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Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by beeevan: 4:53pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
amakah61: Get to know this man, ask questions too. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by MadCow1: 4:56pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
amakah61: Yes it is possible to get married to a Man you have not courted for long.... But its not Advisable. Its like a gamble.. And you know that gambling is bad, especially when the stakes are your future. Mad Cow.. 4 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Ilovenigeria(f): 4:56pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
beeevan:Thank you very much. I hate it when people say stuffs like "opportunity comes but once" or "by now you would have been married to this man with 2 kids". I stopped going to my aunt's house because anytime I visited she must tell a story of how my suitor bought land, house or car for the wife or how they travelled abroad mstewww. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by beeevan: 4:59pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
edwife: My lodge mate got married 12 days after meeting a dude that returned from Malaysia. Actually the dude came into their compound because he heard there are lots of girls there. He met the father who arraigned all his daughters so the returnee can hand pick, he chose one of her siblings but changed his mind when they told him she hasn't entered uni yet, he then chose my lodge mate who married him within 12 days. Some girls n marriage sha... |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by edwife(f): 5:00pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
sueplumz: What I don't understand is,was your sister not aware of you and the said guy?How can she even consider talking with him after you have cut all liaisons with him? What a mess! Better tell your sister,and for the guy i really don't give a hoot about him.He can go on and marry anything but not in your family.(especially your sister) 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by pickabeau1: 5:02pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
beeevan: I have not said anything yet |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by edwife(f): 5:08pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
beeevan: Nawa o,and the one that got me upset recently was my friend's niece who got married to a guy she met during christmas,she took in for him after only 3 months of courtship.Everything regarding the marriage was done within 6 months,and she has 3 kids now in a space of 2 and half years.The girl looks 10 years older and seriously regretting and complaining to anyone who cares to listen. 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 5:10pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
@bellong thanks for your advice, about the connections I cant say cz I never confirmed. @rebella: Yes she is my younger sis and I know she doesn't know what she wants and I also know I would never wish someone like that for any of my siblings. I'll just tell her all I know and watch as things unfold. Though I'm really surprised, something tells me this will blow over and I hope it does. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 5:11pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Thank you |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by beeevan: 5:13pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: In this life, what will be will be, i never thought I did be married as early as I did because I have no interest in dating. I believe in love and attraction, until I feel that, nah single hood get me. Avoid such toxic aunts abeg, Marriage doesn't make life perfect, marriage is responsibility, i don't know why people are bullying others into it. Marry when you are feeling it .Always maintain the mind set that marriage is not a do or die affair, nothing is.... 4 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by beeevan: 5:16pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by MadCow1: 5:18pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: You mean a Man who wanted to marry you has now bought a Land, built house and bought a big jeep for his wife?! And ontop that, he has taken the Woman to Overs?! *I am in tears.. I cant believe it.. How did you miss such a Good quality Man?! * Kai!!!!! Go and beg him na, maybe he can consider you for second wife. 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by beeevan: 5:20pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
edwife: 3months is enough to know someone, the guy just no be material. I Feel sorry for her, advise her to go for FP, dust her cert and start job hunting if she no fit fall out. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by pickabeau1: 5:21pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
lol... beeevan: |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 5:29pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
@Godmystrength, I hope that you find peace through this difficult time and that somehow,you come out of this stronger and wiser.. 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Ilovenigeria(f): 5:31pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
MadCow1:Madcow I feel like biting you. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by MadCow1: 5:32pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: Lol... Im just kidding darling, I am sure you know that... |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by ayaomoade: 5:37pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Godmystrength: God wiĺl strengthen and give you peace in Jesus name. It is well with you. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by rebella(f): 5:45pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
sueplumz:I hope it does too, since she is your younger sister it should be easier to talk to her, depending on the relationship you both have. How old is she ? |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 5:52pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
rebella: She's 24 and we have a good relationship that's why I want to believe that she doesn't know what she wants. I'm treading softly so as not to drive her far. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by edwife(f): 5:53pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
beeevan: As for me 3 months is not enough but if both are bent on making it work and give your best shot then its can be applicable. The girl still in school,i think this is her final year. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by bellong: 5:55pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: Aha ha ha ha.. This is one na black market... Run away from such men. Do not let anybody irrespective of status make you regret a good decision. A man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possession. Better is little with contentment than a house filled with meats but with chaos. Single hood will not last forever... There are still many good men out there that will come for you. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Ilovenigeria(f): 6:01pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
MadCow1:yeah I know. E dey pain sometimes shaaa. 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by rebella(f): 6:02pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
sueplumz:then it should be easier to talk to her. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 6:53pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: At first i wanted to say its okay not to have a long courtship thinking you meant a year or something but 2 weeks chai, i no gree. They just want a wife any wife and have a mindset. Please dont feel pressured, leave all those aunts, na so them use me talk now them dey use me do example as the one wey get brain. Marriage is serious business its not an emergency Christmas deal. Please date, i dated for less than a year even though within the first 2 weeks we were talking possibility of marriage no one pushed other and issued threats. We knew we wanted to be together but still took time to date and enjoy dating and also learn to understand each other. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by beeevan: 7:06pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
edwife: A week is enough for me sef, i follow my instincts and it has never failed me. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by beeevan: 7:08pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
sueplumz: A 24yrsold is very ripe to know what she wants. 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Ilovenigeria(f): 7:10pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
aisha2:Thank you ma. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 8:35pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Godmystrength:Madam, you are indeed a strong person and i am sure you will pull through and come out much stronger. *hugs* |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by kemachuk: 11:56pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
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Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 6:42am On Oct 28, 2014 |
kemachuk: It is well my dear The truth is that many men at one point in time in their life are tempted and it is the Grace of God and their integrity that stops them from falling. Many always start off with “I can handle it” & “I know what I am doing” “we are only friends” but before they know it they are sucked up into it all, especially when the other woman’s motive may be a lot different from the innocent friendship that the man thought that he was getting into That is why I am an advocate of look if you have a gut feeling or feel the need to. You may be catching and nipping something in the bud early on. My advice to you is to have a chat with your husband. I don’t think that any topic should be out of bounds between husband and wife. Explain to him that what he may feel is just innocent reminiscence with an old girlfriend, may very soon become too big for him to handle. Explain to him that its inappropriate and ask him how he will feel if he found out that you were exchanging old correspondence with an ex. He will probably try to put the blame on you for snooping on him, but just tell him that if you hadn’t seen the messages, it’s not likely that he would have told you anything and by the time you found out it may be too late. You can also tell him that he too is free to check on you if he too feels suspicious about anything. 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by MadCow1: 8:47am On Oct 28, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: Think about this carefully before you answer as I am very interested in hearing what you have to say: The Guy... The Overseas living, Big Jeep driving, Land and house building guy that got away.. Still Kidding.. Knowing everything you know now; As in his life today, his wealth, his everything... and I put you in a capsule and warp you back in time, would you have followed through with the relationship and married him.. Be honest.. |
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