Wow. This is a very very nice, educative and mature thread. I think this is the only other thread on NL that I've read every single page from the first page till the current page (the other wonderful didactic threads I've come across are those by Moneysoldier).

One thing I've learnt in life is that for everything that we let happen to us or that we make happen to us, there are lessons to be learnt. You learnt the necessary lessons, OP. And you're both applying them in your marriage & sharing them with us. And for that I'm grateful. I don't have any specific question to ask because most of the questions I would have loved to ask have already been asked by others. So there won't be any need for repetition. So I'll just keep reading and learning.

Well, you're already happily married. No need to wish you a happy married life. But I still wish you the continued happiness of being married to a beautiful and loving woman of watching your kids grow and teaching them from your wealth of experience.

RedEboe:


Come on...if an OLDER WOMAN rejects you, how bad can it be? Just pocket the rejection and move on to younger girls, abi?
I can tell you this though, older women in spite of their matured and experienced nature tend to feel much more insecured than younger women and their reasons are not far-fetched.
If you really like this older lady, go for her and toast her same way you'd toast a young sisi. BUT, if you are just into her because of her money, I'd advise you to hold your peace; not for her own good but for yours. Remember, "Hell knows no fury than 'an older' woman scorned."...or something like that.

Goodluck!

Boss I'm not after moni, I av little respect 4 guys dat do dat, because I feel wen u start collecting moni frm a lady u r gradually loosing ur ctr over her,d fact z I really lyk her becos she z just my mirror image,we av d same taste,goals,flaws,outlook on religion and many other but d only difference is d slight age difference,and d oda factors I highlighted b4. She sef know say I no need her moni, I want her frm wu she z

mymz:


Do i sense a certain syndrome called "drinking panadol ontop another man headache"?
I'm very sure RedEboe knows how to go about "trying something out" if and when he decides he wants to. He is afterall (as we've all come to agree), a living legend in that particular arena.

Although a very little birdie tells me it's something else you're actually aiming for. if that's the case, pray do tell. I promise not to bite. Except of course u want me to

And what else do you think i am aiming at? Every womanizer has a "census book", "a register" where he put down all the women he has been able to go down with and the longer the census book, the better and more rewarding. What i am trying to do is just to help add and elongate his census book. If it was 299 he has been able to go down with, with you added, you can sense what the number would now be. Any probs with that?

hugoart:
LOL.No mind the guy.TRUISM:If it's too good to be TRUE,it isn't. He's a pretender-I'm fairly sure of this!

Whatever happens to following his words and not his footsteps. See him as a messenger, take his message and leave the messenger. You can't tell me you haven't seen any truth in all he has been saying since page 0 of this thread?

nobilis:
Wow. This is a very very nice, educative and mature thread. I think this is the only other thread on NL that I've read every single page from the first page till the current page (the other wonderful didactic threads I've come across are those by Moneysoldier).

One thing I've learnt in life is that for everything that we let happen to us or that we make happen to us, there are lessons to be learnt. You learnt the necessary lessons, OP. And you're both applying them in your marriage & sharing them with us. And for that I'm grateful. I don't have any specific question to ask because most of the questions I would have loved to ask have already been asked by others. So there won't be any need for repetition. So I'll just keep reading and learning.

Well, you're already happily married. No need to wish you a happy married life. But I still wish you the continued happiness of being married to a beautiful and loving woman of watching your kids grow and teaching them from your wealth of experience.

Thank you for your very kind words. I also wish you the very best that this life has to offer.

RedEboe:
Let me guess, he's pretty RICH, right?-no shame in that.

This guy is just blocking your progression towards other more useful (and emotionally balanced) men.

The emboldened got me laughing!! Ha ha ha
Well, its really not about now, but financial security in the long run, yea. He's the first guy I've dated that's way above me - in terms of career, finances, education, similar backgrounds, ...all that.

Question 2: When a guy talks dirty during s$x, do you think its disrespectful? ... I don't wanna embrace a feminist perspective on s%xual objectification though I think its somewhat degrading or maybe I'm not open-minded??

Question 3: How would you handle a girlfriend's sudden decision to be celibate? Or a non-V taking a stand on celibacy in a new relationship? (assuming you're single)

I appreciate your feedback.

dwilliams:
Boss I'm not after moni, I av little respect 4 guys dat do dat, because I feel wen u start collecting moni frm a lady u r gradually loosing ur ctr over her,d fact z I really lyk her becos she z just my mirror image,we av d same taste,goals,flaws,outlook on religion and many other but d only difference is d slight age difference,and d oda factors I highlighted b4. She sef know say I no need her moni, I want her frm wu she z

THEN GO FOR HER, MY FRIEND, go for her!!!

RedBenson:


And what else do you think i am aiming at? Every womanizer has a "census book", "a register" where he put down all the women he has been able to go down with and the longer the census book, the better and more rewarding. What i am trying to do is just to help add and elongate his census book. If it was 299 he has been able to go down with, with you added, you can sense what the number would now be. Any probs with that?

LOL...The only 'Census Book' I know of is the one with the National Population Commission at Abuja.

RedEboe:


LOL...The only 'Census Book' I know of is the one with the National Population Commission at Abuja.

Lol. Bros, u know say no be lie i dey talk.

RedEboe:


Yes, I'm enjoying my retirement.
1. The surest way of making a girl feel at home with you after the initial hunt is through CONSTANT COMMUNICATION via calls,chats,sms and occasional outings to public joints. Whenever she starts suggesting outings to more remote or secluded locations, just have it at the back of your mind that "u don hammer" or about to.

2. During my active days and even till this day,I'm very comfortable with all types of women. However,I am NOT $exually attracted to plus-sized (round) women and very light-skinned women. I've always loved chocolate,cream chocolate and very dark (slim) women.

correct guy, but ehn ,how is it achievable to be comfortable around woman you aren't $exualy attracted to.

EyeKandy:


The emboldened got me laughing!! Ha ha ha
Well, its really not about now, but financial security in the long run, yea. He's the first guy I've dated that's way above me - in terms of career, finances, education, similar backgrounds, ...all that.

Question 2: When a guy talks dirty during s$x, do you think its disrespectful? ... I don't wanna embrace a feminist perspective on s%xual objectification though I think its somewhat degrading or maybe I'm not open-minded??

Question 3: How would you handle a girlfriend 's sudden decision to be celibate? Or a non-V taking a stand on celibacy in a new relationship? (assuming you're single)

I appreciate your feedback.

2. Talking dirty during $ex is one of the numerous by-products from too much Hollywood movies and p0rn, but I can assure you that a lot of people do get a kick out of it-both male and female. I have been with a woman that kept screaming on top of her lungs, "Fvck me, Fvck me hard,you ba$tard". I've also been with a lady that told me to, "Shut the fvck up and just fvck me," when I tried asking her, "Who's your Daddy?" during intercourse.
So, it's relative really, just go with the flow and enjoy your $ex. If talking dirty during $ex is your man's thing, just encourage him by moaning a little bit louder jare. Make the man continue to dey yarn all the okpas wey him wan yarn.

3. If a once $exually active girlfriend decides to suddenly go all celibate on her boyfriend (and on men generally) I'd recommend she breaks up with her boyfriend and saves both of them the stress. This is because HE WILL NOT UNDERSTAND, and even if he fakes some kind of initial understanding towards this sudden lifestlye change, he will go get 'regulary help' from outside and simply designate you as his trophy babe...before leaving you eventually.

RedBenson:


And what else do you think i am aiming at? Every womanizer has a "census book", "a register" where he put down all the women he has been able to go down with and the longer the census book, the better and more rewarding. What i am trying to do is just to help add and elongate his census book. If it was 299 he has been able to go down with, with you added, you can sense what the number would now be. Any probs with that?

1. RedEboe has stated (more than once) that he is "retired" thus, your reference to "census or register" would be tantamount to judging him.
2. Redeboe has also highlighted his many skills during his active years of "womanizing" thus, as i pointed out earlier, he knows just how to make that move if he decides to get back in the game.
3. i don't have any "probs" with sensing your ability with basic mathematics. it is as expected. your insistence however, to "just try to help add and elongate" a census list that holds little or no relevance in the grand scheme of things, could be a little alarming.

Quick question: are you into 'watching'?

Cos i could convince RedEboe to get back in the game one more time, so we could put on a show for u to 'watch'

mymz:


1. RedEboe has stated (more than once) that he is "retired" thus, your reference to "census or register" would be tantamount to judging him.
2. Redeboe has also highlighted his many skills during his active years of "womanizing" thus, as i pointed out earlier, he knows just how to make that move if he decides to get back in the game.
3. i don't have any "probs" with sensing your ability with basic mathematics. it is as expected. your insistence however, to "just try to help add and elongate" a census list that holds little or no relevance in the grand scheme of things, could be a little alarming.

Quick question: are you into 'watching'?

Cos i could convince RedEboe to get back in the game one more time, so we could put on a show for u to 'watch'

The Op (RedE....) only stated he's "retired", not "tired". He might be retired but that doesnt me he's tired. As earlier said and which i am 101% sure he would want to kick out something with you and if only watching (as you clearly stated) would be my own share for the encounter, then i will give all praises to the gods of our land and glory God...the mightier. But seriously, i want him to add you to his legendary book. So see how you two can do the needful. You've already indicated interest to do something, Boss Op, wetin u talk naw?

Blankstare:
correct guy, but ehn ,how is it achievable to be comfortable around woman you aren't $exualy attracted to.

Dem no be human beings again?

* I have been with a woman that kept screaming on top of her lungs, "Fvck me, Fvck me hard,you ba$tard".
I've also been with a lady that told me to, "Shut the fvck up and just fvck me," when I tried asking her, "Who's your Daddy?" during intercourse.
So, it's relative really, just go with the flow and enjoy your $ex.

* If a once $exually active girlfriend decides to suddenly go all celibate on her boyfriend (and on men generally) I'd recommend she breaks up with her boyfriend and saves both of them the stress. This is because HE WILL NOT UNDERSTAND.

You made a whole lot of sense, I can relate to this statement.

RedBenson:


The Op only stated he's "retired", not "tired". He might be retired but that doesnt me he's tired. But seriously, i want him to add you to his legendary book. So see how you two can do the needful. You've already indicated interest to do something, Boss Op, wetin u talk naw?

Bolded part reminds me of a friend in high school that always insists on helping guys talk to girls they have crushes on....

He ends up going there to discuss his own matter. RedBenson, I dey hail ooo.

mymz:


1. RedEboe has stated (more than once) that he is "retired" thus, your reference to "census or register" would be tantamount to judging him.
2. Redeboe has also highlighted his many skills during his active years of "womanizing" thus, as i pointed out earlier, he knows just how to make that move if he decides to get back in the game.
3. i don't have any "probs" with sensing your ability with basic mathematics. it is as expected. your insistence however, to "just try to help add and elongate" a census list that holds little or no relevance in the grand scheme of things, could be a little alarming.

Quick question: are you into 'watching'?

Cos i could convince RedEboe to get back in the game one more time, so we could put on a show for u to 'watch'

HIAN!!!

RedEboe:


THEN GO FOR HER, MY FRIEND, go for her!!!

well I think I just did indirectly since she is a member of dis forum and she z bound 2 read my post here, having commented on dis post prior 2 my own comments.

dwilliams:
well I think I just did indirectly since she is a member of dis forum and she z bound 2 read my post here, having commented on dis post prior 2 my own comments.

Great!

dwilliams:
well I think I just did indirectly since she is a member of dis forum and she z bound 2 read my post here, having commented on dis post prior 2 my own comments.

Quit Dreaming... Quit Hoping...

You want sumfin?? You GRAB IT!

iCool:


Bolded part reminds me of a friend in high school that always insists on helping guys talk to girls they have crushes on....

He ends up going there to discuss his own matter. RedBenson, I dey hail ooo.

Nah Nah Nah, i'm none of such. Mine is purely on "charity"...helping the legendary masters attain thier goal.

^lol, charity might mean different things to different people.

Whats your own definition in this regard?

Ok,mr ladiesman. I get u now....

missdebs:
u sound matured....i like u

and he is married too

You must be a yoruba man.

Blankstare:
Ok,mr ladiesman. I get u now....

Please o, I'm just a regular guy!

3cycle:
You must be a yoruba man.

No, I'm not. But a Lagos boy? Definitely!!!

iCool:

Quit Dreaming... Quit Hoping...

You want sumfin?? You GRAB IT!

PREACH brother!

RedEboe:


PREACH brother!

I am Loyal

Only wondering the amount you spent over the womanizing period, e fit reach build house

RedEboe:


No, I'm not. But a Lagos boy? Definitely!!!

Confirmed my thoughts.
Welldone

anssy:

I no get your time

What's up wit u and a.nal seex? Jeez! Take it easy abeg

I wonder what OP is gaining from telling lies . Is your life outside Nairaland so boring that you have to concoct pages upon pages of fables to feel good about yourself? . Anyway let me show myself out now. Enjoy the fawning of those people that believe your c0ck and bull tales.