exthar87:
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1995 book by Gary Chapman.
1.GIFTS-A gift or a present is an item given to someone without the expectation of payment. The gifted item should not be owned by the recipient. Although gift-giving might involve an expectation of reciprocity, a gift is meant to be free.Your partner might be a gift person,you need to understand and appreciate that aspect of your partner.To keep an healthy relationship at least once in awhile present a gift.
2.ACT OF SERVICE-Selfless service is a service which is performed without any expectation of result or award for the person performing it.How many of you help your partners,dish washing,running errands,massage,laundry e.t.c.Try doing something for that special person and you might be surprised how their smiles will lighten up the place.
3.QUALITY TIME-How funny is it when you meet someone that prefers staying indoors with you,spending time with you makes them happy so stop complaining and speak their language."Quality time" (QT) is an informal reference to time spent with close family, partners or friends that is in some way important, special, productive or profitable. It is time that is set aside for paying full and undivided attention to the person or matter at hand. It may also refer to time spent performing some favorite activity.Quality time is considered to be one of the five "languages" which are used to express love, according to relationship counselor Gary Chapman.
4.WORDS OF AFFIRMATION-Words are powerful,that it could either make us happy or sad.. Solomon, author of the ancient Hebrew wisdom literature, wrote, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other. Verbal compliments are powerful communicators of love.If we are to express love by words of affirmation, those words must be kind words. Kindness has to do with the manner in which we speak. Sometimes our words are saying one thing, but our tone of voice is saying another. Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use. The same words expressed with a loud, harsh voice will not be an expression of love, but an expression of condemnation and judgment. An ancient sage once said, “a soft answer turns away anger.There is a difference between encouraging words and nagging words. Encouraging words always focus on something your spouse wants to do, not something you want them to do. A nag is anything you tell your spouse more than three times.Learn to start using words to keep the vibes going.Thank you,I love you,You look beautiful,You are the best man in the world,yes you can...
5.PHYSICAL TOUCH-Your partner might not be in the PDA category does not mean he/she is boring or because he/she prefers it doesn't mean the person is nasty...The primary nonverbal behavior that has the biggest effect on interpersonal relationships is touch.The amount of touching increases as a relationship moves from impersonal to personal.Courtship has five phases which include the attention phase, recognition phase, conversation phase, touching phase, and the love-making phase. Haptics takes place more during the last two phases.

The touching phase:
First touch: Is likely to be more “accidental” than premeditated by touching a neutral body part and where the recipient either accepts the touch or rejects it through body movement.

Hugging: The embrace is the most basic way of telling someone that you love them and possibly need them too.

Intention to touch: A nonverbal communication haptic code or cue is the intention behind it. Reaching your hand across the table to a somewhat unknown person is used as a way to show readiness to touch.

Kissing: Moving in concert by turning heads to allow for the lips to touch is the final part of the fourth stage of courtship, the kiss.

The final phase, love-making, which includes tactile stimulation during pre-intimacy known as the light or protopathic touch. Any feelings of fear or apprehension may be calmed through other touching like kissing, nuzzling, and a gentle massage.

Chapman's book claims that the list of five love languages is exhaustive. Chapman argues that, emotionally, people need to receive love. He also writes that people should not use the love languages that they like the most but rather the love languages that their loved ones can receive

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Cutehector4u:
ok

BrownKnight:
K

EroticAngelina:
kissing and spending QT God I love kissing

exthar87:
@cutehector share with me your love language.What makes you feel loved and appreciated

Cutehector4u:
what makes me feel loved and apreciated is wen she returns my calls, doesnt delay my chats, remembers my birthday and calls or texts most especially...infact if she does this one only, i can do anythin for her...

exthar87:
i smell PDA....lucky you

EroticAngelina:
Lol nooo I don't display public affection, I like it private

exthar87:
oh well it is according to how you define your PDA..so yours is private display of affection

tpia6:
Reading the bible.

exthar87:
lemme laugh out..i read the bible too sweetie..lemme surprise you that my write up was a topic on sunday in my church..so dont go all holy...share yours

tpia6:



Am I supposed to mimic yours?

I said reading the bible is my love language, what's so strange about that?

merit12:
Do you have to quote a long post just to comment ok





I love gifts a lot thou I don't buy nor vex

Love to spend time but.....no touching



Op are you black?

yes i am black
hmmmm well since QT and receiving gifts makes you feel appreciated...then your partner will serve you that...but you not wanting to buy gifts for your partner(u b ijebu )what if your partner likes gifts too and the touching aspect aint QT..


Never give up if you wanna try

Gorgeous58:
I'm kinda shy.

Mprex:
Love language for naija ladies: Gifts



love language for naija guys: Physical Touch



shikena

exthar87:

what is your own, share it..not all guys do the touching and same goes for the ladies

Mprex:

lol. Was just kidding na

exthar87:
tell me what will your partner do that will make you feel appreciated

Mprex:

quality time

Tallesty1:
smh

exthar87:
..hmmmmm hector thats QT-spending quality time ,now i am falling...oops now i am learning

Tallesty1:
smh