To me, I won't condemn him or her,but teach the danger of it to such a child,using bible principles ,informing the child how if the act not stopped ,might put s strain on his or her self esteem. I won't tell the child that doing it is abnormal. otherwise,he might begin to think he is abnormal. I will be shock though! what will be your own reaction?

ohaleoghene:
To me, I won't condemn him or her,but teach the danger of it to such a child,using bible principles ,informing the child how if the act not stopped ,might put s strain on his or her self esteem. I won't tell the child that doing it is abnormal. otherwise,he might begin to think he is abnormal. I will be shock though! what will be your own reaction?

It didn't happen. I won't even talk about it.

Sexual expression is as normal as your urge to feed. And as amoral as breathing.

If he's in his late teens, and doesn't have his own girl(s). I'll teach him how to get girls.

And out of curiosity, what related bible verse could you possibly quote?

BuddhaPalm:


It didn't happen. I won't even talk about it.

Sexual expression is as normal as your urge to feed. And as amoral as breathing.

If he's in his late teens, and doesn't have his own girl(s). I'll teach him how to get girls.

And out of curiosity, what related bible verse could you possibly quote?

It happened

If we don't discuss it, the dangers will eventually outweigh the silence. What if he becomes addicted? What if he loses any interest in the opposite sex? So many questions.

I hope you know that teaching him how to get girls is not the way out. There are many who are in relationships, even married folks, who still indulge in the act.

Texykool:


It happened

If we don't discuss it, the dangers will eventually outweigh the silence. What if he becomes addicted? What if he loses any interest in the opposite sex? So many questions.

There are no such dangers as addiction to self servicing and nobody loses interest in the opposite gender due to self servicing.

I hope you know that teaching him how to get girls is not the way out. There are many who are in relationships, even married folks, who still indulge in the act.

And it's ok. There is nothing wrong with it.

BuddhaPalm:


It didn't happen. I won't even talk about it.

Sexual expression is as normal as your urge to feed. And as amoral as breathing.

If he's in his late teens, and doesn't have his own girl(s). I'll teach him how to get girls.

And out of curiosity, what related bible verse could you possibly quote?

while there are a lot of verses which speak on sexual immorality. getting girls isn't the solution. what happen to abstinence? what about helping such child to build a new interest ?

Lol i will flog that demon out of him befor it destroys him..den i wil take him to see our priest and tell the reverend father to advice him on the dangers of such...den after dat, he wil go for confession and confess it.... Den i wil ask him to open up to me as to what made him to be doin dat.... Wether its pressure, or him bein to shy to talk to girls.. Or wether he has ths crush for reading porn...

Trust me, its better for a guy to commit fornication dan to be a secret self servicer..... At least one is bein don in d open why d oda one is secret...and such people might be condemnin people who fornicate when they knw in thr hearts dey do d worst....

ohaleoghene:




while there are a lot of verses which speak on sexual immorality. getting girls isn't the solution. what happen to abstinence? what about helping such child to build a new interest ?

There are no verses, in the bible, that talk about masturbatíon.

And on another note, sexuality is not immoral. Yes, there could be a state of excess - as with anything. So there should be moderation.

Even too much oxygen can kill you. Yes, oxygen.

Society has evolved to maintain order, so preaching abstinence and imposing sexúal restrictions on people is was a way to check kids from popping out babies with reckless abandon. And adults, from not causing too much strife by banging other people's spouses.

For the first reason, we now have something called condoms.

New interest you say? Lol.

Interest is such a weak word, really, to describe one's compulsion. It is called sex drive for a reason.

Here's what the dictionary says drive means: "urge or force (animals or people) to move in a specified direction", "an innate, biologically determined urge to attain a goal or satisfy a need."

Determined urge. Force. Innate.

Your son's sex drive is not a passing fancy. It is a force of nature, like gravity or magnetism, seeking expression. It cannot be wished away.

Texykool:


It happened

If we don't discuss it, the dangers will eventually outweigh the silence. What if he becomes addicted? What if he loses any interest in the opposite sex? So many questions.

I hope you know that teaching him how to get girls is not the way out. There are many who are in relationships, even married folks, who still indulge in the act.

Masturbatíon is not bad in itself. But EVERY addiction is.

If I haven't have the sexy talk with him or her then I will use the opportunity to do that. Also tell them to keep the door locked. Masturbation is perfectly okay but it's something you do in private

ohaleoghene:
To me, I won't condemn him or her,but teach the danger of it to such a child,using bible principles ,informing the child how if the act not stopped ,might put s strain on his or her self esteem. I won't tell the child that doing it is abnormal. otherwise,he might begin to think he is abnormal. I will be shock though! what will be your own reaction?

So many pretentious prudes on here

Pray do tell, @OP, what's wrong with it? Or the "dangers" associated with it? You think telling the child all of the highlighted stuff isn't more than enough to knock down their self-esteem and make them feel abnormal about themselves?

Ignorance kills more than deadly diseases. In response to your question, I as the child, would be more shocked to have you as a parent.

ohaleoghene:
To me, I won't condemn him or her,but teach the danger of it to such a child,using bible principles ,informing the child how if the act not stopped ,might put s strain on his or her self esteem. I won't tell the child that doing it is abnormal. otherwise,he might begin to think he is abnormal. I will be shock though! what will be your own reaction?

How does self service affect self esteem?

Cutehector4u:
Lol i will flog that demon out of him befor it destroys him..den i wil take him to see our priest and tell the reverend father to advice him on the dangers of such...den after dat, he wil go for confession and confess it.... Den i wil ask him to open up to me as to what made him to be doin dat.... Wether its pressure, or him bein to shy to talk to girls.. Or wether he has ths crush for reading porn...

Funny guy. Self servicing is worse than fornication? Lol
Anyway, there's little or nothing you will be able to do about it because you won't make him stop unless you make him see reasons why he should avoid pornography. Beating him will only make him continue when you are not around. 80% of men have self serviced at one point or the other in their lives, that's what the statistics say.

Nothing o!
It is "a nakyura sointin"!
Make e nor wound sha o!

Texykool:


It happened

If we don't discuss it, the dangers will eventually outweigh the silence. What if he becomes addicted? What if he loses any interest in the opposite sex? So many questions.

I hope you know that teaching him how to get girls is not the way out. There are many who are in relationships, even married folks, who still indulge in the act.

Gosh man! The chances of becoming addicted to it is very very very very slim. This is how kids' minds becomes messed up and by the time they are in their late teens they start phucking goats because touching yourself is evil.

Nothing wrong with it in marriage.

DukeNija:


Funny guy. Self servicing is worse than fornication? Lol
Anyway, there's little or nothing you will be able to do about it because you won't make him stop unless you make him see reasons why he should avoid pornography. Beating him will only make him continue when you are not around. 80% of men have self serviced at one point or the other in their lives, that's what the statistics say.

lol ...abi...no mind all ds guys wey dem go dey form say dem neva self service..

Cutehector4u:
lol ...abi...no mind all ds guys wey dem go dey form say dem neva self service..

so you have and you want to flog your son for it?

destante:
so you have and you want to flog your son for it?

lol i neva even said i hav a son or he wil masturbate...the topic was just on a what if basis...

I will rather have him do it than go outside to impregnate a girl. Nothing wrong with it as long as it does not consume him. I did it, and I am happily married with kids.

Cutehector4u:
lol i neva even said i hav a son or he wil masturbate...the topic was just on a what if basis...

I meant you have self serviced before if I got you right, and you would flog your son if he did same?

destante:
I meant you have self serviced before if I got you right, and you would flog your son if he did same?

destante.......thr r some things one shouldnt say in nairaland.... I hope u knw wat i mean....

Cutehector4u:
destante.......thr r some things one shouldnt say in nairaland.... I hope u knw wat i mean....

hmm Isokay.

carefreewannabe:


There are no such dangers as addiction to self servicing and nobody loses interest in the opposite gender due to self servicing.

Source?

Maybe you need to visit Romance Section more



And it's ok. There is nothing wrong with it.

Speak for yourself, Sis.

No one wants a lubricant/toy taking his/her place.

My reaction will be "oh junior you have grown

It was like yesterday that we gave birth to you.......

now come with me let me teach you what you need to avoid in life......."

I guess that will be the right time to pass a little knowledge about the opposite sex to him after all he is my son.

he was brought into the world for me to take care of him and guide him but not to live his life for him

EfemenaXY:


So many pretentious prudes on here

Pray do tell, @OP, what's wrong with it? Or the "dangers" associated with it? You think telling the child all of the highlighted stuff isn't more than enough to knock down their self-esteem and make them feel abnormal about themselves?

Ignorance kills more than deadly diseases. In response to your question, I as the child, would be more shocked to have you as a parent.

well you are one person I admire on naira land. not a mother yet, I believe you are . me willing to learn. Oga yell me what you will have me do in such situation.

ohaleoghene:

well you are one person I admire on naira land. not a mother yet, I believe you are . me willing to learn. Oga yell me what you will have me do in such situation.

I would advise you to go look up the health benefits of m.astu.rbat.ion for men. It's easy and google won't cost you a thing to use.

"It's something people don't talk about, but almost everyone does it: m.astu.rbat.ion. In one national study, 95 percent of men and 89 percent of women said they had m.astu.rbat.ion.

"We are programmed, as best we know, to need 0rgasms," says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist in Athens, Ga. "It's a fundamental aspect of men's health, right up there with brushing your teeth." And the more you know about what satisfies you solo, the more pleasure you get from sex.

You likely know that a little self-service!ng won't make you go blind or cause your ppen!s to fall off. (Let's face it, you'd know by now.) In fact, a little time alone is perfectly healthy for you.

"It relieves stress and keeps everything about your body—your heart rate, blood pressure, reproductive system, brain chemistry—in very good shape," Brame says.

A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Regularly flushing your system, so to speak, keeps your semen healthy and prevents the build up of cancer-causing chemicals.

"Men are doing themselves a favor with regular ejaculation," Brame says. "It cleans out the plumbing."

The researchers say sexual inter.course doesn't provide the same benefit because it puts you at risk of contracting a sex.ually transmitted infection.

m.astu.rbat.ion also helps combat premature eja.culati0n. If you can train yourself to last longer solo, you'll last longer with her.

http://www.menshealth.com/health/health-and-sex.ual-benefits-masturbati0n

Now does this help? I'm still keen on knowing why you think it's wrong, and where in the bible or it's supporting passage that says so.

kandiikane:


Gosh man! The chances of becoming addicted to it is very very very very slim. This is how kids' minds becomes messed up and by the time they are in their late teens they start phucking goats because touching yourself is evil.

Nothing wrong with it in marriage.

There are several people who are hooked on masturbation... There are lots of threads I have come across on NL about people who are helplessly hooked on it. Masturbation can be addictive. I know that there are lots of people who are into it but will not agree with you that it is not addictive.

Masturbation, like Bestiality, is a perversion. Saying you'd prefer one over the other is based on your 'Perversion Rating'.

Between two evils, choose NONE.

EfemenaXY:


I would advise you to go look up the health benefits of m.astu.rbat.ion for men. It's easy and google won't cost you a thing to use.

"It's something people don't talk about, but almost everyone does it: m.astu.rbat.ion. In one national study, 95 percent of men and 89 percent of women said they had m.astu.rbat.ion.

"We are programmed, as best we know, to need 0rgasms," says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist in Athens, Ga. "It's a fundamental aspect of men's health, right up there with brushing your teeth." And the more you know about what satisfies you solo, the more pleasure you get from sex.

You likely know that a little self-service!ng won't make you go blind or cause your ppen!s to fall off. (Let's face it, you'd know by now.) In fact, a little time alone is perfectly healthy for you.

"It relieves stress and keeps everything about your body—your heart rate, blood pressure, reproductive system, brain chemistry—in very good shape," Brame says.

A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Regularly flushing your system, so to speak, keeps your semen healthy and prevents the build up of cancer-causing chemicals.

"Men are doing themselves a favor with regular ejaculation," Brame says. "It cleans out the plumbing."

The researchers say sexual inter.course doesn't provide the same benefit because it puts you at risk of contracting a sex.ually transmitted infection.

m.astu.rbat.ion also helps combat premature eja.culati0n. If you can train yourself to last longer solo, you'll last longer with her.

http://www.menshealth.com/health/health-and-sex.ual-benefits-masturbati0n

Now does this help? I'm still keen on knowing why you think it's wrong, and where in the bible or it's supporting passage that says so.

me just think the addiction part is worrisome. it might stop the child from developing other interest and will always want to be alone.

ohaleoghene:


me just think the addiction part is worrisome. it might stop the child from developing other interest and will always want to be alone.

Well, you're wrong.

Texykool:


There are several people who are hooked on masturbation... There are lots of threads I have come across on NL about people who are helplessly hooked on it. Masturbation can be addictive. I know that there are lots of people who are into it but will not agree with you that it is not addictive.

Masturbation, like Bestiality, is a perversion. Saying you'd prefer one over the other is based on your 'Perversion Rating'.

Between two evils, choose NONE.

Oh puhlese. You can get hooked on anything. I'm addicted to caffeine. Some are addicted to cigarettes. Some people are even addicted to food. They eat so much that their stomach gets so big and it hangs to their knees. You don't tell them to stop eating. You rather educate them on a healthy balance in food consumption. Masturbation is not a perversion. It is a normal part is f growing up and young people should not be told that I s shameful. That's why we have adults who are so squirmish about sex that their spouses have to suffer through their marriage

I think the topic is: if u caught ur child not son.so many comment was emphasized on son.

emmahjosh:
I think the topic is: if u caught ur child not son.so many comment was emphasized on son.

you spoke my mind