A very good aunt of mine is going thru tough times in her marriage of 7yrs.she doesn't love her husband anymore because he has changed a lot nd she sed he is not the man he married since he has beyond ''recognition''. Plz how can she save her marriage? Your valued opinions plz

What exactly are the observed changes to enable us cure the cause and not just the symptom?

Pray for him...ppo r so quick to divorce....

Advice on what aspect?

bigFOOTcaveMAN:
What exactly are the observed changes to enable us cure the cause and not just the symptom?

Great question.

bigFOOTcaveMAN:
What exactly are the observed changes to enable us cure the cause and not just the symptom?

All he cares about is his work, he places his frends nd family over her nd d attraction is no more dere nd he refused to let her work. I assume prince charming turned a beast

she fell in love... now she fell out

we have to throw the annoying husband inside a well, then make her fall for him once more.

then seal d well..

Lolmoi:
All he cares about is his work, he places his frends nd family over her nd d attraction is no more dere nd he refused to let her work. I assume prince charming turned a beast

wrong. ..if you scratch the surface u'll find there is more to it..I won't be surprised if she has a lover already and she is making comparison.

Well its none of my business

Lolmoi:
All he cares about is his work, he places his frends nd family over her nd d attraction is no more dere nd he refused to let her work. I assume prince charming turned a beast

they were never in the so called love, just 7years?? Seun please get us a rotf smiley, i need to decorate this thread with it

the most annoying people in life are people who do not know what they want and yet believe they are right.
your aunt never knew what she wanted and now wants the man to pay .

let them both suffer the consequences of ignorance

The man is 'beyond recognition' and wifey doesn't love him anymore
So, what is there to save again?
The 'unrecognized' man or the woman who doesn't feel love for her mate anymore?

What attracted the two of them to each other in the first place?What was their courtship like?
Marriage does not end with the wedding ceremony,you have to nurture it.What efforts has your aunt made in keeping the love burning?
A lot of times,men can become engrossed in work because they have to provide financially for the family but conscious effort should be made to give attention to your spouse too.
If he places friends and family above her,it means they were not friends when they married.

Marry your friend.It's important in marriage.

People change in relationships.
You simply adjust with the changes.
The next man or woman WILL CHANGE TOO!

The woman too should look inwards.
Women always want the men to change.
They are always right and the husbands always wrong.

kilokeys:
she fell in love... now she fell out

we have to throw the annoying husband inside a well, then make her fall for him once more.

then seal d well..

Hehehehehe

Lolmoi:
All he cares about is his work, he places his frends nd family over her nd d attraction is no more dere nd he refused to let her work. I assume prince charming turned a beast

He's a beast now because of the above?

Marriage is not Walt Disney. There's no fairytale 'and they lived happily ever after' in any marriage. All the love stories you have ever watched on the movies are just that...stories.

Reality is much different.

In real life the woman farts and shits smelly shit and gains weight and stretch marks and becomes irritable because she has to tend to the screaming noisy kids that came after the wedding. The man becomes bored, tired , pushed to the sidelines because of the kids, harassed consciously or unconsciously almost daily for financial needs, loses sleep if he stays with the baby, is made to feel guilty if he doesn't, develops a pot belly and grey hair etc.

In essence a lot of changes take place in the years you will be together and there is no way you as a person won't get fed up once in a while. At such times is when the grace of God(or whatever higher power you subscribe to) is supposed to pull you through. That's is why marriage is a spiritual/sacred contract and not a purely physical one. It is the people that base their marriage on physical attraction only that end up getting a divorce later on cos they have nothing to hold on to when the going gets tough.

Lolmoi:
All he cares about is his work, he places his frends nd family over her nd d attraction is no more dere nd he refused to let her work. I assume prince charming turned a beast

a man is working his @ss off tryying to provide for her lazy @ss and she's never content..smh..
I bet your aunt may be seeeing somebody else already..hence,everything her husband does will never please her..

Emaprince:
a man is working his @ss off trying to provide for her lazy @ss and she's never content..smh..
I bet your aunt may be seeing somebody else already..hence, everything her husband does will never please her..

And you did not see where she said the husband did not let her work?

@OP: To do your friend good, you must know what caused the changes. The man cannot change overnight without a reason

After knowing the reason, we can proffer a probable solution

bukatyne:


And you did not see where she said the husband did not let her work?

@OP: To do your friend good, you must know what caused the changes. The man cannot change overnight without a reason

After knowing the reason, we can proffer a probable solution

I saw it but atleast the man is working hardd enouggh to provide for her..if he was the lazy type,maybe her reasons woulda been that the man doesn't work,sits at home blah blah blah and she woulda hated him the more..

The only thing I suspect is that the attraction is no longer there..because it can happen to anybody once in a while..maybe she's no longer attracted to the man,hence the irritation.

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