that she is being forced to look after. Compromise and support is what is needed from both parties. A woman can have a career and a family. . . . Very possible. There are millions of women in the work place juggling things around. Its easier though if you have a supportive partner. 13 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by cococandy(f): 4:34pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
skydeep:I totally agree with you. Same applies to career men. I think kids deserve to know that they come first as far their parents are concerned 3 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nobody: 4:35pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
I forgot to ask a very crucial question . . . What is considered a career woman? To me, a career woman is anyone who works . . A woman who goes round banks selling shoes, hairdressers, fashion designers, bankers, teachers, fish sellers, nurses, social workers etc are all career women. 17 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:36pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
cococandy:Sure |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by radiant3(f): 4:36pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Yes!it's a matter of DETERMINATION. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by zeb04(f): 4:37pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
skydeep:yes. If quitting your job is best for the family then go right ahead(I am not sticking my point down anyone's throat) neither am i asking you to take my suggestion although, I am of the view that you can be successful both ways and still have beautiful Godly kids . that to me is best for the family. 3 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Kimoni: 4:40pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
skydeep: Can a frustrated woman who was compelled to quit her job bring joy to anybody in the home? Can she give what she doesn't have? Must the husband kill his wife's goals and aspirations when there are couples going through the same situation and managing it well? I am certain there are better ways of managing the situation and still keeping everybody happy. 15 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:40pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
chaircover:You are missing the point. The fact that her husband asked her to quit doesn't mean she will become a housewife. Its just that the nature of her job contradicts the happiness of the family. He was planning to establish a small scale business for her. So I heard.. 2 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:42pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
zeb04:Yes, the topic is possible but on a slim chance |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:44pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Kimoni:The part she will get frustrated was why I created this topic. How can that be averted? |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nobody: 4:45pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
skydeep: My dear I am only going by what you said Plus life is ful of surprises He may open a small business and eventually she may even spend longer hours seeing to that business especially in the early years than she probably does now. Business is not as easy as people think and if you want your business to grow one needs to invest a lot of time in it. Its still down to compromise. Why is she refusing to quit her job? Please advise your friend to sit down again with her hubby and work out between them the best way forward. Maybe a reduction of hours or transfer nearer home may be a better option and everyone is happy. 3 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nobody: 4:48pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
skydeep: Successful women are career driven. There's more to it than it meets the eye. The woman in the background is utterly self centered. She clearly doesn't give a damn about her family. Not even for a second. I'm not saying she should give up her Job, but her readiness to opt for a divorce speaks alot. 6 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by TV01(m): 4:48pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
It's not hard. As noted every situation is unique. But what is the same is that every couple should be transparent about their future plans and ambitions beforehand, agree and crystalise (or end it there) a unified whole for their union, and then enter into marriage with the readiness to sacrifice and be flexible if need be. **closes thread** TV 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:48pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
chaircover:Alright. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by jaybee3(m): 4:49pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
chaircover:One who has been in structured employment for any given period just like a career civil servant is one that has worked all their life in civil service |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nobody: 4:52pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
jaybee3: Are you saying that the fish seller who wakes up at 3am to catch the 4am danfo to badagry to buy fish, comes back home to Barracks to smoke the fish, then sells them at Iyana Iba market in the afternoon and the night market at okoko is not a career woman? People think carrer woman and automatically think of the women holding board positions and wearing skirt suits. . . . . A lot of women are out there providing for their familes and many just dont have choices especially in a place like Nigeria where there is no welfare state for widows, divorcess etc 34 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by skydeep(f): 4:54pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
chaircover:She is busy woman 2 Likes |
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