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Re: . by Ishilove: 10:21am On Oct 28, 2014 |
fuckshit: |
Re: . by Asiwaju9ja(m): 10:31am On Oct 28, 2014 |
I repeat, FLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE from this eveeeel |
Re: . by esere826: 10:58am On Oct 28, 2014 |
@Op kpele o. she's 21 and ur 31. Ur ready to settle, while she's in the peak of her sexual drive. If you were her age mate, you'd probably be more around her school environment and be able to calm her down or follow am do hot body. ..with such a case, her cheating is not strange. You've let your family know about her cheating. If you guys go ahead, they will always look down on her with contempt. Are you ready to tolerate this. From one bad 9ja man to another: Why bother the pastor na? If you're trying to prove a point that he is desecrating his position, then go ahead but he wasn't screwing your wife naw after all, if she were screwing Ramseh Noah you no go tok say u wan report am to him wife and actors guild Its different if you're warning him to keep off her, then it would be cool to play that card there are 2 things that you can do now. 1) break up with her neatly and quickly without much drama. This will hurt both of you 2) Continue with her but gradually let her go so you guys can emotionally adjust slowly no need sitting on the fence for too long 1 Like |
Re: . by neuralnets: 11:24am On Oct 28, 2014 |
EyeKandy: i lost control of rational thinking when i saw those messages. consider i only posted part of it. my intention was to bring her down totally and walk away. i wanted to leave. i sent the message to some of her friends and two other guys begging to marry her. i was not thinking straight. as for the pastor, she quickly called him and i think he was able to get the message off his wife's account. my family is not aware. it only happened that they were on the verge of agreeing. i'm actually possessive-- i guess that's not bad considering i give her anything she asks for. i spend a good chunk of my earnings taking care of her so she wont look outside. leaving her wont be as easy as every one is saying. shes got her really good sides too. shes very pleasant and courteous and highly sociable. shes does so much-- more like my third arm. those thoughts keep playing in my head. will i ever find a second her? her parents have called to apologise and just yesterday she did all the tests and sent me the result. she says she'll take a blood oath if i want. im still so confused. even a new girl will have some history which might be worse. really, what do i do next. i ve moved on. but i hope i wont look back to regret this. thanks everyone 1 Like |
Re: . by 100Cents: 11:26am On Oct 28, 2014 |
She is not likely to change. I have seen all these... She will only change when she gets desperate to marry. Fear randy girls.. haha |
Re: . by Tallesty1(m): 11:35am On Oct 28, 2014 |
boxer022:Ever updated an app and realize that the "fixed issues" were all a lie and it will never be the same? That's what giving her a second chance is like. She loves him, thats true, it is clear but she does not deserve his love. The relationship is doomed to fail, He will never forget what happened. He will never trust her again. He will never take her serious again. Leaving her is the best option. 2 Likes |
Re: . by neuralnets: 11:39am On Oct 28, 2014 |
eightsin: really want to get at him. but i feel it will bring her down too as it will be the whole church.you need see some of the dirty things he wrote. damn.... and his congregation will see him as a God of some sort. well, i'm leaving him to God. Married Pastor-12:39am Apart from the fact dat u are beautiful, first and foremost I love the fullness of ur thigh and secondly, the way u twist ur ass My Girl-12:39am really? Married Pastor-12:39am But ...... ......there is one thing I'll love to do which u said u don't like My Girl-12:40am what Married Pastor-12:42am Bury my head in btw ur beautiful and sexy laps this guy has probably healed some blind and raised a dead. too bad. 1 Like |
Re: . by eightsin(m): 11:51am On Oct 28, 2014 |
neuralnets: You won't be making it public... u ain't gonna publish d history if he pays. if he doesn't, then u might. If u don't involve d pastor, then he won n u n ur girl lost everything. Even the bible says there are consequences for every action n inaction. D summery is that he has to buy to cover his a.ss n secret. On a lighter note... this pastor get sweet mouth... he knows what girls wanna hear. Apart from the fact dat u are beautiful, first and foremost I love the fullness of ur thigh and secondly, the way u twist ur ass |
Re: . by duni04(m): 12:08pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
neuralnets:If you let her get away with this one, she will subconsciously register u as a mugu in her mind and will do more to test your limits. She has shown her colours during courtship and you would have to be really stupid to take her back and marry her. If she does the same thing after marriage, you would have no right to accuse her of anything because you knew she was promiscuous and yet you went ahead and married her. If its payback you want, take her back and propose to her and chop everything chopable from her, including your money. Then dump her. But don't marry that one o! Else na regret and maybe HIV. |
Re: . by rigarmortis: 12:14pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
arsetalks: At least you sample waist for one week. 1 Like |
Re: . by Mclick(m): 12:47pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Some girls and their strands of HD lies, so much so that some times it will take only God to unravel it. It reminded me of someone chai. I can't shout 1 Like |
Re: . by omorttee4u(m): 1:11pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Op this is really serious oooo. But I will love to commend your smartness for getting her caught. One thing I want you to understand every women are the same, even every body are the same . We got attracted to opposite sex easily. How we control is the test of maturity. You are so matured to had able control the cheating temptation. Take a look at her age, 21 she's growing up. How she feeling at the moment, will makes her not thinking of cheating again. You can still take her back if you really love her as proclaimed. Afterall love is part of forgiveness, you made her realized the wrong enough . And I'm sure the pain will be there on her memory and can never think of cheating on you again., except if she's forgetfully type. You can see most girls that are advising to move on. They will do worse and will never see it wrong doing, they will even fight you for taken access of their fb account. That you not married to them yet. This girl bitterly regretted her action. Try and forgive. Just give some conditions at first sha, and stop the benefit you think she enjoy, that makes her stay in the relationship. I'm sure she loves you from what I read so far, she's just trying to be smart. More so, check her friend too , and stop her from bad friends. Best of luck. 1 Like |
Re: . by WoodcrestMayor(m): 1:16pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
OP,just bone d babe.My reason for dis is dat trust is gone;u'll always suspect her.Itz nt good for her,u and your health. I undastand a bit hw u feel.Two yrs is a long time and it seems u'll neva get over her-Lie!!! All u nid is time,distance and sincerity.I'm sure in some yrs time,u'll look back and smile cos u'lld neva av tot u could forget abt her. |
Re: . by 2goodbobo(m): 2:00pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
That's enough red flag already. That girl aint loyal and come to think of it, she is just 21years old and still have enough time to rock life. she is too small for you bro. quit the relationship and look for a matured girl that thinks in thesame wave length as you. You dont need an Angel to come down and tell you to let her go bro. If i were you, i will run now and recover in time than to stay back and constantly be living in lack of trust everyday. Take the free way and run for your life else you gonna keep crying and hurting forever. #bewise |
Re: . by 2goodbobo(m): 2:03pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Between this is not a computer where you can delete your history or cache. Even if you forgive and take her back, you will always find your self consciously or unconsciously thinking of what she did to you. |
Re: . by brixton: 2:22pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
millos: lmao @ did she go to school? I dont think her apologies are from the heart |
Re: . by Nobody: 2:51pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Op my own advice for you is to leave her and move on with ur life,and if u want 2 continue, don't get married to her until maybe 2 or 3yrs time It is now dat she got caught dat she is sorry when she was doing she didn't not know abi or she was possessed...married man 4 dat matter |
Re: . by darlingnuel(m): 2:52pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
UjSizzle:It's an art not science because science is logical and explainable, unlike arts... . Jes kidding |
Re: . by darlingnuel(m): 3:01pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
100Cents:This is quite thoughtful. You just spoke to me (about someone) now... |
Re: . by darlingnuel(m): 3:04pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Tallesty1:Not totally correct: you see, true love covers multitude of sin. It's hard to let go when you truly love someone... |
Re: . by Tallesty1(m): 3:06pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
darlingnuel:What is true LOVE? |
Re: . by darlingnuel(m): 3:10pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
neuralnets:Chai! This makes it much harder to forgive... |
Re: . by adepiero: 3:14pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Bro, I must congratulate you for this important discovery in your life. though its really sad that you wasted two years of relationship with a liar and a fornicator but thank God you didn't marry her. Women of today require fasting and prayer before the true ones can be revealed to you. good looks and decent behavior doesn't cut it. most women are no different from the serpent! quiet in behavior but dangerous in attack. God saw your faithfulness towards her and her deceit toward you. and he has vindicated you by revealing her evil ways. It will be a grave mistake to accept her for a second chance. please don't try it. **A Yoruba saying goes thus "A woman that fornicates, if she doesn't kill herself! she will kill her husband"** Be wise bro, God Bless You 1 Like |
Re: . by darlingnuel(m): 3:24pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Tallesty1:It's love that is true... Hehehehehe... |
Re: . by Nobody: 3:26pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Hmmmm Relationship wahala. I think she loves you a lot and if given another chance she won't hurt you again. The choice is yours. |
Re: . by izaray(f): 3:39pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Dat's not love, d girl is just been stupid, she will never change, i have one in my area who left her 9 month old, and 2 yrs old daughters, wit a neighbor, that she was going to the market, that was d end of everytin, for good 3 weeks, kno calls from her, people were thinking dat maybe sometin bad has happened to her, not knowing dat, she was enjoying herself somewhere wit some1 else, after good 3 weeks, d lady came back, can you imagine dat her guy dat she had dose kids for, accepted her immediately witout asking questions....now wat is d probability dat she won't leave those children and still run away someday? We should learn how to make use of our head some times! And this is a lady of 25 to 26 yrs old, still behaving like a kid. Most ladies dn't want to be control by any1, they prefer surviving with runs, and notin serious! |
Re: . by RiffRaff: 3:47pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Usually i read sob story in the romance section and pass by but due to the nature of this case i had to stop by & throw in my own advice. I am starting off with the fact that u want to ruin the pastor by bringing his congregation into his private matter. i will not advice u to do that. You already made ur point when u sent the message to his wife, anything after that is an overkill. Caution urself, when u are angry don’t take actions you will regret later. as far as i am concerned u have no business with the pastor. all you should have focused on is ur cheating girlfriend. She knew he was married and was fooling around with him. it annoys me when a guy decides to attack the person ur babe is cheating on u with. What if the man didn’t even know you were dating? What if ur babe had told him the relationship with u wasn’t serious as such? Dude u totally goofed by bringing her friends and family members into this. It is rash and misguided but then i understand cuz it was an emotional moment. i have been in this kind of situation before. i am forever proud of how i handled the whole thing even though i wanted to go all batshit mental like u did. Just don’t aggravate things more than you already have. Should u take her back? Man that is a story for the Gods oh!! lolz If i were in your shoes (being there, done that), i wouldn’t even if she cried the river Thames. Why? 1. For starter's you deserved better. 2. She swore she would never cheat on you. She is cheating with a MARRIED man. That shows what level of a scum she is, this girl will mess ur neighbours, best friend or brother when you get married. (Examine Exhibit C below) My Girl-10/23, 12:14pm "I dunt knw, I wanna stay wif u, I want us to continue but so scare" Married Pastor-10/23, 12:39pm "I hope we won't eat each oda raw wen next we see" In MI's voice "Married Men chopping them (ur Babe) like biscuit" 3. She only sorry she got caught. This would have continued till after you have married her. it disgust me to think about it that the man's wife introduced her to her husband and she has been fuccking him eva since. she even wanted to move to the company house. Dude i didn’t catch my Ex @ her game. Guilty conscience made her fess up to me & i still booted her out. 4. Lets say you are Jesus, u forgive her & take her back. How do u handle all the people you sent the message to? Friends, family, her people. U will be the worst wimp & pucci in the world. A man without balls, controlled by emotions. You would lose face & respect; you will become an object of pity. 5. Cheats rarely change; they just get better at the game. The story of my cheating ex is a point of reference. I am still fucckin her even though she is now in a serious relationship with the guy she cheated on me with. (That was my own game plan after breaking up). Yes i am vindictive! There is retribution in my dictionary. You would think she would have learned a lesson from what happened between me and her. i always feel sorry for the new guy when i am cummin but then karma is a bitch. i am just glad i didn’t take her back cuz she would have continued (based on future actions) & know how to hide it better like she has been doing with the new guy. Man all i can tell u is you are scared for life. i feel ur pain cuz u love her but please take time off to heal. Don’t even consider goin back to that kinda relationship. Forgive her and move on! Dont get into issues with the married pastor, he didn’t destroy ur relationship. ur babe did, it could have been the mallam selling sweet on ur street fucckin her or anybody else for that matter. Don’t make the man ur scape goat, let his wife deal with him. That being said, there are more than 3 billion other girls on the planet, why waste ur time with a cheat? 8 Likes |
Re: . by EyeKandy(f): 3:48pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
neuralnets: When I comment on a thread, I barely go back to continue any discussion, but I'll say this. The easiest way to lose a woman is lack of affection. Don't use money or gifts to buy affection. When we give love and respect to people, reciprocity is expected because they genuinely love us. Possessiveness is my No. 1 turn off in a man. I've experienced the same thing all because he's trying to "protect" me. If you can get past her sins, give her a second chance. From the messages, she's the needy type and likes compliments/attention. Feed her with words of affirmation and spend quality time with her. If anyone else quoted me, sorry, too busy to be bothered. *un-follows thread* 1 Like |
Re: . by SirBigH: 4:13pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Something very similar happened when I was in my early twenties with a girl I thought I loved. She cheated and somehow, I discovered. It was a painful but a very necessary decision I took then to let her go after several pleadings including sending emissaries. Bro, I weighed the options left; the insult, my small ego that has been crushed as a man and all that and the possibility of trusting her again. In all, I concluded we are better off apart. Truthfully, even if you allow her into your life again, your mind will continuously flash back to this incident. You'll be completely insecure in the relationship as you'll always suspect her every move to meaning hanging around some dude. You don't need all this wahala I swear. ALLOW HER TO GO. Painful as it is, be a man and stick to your decision. Bringing her back will backfire. 1 Like |
Re: . by ivyy(f): 4:17pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
I got disapointed when I got to the part where you asked if you should take her back She's got no hrt. For the very fact that she stil wanted to go ahead with a relationship with a married pastor even when it was clear his wife was already suspecting , is totally beyond me Shez callous and has no respect for God. And your right, she's only sorry coz she got caught. Finding it hard to move on coz you tink she's the prettiest you'd ever get Oh broder plssss! First thing first, stop acting childish. No need to involve his wife and church members. Second, discontinue the back and forth chats and messages with your gf atleast for now. Give yourself some space and time to heal. See if you can forgive her geniuely and when n if only when your head is truly clear can you make a rational decision to accept her back. I wish you luck 2 Likes |
Re: . by ivyy(f): 4:33pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
neuralnets: Possessivenes = insecurity = weakness Pls when next you fall inlove, learn to love and be loved freely. Posssivenes is never good. It could lead to choking and push your partner away from you. If you let yourself, you will find someone better its no rocket science. But like I stated in my previous post, take some space and think it through. But make sure your headz doing most of the thinking and not your hrt 1 Like |
Re: . by hellllena(f): 4:35pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
Hmmm well I believe she wnt change move on with ur life guy and find some1 dat deserves u,the magic is nt in getting married it is in staying married. |
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