i just had a baby 3 months ago, and my hubby is thinking of having another baby, reason that am serving now and i don't have much doing i should try and finish child bearing now and concentrate on my career later. honestly am not ready now cos the pains of labor and episotomy is still fresh in my memory. pls your contribution will be appreciated.

here are a few questions to you:
- cant you sit down and simply open your heart to this man just as you did on this thread?!
- what were your plans before all this?!
- how understanding your partner is about the trauma you just went through?
- how understanding your partner is about letting you finish your career?

ng4am:

i just had a baby 3 months ago, and my hubby is thinking of having another baby, reason that am serving now and i don't have much doing i should try and finish child bearing now and concentrate on my career later. honestly am not ready now cos the pains of labor and episotomy is still fresh in my memory. pls your contribution will be appreciated.

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Start off by telling him exactly what you've just posted here. This is not a big deal, really.

But na waooooooo , just 3 months ago and he wants another one? o'ga ooooo

odikwa egwu. only 3months?

pains of labor and episotomy is still fresh in my memory.

those are more than reason enough, but the question is would he be considerate of those feelings

if he really cares about your well being, he will never!! ever!!, ask you to take in again, three months after having your baby, he must be a wicked man, (sorry to judge), i do not know why am taking it personal, does he think that you will just go into labor and gabm!!!! the baby is out. if you like don't open your mouth and tell him exactly how you feel!!

I think he's so happy about the first one he's planning waaaay ahead of himself.

As Jenny said, sit him down in his excitement, and tell him exactly what you've said in this thread.

Isn't there suppose to be a 6 month wait before the next one ? O gaa! Tell him not to rip ya pu.ss.y.

Talk to your husband and let him know that you are not ready. You still need some time to heal of the child labor pains and also time to raise your baby. He should wait until you are ready and prepared.

You case needs a third party because it seems you may not convince him. Try to look for a counselor to talk to your husband and if he truly loves and does not what to make you a baby manufacturing machine he will listen to you and change.

Apparently somebody thinks he has married mother-hen.

IF he does not listen, simply go to your doctor together.

Pls no one should crucify me, i just want to state my own view. Why is it wrong to want to take in 3 months after a child? It is not like the baby will be born immediately. You will have 9 months to get over the pain of labour. I am trying to take in again actually since my baby was 4 months but no luck yet. Do it now during your NYSC as when u start working, ur office might tell you to wait a yr or till you are confirmed before you can apply for maternity leave and most companies do not employ pregnant women.

Obviously, your husband is ignorant about a woman's reproductive health (in addition to the health of your newborn baby). Tell him that he wants to kill you and you are not ready to die yet. Go to Google for evidence of what I am saying.

@ Blank

The problem is that we don't get our priorities right. Having a child for convinience and for a future job is just plain irresponsible. First things first and if you ask me, her health comes fires. If you've being through childbirth then you will know its not something one does out of pressure. The labour room is not d only difficult thing about pregnancy. The whole nine months is a tug of war for some women. Three months after that is just plain inconsiderate. My elder sister tried it and almost died. Fact!


Abeg poster take your time jare. Life is too short to live for someone else.

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Probably the kongo dey sweet am wella

What's the sex of ur baby?this may also be the reason for his wanting another child immediately,so he could try for a different sex.

Mr dear, if he is the type that will not listen, u better tell him to at least allow you see the doctor first. The doctor will certainly discourage him

Having a child isn't something only one party thinks of doing. It's a decision you're supposed to make together.

blank:

Pls no one should crucify me, i just want to state my own view. Why is it wrong to want to take in 3 months after a child? It is not like the baby will be born immediately. You will have 9 months to get over the pain of labour. I am trying to take in again actually since my baby was 4 months but no luck yet. Do it now during your NYSC as when u start working, your office might tell you to wait a yr or till you are confirmed before you can apply for maternity leave and most companies do not employ pregnant women.

she is still traumatized by the first one, that's why.

I have to agree with Uju.

I go soon marry o,chei see enjoyment!

My dear, this is your body, your life not his. Make him know how you feel about it. 3 months is just too early. Let him know what 'child-spacing' means.

**in Yoruba** Aara lo ma nfabo si... You ll be the one to go through pains of labor.

temigracie:
My dear, this is your body, your life not his. Make him know how you feel about it. 3 months is just too early. Let him know what 'child-spacing' means.

**in Yoruba** Aara lo ma nfabo si... You ll be the one to go through pains of labor.

temilade, check date now.... U don get Jesus power ooo...resurrectind dead thread. you and Youngpo413.